I’ve mentioned that I am rereading Becoming God’s True Woman, a series of messages to women edited by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. Today I finished the latter half of the chapter “A Wife’s Responsibility to Help Her Husband” by Barbara Hughes, which was reprinted from her book Disciplines of a Godly Woman, which I’ve not read. One part particularly stood out and spoke to me this morning.
In Genesis 2:18, before creating woman, God said, “And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.”
This doesn’t mean, of course, that the man never helps the woman or that the woman never does anything else in life but sit beside the man waiting to see what he wants help with. The fact that we feel the need to clarify and explain this underscores the truth of what Barbara goes on to say:
So why does our blood pressure rise at the mention of the word helper? It’s a cultural norm for us to associate weakness and even inferiority with the one who assists. No one wants to play second fiddle. But the fact is, without a second violin there is no harmony.
And harmony, my friends, is a beautiful thing.
Then later in the chapter she points out that in John 14:16 Jesus promises His disciples that the Holy Spirit will come to them after He has ascended back to the Father: “And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you for ever.” Some versions use the word “Helper” in place of Comforter. The Holy Spirit is by no means an inferior member of the Godhead, yet part of His role is that of helping believers. Barbara goes on to say:
By addressing the Holy Spirit as a helper, Jesus forever elevated the position of one who assists. Trace the Holy Spirit’s actions through the New Testament, and you’ll find the Spirit repeatedly encouraging, comforting, coming alongside, and helping. The work of the Holy Spirit, the Helper, is beautiful!…
So Christian wives must never resent or despise the term helper or consider it demeaning. To help is divine!