No, not for us but for my mother-in-law. I mentioned a few months ago that her assisted living place had decided that her level of care was getting to be more than what they would provide, but my husband and her physical therapist convinced them that she was fine where she was.
But at the last fire drill Mom wasn’t able to vacate the building in the allotted time the fire code says she needs to, so the director called and said she needed to go. We had been thinking along those lines anyway, that it would be better to move her than to live with the constant possibility of it on our shoulders.
Jim took her to another assisted living place Monday for an interview. One of the specific questions he asked was whether she could stay there long term or whether we’d be facing all this again in another year as she declined. They said they would be able to take care of her through the end of life. It seems to be a lot better staffed. It is more expensive, but that’s due to a higher level of care. There is a nurse practitioner on staff, so that person can be her primary care person and she won’t have to be sent out to a dr. for basic needs: things like the emergency room visit she had a few weeks ago would be avoided because they can do basic testing there.
All in all it sounds like a positive move, but of course change is hard, especially at her age. We’d appreciate your prayers as she makes this transition. After visiting the place with Jim and having multiple discussions about not wanting to move and Jim explaining why she had to, when I went to see her yesterday she had no memory of any of it and I had to start from scratch explaining it all. I don’t know if she’ll remember it when Jim goes to pick her up this morning. I truly think once she gets settled she’ll be fine, and in some ways short term memory loss might be a blessing, but the first few days will be disconcerting for her.
The plan today is that Jim will go pick her up and bring her here to our house, where Mittu and I will stay with her so she’ll be out of the fray of packing up. Jim, Jason, and Jesse will go over to her place and pack her things up and then take them to the new place. Then when they’re done setting up, we’ll take her over. The staff there even suggested we have dinner there with her the first night to help with her transition.
So we’d appreciate your prayers for the stresses of this day and for her transition. Thanks so much!