Friday’s Fave Five

FFF snowflakes

It’s Friday, time to look back over the blessings of the week with Susanne at Living to Tell the Story and other friends.

I mentioned last week’s FFF that my mother-in-law had taken a turn for the worse. For those of you who may not have seen my post last weekend, she did pass away peacefully Friday night. We haven’t actually had the funeral yet. In order to accommodate multiple schedules, it is set for next week. Because of that, Jim had to work this week – he couldn’t take both this week and next off. We’ve been working on all that’s involved in planning a funeral – we had done some things beforehand, but didn’t realize just how much there was to do. But I think everything that the funeral home director needed is to him now.

We’re doing well. We rejoice that her suffering is over and she’s with the Lord. But we do miss her. The hardest thing this week is all the everyday changes: our schedule had been built around her care, and the first few days we kept having the feeling that it was time to make her lunch, time to change her or get her ready for bed, time for the caregiver or bath aide to come. I’m sure that will lessen as we settle into a new normal. I will probably do a post dedicated to her after the funeral, after I’ve had time to process.

In the meantime, even during difficulty, there are bright spots along the way, large and small mercies of God. Here are a few from this week:

1. Sunshine. It seems like it has been overcast for weeks, rainy many days. The bright sunshine a couple of days has been uplifting.

2. Kind thoughts and comments. Your comments on my mother-in-law’s passing, comments of Facebook friends, and cards starting to come in have all blessed us.

3. A granddad and grandson project. My husband’s brother sent him this a few weeks ago to do with Timothy, but they hadn’t had a chance til this week. They had fun putting it together and then catapulting several things. πŸ™‚



4. New haircut and stylist. The stylist I’ve seen for years resigned to have her fourth child. She recommended one of the other stylists to me, but I either hadn’t had a chance or hadn’t felt like going. I finally went yesterday, and the new stylist was great. She’s friends with the stylist I had been seeing, so I even got to see some baby pictures and hear how she was doing. And I didn’t realize til she punched my little card (with which, after ten visits, I can get a free haircut) that I hadn’t been there since October – no wonder I felt so scraggly! Nothing like getting one’s hair in shape to make one feel freshened up. πŸ™‚

5. Ad blockers. My computer was having problems yesterday, and while working on it my husband turned off the ad blocker add-on for Firefox. When I started using the computer this morning, I was astounded at how many and how annoying the ads were on different programs! I don’t mind a few ads – I know free sites have to be paid for somehow. But when a page is overrun with them or especially if they are moving and changing, it’s hard to get anything done. As soon as I remembered the ad blocker was off, I turned it back on! And, I might add, having a computer working like it’s supposed to greatly brightens my day as well!

I’m not sure how much I will be posting next week, but after that I should be back to a normal schedule.

10 thoughts on “Friday’s Fave Five

  1. Again,I’m very sorry for the loss of Jim’s mom and your mother in law but praise the Lord she is with Him! There is such comfort in that isn’t there?? I truly don’t know how people who don’t know the Lord get through a death of a loved one. I do remember being overwhelmed when my dad died 5 yrs after Mom. Thankfully he left explicit instructions with me and my sisters.

    How nice to have the sun and a fun project for Timothy!

    I have you on my prayer list and i will pray for you next week.

  2. Barbara, we did not have my father-in-law living here with us but we were his primary caregivers…and had been since my mother-in-law passed away in 2007. We had the routines that we did with him and then when he came home from the hospital the last time with Hospice involved Carroll stayed with him the six weeks that he lived. I understand that “lostness” or “what do I do now?” feeling with the passing of your mother-in-law. It all takes time but eventually your energies will be focused in other areas.

    What a fun project for Jim and Timothy to do together! Those will be memories that Timothy will never forget.

    Sunshine…yes! We got to see some today and it was so nice!

  3. I would enjoy hearing more about your mother-in-law’s life. You must be feeling her loss in many ways, trying to figure out what your new normal will be. It’s nice to have youngsters nearby at times like this. I’m sure Timothy is a comfort to you all. Love seeing the photo of him with your husband.

  4. Prayers for you and yours as you go through this difficult time. The sunshine was a wonderful thing to see the past few days πŸ™‚ Thanks for stopping by!


  5. Barbara I’m very sorry for your family’s loss. My heart and prayers go out to you this week. May your hearts be lifted knowing she is with Jesus.

    Great toy for Timothy and Jim to play with together! A fresh haircut is always nice.

  6. Thank you for sharing your family news; I had missed it last week. As you all adjust to the changes and deal with the practical side of this transition time, I pray that God would comfort you in a unique way. He is good to bless with big and small faves.

  7. Really sorry to hear about your loss. It will definately be a period of adjustment for you all. I hope that the funeral goes well. I’m sure it will be a celebration of her life. Nice to have the distraction of a Grandson around too.

  8. Continuing to pray for you all. I’m sure this will be a huge change in your daily lives! Looks like a great Grandpa-Timothy project. Maybe you have a budding engineer on your hands? I understand the restorative impact of sunshine. Glad you had some this week!

  9. So sorry to hear of your loss! May you feel God’s comfort in a special way in the coming days and months as you adjust to your new normal.

    May there be many more sunny days – and projects to do with Timothy. Grandchildren can definitely make one’s day brighter!

  10. We are so tied to our computers these days that it’s no surprise that companies would use them to advertise. But it is annoying and overwhelming. Ad block for the win!
    I know these early days will be hard as you adjust. I love that you are aware and know you can move into this new phase of life with comfort.
    That catapult looks like so much fun! The look on Timothy’s face πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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