That may sound strange coming from a SAHM who strongly believes the Bible teaches that married women are to be “keepers at home.” But many times I have chafed against this part of my job description.
Oh, I love to eat and I like good food prepared well. I just don’t particularly enjoy the process of doing it myself. There are any number of things I enjoy more, and I sometimes resent that I have to lay aside those things in order to go make dinner.
Yet, even if we were in a situation where I could hire a cook, I can’t foresee that I ever would, unless I wasn’t physically able to cook. It just wouldn’t seem right, and I don’t know if I could ever show someone else how to make things the way I like them (and I am particular about how my food tastes!) It would be easier and less stressful to do it myself.
On one Christian message board I was on, one of my most-commented on posts was something along the lines of “What do you cook when you don’t feel like cooking?” A lot of ladies said something like, “I am so glad to know someone else shares these feelings!”
Yet, cooking is part of my job and one my family probably appreciates and depends on the most. (By the way, I do know that in the Bible men cooked sometimes, but in our household division of duties, cooking is my lot. My husband works 50+ hours a week and I wouldn’t ask him to take this on, too [though he does grill the main dish on Sundays frequently.] I would rather stay home and make dinner than have to work outside the home.)
It does help if I remember everyone has to do things they don’t feel like doing. My husband probably doesn’t feel like going to work every weekday or having to cut the grass and make repairs on weekends.
It also helps if I actually do plan ahead for it: though I enjoy planning and shopping probably even less than cooking, if I do have some basic menu plans in mind it makes meal preparation much smoother and therefore less frustrating and time-consuming.
It also helps if I “get into it” more. When I am thumbing through recipe magazines I can get excited about trying new things.
But it helps most of all to remember that it is an act of service. There are many examples of preparing and serving food in the Bible. The virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 “riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens” (verse 15). Sarah prepared food for Abraham’s unusual visitors (Gen. 18). Even the Lord Jesus prepared food for some of His disciples (at least, fish were being cooked when they came to Him in John 22:9). There is a larger sense in which He prepares and provides for us spiritually, calling Himself the bread of life (John 6:35, 48). Food provides strength; it is part of hospitality, which we’re commanded to; serving in His name brings promise of reward; giving food and drink to His brethren is as serving Him.
Lord of all pots and pans and things
Since I’ve no time to be
A saint by doing lovely things
Or watching late with Thee
Or dreaming in the sweet dawn light
Or storming Heaven’s gates,
Make me a saint by getting meals
And washing up the plates.
Although I must have Martha’s hands,
I have a Mary mind,
And when I black the boots and shoes,
Thy sandals, Lord, I find.
I think of how they trod the earth,
What time I scrub the floor:
Accept this meditation, Lord.
I haven’t time for more.
Warm all the kitchen with Thy love
And light it with Thy peace;
Forgive me all my worrying,
And make all grumbling cease.
Thou who didst love to give men food,
In room or by the sea,
Accept this service that I do–
I do it unto Thee.
~ Author unknown
(Graphic from Creative Ladies Ministries)
The older I get, the less I enjoy this job. I’m like you, though. I know I must do it and I wouldn’t want anyone else to do it. My daughter loves to be in the kitchen and so does my 14 year old son for that matter. I enlist their help often. I have also found that the crockpot is my best friend. I love the Fix It and Forget It cookbooks. I use them frequently and my family loves most of the recipes. I’m also learning to cook some of favorites in a corckpot fashion. I also like to make casseroles. I can prepare them in the morning and then pop them in the oven later. The chore doesn’t seem so overwhelming when I can prepare in the morning. Thanks for the post. It’s comforting to know that I am not the only one.
OH MY! I sooooooooo love this post Barbara! This is ME to a tee! I really do NOT enjoy cooking anymore. I used to love it back when it was just Dennis, Amanda & I. But then came the three little ones — who were “picky” eaters. Amanda was never picky and I really thought other parents must be doing it wrong! Then God gave me 3 of them to teach me grace! It really did take the JOY out of cooking though! When you hear “EW! I’m not eating THIS!” at every bloomin’ meal…. well… and there was no way to satisfy everyone in one meal! There still isn’t. So … I don’t DREAD it anymore – because the kids are all old enough to fend for themselves if they don’t like what I’m making. But it’s still frustrating to not be ABLE to make something that everyone will like! (unless it’s breakfast!) And then… yea… there’s the part about not really wanting to stop my “other” stuff just to MAKE DINNER! Can’t we just eat out? 🙂
I don’t like to cook often. Sometimes I am in the mood but they are always ready to eat!!!
You said, “It does help if I remember everyone has to do things they don’t feel like doing. My husband probably doesn’t feel like going to work every weekday or having to cut the grass and make repairs on weekends.”
I say, “Amen!!” Days go much better when I remember this.
Such true words.
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