Thursday Thirteen #17: Things I like about the Christmas season

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I had planned not to do a Thursday Thirteen entry today because I have so much else to do…..but I just couldn’t resist. 🙂

1. The lights.

2. The decorations in the neighborhood and around town.

3. The urge or instinct to make contact with loved ones.

4. The fact that everyone in the family has time off.

5. Buying presents. I really enjoy searching out what I think loved ones will like. Well, at least, I do when I can find something. 🙂

6. Getting presents. Yes, I admit it, I love it.

7. Children’s Christmas programs at church. It’s so sweet to see the little dressed-up kings and angels and shepherds and watch the littlest ones yawn, scratch, wave, and sing. Those programs are never perfect, but that’s what’s fun about them.

8. Seeing people wearing Christmas sweaters or sweatshirts.

9. Christmas music. Not the annoying tin kind from toy Santas and snowmen in stores, but beautiful carols, old and new.

10. Getting out favorite ornaments and decorations and reminiscing over them.

11. Special Christmas foods.

12. Christmas movies like A Christmas Carol (I like the version with George C. Scott) and White Christmas.

13. Last listed but first in importance: the fact that God loved us enough to send his Holy, sinless Son to live among us for 33 years and then die on the cross for our sins so that whoever believes in Him will be saved.

Fall Into Reading Wrap-Up and Reviews

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Katrina at Callapidder Days has hosted a Fall Into Reading challenge which ends today, Dec 21. She asks us a few questions, which I’ll answer, and then I’ll post just a short comment or review about the books I have read for this challenge.

The best book you read this Fall:

Without a doubt, In the Presence of My Enemies by Gracia Burnham. I wrote about my impressions here.

The book you could have lived without:

The Bachelor’s Bargain by Catherine Palmer. I have enjoyed most of her books. I don’t really like romance-just-for-romance books, but I like good stories that have a romance in them. This seemed more like the former with way too much time spent with “will-they-or-won’t-they” consummate their marriage of convenience. It was “ok” — and the characters did learn good things along the way. But I could have lived without it.

Whether or not you read more than you would have without the challenge:

That’s hard to say, because I do read often, but I think I did read more. There were evenings I was going to turn on the TV to wind down and instead got out a book on my list. I know I did read things I would not have if I hadn’t put them on my list.

The best thing about joining in the challenge:

Finally getting to some those those books I have always wanted to get to “some day.”

If you discovered (and enjoyed) a new book or author after reading someone else’s list:

I did notice several unfamiliar author’s names cropping up on other people’s lists, but I failed to make a note of them when this started (maybe because I already had my list made). But when I read everyone else’s wrap-up posts, I am going to make a list as I go!!

Any other insights, enjoyments, thoughts, or impressions!

I think I will add those as I go with the reviews.

The books on my original list:

General fiction:

Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen. I am so glad I finally read this, and want to put other Austen books on my list.

A Series of Unfortunate Events by Lemony Snicket. I had known there were several books in the series, but not that there were thirteen!! They go pretty quickly though, and are fun reading. I only read the first one but want to finish the series.

Christian fiction:

Before I Wake by Dee Henderson. Dee does know how to write can’t-put-’em-down page-turners!

The Brethren by Beverly Lewis. This is the conclusion to the “Annie’s People” series, and, as always with Beverly’s books, very good.

Family by Karen Kingsbury. Family is the fourth in the “Firstborn” series, which is a spinoff of the “Redemption” series. Karen Kingsbury is probably not the best writer in the technical sense, and I think she overplays sometimes the emotional aspects of a story, but she does know how to write a good story and likeable characters and draw you in to the story.

Winter Birds by Jamie Langston Turner. Mrs. Turner is in some ways the opposite of Karen Kingbury in the sense that she is a great writer in a technical, literary sense, but the story doesn’t really just grab me and draw me in. I do like where the characters end up and what they learn. Her books are more subtle and have more depth (I probably shouldn’t compare the two authors, but I did read these right after each other). I’d love to discuss these impressions with someone else who has read her books.

Bible study:

That I May Know Him by June Kimmel. This was a good Bible study: I enjoyed it.

A Look Within by Faith Alvis Taylor. This was great: I greatly benefited from it and want to suggest it for our ladies’ Bible study.

Non-fiction:

For Women Only, What You Need To Know About The Inner Lives Of Men by Shaunti Feldhahn. I really had ambivalent feelings about this one. I told my son I was reading this book, and he said, “What does a woman know about the secret lives of men?” Well, she did a survey to research a character for a book, and was so intrigued that that led to a more detailed survey. Most of the information wasn’t new to me. I kept getting frustrated, though, and had to remind myself that it wasn’t meant to be a balance between men’s and women’s needs (there is another separate book about women). The author seemed to lay a man’s well-being and spiritual success on his wife, but I don’t think she really meant to. If I can turn this around, one of a woman’s needs (at least that you read in the books) is security, and a wise husband takes that into account. But a wife has to realize that her ultimate security is in the Lord, and when the circumstances seem most insecure –unstable job situations, etc. — rest on Him and not fall apart, blame her husband, etc. The same is true of a man’s needs. No one person can ever meet all of our needs: only the Lord can do that. And I think the author would agree though she did seem to place great weight on a wife’s meeting her husband’s needs. I haven’t read the companion book about women, but as I skimmed over the contents, I thought, yes, it would be helpful if men understood these things about women. So if I took this book the same way and kept it in perspective that it was just an explanation of how men think and what is important to them, then it was ok.

Mere Christianity by C. S. Lewis. This is the only book I didn’t finish, I regret to say. I should have and could have if I had read it before adding on the others: I just tend to gravitate toward fiction. 🙂 But I am determined to finish it now. I was actually kind of bored with the first few chapters, because I felt like I already knew what he was explaining, until I remembered Lewis’s background: he was an atheist before becoming a Christian, and he starts off by the logical evidences and conclusions for believing in God. We know “faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God” (Romans 10:17) rather than logic, but sometimes these types of discussions and apologetics can help remove some of the weeds that would choke off the seed of the Word (Matthew 13:1-23). I am only a few chapters into the book.

In the Presence of My Enemies by Gracia Burnham, mentioned above, reviewed more fully here.

Added to my original list:

A Spouse in the House by Richard Armour. I had discovered one of his poems in another book and was so taken I searched for others, and found a great wealth of them on a variety of topics at amazon.com. Most, if not all, are out of print and can be bought used for under $5. I commented on this one here.

Leaves of Hope by Catherine Palmer. A young woman named Beth with an adventurous spirit is daughter to a very safe, predictable mother who doesn’t like change. Then Beth unexpectedly finds out she is adopted. I’ll let you discover the rest of the plot. 🙂 Overall a good book: I enjoyed it. I did disagree with some of Beth’s ideas that one had to be more like her personality to be Christlike — God had many servants who “stay by the stuff.”

The Bachelor’s Bargain by Catherine Palmer, mentioned above.

A Woman’s Place by Lynn Austen. I liked the historical aspects of this story of four women working in the same ship factory during WWII, and I am sure many of the types of discussions in the book about “a woman’s place” really did take place (and still do!) But I felt that the author overall painted “housewives” in a very demeaning light, so that was a big disappointment. I wrote more about that here.

A Victorian Christmas Tea by Catherine Palmer and others. Just finished this one. It wasn’t what you usually find in novels with “Victorian” in the title. It contains four novellas of different people in different circumstances. I enjoyed it.

Katrina has said that she probably won’t sponsor a winter challenge but might do one for spring. I think, after the holidays, I will make a winter reading list for myself. Those cold winter nights are some of the best for reading. 🙂 I want to continue on in Jane Austen’s books, the Lemony Snicket series, whatever my favorite authors come up with in the next few months, and any interesting books I see on other people’s lists.

Works-for-me-Wednesday: Christmas gifts for elderly and handling kids’ wish lists

That makes for rather a bulky title, doesn’t it? 🙂 But I had one thing in mind for WFMW, then thought of another: with this being the last one before Christmas, I thought I’d include both.

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1) Some time ago our ladies’ ministry wanted to make up some gift bags for the elderly folks in our congregation, and I set about trying to find out what kinds of things would be best to put in those packages. I asked around all kinds of people I knew and message boards I was on at the time. A lot depends on the situation of the elderly person, whether they are in a nursing home or assisted living apartment or on their own, whether they cook they own meals or not, etc., so that would need to be taken into account. Their health needs also must be considered (whether they are diabetic, on a low-sodium diet, etc.). But here are just some general ideas:

  • Large print Bible, books, magazines
  • If they can’t see well, Bible on CD (and a CD player if they don’t have one) and audio books
  • Music CDs that they would like
  • Boxes of assorted greeting cards and stamps (this was a big hit for those who couldn’t get out to get this kind of thing on their own.)
  • Stationery, note cards, stamps
  • Lotions
  • Bath items (be careful about oils and things that would make a slippery surface)
  • Pens and pencils
  • Crossword puzzle books, “Hidden word” puzzle books, etc.
  • Small packets of tissues
  • Magnifying glass (my mother-in-law really liked this, and I’ve had to start keeping one handy myself. My husband got me one like this which also has a little light on it.)
  • Individual ready-to-eat packages of pudding, jello, pasta, etc. (again, depending on dietary restrictions. They do have some of these things in sugar-free and low-sodium varieties.)
  • A tool to aid in opening jars. I’ve seen one that is flat and round and looks like what you’d use to stop up the bathtub. 🙂 My favorite one looks almost like a set of pliers, but I haven’t been able to find another one like it. One my husband gave me recently looks something like this. (No, I am not elderly — yet!! But I have decreased sensation and strength in one hand due to transverse myelitis.)
  • A small crock pot. One time when my mother-in-law was visiting, she really liked a crock pot meal I had made. That next Christmas we looked around and found a small one that would be ideal for one or two people.
  • Comfortable clothes, nightgowns. etc.
  • Slipper socks — socks that have non-skid soles
  • A “reacher” (another item that I use myself)

When our ladies’ group made up gifts bags and then divided them up amongst ourselves to take out to the various folks, what we discovered was, though they appreciated the gift bags, what they really appreciated was the visit — the time and the conversation. So, along those lines I posted below something from my files called “10 free gifts for Christmas” — applicable to anyone, but especially to those who are elderly or “shut-in.”

2) My second tip today has to do with family “wish-lists.” We started posting wish lists on the refrigerator before Christmas way back when we first got married. We had seen a family whom I dearly loved and respected doing this and adopted it for our own, then had our kids do it, too. They know not to get ridiculous with it, and everyone knows that we won’t get everything on the list and may get something not on the list — it’s just meant as a general guideline to the gift-buyers have some idea of how to shop.

My tip, though, is this — nowadays we all send our wish lists via e-mail, and after years of keeping them all separately, a few years ago it hit me to copy and paste them onto one sheet. I have three boys, so I make a document in landscape form with three columns, copy and paste their lists there, print it off, and keep it in my purse while shopping. It’s more efficient, less to keep up with, plus, as I check things off I can see if I am keeping things “even.” They are beyond the stage where we have to have the same number of packages under the tree for each child. 🙂 They know the amount of gifts will vary with the value. But as parents we like to spend roughly the same per child, and this helps us keep up with that at a glance.

For more tips or to link to your own, go over to Shannon’s at Rocks In My Dryer.

Updated to add: I am closing comments on this post because I keep getting comments from sites that sell audiobooks. Though they are not written like the usual “spam,” I don’t want to take the time to check them out and I don’t want this to become an avenue for vendors. I believe you can find audiobooks at any bookstore or bookstore’s web site, plus you could Google the term and find other sites that sell them as well.

Ten free gifts for Christmas

10 FREE GIFTS FOR CHRISTMAS

(Author unknown)

1. The gift of listening…
Try giving this to someone in need. And you must really listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your responses. Just listen.

2. The gift of signs of affection…
Be generous with your hugs, kisses and gentle squeezes of the hand. Let these tiny actions demonstrate the love inside of you.

3. The gift of a note…
It can be as simple as “I Love You” or as creative as a sonnet. Put your notes where they will surprise your loved ones.

4. The gift of laughter…
Just cut out a cartoon, save a clever article. Your gift will say, “I loveto laugh with you.”

5. The gift of compliment…
A simple “You look good in blue” or “Good supper” can be of greatest value to those who may feel they are being taken for granted.

6. The gift of a favor…
Help with the dishes, run an errand, etc.

7. The gift of leaving alone…
There are times in our lives when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Become more sensitive to those times and give solitude.

8. The gift of a cheerful disposition…
Try to be cheerful around those you love.

9. The gift of a game…
Offer to play your loved one’s favorite game. Even if you lose, you’ll be a winner.

10. The gift of prayer…
Pray for your loved ones and let them know you pray for them.

See Also:

Christmas Devotional Reading

Mary’s Virginity

For God so loved that He gave…

Mary’s Dream

If I were a goose

Christmas quotes.

Christmas funnies or jokes #1 and #2.

The Primary Purpose of a Home.

The Perfect Christmas

Christmas Grief

“Immanuel” by C. H. Spurgeon

Behold, a virgin shall be with child, and shall bring forth a son, and they shall call his name Emmanuel, which being interpreted is, God with us. Matthew 1:23

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Written by C. H. Spurgeon at the age of 18

When once I mourned a load of sin;
When conscience felt a wound within;
When all my works were thrown away;
When on my knees I knelt to pray,
Then, blissful hour, remembered well,
I learned Thy love, Immanuel.

When storms of sorrow toss my soul;
When waves of care around me roll;
When comforts sink, when joys shall flee;
When hopeless griefs shall gape for me,
One word the tempest’s rage shall quell–
That word, Thy name, Immanuel.

When for the truth I suffer shame;
When foes pour scandal on my name;
When cruel taunts and jeers abound;
When “Bulls of Bashan” gird me round,
Secure within Thy tower I’ll dwell–
That tower, Thy grace, Immanuel.

When hell enraged lifts up her roar;
When Satan stops my path before;
When fiends rejoice and wait my end;
When legioned hosts their arrows send,
Fear not, my soul, but hurl at hell
Thy battle-cry, Immanuel.

When down the hill of life I go;
When o’er my feet death’s waters flow;
When in the deep’ning flood I sink;
When friends stand weeping on the brink,
I’ll mingle with my last farewell
Thy lovely name, Immanuel.

When tears are banished from mine eye;
When fairer worlds than these are nigh;
When heaven shall fill my ravished sight;
When I shall bathe in sweet delight,
One joy all joys shall far excel,
To see Thy face, Immanuel.

More ramblings

Well, yesterday I wrote a post full of praise and amazement at how the Lord helped me get so many necessary things done.

Then the rest of the day went downhill.

I mentioned that there was one present I wanted to make but had not started on. I thought I might go ahead and start on it and just see how far I got — I could still send the package in question out today and it would still get there in time. So I headed out for the needed supplies, couldn’t find exactly what I was looking for but settled on what I thought I needed, got home……and it was the opposite of the Midas touch — everything just seemed to go wrong (I have to be purposefully vague about the details because this is all still a surprise). After several hours I had to go back out again for supplies and start from scratch.

Part of me thought, “Lord, what’s wrong? I was just ‘bragging’ on you this morning about how much you helped me get done.” It felt like just after praising Him, then He removed His hand and let me fall flat. I don’t think that is really what was happening — that was just my first human reaction.

I don’t really know what was going on, though. I know Elisabeth Elliot has written several times that often just before or after she speaks on a particular subject, she’ll be tested on that very subject. I am not one to blame the devil for every little negative thing that happens (I don’t really think he would care about what I do for Christmas presents….though of course he cares about my actions and reactions). Maybe, probably, it was just “life in a fallen world.” Maybe I needed further reinforcement of the lesson about using time wisely.

But God is the same. He is still good, loving, and kind whether my day is going swimmingly or whether I am meeting with frustration at every turn.

Habakkuk, after just receiving some very bad news from the Lord about what was coming for Israel, concludes his prophecy by saying, “Although the fig tree shall not blossom, neither shall fruit be in the vines; the labour of the olive shall fail, and the fields shall yield no meat; the flock shall be cut off from the fold, and there shall be no herd in the stalls; Yet I will rejoice in the LORD, I will joy in the God of my salvation. The LORD God is my strength, and he will make my feet like hinds’ feet, and he will make me to walk upon mine high places” (Habbakuk 3:17-19).

Maybe that was the lesson — or at least one lesson.

The present is obviously not going to make it into today’s package, and I do have something else for the person for whom it was intended. Said person does have a birthday coming up, so I will aim for that event instead.

For God so loved the world that He gave –

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For God so loved the world that He gave –

HIS WORD so that we
might know the truth…

A GATE so that we
might enter His kingdom…

The LIGHT of the WORLD
so that we no longer walk
in darkness and despair…

The BREAD OF LIFE to
feed our hungry souls…

The LIVING WATER to
refresh and empower us…

The RESURRECTION
and the LIFE so that we
could live eternally with Him.

(Author Unknown)

(Graphics copyright ©2006 Julia Bettencourt. Used with permission.)

See Also:

Christmas Devotional Reading

Mary’s Virginity

Mary’s Dream

If I were a goose

Ten free gifts for Christmas

Christmas quotes.

Christmas funnies or jokes #1 and #2.

The Primary Purpose of a Home.

The Perfect Christmas

Christmas Grief

Ramblings

Whew!

A little over a week ago, I had only one Christmas present purchased, Christmas cards purchased but not addressed, stamped, or signed, Christmas letter unwritten, and some ladies’ ministry responsibilities that needed to be taken care of before I could start in on my Christmas things. And when the realization of all that I needed to do and the shortness of the time hit me, I began to panic. True, Christmas isn’t all about the “stuff” that needs to be done — but stuff still needs to be done, especially when you consider most of it a way to minister to people.

And the bad part was….this was unequivocally my own fault. Some of these things had been on my mind to do for weeks. I would think, “Oh, yeah, I need to get to that….” and then use my time unwisely (too often on the computer 😳 ). The worst part was the ladies’ ministry responsibilities. (I don’t say much about that ministry here because I don’t want it to seem as if I am drawing attention to what “I” do — you know all those verses about letting what you do for the Lord be done in secret. I don’t feel that way when other people write about their ministry involvement, and I enjoy reading it, but as long as I have that little feeling that I should refrain, then I probably should.) Jeremiah 48:10a says, “Cursed be he that doeth the work of the LORD deceitfully,” and the NASB translates it, “Cursed be the one who does the LORD’S work negligently.” I felt I had been handling those responsibilities negligently.

I confessed that negligence, poor use of time, and selfishness to the Lord and asked for His help and grace to get the things done that needed to be done.

In the past I would often beat myself up with guilt for days and days, but, you know, once you confess a sin, repent of it, ask forgiveness, accept it by faith, and determine with God’s grace and help to rectify the situation and take steps to avoid it in the future, though you still feel bad when you think of the incident, it is really a waste of time to beat yourself up over something God has graciously forgiven you for.

He amazingly, graciously enabled me to get a load of stuff done this week: ladies’ ministry responsibilities taken care of, Christmas letter written, cards signed, addressed, stamped, picture of the boys taken and printed to include in cards, one Christmas package sent out of town and another just about ready, and some gifts ordered online and plans to get the rest this week. And all with a lot less panic and stress than I would have thought. There was one gift I wanted to make (something else that I knew about for a couple of months but just never did get started) that I haven’t done yet, but the recipient has a birthday soon so I may save it for that. I am still trying to decide — I think I may start on it today and just see how far I get. And I was even able to still do a bit of blogging, when I thought I was going to have to barely touch the computer this week.

Isn’t He wonderful?

Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need (Hebrews 4:16).

But thou, O Lord, art a God full of compassion, and gracious, long suffering, and plenteous in mercy and truth (Psalm 86:15).

Christmas quotes

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When therefore the first spark of a desire after God arises in thy soul, cherish it with all thy care, give all thy heart into it; it is nothing less than a touch of the divine loadstone, that is to draw thee out of the vanity of time, into the riches of eternity. Get up therefore, and follow it as gladly as the wise men of the east followed the star from heaven that appeared to them. It will do for thee as the star did for them, it will lead thee to the birth of Jesus, not in a stable at Bethlehem in Judea, but to the birth of Jesus in the dark centre of thine own soul.
—William Law

Perhaps the best Yuletide decoration is being wreathed in smiles.
~Author Unknown

The message of Christmas is that the visible material world is bound to the invisible spiritual world. ~Author Unknown

Christmas is the season for kindling the fire of hospitality in the hall, the genial flame of charity in the heart.–Washington Irving

It is good to be children sometimes, and never better than at Christmas, when its mighty Founder was a child Himself.
— Charles Dickens

How many observe Christ’s birthday! How few, his precepts! O! `tis easier to keep Holidays than Commandments.
—Benjamin Franklin

The Church does not superstitiously observe days, merely as days, but as memorials of important facts. Christmas might be kept as well upon one day of the year as another; but there should be a stated day for commemorating the birth of our Saviour, because there is danger that what may be done on any day, will be neglected. ~Samuel Johnson

The hinge of history is on the door of a Bethlehem stable. —Ralph W. Sockman

Fail not to call to mind, in the course of the twenty-fifth of this month, that the Divinest Heart that ever walked the earth was born on that day; and then smile and enjoy yourselves for the rest of it; for mirth is also of Heaven’s making. ~Leigh Hunt

Great little One! whose all-embracing birth
Lifts Earth to Heaven, stoops Heaven to Earth.

~Richard Crashaw

(Graphics copyright ©2006 Julia Bettencourt. Used with permission.)

Loving others

Last night’s reading from Joy and Strength by Mary Tileston was both convicting and encouraging:

These things I command you, that ye love one another.
JOHN 15:17

YET habits linger in the soul;
More grace, O Lord! more grace!
More sweetness from Thy loving heart,
More sunshine from Thy face!
–Frederick W. Faber

IF thy disturbance of mind proceeds from a person who is so disagreeable to thee, that every little action of his annoys or irritates thee, the remedy is to force thyself to love him, and to hold him dear; not only because he is a creature formed by the same sovereign hand as thou art, but also because he offers thee an opportunity (if thou wilt accept it) of becoming like unto thy Lord, who is kind and loving unto all men.
— Lorenzo Scupoli

The habit of letting every foolish or uncharitable thought, as it arises, find words, has a great deal to do with much evil in the world. Check the habit of uttering the words, and gradually you will find that you check the habit of thought too. A resolution always to turn to some distinctly good thought when a complaining or unkind one arises in the mind, is a great help–as it is to turn every thought condemnatory of our neighbor into a prayer for him. We never can long continue to dislike people for whom we pray.
— H. L. Sidney Lear