20th Blog Birthday and Giveaway!

20th blog birthday

Today marks twenty years since I first started this blog!

I began a blog for a number of reasons. First, I wanted to encourage other Christian women and to be a light to those who do not yet know Christ as Savior.

Secondly, I wanted to learn to write by writing.

Writing helps me think things through, so a lot of my posts are just that: something I hear or read will trigger a thought, and as I mull it over, sometimes a blog post is the result.

I also love to talk about books and reading, so I share many of the books I read here.

Back then, a lot of blogs had the feel of visiting over the backyard fence. Though some still retain that vibe, many blogs have become more specialized.

I never wanted to do a niche blog because, in my experience those kinds of blogs start repeating themselves after about three years. Besides, my interests are too varied.

I hadn’t heard the term “generalist” at the time, but when I did, it clicked. I felt I had a valid label for my blog. 🙂

It took a while for me to fall into my present pattern of blogging. I wanted to keep the “neighborly” feel but still maintain something of a regular schedule.

One of my passions is getting women into the Word of God. If I have an underlying theme to my blog, it would be applying ourselves to the Word of God and applying the Word to our lives.

One thing I wish I had done differently was to think more about the title of my blog. I considered whether to have a blog for weeks or months. When I finally decided to, one of the first things I had to decide on was a name. I hadn’t thought about that in all my ponderings. “Stray Thoughts” is accurate, but I wish I had come up with something a little more meaningful and creative. But after so long a time, it seems better to keep it as is than change it and confuse people.

When I first started the blog, I had three sons at home. Now we’re empty nesters and my husband is retired. We’ve added a sweet daughter-in-law and handsome grandson to the family.

One of the most unexpected but blessed results of this blog has been making so many friends here over the years. Some of my dearest friends are miles away, and we’ll likely never meet in person until heaven. I so appreciate your encouragement and comments over the years. Without you, this would just be an online journal.

I haven’t always marked my blog anniversary, but twenty years seems like a milestone. I decided to prepare a giveaway package and draw names from the comments here for a winner to send it to. But I had so much fun putting it together, I decided to give away two packages to mark two decades.

Both packages have some pretty pens, post-it notes, bookmarks, and such. One package has one of my favorite books to recommend, Women of the Word by Jen Wilkin. I started to use another book for the second package, then thought about another copy of Women of the Word. But then I saw a prayer journal at Hobby Lobby and got it for the second package.

Inside the prayer journal:

Prayer journal

If you’d like to be entered to win one of these packages, just leave a comment on this post. I’ll use the Random Number Generator to choose two recipients a week from today. I’m afraid I can only ship to US addresses due to postage costs. Note : I’ll include all comments in the drawing unless you tell me not to include you.

If you have a preference for Package 1 or Package 2, let me know.

I’d love to hear a little bit about you, especially those who don’t normally comment. If you’ve been reading a while, I’d love for you to share how long or perhaps a favorite memory of reading here.

Once again, thank YOU all for being here and for your kindness!

Package 1:

Gift package 1

Package 2:

Gift package 2

Thank you so much for your kind comments! You’ve touched my heart.

The giveaway is closed. The Winner of Package 1 is Lisa, and the winner of Package 2 is Michele Morin!

Blogging for God’s Glory in a Clickbait World

Blogging for God's Glory

In Blogging for God’s Glory in a Clickbait World, Benjamin Vrbicek and John Beeson propose this definition of blogging for God’s glory: “Blogging for God’s glory means . . . first, to have our motivations aligned with God’s, and second, to pursue excellence in the craft, including theological precision, beautiful prose, visual appeal, and the edification of readers, all drawing from the best industry practices” (p. 14).

First they deal with aligning our motivation with God’s. That’s often the most difficult part to maintain. Usually a Christian blogger begins by wanting to share posts that glorify God and help others. But “our own motives . . . are always layered and mixed” (p. 3). And though Christian writing instructors tell us not to worry about the numbers of those following, liking, and sharing our posts, those who want to move from blogging to publishing a book are told agents and publishers will look at those numbers and won’t consider taking a writer on unless those numbers are high. It’s a continual but necessary struggle to keep our focus on writing for God’s glory and purposes and trusting Him with the results, even when it doesn’t seem like many people are reading.

The authors apply the goal of writing for God’s glory into the everyday nuts and bolts of writing. Write with the reader in mind rather than anticipating accolades. Know your why, what difference you want to make. Serve others, not yourself. But that doesn’t mean never talking about yourself: Paul wanted to proclaim “not ourselves, but Jesus Christ as Lord” (2 Corinthians 4:5), yet 2 Corinthians is “Paul’s most autobiographical letter. He shares much of his own story not because he is narcissistic, but because he knows the church is struggling to trust him and he needs to build rapport” (p. 22).

“If we have any hope of offering others wisdom, listening to God must become a primary and ongoing habit.” We can’t share what we haven’t first taken it. That doesn’t mean every blog post needs to exposit Scripture or be a devotional, but it should still be “subject to God’s truth and ought to reflect His light” (p. 31).

Then, “Christian writers must labor not only to write what is true but also write in a manner that adorns the truth” (p. 38). We need to focus on building up, not tearing down. That doesn’t mean we never share what’s wrong, but we do so with discernment and with the purpose of helping.

The authors give helpful advice with the mechanics of blogging: discerning how much time to give to it, in connection with your other obligations; setting a schedule that works for you; dealing with writer’s block; engaging social media; blogging costs, platforms, layouts; using photos without plagiarizing; networking; monetizing; and more.

They include several appendices. One is a compilation of several bloggers’ answers to the question of whether blogging is dead. One is a glossary of blogging terms. One is a collection of sidebar quotes in the paper version that wouldn’t work in the e-book formatting.

A few other quotes that stood out to me:

Where can you offer yourself to your audience for the sake of proclaiming Jesus Christ as Lord? How can your life become a bridge for the gospel to travel? What work has God done (or is doing) in you that will encourage others? (p. 22).

Don’t feel compelled to chase whatever is hot. Be true to who God has made you to be (p. 23).

Blogging ought to grow us in holiness. When we blog for God’s glory, the discipline of writing becomes integrated into the web of our spiritual disciplines (p. 29).

It is not the size of our platform that assures us how far our words will reach, but rather it is our trust in a God whose word never returns void (Isa 55: 11) (p. 32).

Writing comes down to making and remaking slight improvements to achieve better clarity and aesthetic; writing is the pursuit of marginal gains, insignificant by themselves but significant in the aggregate (p. 37). (I loved the illustration they used here of an eye doctor trying different lenses, asking each time which is better.)

So why should we worry about getting the tone and the content right when we know fewer people will read an article if we write with discernment? We bother because God is God, and on the day of judgment we will give an account for every careless word we have ever blogged (Matt 12: 36) (p. 42).

I think this book is an excellent resource, especially when we need to adjust our motives away from the manipulative and self-focused approach of the world and remind ourselves of our real purpose: glorifying God. 

Do you have trouble commenting on my site?

A couple of long-time blog friends have been unable to comment on my blog, even though we’ve commented on each other’s sites for years. That made me wonder if others are having trouble commenting as well.

I do hear from some of you regularly. (Thank you!) So some comments are getting through. But there should not be any problem commenting at all.

If you can’t leave a comment here, would you email me and let me know? And it would be a big help if you could tell me exactly what kind of error message comes up when you try to comment. Any details you can give me will help when I take this to WordPress support.

There is a link in my sidebar under my picture that says “Feel free to email me.” Click on that phrase, and you should be taken to your email server. If that doesn’t work, I’ll expand my email here so bots don’t pick it up. Just take out the words in parentheses and write it like a normal email address: barbarah06 (at) gmail (dot) com.

I’ve had difficulty myself commenting on some WordPress blogs that make me log in every time I comment now. I get a message saying I need to log in because I am using an new email address, even though I have commented on these sites for years with the same email address and web site. So maybe WordPress has some kind of glitch.

But I’d like to let WordPress know exactly what’s going on with commenting problems here so they can look into it.

Thanks for your help!

Upcoming Radio Interview

I received an invitation yesterday for a radio interview next Tuesday, October 26, at 8:10 a.m. EDT. It’s with the same folks that interviewed me before, Kurt and Kate Mornings on Moody Radio Florida. They want to discuss my Monday post, From “What If” to “Even If.”

The top of their program page has a “Click to Listen Live” button. I’d love to have you tune in if you’re able and interested. I know some of you work then, and it’s way early for those west of me. They put 15-minutes segments of their programs on their Past Programs page, and if my segment ends up there (it didn’t last time), I’ll add the link here.

Most of all, I’d appreciate your prayers that all would go well: that the technology would work well with no glitches, That there won’t be any health issues, that God would give me what He wants me to say and help me not to blank out, and that He would be glorified and listeners would be ministered to.

Update: Thanks so much to those who prayed! Everything went very well. My oldest son was able to make a recording of the interview here, if you’d like to listen. Thanks again!

15 Favorite Posts from 15 Years of Blogging

I mentioned in my end-of-July post that I forgot my blogging anniversary until WordPress sent me a reminder. It’s been fifteen years!

Often in the past I’ve done something special to observe my blogiversary. Since it caught me off guard this year, I didn’t have anything prepared.

I had been pondering ways to bring some of old posts back to the forefront, since they were published before I knew some of you. Then, voila! The idea came to list fifteen of my favorite blog posts to commemorate my fifteenth year of blogging. There won’t be one from each year—that would have taken too much time to search out. But these were either fun to write or were special to me in some way.

So here we go, in no particular order:

  1. Coping when a husband is away. This is my top-viewed post of all time. I had no idea it would touch such a chord. My husband had to travel heavily for at least half, maybe as much as two-thirds of our 41-year marriage. Though I didn’t like it, I am thankful God used what He taught me to help others.

2. How Not to Become an Old Biddie. After seeing examples of different kinds of older ladies, I realized I needed to start working on what kind of older lady I want to be now. (Related: Why Older Women Don’t Serve and Ways Older Women Can Serve.)

3. With All Our Feebleness. Reflections on serving God with physical and other limitations.

4. My Ebenezers. In 1 Samuel 7:12: “Samuel took a stone . . . and called its name Ebenezer; for he said, ‘Till now the Lord has helped us.’” “Ebenezer” means “stone of help.” In this post, I listed some of my verbal “Ebenzers,” commemorations of the Lord’s special help in my life.

5. Having Devotions When You’re not Feeling Very Devoted. We’ve all been there, I’m sure. (Related: When There Is No Hunger for God’s Word.)

6. Strong Women. What feminine strength means and doesn’t mean, with literary and Biblical examples.

7. Encouragement for Mothers of Small Children in the area of trying to find quiet time with the Lord.

8. The Back Burner. The stuff on the back burner is all the more flavorful for its time sitting and simmering. So with the things in our lives we have to set on the back burner: they’ll be all the better for the wait.

9. Why Read? Why Read Fiction? Why Read Christian Fiction? Every reason I could think of for reading all of them.

10. Can Frugality Go Too Far? Even good traits can be carried too far.

11. It’s Not For Nothing. Caregiving can seem monotonous and futile when the patient sleeps most of the time, can’t speak, and isn’t interested in food, as was the case for my mother-in-law her last two years in our home. These were truths that encouraged me. (Related: Remembering the Loved One Who Has Forgotten You.)

12. Manufactured Spirituality. Routines and programs can help us spirituality, but sometimes we focus on them to the detriment of real spirituality.

13. The Quiet Person in the Small Group. How not to torture your introverts.

14 Going to a Church with Problems. They all have them, even the ones in the Bible. (Related: What You Miss When You Turn Your Back on Church.)

15. Myths and Maxims of Ministry gleaned over many years. Myth #1: “Since this is being done for the Lord, everything should go smoothly.” Nope!

These are the posts that floated to mind. If I had actually searched every year’s posts, I might have had a different list. But there’s probably a reason these are the ones that came to mind.

As you’ve noticed, I cheated stretched my numbers a bit. Sometimes I couldn’t decide between a couple of posts on a similar topic, so I included one as “related.”

I’ve noticed that I should probably go back and edit some of the older posts. One of the tendencies my first critiquer at a writer’s conference pointed out was “long, convoluted sentences” that should be broken into two sentences (or three or four). Hopefully some day I can correct those in my older posts.

Thank you so much to all of you who read and comment. Without you, this would just be an online journal. Nothing makes me day like hearing that something here has blessed and helped someone.

(I often link up with some of these bloggers)

On the Radio

I’ve mentioned an invitation for a radio interview to discuss my blog post Faithful in Obscurity. I wanted to let you know how to listen to it if you’re interested.

The interview is scheduled for Wednesday, June 2, from 8:20-8:40 a.m.EDT, but it won’t cover all that time. They’ll break away for news, weather, a song, etc.

The radio program is Kurt and Kate Mornings on Moody Radio Florida. The top of their program page has a “Click to Listen Live” button.

They do have some of their past programs available to listen to. If the segment I’m on shows up in their recorded segments, I’ll post the link here afterward.

I’d appreciate your prayers that God would help me say what He wants me to, in the way He wants me to, that the program would minister to hearers, that I won’t blank out, that all the logistics and connections will work out, that I won’t have to go to the bathroom during that time. 🙂

Update: Everything went really well. God gave grace and calmed nerves. The hosts were very gracious and made it easy to converse. It looks like it takes them a couple of days to post their recordings on their site, but I’ll post the link here if they include the segment I was on. Thanks for praying!

Update: Unfortunately, my segment wasn’t on the link link for yesterday’s program. Out of a three-hour program, their link for the day is a fifteen-minute or so excerpt. Thankfully, a good friend recorded the interview for me, so I was able to listen to it and send it to family who had to work while it was on.

Link-Ups I Participate In

I participate in a few link-ups hosted by fellow bloggers. I used to leave a link to them at the bottom of some of my posts. But that takes a lot of time every week and looks cluttered. So I thought I’d put them here to refer back to.

Linking doesn’t mean 100% endorsement or agreement. A couple of these aren’t specifically Christian sites, but I haven’t found anything objectionable in them so far. I might skip linking even with some of the Christian ones sometimes if there is a political jab or a big theological difference.

Where the blogger had a button or badge or link explaining the link-up, I added those. Otherwise I just linked back to the host’s blog. Some of them explain the rules of linking each week on the link-up.

Sunday:

Scripture and a Snapshot hosted by Kym at A Fresh Cup of Coffee.

Monday:

Senior Salon Pit Stop

Senior Salon hosted by Esme Salon

Remember Me Monday hosted by Blue Cotton Memory

Tuesday:

Talking About It Tuesdays

Talking About It Tuesdays hosted by Slices of Life

InstaEncouragements at 9 a.m.

Wednesday:

Let's Have Coffee Link-Up

Let’s Have Coffee hosted by Joanne Viola at 6 a.m.

Thursday:

Thinking Out Loud Thursday by Penny.

Friday:

Crazy Little Love Birds Link Party

Monthly or quarterly:

Sweet Tea and Friends Link-Up

Paula at Grace-Filled Moments hosts the Sweet Tea and Friends Link-Up the beginning of each month to share an unlimited number of family-friendly posts.

Bookish Bliss

Bookish Bliss is a quarterly link-up for anything pertaining to books and reading hosted by Paula at Between the Bookends.

Blog Birthdays and Musings

Blog birthday and brand musingMonday marked my blog’s 14th anniversary.

And just like any other adolescent, it’s wrestling with what it wants to be when it grows up. 🙂

When I first started blogging, bloggers were like neighbors visiting over the back fence. Blogs—at least the kind I ran into—were chatty and varied. Some were fun, some were serious, some were inspirational. But my favorites were a combination.

Then blogs became Business.

And now, while learning all I can about publishing to be ready when I get my book finished, I find writers are encouraged to develop their “brand” so readers know what to expect from them. Readers who like Amish fiction, for instance, don’t want to pick up their favorite author’s new book only to find they’ve switched to science fiction.

I see the wisdom in developing a brand. But I think it’s possible to make a brand too narrow. If someone writes only about finances, I know I can seek out their books if I have a questions about finances. But I don’t read about finances often. I love WWII fiction, but I don’t want to read only WWII fiction. I love writers like Kristy Cambron, who writes historical fiction, but in a variety of times and places. I’m told it’s hard to drum up a whole new audience if you write both fiction and nonfiction or different types within each. But I think some of the audience would follow a favorite author into different forays. I’ve read books in a different genre because an author I liked crossed over to it.

So as I consider what elements I’m passionate about and what might make up my brand, these come to mind:

  • I want to encourage women to develop their own relationship with God.
  • I want to encourage women in their walk with God in whatever stage of life they are in.
  • I want to encourage women to get into the Bible for themselves, not as an end in itself, but to get to know God better. My book-in-progress is on this topic.
  • I want to encourage women to look at everything through the lens of Scripture.

I’ve written a lot about having a quiet time with God in His Word, but that’s not all I write about. I’ve written a little about marriage, parenthood, becoming an “older” woman, caregiving—not as an expert in any of those fields, but sharing what I’ve learned along the way. Occasionally I’ll ponder current issues and try to view them through the truth of God’s Word. I love reading and love sharing good books I’ve found. When I did a blogging preference poll a couple of years ago, people’s preferences about what kinds of posts they liked best varied.

When I saw that well-known Christian blogger Tim Challies called himself a generalist, a light bulb went on in my mind. Maybe that’s what I am, too!

I’ve tried to narrow things down a bit, yet not too much, to hopefully present to a future publisher. If I needed to sum it up in one sentence, it would be that I want to encourage women in their walk with God. I don’t know if that’s catchy or original enough, but that’s my desire.

By the way, although I have women in mind as I write, I don’t mind if men read along.

Thank you all for being here. I didn’t know, when I started blogging, that I’d make so many dear friends that I’ll likely not meet in person until heaven. Your kind comments encourage me and make my day.

I’d love to know what you think about author and blogger “brands” or anything else I’ve mentioned here. Do you read or follow those who write in particular niches, or those who write generally?

(Sharing with Recharge Wednesday, Let’s Have Coffee)

Guest Post at Almost an Author

I have a guest post at Almost an Author today titled Publishing Dreams Can Come True. I share a bit about the immense obstacles one author overcame to write what’s now considered a beloved classic. I want to encourage authors (and others!) to pursue their dreams and overcome their own obstacles with God’s help. I hope you’ll check it out.

A look back at the blog in 2019

I seem to be a little out of sync with the rest of the blog world. People were posting their top books of the year in mid-December, while I was still reading. People have been writing about the New Year since the day after Christmas, but I don’t usually have time to think about goals for the New Year til after the rest of the family has gone back to work in January. And people usually post retrospectives of their blogs before the end of the year, but I haven’t had a chance to do that yet. So, if you don’t mind, I’ll look back a just little more before I start looking forward.

I don’t know if anyone else gets anything from this post besides me, but I find it interesting to see what posts resonate the most with readers. Well, I can’t actually determine that, but my WordPress stats show me which posts get the most views.

As has been the case the past few years, the first several most-viewed posts are not from this year. In fact, the first hundred or so most-viewed posts of the year were from past years. I am thankful people are finding, reading, and hopefully being blessed by posts from the past. For the first time in several years, Coping When Husband is Away is not in the top spot: it has dropped down to number five. My top-viewed post from this year is from 2012: What Does it Mean to Magnify the Lord?

But as far as I can make out, the most-viewed posts that were published this year are:

  1. Just Wait: It Gets Harder.” People tend to tell tired young mothers that, but why? Instead, why not encourage them that God’s grace is sufficient for every step of the journey?
  2. Great-grandma Is Home. We had taken care of my mother-in-law at home for five years, and God released her from her fragile, silent, still body and brought her home to Himself.
  3. It’s OK to Say It Hurts. Maintaining a good testimony is not the same thing as keeping a stiff upper lip. The psalms are full of lament, and it’s okay to express grief or bewilderment.
  4. What You Miss When You Turn Your Back on Church. A lot, it turns out.
  5. A Tribute to My Mother-in-law. Written after we had gotten back and settled after the trip to take for the funeral.
  6. What If We Really Don’t Measure Up? Sometimes we feel inadequate because we actually are. We’re not enough in ourselves, but we’re complete in Him. “And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work” (2 Corinthians 9:8).
  7. My Writing Journey.
  8. End-of-July Musings and a Blog Anniversary Giveaway.
  9. Remembering the Loved One Who Has Forgotten You. Sometimes people stop communicating with their elderly loved ones because “He doesn’t even know who I am any more” or “She wouldn’t even remember anyway.” But ministry and expressions of love should stop for those reasons. They might not remember us, but we need to show we remember them.
  10. Book Review: Becoming Mrs. Lewis. I highly anticipated this one, but ended up having mixed emotions.

So 2019 has officially closed, and I look forward to spending time with you in 2020. Thank you so much for coming here to read and visit. You are an immense blessing to me.

“Hitherto hath the Lord helped us.” I Samuel 7:12. “The word ‘hitherto’ seems like a hand pointing in the direction of the past. Twenty years or seventy, and yet ‘hitherto hath the Lord helped us!’ Through poverty, through wealth, through sickness, through health, at home, abroad, on the land, on the sea; in honor, in dishonor, in perplexity, in joy, in trial, in triumph, in prayer, in temptation–‘hitherto hath the Lord helped!'” Charles Spurgeon

(Sharing with Global Blogging, Hearth and Soul, Happy Now, InstaEncouragement,
Worth Beyond Rubies)