Wanting our own way

I mentioned in yesterday’s post that I had once done a study on what the Bible has to say about wanting our own way, looking up phrases like “own way,” “own thoughts,” “own heart” etc. I thought I’d share the results with you:

  • Judges 17:6b Every man did that which was right in his own eyes.
  • II Kings 17:33 They feared the LORD, and served their own gods.
  • Prov. 14:14a The backslider in heart shall be filled with his own ways
  • Prov. 21:2 Every way of a man is right in his own eyes: but the LORD pondereth the hearts.
  • Isa. 53:6  All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.
  • Isa. 65:2   I have spread out my hands all the day unto a rebellious people, which walketh in a way that was not good, after their own thoughts;
  • Isaiah 66:3   Yea, they have chosen their own ways, and their soul delighteth in their abominations.
  • Jeremiah 18:12   And they said, There is no hope: but we will walk after our own devices, and we will every one do the imagination of his evil heart.
  • Ezekiel 13:2   Son of man, prophesy against the prophets of Israel that prophesy, and say thou unto them that prophesy out of their own hearts, Hear ye the word of the LORD…
  • Ezekiel 16:15a   But thou didst trust in thine own beauty…
  • Mark 7:9   And he said unto them, Full well ye reject the commandment of God, that ye may keep your own tradition.
  • Romans 10:3   For they being ignorant of God’s righteousness, and going about to establish their own righteousness, have not submitted themselves unto the righteousness of God.
  • Romans 16:18   For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly
  • Philippians 2:21   For all seek their own, not the things which are Jesus Christ’s.
  • II Timothy 3:2b   For men shall be lovers of their own selves
  • Jude 1:16   These are murmurers, complainers, walking after their own lusts; and their mouth speaketh great swelling words, having men’s persons in admiration because of advantage.

Results:

  • Proverbs 25:28 He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.
  • Psalm 22:29 None can keep alive his own soul.
  • Psalm 81:12 So I gave them up unto their own hearts’ lust: and they walked in their own counsels.
  • Proverbs 1:31 Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices.
  • Ezekiel 11:21b I will recompense their way upon their own heads, saith the Lord GOD.
  • Ezekiel 36:31   Then shall ye remember your own evil ways, and your doings that were not good, and shall lothe yourselves in your own sight for your iniquities and for your abominations.
  • Romans 1:24   Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:

Remember:

  • I  Corinthians  6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own?
  • Psalm 44:3 For they got not the land in possession by their own sword, neither did their own arm save them: but thy right hand, and thine arm, and the light of thy countenance, because thou hadst a favour unto them.
  • Proverbs 25:27b   For men to search their own glory is not glory.

Remedy:

  • I Samuel 15:17 And Samuel said, When thou wast little in thine own sight, wast thou not made the head of the tribes of Israel, and the LORD anointed thee king over Israel?
  • Proverbs  3:5 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
  • Proverbs  3:7 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.
  • Proverbs 12:15b The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise.
  • Matthew 7:5a   Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye…
  • I Corinthians 10:33   Even as I please all men in all things, not seeking mine own profit, but the profit of many, that they may be saved.
  • I Corinthians 13:5   [Love] doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil….
  • II Corinthians 8:5   And this they did, not as we hoped, but first gave their own selves to the Lord, and unto us by the will of God.
  • Philippians 3:9   And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith.

 

The Captain of My Fate

Some years ago during the brief four years we taught at home, our curriculum contrasted two poems. The first was “Invictus” by William Ernest Henley:

Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeonings of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.

It matters not how strait the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll.
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul.

The second poem is obviously a response to the first: “Conquered By Christ” by Dorothea Day:

Out of the light that dazzles me,
Bright as the sun from pole to pole,
I thank the God I know to be,
For Christ – the Conqueror of my soul.

Since His the sway of circumstance,
I would not wince nor cry aloud.
Under the rule which men call chance,
My head, with joy, is humbly bowed.

Beyond this place of sin and tears,
That Life with Him and His the Aid,
That, spite the menace of the years,
Keeps, and will keep me unafraid.

I have no fear though straight the gate:
He cleared from punishment the scroll.
Christ is the Master of my fate!
Christ is the Captain of my soul!

My son at that time had a problem with wanting to yield the captaincy of his fate to Another. That’s understandable. We’re born with an intense self-will. We’re hesitant to trust someone else with our destiny. We want to make our own choices.

But once when I did a lengthy study on one’s “own” way in the Bible, I found that following our own way didn’t usually turn out well. Here are just a couple of examples:

“All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned—every one—to his own way; and the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all.” Isaiah 53:6

“The backslider in heart will be filled with his own ways, But a good man will be satisfied from above.” Proverbs 14:14.

I didn’t realize until looking for these poems online that a handwritten copy of “Invictus” was the only statement Timothy McVeigh left behind when he was executed (see here). Invictus means “unconquerable.” How sad to remain unconquered only to come to such an end. “Therefore shall they eat of the fruit of their own way, and be filled with their own devices” Proverbs 1:31.

It’s one of those seeming paradoxes of Scripture that “Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it” (Luke 17:33). Whatever we want to hold onto for ourselves we will eventually lose. What we yield to Christ He will keep for us and give back so much more.

There is good reason to trust Christ as our Captain. He knows what is ahead. He has the wisdom to guide us. He has the power to keep us. When the path passes through deep waters or dark shadows, He promises to be with us and uphold us. He loves us so much that He gave His own life for us and has promised to provide for everything we need, not only physically but spiritually. He is the only One Who can provide for us beyond the grave. He is more than worthy of our Captaincy and our trust.

“The Discipline of Adversity”

“The Discipline of Adversity” is the 13th and final chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here.

though we can only do all of the other disciplines Bridges has discussed with the Holy Spirit’s enabling, yet we still have some responsibility and have to take some initiative. God will speak to us through His Word, but we have to pick it up and read it; He will enable us to keep commitments, but we have to make them, and so on. Bridges reminds us that “we practice these disciplines not to earn favor with God, but because they are the means God has given to enable us to pursue holiness” (p. 228).

But adversity comes from outside of us and is imposed by God on us. It’s not a welcome imposition, but if we remember key factors about it, that will help us endure it.

1. God disciplines those He loves. Hebrews 12:5-6: “And have you forgotten the exhortation that addresses you as sons? ‘My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him. For the Lord disciplines the one he loves, and chastises every son whom he receives.’”

2. His purpose is our holiness. Hebrews 12:10-11: “For [our fathers] disciplined us for a short time as it seemed best to them, but [God] disciplines us for our good, that we may share his holiness.For the moment all discipline seems painful rather than pleasant, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.”

3. His purpose is our Christlikeness. Romans 8:28-29a: “And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose.For those whom he foreknew he also predestined to be conformed to the image of his Son.”

We can’t control what happens to us, but we can respond in a right or wrong way.

Wrong ways:

Hebrews 12:5: “My son, do not regard lightly the discipline of the Lord, nor be weary when reproved by him.”

Job 1:22: “In all this Job did not sin or charge God with wrong.” The KJV says “nor charged God foolishly.” Job did not do these things (a good response), but we can be tempted to do them and shouldn’t. Becoming angry with God can lead to a “grudge against God and is actually rebellion” (p. 236).

Right ways:

See God’s hand in it and don’t subscribe it to chance. Lamentations 3:37-38: “Who can speak and have it happen if the Lord has not decreed it? Is it not from the mouth of the Most High that both calamities and good things come?”

Submit to God’s discipline. Hebrews 12:9: “Moreover, we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of our spirits and live!”

Even knowing all of that, sometimes we wrestle with “Why?” Why does this have to be that way? Why did this have to happen to that person, who is already struggling under so many other things? One of the most helpful sections to me in this chapter besides direct Scripture was this: “Part of the sanctifying process of adversity is its mystery; that is, our inability to make any sense out of a particular hardship” (pp. 233-34). We have to trust that God knows what He is doing, that His ways are higher than ours. “When we are unable to make any sense of our circumstances, we need to come back to the assurance in Hebrews 12:7: ‘God is treating you as sons.’ Remember, He is the one in charge of sanctification in our lives. He knows exactly what and how much adversity will develop more Christlikeness in us and He will not bring, nor allow to come into our lives, any more than is needful for His purpose” (p. 234).

Sometimes people wonder, too, since this is from God, is it wrong to seek relief from it? Not at all. “We can pray earnestly to God for relief and still be submissive to Him in regard to the outcome. Jesus is our supreme example in this as He prayed the night before His crucifixion, “‘My Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will’ (Matthew 26:39) (p. 237).

A few more thoughts that stood out to me:

“Whatever our situation is, it is far better than we deserve. None of us wants to receive from God’s hand what we actually deserve, for that would be only eternal punishment” (p. 242).

“God’s grace is sufficient for us (2 Corinthians 12:9), however difficult and frustrating our circumstances might be…God’s enabling grace will give us the inner spiritual strength we need to bear the pain and endure the hardship, until the time when we see the harvest of righteousness and peace produced by it” (p. 242).

Bridges ends the book with this chapter. It would have been nice to have had a conclusion, a wrapping-up of the whole book beyond the last paragraph or two here.

Overall I have enjoyed my first experience with Challies‘ Reading Classics Together” challenge. I definitely got more out of the book than if I had just read it straight through, because I took it more slowly by reading only a chapter a week, then went through the chapter several times while trying to write a review or sort out my thoughts. That was definitely beneficial to me; I don’t know if it benefited my readers at all. And it helped to draw even more out of the chapter to read some of the thoughts of others participating in the challenge. I don’t know if I will participate again: I guess it depends largely on what books are chosen next. But I enjoyed the experience and than Tim Challies for setting this up for us.

What grace does not mean

The Biblical truth of grace — God’s divine, unmerited favor and enabling us to do His will — is a wonderful concept. “Wonderful” seems too slight an adjective. We’re saved by grace through faith, most of Paul’s epistles begin and end with grace, God’s grace gifts us for ministry, is sufficient for all things, is made perfect in our weakness, provides for everlasting consolation and good hope and help for every need.

But there are some misconceptions about grace today.

Grace does not mean:

That God ignores our sin or doesn’t corrects us.

Hebrews 12:5-8 say, “And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

The penalty for our sins was been taken care of by Jesus when He died on cross, and we received forgiveness and pardon when we believed on Him. But that doesn’t mean we have a “blank check” or, as someone once put it to me, a “get out of jail free card.” God is Holy, and His purpose for us is that we become transformed and conformed to the image of His Son. His grace means He deals with us as a loving father, not as a judge or policeman watching for us to mess up again so He can haul us in. In fact, the passage in Hebrews says that His disciplining of us is a proof of our sonship.

That we don’t have to be careful.

Some seem to think that since our sins are forgiven and our relationship with God is established, we can sit back and relax and enjoy the ride from here to heaven. There is a sense in which that is true. We have all of God’s favor that He can give and we can’t earn more by our acts after salvation any more than we could before salvation. But in hundreds of choices we make each day, our attitude shouldn’t be, “It doesn’t matter because God loves me anyway.” It should be, “What would most please my Father and reflect well on Him? What is most in line with the instructions He left for me in His Word?” Ephesians 5:15 tells us to walk circumspectly (carefully in the ESV). Jesus told us to watch and pray lest we enter into temptation.

That there is no effort involved in the Christian life.

Romans 8:13 shows how our efforts work together with God’s enabling: “For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.” He doesn’t mortify it for us: there is a response expected from us. But we can’t do it on our own: we can only do it through the Spirit.

That there are no rules to follow.

It’s a common sentiment these days that we’re not saved or kept saved by keeping rules, and that’s true. But that doesn’t mean all rules are tossed out the window. As we grow in holiness and become more like God’s Son, we will find that there are things we should and should not do as a result of that relationship, not to maintain that relationship. We do have to be careful that we’re not teaching man-made rules that reach beyond Scripture as God’s commandments. But Jesus said, “If ye love me, keep my commandments” (John 14:15). I John 5:3 says, “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments: and his commandments are not grievous.” I wrote more on this here.

That doctrine is not important.

Sometimes people think of doctrine as stiff, stuffy, nitpicky. But doctrine is vitally important. Jesus spoke against the “doctrine of the Pharisees.” Romans 6:17 says, “But God be thanked, that ye were the servants of sin, but ye have obeyed from the heart that form of doctrine which was delivered you.” Romans 16:17-18 say, “Now I beseech you, brethren, mark them which cause divisions and offences contrary to the doctrine which ye have learned; and avoid them. For they that are such serve not our Lord Jesus Christ, but their own belly; and by good words and fair speeches deceive the hearts of the simple.” Paul told Timothy, “If thou put the brethren in remembrance of these things, thou shalt be a good minister of Jesus Christ, nourished up in the words of faith and of good doctrine” (I Timothy 4:6), “Till I come, give attendance to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine” (verse 13), “Take heed unto thyself, and unto the doctrine; continue in them” (verse 16), and to Titus, “But speak thou the things which become sound doctrine” (Titus 2:1), and much, much more. He told Timothy later, “Preach the word; be instant in season, out of season; reprove, rebuke, exhort with all long suffering and doctrine. For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables.” Many of the New Testament epistles were written partially to expose and correct false doctrine. We’re not to give our blessing to those who teach false doctrine.

That Christians should not correct each other.

In these days of blogs, tweets, message boards, and Facebook, we’ve all seen Christians get into nasty altercations over some issue or another in ways that are an embarrassment to the cause of Christ. And truly, some people are harsh and adamant over areas where good people can differ.

But there are ways in which God does want us to confront and correct each other. Galatians 6:1 says, “Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.” Jesus instructed about the right way to confront someone who has sinned against us. Paul found it necessary to name names publicly sometimes (Euodias and Syntyche, Demas, Alexander the coppersmith, to name a few). Paul told the Corinthian church who had a member carrying on in known sin that no one had corrected “ye are puffed up, and have not rather mourned, that he that hath done this deed might be taken away from among you” and “Your glorying is not good. Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump?” Paul told Titus of some folks to “rebuke them sharply, that they may be sound in the faith.” That they may be sound in the faith, not for personal pleasure, not for a smack-down of conflicting opinions, not out of self-righteousness. II Thessalonians 3:14-15 say, “And if any man obey not our word by this epistle, note that man, and have no company with him, that he may be ashamed. Yet count him not as an enemy, but admonish him as a brother.” James 5:19-20 says, “Brethren [note he is speaking to brethren, a term denoting other Christians], if any of you do err from the truth, and one convert him;Let him know, that he which converteth the sinner from the error of his way shall save a soul from death, and shall hide a multitude of sins.”

It only makes sense that God’s grace and all its ramifications and effects would be in keeping with the rest of His Word. The same gracious God Who extends His grace to us gave us His Word for our instruction as to Who He is and what He is like and for our growth. But because we’re at different stages of growth, have different frames of reference through which we interpret teaching, we’re at different places in how we perceive God’s grace. Because we have a sin nature that likes to twist things around to our own line of thinking, and we have an enemy of our souls who wants to distort God’s truth and grace, we need to be constantly in God’s Word, learning more of Him and aligning our thinking with His.

And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified. Acts 20:32

But grow in grace, and in the knowledge of our Lord and Saviour Jesus Christ. To him be glory both now and for ever. Amen. II Peter 3:18

“I’ll Never Forsake You”

This is another song I first heard when the Steve Pettit Evangelistic Team was at our church for a Sunday morning a few months ago and which is now on their new CD is Before You Now. In my line of sight while they were singing was a young man who had just had an ostomy in January after having suffered with Crohn’s disease for something like 14 years, and I couldn’t help but think of how applicable these words were for him and for several who had undergone various trials. Some background to the song is here. I wish there was a video of the Pettit team singing it, but you can hear a clip here or here.

O soul, are you weary from wave upon wave
Of grief and affliction whom no man can save?
Has sickness surrounded, or unending night?
Uncertainty stolen your joy and your might?

O doubting, o fearful– remember His care,
The helpless and hopeless need never despair
For from your afflictions His glory shall spring–
The deeper your sorrow, the louder you’ll sing!
Remember your Father– His promise, His love:

“I’ll never forsake you, this pain will not break you,
For I will remake you for unending joy;
My promise is faithful though now it is painful;
No power can trample my covenant love.”

Remember your Savior– His grief and His pain,
The lonely affliction, unmerited shame.
Though you had betrayed Him, He died in your place;
The joy set before Him He offers by grace.
Remember your Father– His promise, His love:

“I’ll never forsake you, this pain will not break you,
For I will remake you for unending joy;
My promise is faithful though now it is painful;
No power can trample my covenant love.”

By David Ward

“The Discipline of Watching”

“The Discipline of Watching” is the 12th chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here.

The epigraph for this chapter is Matthew 26:41: “Watch and pray that you may not enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Just as the Titanic sank because its captain and crew ignored warnings and didn’t employ methods at hand for watching out for icebergs, so we can fall into temptation if we’re not watchful and if we don’t employ the tools God gave us for that purpose.

The first step in watchfulness is knowing our enemies: the world, the flesh, and the devil. Each has unique ways of attempting to lure one into sin.

Probably most of us have the most trouble with the “flesh,” our old nature. Bridges quotes Sinclair Ferguson as saying, “Freedom from the dominion of sin is not…the same thing as freedom from its presence and influence. Indeed, the power of sin remains where the dominion has been banished, and though that power of sin be weakened, yet its nature is not changed” (p. 212). We’re saved from the dominion of sin when we become Christians, but we won’t be totally free from its presence until we get to heaven, so we must be on guard against its influence and pulls. “Our flesh is always searching out opportunities to gratify itself according to the particular sinful desires each of us has” (p. 213-214). Though we can be tempted by most anything, each of us has certain sins we’re more inclined to. Jim Berg, in his book Changed Into His Image, calls them “designer sins.”

We need to know our particular weaknesses in order to watch out for our particular temptations. But we need to be careful of our strengths, too, “because that is where we are apt to trust ourselves and not depend on God” (p. 217). We need to be careful not to let “little” sins slide, because they can snowball into bigger problems before we know it.

All this talk of watchfulness might cause some to wonder, “What about Christian liberty?” Paul urges us not to”turn our freedom into an opportunity for the flesh” (Galatians 5:13). We can’t make up a Pharisaical list of don’ts (we can too easily judge our spirituality and everyone else’s by our “lists”), but we need to know that our heart is desperately wicked and will look for excuses to follow its own way. Some helpful guidelines to keep ourselves in check are:

“All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be enslaved by anything.  I Corinthians 6:12.

All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify. Let no one seek his own good, but that of his neighbor. (I Corinthians 10:23-24).

“The best defense is a good offense,” as the old saying goes, and “the best offense is meditation on the Word of God and prayer. It is surely no coincidence that they are the only two spiritual exercises that we are encouraged to do continually” (p. 223). “For every temptation that you face, there are specific passages of Scripture that address that issue” (p. 223). We can seek some out, perhaps asking the help of another mature Christian if we don’t know where to look, and then “memorize those verses, meditate on them, and pray over them every day, asking the Holy Spirit to bring them to your mind in times of need. Ask, also, that He will strengthen your will to enable you to obey the word that He brings to your mind” (p. 223). And we can pray, as Jesus instructed His disciples, that God would “lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one” (Matthew 6:13).

Even with all of that, we sin every day, and we need God’s grace for forgiveness. “The gospel of God’s forgiveness of our sins through Christ’s death frees us to face those sins honestly and bring them to the cross and Jesus’ cleansing blood. The freedom and joy that then come from a cleansed conscience create the desire and give us the right motive to deal with those sins. We cannot effectively pursue holiness without going back again and again to the gospel” (p. 225).

And even though Bridges doesn’t say this directly, it’s implied through the whole chapter that grace doesn’t negate the need for watchfulness. That we can be forgiven for sins doesn’t mean we should not make every attempt to avoid them. Jesus said to “watch and pray” and to pray that we wouldn’t be led into temptation, Paul told readers to “flee youthful lusts,” to do and not to do certain things. We can’t be presumptuous and negligent, thinking that it doesn’t matter if we sin because God will forgive us. Psalm 19:13 even contains the prayer, “Keep back thy servant also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me.” But, thank God, when we do fail we can experience His grace and forgiveness.

Search Me, Know Me

I first heard this song when the Steve Pettit Evangelistic Team was at our church for a Sunday morning a few months ago. It was one of those “stop me in my tracks” moments — the song was so beautiful and spoke straight to my heart. When they spoke of working on a new recording, I hoped it would be on it…and it is. The new CD is Before You Now, taken from a line in this song. You can hear a clip here or here. I hope it blesses you as much as it did me.

It seems to echo thoughts from the end of Psalm 139 and Psalm 51.

Search me know me
Try me and see
Every worthless affection hidden in me
All I’m asking for is that You’d cleanse me Lord.

Create in me a heart that’s clean
Conquer the power of secret shame
Come wash away the guilty stain of all my sin.

Clothe me in robes of righteousness
Cover my nakedness with grace
All of my life before You now I humbly bring.

Search me know me
Try me and see.

By Kathryn Scott

“The Discipline of Choices”

“The Discipline of Choices” is the 11th chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here.

This was a hard chapter for me. Not hard to understand so much, but hard to come to grips with. As “spiritual” as it sounds to want to fight sin by “giving it all to God” or asking Him to take it, what it comes down to is my choice. I can’t make the right choices without Him, but I have to yield either to righteousness or unrighteousness. But it was also a helpful and hopeful chapter.

I’m not going to outline or summarize the chapter this time, but I will just share a few key points that stood out to me:

“We obey one choice at a time” (p. 191). That was a major relief to me. Looking at a lifetime of fighting sinful tendencies sounds exhausting, but I only have to focus on one choice at a time.

Whichever way we yield ourselves, we’re training and developing our character either further in righteousness or further in sin.

We might agree with what the Bible says about a certain sin, “and even make a commitment of sorts to put it out of our lives…..We would like to be rid of that sin, and even pray to God to take it away, but are we willing to say no to it?” (p. 194).

Most of us have at least a couple of areas we struggle with, have made commitments about, memorized applicable verses about. “We need to be especially vigilant in these areas to make the right choices. We have already made too many wrong choices; that is why these sin patterns are so deeply entrenched in us. It is only through making the right choice to obey God’s Word that we will break the habits of sin and develop the habits of holiness. This is where we desperately need the power of the Holy Spirit to enable us to make the right choices. So cry out to God every day for His help that day, and then cry out again each time you are confronted with the choice to sin or to obey” (p. 194).

There were several standout statements about “mortification” from Romans 8:13: “For if ye live after the flesh, ye shall die: but if ye through the Spirit do mortify the deeds of the body, ye shall live.”

“Mortification, or putting sin to death, is our responsibility. Paul said, ‘You put sin to death’ (emphasis added). This is something we must do. It is not something we turn over to God. Rather, it is our responsibility, as Paul also emphasized in Colossians 3:5” (p. 196).

“Although mortification is our responsibility, it can only be done through the enabling power of the Holy Spirit. Paul said, ‘But if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live’ (emphasis added)” (p. 196).

“To mortify a sin means to subdue it, to deprive it of its power, to break the habit pattern we have developed of continually giving in to the temptation of that particular sin. The goal of mortification is to weaken the habits of sin so that we do make the right choices” (p. 197).

“To mortify sin we must focus on its true nature. So often we are troubled with a persistent sin only because it disturbs our peace and makes us feel guilty. We need to focus on it as an act of rebellion against God” (p. 198).

After explaining that the word for “mortify” is used several times in the NT of putting someone to death in the context of hostility (as when Jesus was put to death), Bridges says, “Now apply that sense of hostility toward the sin you wish to mortify. See it for what it is and what it stands for — a rebellion against God, a breaking of His law, a despising of His authority, a grieving of His heart. This is where mortification actually begins, with a right attitude toward sin. It begins with the realization that sin is wrong, not because of what it does to me, or my spouse, or child, or neighbor, but because it is an act of rebellion against the infinitely holy and majestic God who sent His Son to be the propitiation for my sins” (p. 199).

“Think of an unusually persistent sin in your life…You say you cannot overcome it. Why not? Is it because you exalt your secret desire above the will of God?” (p. 199).

Just as in past chapters Bridges has emphasized that the pursuit of holiness is not just against sin but towards Christ-likeness, so he applies that truth here as well. Our choices are not just to avoid certain temptations but to grow in holiness.

“Just as it is ‘by the Spirit’ that we put to death the misdeeds of the body, so it is by the Spirit that we put on the virtues of Christlike character. That is why Paul could say in Colossians 3:12-14 that we are to clothe ourselves with these qualities (emphasizing our responsibility), while in Galatians 5:22-23 he refers to Christian character traits as the ‘fruit of the Spirit’ (emphasizing our dependence on the Spirit). The same Spirit who enables us to mortify sin also enables us to put on godly character” (p. 203).

“There is a fine line between using grace as an excuse for sin and using grace as a remedy for our sin,” but we do need to understand that we will often fail, especially when fighting long-held and deeply engrained habits, and to remember “that we stand before God on the basis of His grace rather than our performance.” (p. 204).

“The solution to staying on the right side of the fine line between using and abusing grace is repentance. The road to repentance is godly sorrow (2 Corinthians 7:10). Godly sorrow is developed when we focus on the true nature of sin as an offense against God rather than something that makes us feel guilty….Dwelling on the true nature of sin leads us to godly sorrow, which in turn leads us to repentance” (p. 205).

The Discipline of Convictions

Contrary to the postmodern belief that there is no absolute truth, the Bible discloses much absolute truth, and it is incumbent upon believers to know it both so that we worship God “in spirit and in truth,” and so that our behavior reflects our beliefs. Otherwise our morality is determined by consensus, by what everyone else is doing. Even Christians fall too easily into that trap, of adapting their lives to their particular Christian culture rather than on Bible-based convictions.

Jerry Bridges, in The Discipline of Grace, defines conviction as “a determinative belief: something you believe so strongly that it affects the way you live. Someone has observed that a belief is what you hold, but a conviction is what holds you” (p. 167).

God tells us “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2). Renewing our minds comes about as we read God’s Word, delight in it, meditate on it, and thereby derive convictions from it. “One who delights in the Law of God sees the Bible not just as a book of rules that are difficult to live by, but as the Word of his or her heavenly Father who is the God of all grace and deals with him or her in grace” (p. 169).

Without regular time reading and studying the Bible, our beliefs and morality will be influenced by the ungodly. Psalm 1 contrasts the righteous with the ungodly.

If we do not actively seek to come under the influence of God’s Word, we will come under the influence of sinful society around us. The impact of our culture with its heavy emphasis on materialism, living for one’s self, and instant gratification is simply too strong and pervasive for us not to be influenced by it. Once again, there is no such thing as a neutral stance on the continuum of influence. We are being drawn more and more under the transforming influence of Scripture, or we are being progressively drawn into the web of an ungodly society around us (p. 171).

But as we approach the Scriptures, we need to do so with the conviction that it is the Word of God, asking God to teach us its truths rather than just looking to shore up our own opinions, and we need to seek to apply it to our lives, not just store up knowledge and facts.

Our acceptance by God the Father is based solely on His grace to us through Christ. His favor is never earned by what we do nor forfeited by what we don’t do. But we may say with equal emphasis that our progress in the pursuit of holiness is to a significant degree conditioned on our use of the disciplines that God has appointed for us (p. 184).

Bridges mostly discusses how developing Bible-based convictions will keep us from veering off into ungodly thoughts and behaviors, but it will also help us not to veer into Christian lines of thought that are off-base or off-balance. Sometimes Christians can get hold of one aspect of truth without its balance of another, or take a Bible-based conviction and extrapolate from that certain standards of behavior that aren’t Biblically based at all, and defend those convictions with as much or more vigor than the clear teaching of Scripture. That can do great harm to the cause of Christ and the testimonies of believers. We desperately need to form convictions based on Scripture itself.

“The Discipline of Commitment” is the 10th chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here.

Whatever It Takes

I used to post hymns or spiritual songs on Sundays. But since we’ve moved here, I don’t have as much time on the computer on Sundays, due mainly to a longer drive times and services that are a bit longer than we were used to. Sunday dinners are often quick and simple now, and I leave the dishes in the sink and catch a nap. 🙂 And I don’t usually have anything in mind beforehand to get a post ready for Sunday.

But a song that I have considered posting for the last couple of weeks is “Whatever It Takes.” I was unfamiliar with it until our pastor played it just before prayer time on a Wednesday evening. He played the audio of this rendition by Kevin Inafuku from his CD He Is.

Whatever it takes
To keep me tender toward You,
Whatever it takes, Lord
I beg You to do.
Whatever You must lead me through,
Whatever it takes, Lord … do.

At times I hear your voice and try to hide
But patiently you draw me to your side.
I may not always see
That Your words are life to me.
So many times I’ve missed You,
Help me, Lord, to not resist You

Sometimes my heart gets hard and I can’t see
That Your correction is protecting me
But as I look within
The darkness of my sin
Breaks my heart and leaves me tender:
Gratefully I then surrender.

Whatever it takes
To keep me tender toward You,
Whatever it takes, Lord
I beg You to do.
Whatever You must lead me through
Whatever it takes, Lord,
There’s too much at stake, Lord.
Whatever it takes, Lord … do.

By Jon Mohr

Besides Kevin’s beautiful voice and phrasing, the song’s message arrested me. I wrestled with whether I could truly say, “Whatever It Takes.” It’s something I wrestle with from time to time, like in a previous post When Afraid to Surrender.

I can say it, by God’s grace, but instead of a full open invitation, it’s more of a squinting through the fingers of my hands as they cover my face while hoping it isn’t anything catastrophic. I can’t help wincing a bit, because God does sometimes call His people to go through excruciating things. But He does promise His grace, His presence, and His help as well.

I can’t go through a list of potential crises and say, one by one, “Yes, Lord, if You want to do that…Yes, Lord, to that…” I don’t know that that’s what He asks. But I can say, “OK, Lord,” while still wincing and squinting and trust His grace is sufficient for even that weakness.