Book Review: Lost Melody

In Lost Melody by Lori Copeland and Virginia Smith, Jill King is a talented concert pianist on her way to Carnegie Hall when she’s involved in a horrible subway accident which kills most of the passengers. Jill survives, but sustains an injury to her hip, and what’s worse, to her hand, tragically ending any dreams she had for her future as a pianist.

In the year following she slowly recovers physically as much as possible, but she is still seeing a counselor to deal with the emotional trauma. People feel it’s time for her to move on, and things begin to move toward a permanent commitment to her boyfriend Greg, a lawyer with promising political ambitions.

About this time she begins having recurring terrifying dreams, and she feels they are portending a disaster to her oceanside Novia Scotia town and she’s supposed to warn people. But warning people carries the risk of being thought crazy, which would not only damage her reputation but would also affect her fiance’s career.

I’d seen this pop up on other blogs and always thought it sounded interesting until I got to the part about the dreams, then I’d close the screen and move on to something else. But when I was looking for a new audiobook, somehow I missed that part when I ordered.

For me, I can’t help reading/listening and wondering “Where are the authors going with this? Are they trying to promote a view that God speaks to people in this way today?”

Personally, I don’t believe that He does. No, there is no Bible verse where God says, “I will never again speak audibly or through dreams to anyone ever again until they get to heaven.” But my understanding of I Corinthians 13:8b-10 (“But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away.”) is that once the Word of God came, the need for the “sign gifts” faded away. I know there are differences of opinion about that, and that’s fine: I don’t mean to start a debate. I’m just relaying my mindset as I listened to the book. The most realistic and seemingly genuine incidents I’ve heard of their use today have occurred among primitive people who don’t have the Scriptures in their languages yet. Plus, I don’t know of a Biblical prophecy that’s just about getting out of town because of a coming disaster: usual it has to do with a call to repentance. There are multitudes of crashes, floods, explosions, earthquakes, and other disasters throughout the world on a daily basis: why would God pick one little town and send a prophecy to them to leave town because something bad is about to happen?

But I decided if I was going to get anything out of the book, I needed to just set that aside mentally, accept it as just a fictional part of a fictional story rather than reality, and just see how it played out.

I felt the authors did handle well the ramifications of such a character with such a message: the disbelief of some, including her fiance, and his wrestling with how to support her while not letting her stance have a negative impact on his career; the support of others, with a tiny few carrying it over into a bit of extreme fanaticism; the media interest and “spin” on it, etc. All of that was very realistic and did make me empathize with the prophets of old, the reluctance some of them may have felt at proclaiming a message that many would not receive. The authors also did a great job with the plot development and the build-up of suspense to the climax at the end.

I enjoyed most the parts about Jill’s recovery and the issues she faced in connection with the loss of her dream. But even regarding the prophecy as fictional, as a plot element, I didn’t really enjoy that part of the book as well.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Discernment

I was dismayed recently, when reading through the comments on a somewhat controversial blog post, to see that when one commenter tried to bring the Scriptures to bear on the topic, he was called legalistic and judgmental (and this by other professing Christians.)

Conversely, the Bible says the Bereans “were more noble than those in Thessalonica, in that they received the word with all readiness of mind, and searched the scriptures daily, whether those things were so” (Acts 17:10). Searching through the Scripture to see if what was being said lined up with what was there was considered a noble thing.

A couple of nights ago, the evening reading from Daily Light on the Daily Path contained several verses on this topic:

The ear trieth words, as the mouth tasteth meat. Job 34:3

Beloved, believe not every spirit, but try the spirits whether they are of God: because many false prophets are gone out into the world. I John 4:1

Judge not according to the appearance, but judge righteous judgment. John 7:24

I speak as to wise men; judge ye what I say. I Corinthians 10:15.

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom. Colossians 3:16a

He that hath an ear, let him hear what the Spirit saith. Revelation 2:29

He that is spiritual judgeth all things. I Corinthians 2:15a

Take heed what ye hear. Mark 4:24a

I know thy works, … and how thou hast tried them which say they are apostles, and are not, and hast found them liars. Revelation 2:2

Prove all things; hold fast that which is good. I Thessalonians 5:21

Several of those verses that speak of judging. Someone might say, “Whoa, wait a minute…I thought we weren’t supposed to judge.” That’s one of the most misunderstood concepts from the Bible. We’re not supposed to judge in the sense of condemning someone on the assumption that we know what what their motives are, condemning someone’s actions that might be different from ours when there is not a Scriptural principle involved, acting as if we’re superior in some way, etc. But to exercise discernment, to judge whether this or that statement or action is in line with Scripture (especially when the one saying or doing says it is but seems to be a little off-base) is another thing entirely.

According to a Greek lexicon the word used for “judgeth” in Acts 17:11 and I Cor. 2:14-15 quoted above means:

examine or judge

  1. to investigate, examine, enquire into, scrutinise, sift, question
    1. specifically in a forensic sense of a judge to hold an investigation
    2. to interrogate, examine the accused or witnesses
  2. to judge of, estimate, determine (the excellence or defects of any person or thing

I’ve linked back to some of the other definitions in the verses themselves so as not to be too lengthy here.

Sometimes what another person advocates won’t seem major, but as one pastor put it, if you’re taking a trip and start off on the right path, and then turn just ten degrees the wrong direction, it won’t look like a big difference at first, but if you keep going you’ll find yourself way off course.

Of course, there are some areas where Christians can have differences of opinion and practice, where the Bible doesn’t speak directly or in clear principle, and we should allow each other the grace to do so (Romans 14). But many today are taking Christian liberty to mean “I can do whatever I want and other Christians shouldn’t judge me for it,” when Romans 14 teaches the exact opposite, the reigning in of one’s freedom so as not to cause others to stumble. And even the premise there is wrong: we’re not free to do “whatever we want” as Christians.

I was stunned recently when a blogger I read and love linked to another’s post advocating a certain position that is controversial in the church today, and the author of this post effectively swept away all the New Testament arguments against her position by saying the N. T. is about attitudes rather than rules. That should raise a number of red flags to any discerning reader.

The Bible has many warnings against false prophets. Paul warns that it is not just those from the outside, but even some from within the church will lead some astray: “ For I know this, that after my departing shall grievous wolves enter in among you, not sparing the flock. Also of your own selves shall men arise, speaking perverse things, to draw away disciples after them” (Acts 20: 29-30). But he goes on to say in v. 30, “And now, brethren, I commend you to God, and to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up, and to give you an inheritance among all them which are sanctified.”

Soak in the Word of God. Hold it to a higher esteem than anyone else’s words. “Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom” Colossians 3:16a.

For more on this topic, see also:

Tension.
Controversies.
Analyzing vs. criticizing.
Just what does “judge not” mean, anyway?
Does niceness really matter?
Doctrine.

M.O.B. Society Blog Hop

The M.O.B. Society (Mothers of Boys) is having a blog hop in order to get to know each other better.

Welcome! My name is Barbara H. and I am in my mid 50s. My husband Jim and I have been married for 32 1/2 years. My boys are almost 28, 25, and 19 (we’re in the middle of “birthday season” when the odometer rolls over for several in our family). I have one beautiful daughter-in-law, married to my middle son. Only my youngest lives at home and he just finished high school. He’ll be attending a local community college in the fall and still living at home, so our nest won’t be quite empty yet. My mother-in-law lives in a nearby assisted living facility but we bring her over often and go visit her almost daily.

This is our last Christmas photo:

Oh, wait, no, here it is:

🙂

After spending most of our married lives in SC, the Lord moved us to TN almost two years ago. It’s been a time of changes and adjustments, but then, that’s life, isn’t it? But I think we’re settling in now.

My blog is a hodgepodge. I love to write about books I have read, my family, thoughts from the Bible, encouragement to younger women, and anything else that captures my attention. I love to laugh as well and I think I have a fair share of humor sprinkled throughout my blog.

Some of my posts that might be of particular interest to younger moms are:

Encouragement for mothers of young children.
Motherhood advice.
Encouragement for homemakers.
A Quiet Spirit.
A mother’s nightly ritual– an original poem.
I Corinthians 13 for mothers.
Parenting teens.
Missing something? No, I don’t think so after all.
The ideal house.
Book Review: Raising Real Men.
Book Review: Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man.

The M.O.B. Society hosts asks us about our sons’ favorite games. In the past few years their favorites (or at least most often played with each other) are Settlers of Catan, Seafarers of Catan, Night of the Living Dead (I know, sounds horrible, and I wasn’t too sure about it at first, but it’s pretty fun), Galactic Emperor, Apples to Apples, Dutch Blitz (not to mention video games like Super Smash Brothers). When they were younger they played Candyland, Hi Ho Cherry-O, Memory, Payday, Guess Who, Battleship, and Spy Web.

I hope you enjoy your visit here, and I am looking forward to “meeting” you!

Laudable Linkage

Here are some good reads seen this past week:

Prayer for the Ministry of the Word.

Making Sense of Scripture’s “Inconsistency.” A good answer against accusations that Christians just “pick and choose” what we want from the Bible when we don’t obey some of the obscure OT laws. Bekahcubed touched on this as well in a great post about why we don’t follow the OT food laws.

Magic Mike Who? Great post about true masculinity. (Of course not every good man will do every little thing listed there, but you get the idea.)

A Kind Wife. A good reminder that what we think are priorities for our husbands aren’t necessarily.

The Ten Commandments for Writers. Excellent. I don’t usually like adaptations of the ten commandments, but this is right in line with them.

One of many great things seen around Facebook:

And one of many good things seen at Pinterest:

Hope you have a good Saturday!

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s been a blissfully not-as-busy-as-it has-been-lately week. Here are some of the best parts of it.

1. A new HVAC unit. You may remember we’d been having trouble with our AC lately, and a new unit was put in Monday. Though we hated to spend the money on it, it’s nice to have a unit that works well (and should for a long time!) and is more efficient. And a part of that was a digital thermostat — our old one was hard to get right where you wanted it some times.

2. Rain. My favorite kind of rain — gentle, no thunder or lightning. It’s rained a little almost every day this week, and though some weeks that would depress me, it has been sorely needed and it has dropped the temperatures a bit.

3. External hard drives and the fact that I had just backed my photos up last week. When I logged onto Picasa yesterday, it said, “No Photos Found.” :-0 I found their instructions for what to do about that (uninstall and reinstall Picasa), and everything worked out all right, but it was such a relief to know all the photos were safe.

4. Good meals. Cooking is not really my favorite thing, and when it’s busy I tend to reach for frozen or boxed things that require a minimum of effort. But it’s been nice this week to do some “real” cooking.

5. A good visit with Jim’s mom. I’ve mentioned before that it can be discouraging to go visit her at her assisted living place because we can tend to have the same conversations (sometimes over and over in the same visit), or she’s sleepy: one time I just got there (after a 20-minute drive), and she said she wanted to lay her head down and go to sleep, so of course I told her to go ahead. So it’s really nice sometimes to feel like we’ve made a connection and communicated and even laughed together.

Hope you have a great weekend!

The strayest assortment of thoughts….

  • Twice this week I have rinsed my hair in the shower and then couldn’t remember if I had just washed it or was wetting it to wash it. 🙄
  • I know the conventional wisdom in blogging and web design is not to extend the text much below what the reader can see at first, the idea being they’ll just read what’s on top and not scroll down. But am I the only one who would rather scroll down than click through to another page???
  • When I am Googling something and click on a link that turns out to be a slide show, I almost never click on it any further. I’d much rather see a list I can skim through. Rarely do the links for the next slide come through quickly, but even if they did, it’s much more efficient to just look down a list than keep clicking for the next thing
  • Why:

Do arrogant people not recognize the quality in themselves?
Do people stop in doorways to talk?
Do black beans gross me out?
Does the tip of the pizza slice taste the best?

It seems like there was something else I was ruminating about…I guess I’ll have to save that for another time… if I remember it. 🙂

Book Review: Cold Sassy Tree

In the small town of Cold Sassy, GA, in the early 1900s, Rucker Blakeslee shocked and scandalized the town and his family by remarrying Miss Love Simpson just three weeks after his wife died. That was the worst of it, but added to the scandal were the facts that she was “nearly a Yankee” and half his age. Thereafter she was the main subject of gossip (as if the marriage was totally her fault) and could seem to do nothing right in their eyes. That’s the basic plot of Cold Sassy Tree by Olive Ann Burns, but the story is told through the eyes of Rucker’s grandson, Will Tweedy, who is sympathetic with the couple, and whose teen-age perspective causes him to question things and not necessarily go along with the status quo.

I do generally like small-town Southern fiction, but it took me a long while to get into this one. I almost laid it aside many time but persevered because so many people told me they had liked it.  A lot of the town gossip, prejudices, and family competition seemed mean-spirited; Will had a minor obsession with ladies’ bosoms (trying to catch a peek when his sister-in-law nursed her baby, noticing how Miss Love jiggled when she played the piano), there is a smattering of bad language and some faulty theology (I do understand this is not at all meant to be a Christian book, but if a writer is going to get into theology, then, yes, I am going to evaluate that). One example: when Will asks why we don’t get what we ask for in prayer even though Jesus said “Ask and ye shall receive,” his Grandpa says: “Maybe Jesus was talkin’ in His sleep, son, or folks heard Him wrong. Or maybe them disciples tryin’ to start a church thought everybody would join up if’n they said Jesus Christ would give the Garden a-Eden to anybody believed He was the son a-God and like thet” (p. 98). He does decide to “study on this some more” and later decides that Jesus may not give exactly what you ask (healing, a new job, etc.), but He will give you the grace to deal with whatever He allows, which is closer to the truth. But perhaps Rucker’s theological convolutions were meant as just another window into a personality that wants its own way and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks, which is manifested in various ways throughout the book.

I did enjoy Will’s camping trip. I loved the way Will’s innocent but unwise foray into impending doom on the train tracks was told. By the end of the book I grew to like the relationship Will had with his grandfather and the growing relationship between Rucker and Love from a marriage of convenience to a true, deep love. I liked that everything came more or less right in the end though I was sorry for the tragedy that led to it.

One of my favorite lines was when Will was pondering being in mourning (wearing a black armband, not being able to do anything fun) over the death of his grandmother as opposed to what it meant to actually mourn for her: “But to mourn, that’s different. To mourn is to be eaten alive with homesickness for the person” (p. 56). If you’ve ever mourned anyone you loved, I’m sure you can sympathize with that feeling.

My other favorite line was more humorous. When Miss Love models some driving attire in the store window because Rucker won’t buy a mannequin, Will’s Aunt “Loma was jealous. The store window being like a little stage and her having taken elocution, she considered herself the only person in Cold Sassy qualified to act like a dummy” (p. 282).

I went online looking for some more insight into the book, and these SparkNotes helped (warning: they do contain spoilers to the plot since they’re discussing it more in depth). It is a mark of good writing that I’m still thinking about the book days later and discovering angles, connections, and layers that I’d missed at first, but it still won’t go down as one of my favorites.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Together on Tuesdays: Favorite Places

Annette at This Simple Home and Dorie at These Grace Filled Days have teamed up to create Together on Tuesdays as “a casual way to meet and connect with other women” over the summer. They’ve created a schedule of topics to discuss in order to get to know one another better, and the topic for this week is our favorites spots, either locally or a vacation spot.

Honestly, my very favorite spot is my own home. I’m not much of an adventurer and don’t travel well. I feel more at peace and rest at home than anywhere else. But it is necessary to get out of the house every now and then.

Many of our vacations have been to visit family, but we’ve had a few other outings over the years. Probably one of my all-time favorites was SeaWorld in FL. We had gone down when my oldest son was checking out colleges to see Clearwater Christian College (loved it, but they didn’t have the major he wanted at the time.) We were so near all the Orlando attractions, we took an extra day to do something fun. We had been to a similar place while visiting Jim’s brother in CA years before when Jesse was just a baby, and I had always wanted to take the family back to something like that when he was old enough to remember it, and this was our chance. I just loved the dolphin show.

I grew up near the beach, and didn’t realize how much I missed it until a family reunion when my older two were small. Unfortunately the standard of dress (or undress) has gotten so bad that we didn’t feel comfortable taking our guys out to the beach much, but some years back when our school’s spring break was a different week that the pubic school’s we took a few days and went to Charleston, SC, and stayed at a hotel right on Folly Beach. This photo was taken from a gazebo out at the end of a pier looking back at the hotel.

Folly Beach hotel

It was lovely. We had the beach mostly to ourselves. I loved hearing the sound of the ocean at night while going to sleep, and because we were right there we could go out on the beach at any time. Jim and Jesse liked going out in the early morning.

Folly Beach sunrise

But we were also close enough to everything else in Charleston that it wasn’t far to drive into town and see a few things there. We took a buggy ride around the city and a harbor tour and took the guys to visit the Yorktown and Naval Museum. It was a perfect blend of sight-seeing and restfulness. I remember coming back and feeling more rested than at any other vacation return. We had been to Charleston as a young married couple before we had children, going with a tour group the local Christian radio station had gotten together, and then we revisited it on our 30th wedding anniversary. At that time Jim had enough hotel points that we got to stay at a hotel right on the heart of the downtown area. It was fun to be right there in the city (for a visit — I wouldn’t want to live where it is so busy!) with restaurants, museums, and tour homes within walking distance.

Another place we’ve enjoyed visiting is the Asheville, NC area. We’ve been to the Biltmore House a few times. On one anniversary — maybe our tenth? — we went there, stayed in a generic hotel, and ate one dinner at the Grove Park Inn. The food was wonderful, and at first we were concerned when we read there would be live music (we’re not prone to rocking out 🙂 ), but it was a lovely string quartet. I said I’d love to come back some time and actually stay in Grove Park Inn. We did on our 25th anniversary. Inside — it was pretty much just like any other hotel room, so I doubt I’d be inclined to do that again, but I love eating there. I don’t really like the outside of the building, either, but their fireplace in the lobby is gorgeous. One of the restaurants in the hotel (there are 5 total, I think), looks out over the mountains, and I always wanted to take my folks out there some autumn, but we never made it before my mom passed away. She loved the fall colors. When we went for our anniversary during December, there was a Gingerbread House contest, and it was fun to look at those (some of them are here).

When my kids were little, some of our favorite places were the library and the Discovery Place in Charlotte, NC, about an hour’s drive from where we lived at the time. We went camping a lot then, honestly not my favorite thing but Jim and the kids really enjoyed it, and we had a couple of favorite spots at Paris Mountain State Park.

A favorite activity at one was feeding the ducks at the lake. This is Jason at about age 2 or 3.

Feedig ducks

I think we only rented paddle boats there once or twice. They didn’t have them available all the time. This is Jeremy and I when he was maybe 5. Jim was on a different paddle boat with Jason (the back of whose head is in the foreground) and took the picture from there.

At the lake

But mostly we did the usual camping stuff: slept in a tent, cooked over an open fire (including s’mores!) took walks, etc.

A couple of times Jim received an award or bonus or “thank you” from his work in the form of a trip, once to Chattanooga (we enjoyed the aquarium there) and once to Callaway Gardens in GA: the Butterfly Center and the little chapel were really nice.

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Chapel window at Calloway Gardens

Another favorite outing was to the Applewood Farmhouse Restaurant in Sevierville, TN. We lived in SC at the time, and my mom loved to come visit in the fall because she didn’t have all the pretty fall colors in TX. It was a gorgeous autumn drive, and the food was superb. Plus they had some little shops connected to them, so we could do some of that kind of thing without getting into the more touristy parts of the area. My mom’s brother and sister-in-law lived close enough that they met us there. It was an all-around good time.

I’ve really enjoyed going back and revisiting these memories. Thanks, Annette and Dorie!

Quick Reviews: Coming Home and Walking on Broken Glass

I finished a couple of books that I just wanted to mention briefly rather than writing a full review.

 Coming Home is Karen Kingsbury’s latest and supposedly last book about the Baxter family. Though the family is the subject of some 22 previous books, I don’t think one would need to read all of them before enjoying this book.

The extended Baxter family is coming home for a surprise party for patriarch John Baxter’s 70th birthday. As each of his children reflect on their lives in order to write him a letter about what he means to them, their stories are summed up for the reader. But a tragedy turns their world upside down and shakes and tests their faith.

I can’t say much more than that without revealing too much. I enjoyed the book very much.

 Walking on Broken Glass by Christa Allan is the story of Leah Thornton, who at 27 confronts the truth of her alcoholism and checks herself into rehab. She comes to realize that there are more problems with her life than just alcohol, and that everything she blames her husband for may not be entirely his fault.

I loved Christa’s witty writing and Leah’s self-discovery, but I thought her admission of her alcoholism came a little too easily. I’ve mentioned before that my father was an alcoholic for most of his adult life, losing his family and his health, I don’t think he ever did admit that he had a problem, at least not that I ever heard. But I suppose it is possible to admit such after one confrontation.

There is also much more about Leah and her husband’s sexual life than I like to read. It is integral to the story and and for the most part it is no more explicit than what you’d find in Song of Solomon or Proverbs 5:19. Still, I’d rather the issues between them were expressed through some other venue.

I also felt the ending was left hanging unresolved. I do appreciate that not every thread of a story needs to be wrapped up in a neat bow at the end, but this ending was so abrupt that at first I thought perhaps not all of it came through on my Kindle download.

I did, however, really enjoy Christa’s writing and will look for more of her books in the future.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)