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The Week In Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few that spoke to me:

From our youth pastor’s wife’s Twitter:

“Worship that is not based on God’s Word is but an emotional encounter with oneself” ~ Erwin Lutzer

And from a friend’s Facebook:

Any attempt to produce love, joy, peace, endurance, and so forth apart from the Spirit of God is reliance upon strategies that are in competition with God. – Jim Berg

They both are similar in theme: our worship and our spiritual lives must be based on God’s Word and enabled by His Holy Spirit, or else they’re just…emotionalism or worse.

From Nancy Leigh DeMoss’s Twitter, retweeted by John Piper:

“Sin has been pardoned at such a price that we cannot henceforth trifle with it.” ~ Spurgeon

If we could keep that perspective, that would keep us from many a misstep, I think.

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And I hope you’ll leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

I am not skilled to understand

I’ve been enjoying a new arrangement of this on the Soundforth CD God of Mercy.(It’s listed there as “My Savior.”

I am not skilled to understand
What God hath willed, what God hath planned;
I only know that at His right hand
Is One Who is my Savior!

I take Him at His word indeed;
“Christ died for sinners”—this I read;
For in my heart I find a need
Of Him to be my Savior!

That He should leave His place on high
And come for sinful man to die,
You count it strange? So once did I,
Before I knew my Savior!

And oh, that He fulfilled may see
The travail of His soul in me,
And with His work contented be,
As I with my dear Savior!

Yea, living, dying, let me bring
My strength, my solace from this Spring;
That He Who lives to be my King
Once died to be my Savior!

– Dorothy Greenwell, 1873

Quick reviews

I finished a number of books over the last few weeks and haven’t had time or inclination to do a full review of them, but I thought I’d talk about them just briefly here.

Last month I reviewed Vicious Cycle by Terri Blackstock, which was the second in a trilogy, so I went back and listened to the first book, Intervention, from an audiobook and then read the newest and last in the series, Downfall, with my Kindle app for the Touchpad and iPhone.

In Intervention, Barbara Covington’s daughter, Emily, is an out of control addict, and after trying everything else she could, Barbara pays for a treatment center out of state which sends an interventionist to take Emily to the center. But the interventionist is killed in the airport parking lot and Emily is missing. Did she kill the woman, or is she in danger as well?

In Downfall, the Covington family has moved to Atlanta for a new start, but trouble seems to follow them with an attempt to bomb Emily’s car and two murders of people from the new treatment  center where she works. Though she’s been clean, evidence begins point to her involvement. Has she relapsed, or is she being framed?

This series arose from a situation in Terri’s own family (addiction, not murders), and with Jim and I both having members of extended family who have had trouble with drugs, I found the struggles both Emily and her family faced to be very realistic. And if you like suspense, Terri’s your girl! Her characters are realistically flawed while seeking God’s will. I enjoyed both of these.

The Big 5-OH! by Sandra D. Bricker is the next birthday of Olivia Wallace, and Liv is convinced that something dreadful is going to happen because of her “birthday curse”: something has happened on every birthday she can remember, all the way from losing a boyfriend to blizzards to a cancer diagnosis. For a change of venue and outlook, her friend urges her to go to her mother’s (the friend’s mother’s) place in Florida while her mother visits her there in Ohio , so Liv takes her up on the offer. Besides taking care of a dog in a lampshade collar, finding an alligator in a pool, and having a flirty 80-year-old as a neighbor, Liv meets another neighbor with a “toothpaste commercial smile” and begins to wonder if this birthday will be the best yet. This book was light, cute, fun — a nice beach or vacation read or just a change of pace from “heavier” books. I had found it on a clearance table at the Christian bookstore, but Amazon and Christianbook.com both have e-version for free at the moment.

I read Practical Happiness: A Young Man’s Guide to a Contented Life by Bob Schultz with my youngest son, Jesse, after having read two other books by that author, Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man and Created For Work. Though this has a lot of good points to ponder, I didn’t like it quite as well as the first two. It just seemed a little wordy and not as focused. He spends several chapters on knowing God’s voice and hearing Him speak, and I disagreed with him on some points there (I am always instantly suspicious when people say, “God told me…” anything), but it provided a good foundation for a discussion with my son on different views of that. But overall the book has more good points on the topic of happiness, contentment, and their enemies than it has problems.

So…I think that about catches me up. 🙂

Have you read any good books lately?

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Review: The Mysterious Benedict Society

In The Mysterious Benedict Society by Trenton Lee Stewart, a number of children answer an ad for “gifted children looking for special opportunities” and take a series of tests. Four children ultimately pass all the tests and are asked to help a Mr. Benedict, who designed the tests, on a special mission. The four children also happen to be orphans except for one who ran away from home. The children are:

Reynard (Reynie) Muldoon, who has a special knack for logic, solving puzzles, figuring out “trick” questions, thinking “outside the box.”

George (“Sticky”) Washington, who remembers everything he reads and is generally very nervous.

Kate Wetherall, the most physical of the group (having spent most of her life with the circus), an one-woman (or girl) MacGyver with an ever-present bucket of useful items, including a spyglass disguised as a kaleidoscope.

Constance Contraire, who is very…contrary, small, sleeps a lot, and argues even more. The reason for her contrariness isn’t revealed until the last chapter, and it’s hilarious. It makes her behavior all through the book make sense.

The children are asked to go on a dangerous but important mission to thwart an evil Ledroptha Curtain, a mission that only children could successfully accomplish (all manner of government officials have not seen the danger despite Mr. Benedict’s numerous attempts to inform them), and in the process learn about themselves, about how to work as a team, about how to face fears and extend themselves. I can’t tell you much more than that without giving too much away, and this book is best unfolded at its own pace (for that reason, I’d advise not reading the Wikipedia entry on it til you’re done — it has way too many spoilers).

I have to admit it took me a while to get into the book. I had heard it lauded so much I think I was expecting to be wowed within moments, but it took a while for it to grow on me. It’s not until 80 or so pages in that I began to get some inkling what was going on, and I thought the remaining 400+ pages were going to go by slowly. But the kids are in the same boat as the reader, so it takes a while first for the clues to fall into place and then to figure out what to do about them, and it does reach “hard to put down” status after a while. I have to admit I almost rolled my eyes a little at the “world domination through thought control” idea (which made me think of Pinky and the Brain), but that’s the stuff of many a children’s book and superhero story.

But these children are not superheroes. I love that they are very real. They are gifted in different ways, but they each have their own struggles, strengths, weaknesses, doubts. They have to learn to lean on each other, to seek guidance yet to think for themselves. I love when books bring a character beyond what they think they can do, like Frodo and Sam in Lord of the Rings or Abbie in Keep the Lights Burning, Abbie (one of my favorite children’s books).

Though the book is not written from a Christian viewpoint, there are several underlying truths in it (someone once said “All truth is God’s truth”). Carrie saw some parallels to spiritual warfare and to differently-gifted people working together as a cohesive whole in the church, and I can see that. There is also an underlying love of truth throughout the book and a resistance to evil. It disturbed me when the children had to both cheat and lie at a couple of points, but it was justified as something which one would do in warfare that one wouldn’t normally do, and I can see that as well.

The word “clever” kept coming to mind as I read this, both in the wordplay and in the writing. I had wondered, with the idea of thought control coming through television and radios, whether the book was some kind of allegory concerning technology or wasting brains with media, but Carrie’s research indicated the author wrote in “all in good fun” with the main message being “Kids are people, too.”

I think my children would have liked this book when they were younger. I think my oldest in particular would have liked it during his Encyclopedia Brown days. I think they’d like it now, actually. Like Narnia, Anne of Green Gables, and the Little House books, it has great appeal to adults as well.

So…real, clever, interesting, fun, dramatic at points, all upon a bedrock of truth…I’d say those are components of a great book.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few that stayed with me recently:

Seen at Challies:

“Pride can look like arrogant self-confidence, or it can look like timid self-pity. Real humility is courageous un-self-consciousness.”~ Jared Wilson

I don’t know who Jared Wilson is, but this rang true and echoes a C. S. Lewis quote about humility.

The Ink-Slinger posted several quotes from G. K. Chesterton. A few of my favorites:

“Feminism is mixed up with a muddled idea that women are free when they serve their employers but slaves when they help their husbands.”

“There are those who hate Christianity and call their hatred an all-embracing love for all religions.”

“It is absurd for the Evolutionist to complain that it is unthinkable for an admittedly unthinkable God to make everything out of nothing, and then pretend that it is more thinkable that nothing should turn itself into everything.”

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And I hope you’ll leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

Laudable Linkage

Here’s some of the good reading I found this week:

7 Steps to Walking the Spiritual Walk, HT to Lisa.

How to receive Criticism Like a Champ. HT to Challies.

Gracious Candor: A Tutorial in Speaking the Truth in Love, HT to Challies.

Fighting Anxiety.

Reading Literature, HT to Lisa.

Sentiments from last weekend which will give Princess Bride fans a chuckle:

This is my niece and nephew-in-law’s beautiful adoption story:

Have a great weekend! I am hoping the rain lets up before I go to the store!

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

Wow, I am running super late this morning, but here are some of my faves from the last week.

1. Spring break! A little earlier than I am used to, but I’ll gladly take it whenever it comes!

2. Eating out. This one is actually a “leftover” from last week when Jesse was on his senior trip. It wasn’t planned this way, but Jim and I ate out twice, we brought pizza in one night, and then I got take-out from Cracker Barrel for one lunch. Plus Jason and Mittu had us over for dinner Saturday night. It almost felt like vacation, not having to plan for meals, cook, or clean up. A bonus is that in most cases there were leftovers! It’s probably not healthy financially or physically to eat from restaurants that often regularly, but I felt very rested.

3. Jim’s belated birthday celebration. We ate out at a restaurant right on the Tennessee Riverand got a table right at the window.

By the way, the bottle in front of Mittu is root beer. 🙂

4. Cleaning the stove-top — the result, not so much the process.

Before:

During:

After:

5. The Settlers of Catan iPhone app. I resisted getting it for a long time because it is one of the more expensive apps, but then I reasoned that I paid more for the board game and we don’t get together to play it all that often. I figured the app would help me learn how to strategize better. Well….I may be getting a wee bit obsessed. It’s fun, and it has improved my game!

Bonuses: A good report at my first dental visit since we moved here, and NOT losing power in the storm last night. We knew it went off while we were out because the computer was off and all the clocks were blinking when we got home, but we were thankful it was on and stayed on the rest of the night. Our first year here the power seemed to go off a lot so that’s a concern in any bad weather.

That’s my week. How was yours?

Thoughts about Amish fiction

The first Amish fiction I ever read was Beverly Lewis‘s The Shunning some years ago. I don’t think I had heard of Beverly before that, and I am not sure what drew me to the book except for maybe curiosity about the Amish shunning. I enjoyed the book and have read everything of Beverly’s ever since (except for her books for younger people).

There is much about the Amish to admire: their gentleness, their work ethic and industriousness, their sense of family, their willingness to forgive evidenced some years ago after a tragic shooting.

I suppose all of those elements plus a curiosity about them and their ways has driven burgeoning market for Amish fiction in recent years.

At first I thought all these people were just copying Beverly, and out of loyalty to her I didn’t read any others. But I don’t think she would want people to feel that way, and I’m sure she’s not the only one who is knowledgeable about the Amish. I do tend to trust her perspective because of her grandmother’s having been Amish.

I especially appreciate that Beverly makes a distinction between Amish who are believers and those who aren’t. In some of her books, the characters are caught in the system, so to speak, even though it doesn’t satisfy them or meet their needs, and they eventually see the light and come to faith in Christ, and sometimes that costs them. Some leave the Amish for the Mennonites. Other characters have quietly become believers and stay, speaking when and however they can about Christ. And others are in an Amish community that is made of of true believers.

And this is what concerns me about the bulk of Amish fiction. The one Amish-based book I read that wasn’t written by Beverly wasn’t clear on this point: an Englisher with a variety of problems escaped the pressures of modern life to live with the Amish for a while, struggled with faith issues, was told, basically, “Live like us and you’ll catch on eventually.” I don’t know how other authors portray it, but I think we have to be careful not to think of the Amish as just another branch of Christianity. Tim Challies reviewed a book called Growing Up Amish a while back. I’ve not read the book, but I can identify with what was excerpted there. We need to remember that by and large their trust is in their system, their church membership, rather than in Christ, and even for those who are believers, their ideas of what is “worldly” is often determined by the bishop and may be far removed from Scriptural principles. Their communities are shot through with extreme legalism and extreme punishment for stepping outside “the rules.”

I am concerned about the over-romanticizing of our thinking in regard to them. I have a Christian friend who jokes about “running off to join the Amish” when life gets too hectic and pressured. I always want to say, “Are you kidding?” The amount of sheer hard work would do many of us in very quickly, but beyond that, I don’t think actually living among them would be what we think it would be. I think we can still read Amish fiction and I think we can still admire the good characteristics of them, but we need to exercise discernment.

Christian concepts that are a little off

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I wrestled with what to title this post. The title I had on the notes to myself was “Christian sayings that bug me.” But not only did that sound curmudgeonly, it doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things what bugs me. What matters with any Christian saying is whether it truly matches up with the Word of God.

I don’t mean to be overly nitpicky and critical here. I know what some people mean by some of these sayings, and I think their hearts are in the right place. But when a saying is a little off from what Scripture actually says, it’s not only a little jarring, it can either reveal or cause misunderstanding of Scriptural truth.

So here are a few phrases that to me miss the target a little.

We need to “be Jesus” to people.

We can’t be. We can reflect Him and represent Him. We are “ambassadors for Christ, as though God did beseech you by us: we pray you in Christ’s stead, be ye reconciled to God” (II Corinthians 5:20). We can be instruments through which He works. But we can’t be anyone’s spiritual Savior, deliverer, help. Jesus is the only one.

“Unleashing” God’s power.

This makes Him sound like a genii in a bottle, and if we just rub the lantern in the right way, we’ll see Him work in a mighty way. Even a little study of God’s power and might in the Bible should convince us how ludicrous it sounds to think of ourselves as His gatekeepers. Now, there are passages that indicate our disobedience or lack of faith can block Him from working, and Jesus said some things could only be accomplished by prayer and fasting, and this may be what this saying is getting at, but it shifts the emphasis the wrong direction. His power is His own to direct as He will.

God does not do anything except in answer to prayer.

This may have arisen from James 4:2b: “ye have not, because ye ask not.” It’s true that we don’t have some things because we haven’t asked Him for them, but it is not true that He only acts in response to prayer. There is much to governing the world that we know nothing of, and how many times have we enjoyed our daily bread when we haven’t remembered to ask for it? He does so much more than we know, it’s facetious to think He never does anything except when we ask. I’ve been blessed many times in large and small ways by things He has done I never thought to ask for.

God does not give us more than we can handle.

Of course He does. He doesn’t give us any more than we can handle with His grace, but leaving off that caveat puts the emphasis on us and our ability to handle things rather than on His grace sufficient for everything. It’s “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13), not “I can do all things.” I think sometimes He puts us in situations we can’t handle on our own for that very reason, to draw us closer and help us rely on His strength and not our own.

We need God to show up.

….as if He is not already here, and everywhere. I wrote more about this phrase earlier, and I know people mean by this that they really want God to work, to manifest Himself, to display His grace and power by really moving in people’s hearts. But we don’t need to downplay His omniscience or His desire to manifest Himself.

A coincidence is God’s way of remaining anonymous.

God is not in the business of remaining anonymous. All throughout Scripture He does things to make Himself known to people. One exception was when Christ was doing miracles during His earthly ministry: often He would heal someone and then tell them not to make it known. I’m not sure of the reasons for that: maybe it would draw more people who only wanted healing or provisions rather than hearing His word, maybe it would draw undue attention from the Pharisees, maybe it just wasn’t the time to manifest Himself in that way. But as a general rule He does things in people’s lives for the express purpose of turning their hearts to Himself.

Have you heard these phrases? Do you think they are off-base in their emphasis? Are there other similar phrases I have missed?

Meanderings

I don’t mind Daylight Savings Time too much once I get used to it, but I do hate losing that hour of sleep over the weekend, and it takes me days to get my body clock adjusted. It’s nice that we have spring break this week!

I mentioned that last week Jesse was on his senior trip. I didn’t want to say where until after he got home, but they went to Disneyworld.

In previous years the seniors had gone to places like Israel, England, Scotland, Wales, and Jesse was really looking forward to going out of the country for the first time. But only he and one other girl wanted to go. Three other girls were fine with wherever they went, but the rest were just planning not to go if they went out of the country. Part of me wishes they had gone ahead with just those five, but in an effort to try to find a place most of the seniors did want to go, they ended up with Disneyworld.

Though Jesse was disappointed at first, he got more excited as the trip got closer and was bouncing-off-the-walls excited the night before leaving. He had a great time, said the attractions and especially the food were wonderful, and said not a single negative thing happened on the trip: everyone got along, the flights were ok, etc. None of the rest of us has ever been there, so it was exciting to hear about.

I’ve pondered since then whether a senior trip should be primarily educational or fun (though of course they can be both!) I can understand students not wanting to put the time and money into something they think will be boring, and if they think a trip to another country is just going to be visiting a bunch of museums, I can understand that doesn’t sound thrilling.  But I think it is quite short-sighted not to take the opportunity to go out of the country when you have it. But be that as it may, there wasn’t much we could do about it.

Jesse completely missed seeing Washington D.C. At this school the tenth grade takes a field trip there, and he wasn’t here then; in his previous school that’s where the seniors went on their senior trip. Jim has always wanted to go there, so we’re giving some thought to trying to make it out there this summer as kind of a last hurrah before Jesse goes to college and maybe meeting Jeremy there. We’re not sure about leaving Grandma for that long, though. She’s cared for in her assisted living place, but we do visit her almost every day and kind of keep on top of things they may overlook, especially since she is not as communicative these days.

His week away gave us a little foretaste of what the “empty nest” will be like. I do hate it when I hear a mom lamenting about the empty nest and someone tritely responds that that’s the way it is supposed to be, that we’re to “train ourselves out of a job,” that we wouldn’t want them to stay home forever and not go out and be full-fledged adults. In my less sanctified moments my inward response to that is, “Well, duh.” Of course we want all of that for our children, but it is also very natural to acutely miss having them around when they have been a part of our everyday lives for 18-20 years.

Nevertheless, there are a few perks. 🙂 My husband’s schedule was the same, but mine was unaffected by alarm clocks, school schedules, etc., so there was a great sense of freedom. I had thought, having whole days to myself, I would get so much done, particularly some writing. I’m not quite sure what happened to the week, but it flew by and I hardly got anything done! Of course, there is still grocery shopping, housework, visiting Grandma and such to do during the week, so it’s not like it was a whole week of free time. But I can foresee that I am going to need to set up some structure to my days when that time comes.

Another thing I am going to miss when Jesse leaves home is having a helper around. I rely on him a lot to help me move things, get or take something to the attic, change light bulbs I can’t reach (I have balance problems, so though I can stand on a chair — I can’t let go of it to do anything else while I am up there), etc. Jim works such long hours I hate to overload his Saturdays with things I need done.

In other news….we finally got an offer on our house in SC. But it was way low, and Jim was in the process of sending a counter offer when they changed their minds and said they decided not to buy a house now after all. We’re thinking they may have run into some credit problems to just drop it like that. Jim’s company had been helping us with the payments on that house as part of his relocation package, but that assistance is coming to an end soon. Property values have dropped due to the economy plus the fact that that area tore down the local high school and built a W-Mart in its place. 🙄 So we’re not going to be able to count on making any money on the sale of the house, but we’d really like not to lose any. Jim is giving some thought to renting it out, and that’s an option, but I would really like to just be done with it and not be responsible for it any more.

We’re having company in about a week and a half. Does anyone else do this: I have some housecleaning things that need to be done but if I do them now I’ll have to do them again before we have people over, so I am tempted to just wait on them, but I am not sure I can stand it. Not everyday housework, but the “extra” stuff. Like the burner pans under the stove: they are white on this stove, so they show up every little drip and spatter. They look pretty bad right now, but it seems just as soon as I clean them, the next day or so something boils over or sloshes, necessitating taking things apart and cleaning them again.  But I think I’ll have to just go ahead and take care of them and try not to make too big of a mess with them between now and then. Plus when company is coming all of a sudden I want to get a dozen household projects done, like finally making curtains for the family room.  I know hospitality isn’t all about how your house looks, but still. We’ll see how it goes!

I do have a number of posts in mind, some with much deeper thoughts than I have shared lately. 🙂 Hopefully I’ll be able to work on some of those soon. I have my next newspaper column due this week plus we’re trying to get a ladies’ newsletter going at church. But hopefully I’ll be able to make some time soon to get some of those posts written.

Thanks for listening to my meanderings. 🙂