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Meanderings

I don’t mind Daylight Savings Time too much once I get used to it, but I do hate losing that hour of sleep over the weekend, and it takes me days to get my body clock adjusted. It’s nice that we have spring break this week!

I mentioned that last week Jesse was on his senior trip. I didn’t want to say where until after he got home, but they went to Disneyworld.

In previous years the seniors had gone to places like Israel, England, Scotland, Wales, and Jesse was really looking forward to going out of the country for the first time. But only he and one other girl wanted to go. Three other girls were fine with wherever they went, but the rest were just planning not to go if they went out of the country. Part of me wishes they had gone ahead with just those five, but in an effort to try to find a place most of the seniors did want to go, they ended up with Disneyworld.

Though Jesse was disappointed at first, he got more excited as the trip got closer and was bouncing-off-the-walls excited the night before leaving. He had a great time, said the attractions and especially the food were wonderful, and said not a single negative thing happened on the trip: everyone got along, the flights were ok, etc. None of the rest of us has ever been there, so it was exciting to hear about.

I’ve pondered since then whether a senior trip should be primarily educational or fun (though of course they can be both!) I can understand students not wanting to put the time and money into something they think will be boring, and if they think a trip to another country is just going to be visiting a bunch of museums, I can understand that doesn’t sound thrilling.  But I think it is quite short-sighted not to take the opportunity to go out of the country when you have it. But be that as it may, there wasn’t much we could do about it.

Jesse completely missed seeing Washington D.C. At this school the tenth grade takes a field trip there, and he wasn’t here then; in his previous school that’s where the seniors went on their senior trip. Jim has always wanted to go there, so we’re giving some thought to trying to make it out there this summer as kind of a last hurrah before Jesse goes to college and maybe meeting Jeremy there. We’re not sure about leaving Grandma for that long, though. She’s cared for in her assisted living place, but we do visit her almost every day and kind of keep on top of things they may overlook, especially since she is not as communicative these days.

His week away gave us a little foretaste of what the “empty nest” will be like. I do hate it when I hear a mom lamenting about the empty nest and someone tritely responds that that’s the way it is supposed to be, that we’re to “train ourselves out of a job,” that we wouldn’t want them to stay home forever and not go out and be full-fledged adults. In my less sanctified moments my inward response to that is, “Well, duh.” Of course we want all of that for our children, but it is also very natural to acutely miss having them around when they have been a part of our everyday lives for 18-20 years.

Nevertheless, there are a few perks. 🙂 My husband’s schedule was the same, but mine was unaffected by alarm clocks, school schedules, etc., so there was a great sense of freedom. I had thought, having whole days to myself, I would get so much done, particularly some writing. I’m not quite sure what happened to the week, but it flew by and I hardly got anything done! Of course, there is still grocery shopping, housework, visiting Grandma and such to do during the week, so it’s not like it was a whole week of free time. But I can foresee that I am going to need to set up some structure to my days when that time comes.

Another thing I am going to miss when Jesse leaves home is having a helper around. I rely on him a lot to help me move things, get or take something to the attic, change light bulbs I can’t reach (I have balance problems, so though I can stand on a chair — I can’t let go of it to do anything else while I am up there), etc. Jim works such long hours I hate to overload his Saturdays with things I need done.

In other news….we finally got an offer on our house in SC. But it was way low, and Jim was in the process of sending a counter offer when they changed their minds and said they decided not to buy a house now after all. We’re thinking they may have run into some credit problems to just drop it like that. Jim’s company had been helping us with the payments on that house as part of his relocation package, but that assistance is coming to an end soon. Property values have dropped due to the economy plus the fact that that area tore down the local high school and built a W-Mart in its place. 🙄 So we’re not going to be able to count on making any money on the sale of the house, but we’d really like not to lose any. Jim is giving some thought to renting it out, and that’s an option, but I would really like to just be done with it and not be responsible for it any more.

We’re having company in about a week and a half. Does anyone else do this: I have some housecleaning things that need to be done but if I do them now I’ll have to do them again before we have people over, so I am tempted to just wait on them, but I am not sure I can stand it. Not everyday housework, but the “extra” stuff. Like the burner pans under the stove: they are white on this stove, so they show up every little drip and spatter. They look pretty bad right now, but it seems just as soon as I clean them, the next day or so something boils over or sloshes, necessitating taking things apart and cleaning them again.  But I think I’ll have to just go ahead and take care of them and try not to make too big of a mess with them between now and then. Plus when company is coming all of a sudden I want to get a dozen household projects done, like finally making curtains for the family room.  I know hospitality isn’t all about how your house looks, but still. We’ll see how it goes!

I do have a number of posts in mind, some with much deeper thoughts than I have shared lately. 🙂 Hopefully I’ll be able to work on some of those soon. I have my next newspaper column due this week plus we’re trying to get a ladies’ newsletter going at church. But hopefully I’ll be able to make some time soon to get some of those posts written.

Thanks for listening to my meanderings. 🙂

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

I have just a couple to share this week, both from a post at True Woman:

“In every situation and circumstance of your life, God is always doing a thousand different things that you cannot see and you do not know.” ~ John Piper

Don’t judge the outcome of the battle by the way things look right now. ~ Nancy Leigh DeMoss

I love those behind-the scenes glimpses that God gives us sometimes in the Bible, like the unseen host surrounding Elisha or Michael’s mention of what had been going on in response to Daniel’s prayer. We just have to take it on faith in our own lives that even though a situation seems insurmountable or prayers seem to go unheeded, God is at work. I think it will be really neat in heaven to learn how God was at work in different situations throughout our lives!

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And I hope you’ll leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

Prayer of Consecration

I’ve loved this song since I first heard it sung in church a few years ago:

Lord of life, sing through me.
Give my heart a melody
So sweet and pure, good and true
That I may offer a song to You.

Come to me and still my fear
Until my song is Yours alone.
Sing through me, Lord of Life;
Make my voice Your own!

Lord of life, pray through me.
Fill my mind with quiet peace
So sweet and pure, good and true,
That I may have only thoughts of You.

Come to me and still my doubt
Until my dreams are Yours alone.
Pray through me, Lord of Life;
Make my mind Your own!

Lord of life, live through me.
Keep my soul in harmony
So sweet and pure, good and true,
That through my living I’ll honor You.

Come to me and still my will
Until my deeds are Yours alone.
Live through me, Lord of life;
Make my heart Your own!

~ Words and music by Deborah Dresie.

The line about having “only thoughts of You” didn’t sit quite right with me at first, because we do have to think of what to get at the grocery store, family needs, etc., and I thought maybe it would be better if it said something like having our thoughts those that would be pleasing to Him. But then I reread the song and saw that that stanza is talking about prayer. Then we do have a great need to focus only on Him and put away distractions.

Unfortunately I couldn’t find a performance of it online, but you can hear clips of it from the Soundforth CD Beyond All Praising or Mary Lynn Van Gelderen’s To the Praise of His Glory.

Laudable Link and Neat Videos

I almost didn’t post today because I didn’t have many links accumulated from the week’s reading — but sometimes short and sweet is nice. 🙂

Forgiveness For Moms Who Fail, which would be…all of us.

This is sooo funny — a dog trying to get a statue to play fetch. Poor doggie!

And this is just amazing: a young man with several disabilities but amazing talent on the piano:

Hope you have a great Saturday! I’m looking forward to getting my boy back today.

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

Last week I almost didn’t post a Fave Five because at first I couldn’t think of five highlights of the week. It wasn’t a bad week, but it was a fairly ordinary one. But I did come up with five after thinking about it. This week…my cup overfloweth and I have way more than five! That’s how life goes.

1. Ironing is not one of my favorite things, and thankfully I don’t have much that needs to be ironed any more. I tend to let it sit for a while, but I finally knocked it out in an afternoon this week while catching up on NCIs and The Amazing Race.

2. One of the things I ironed: a new-to-me shower curtain. This was left in our house when we bought it, and I loved the design, but the color was peach: not only is that one of my all-time least favorite colors, but it didn’t go with the pink I do have.

I used Rit color remover on it, but it still seemed to have a peachy cast to it. I had planned to dye it pink, but I felt that might be a little too overwhelming, even for me. So I put it away for several months, got it out this week, and decided in some lights it looked pinkish rather than peachy, ironed it, and hung it up.

I like that a bit of color was left in the thread.

Sometimes it still does look a little too peachy to me and I may still try to dye it. But for now it really does lighten up the bathroom, and I love the design.

3. Jesse has been away this week on his senior trip, and though that’s not a favorite in itself, he seems to be having a great time. I’ve enjoyed not revolving life around the school schedule this week, especially not having to set an alarm. You’d think I would have gotten more done this week….but it didn’t work out that way!

4. Jim’s birthday was Tuesday, but because Jesse was away we planned to celebrate some time next week. But I didn’t want to let the day go completely unacknowledged, so we went out to Outback using a Christmas gift card, and then Jason and Mittu surprised Jim by bringing a cake over that evening, and we each got him a card and a little gift. It was a fun night.

5. Jim also had an out of town trip this week, which, again, is not on my list of favorites, but Jason and Mittu offered to come over and spend the night when he was away. It was nice not to be completely alone.

So — I managed to work in just about everything. 🙂

Happy Friday!

Book Review: Saving Graces: The Inspirational Writings of Laura Ingalls Wilder

I got Saving Graces: the Inspirational Writings of Laura Ingalls Wilder, edited by Stephen Hines, some years back because I was interested in this aspect of her life. I began it for the Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge, but didn’t get it finished til a few days ago. Well….in one sense I didn’t, but in another sense I had already read it, because these were taken from Laura’s magazine columns collected in a previous book of Mr. Hines’, Little House in the Ozarks: the Rediscovered Writings of Laura Ingalls Wilder. In addition he added Scripture verses pertaining to the topics she wrote about and hymns that she would likely have been familiar with. So that was a bit disappointing, that it was a reprint in effect, and I only skimmed the columns I remembered fairly well but then reread others.

This title originally caught my attention because on a previous reading of the Little House series, I began to wonder if the Ingalls family was what we call God-fearing, but maybe not necessarily what we would understand as born again. Part of that wondering came from their reaction to an evangelist who came through town when Laura was in her teens. I can’t remember much about the scenario, and I didn’t get to that book in my most recent reading, but it seems the family was somewhat wary and not fully supportive of the evangelist. But in the intervening years since I read that, we’ve had encounters with evangelists that I would be wary and unsupportive of, too, so that’s not necessarily an indication of one’s faith. That is one section I am really looking forward to reading again in the future.

I did notice in the first two books in the series I just read for the LIW challenge, Little House in the Big Woods and Little House in the Prairie, there was mention of God, of keeping the Sabbath, of Scriptural principles for daily life. They didn’t go to church in those books, but then, there was not one on the prairie and probably not in the Big Woods, either. Laura’s parents were founders of a Congregational Church in later years. I wasn’t familiar with that denomination, but a brief skimming of the Wikipedia entry for them seems to indicate that they started out very similar to reformed, nonconformist churches but then over the years veered into “Unitarianism, Deism, and transcendentalism.” So I am not sure where the denomination as a whole was in Laura’s time and what she or her parents particularly believed.

In those first two books as well, I don’t remember much mention of prayer, any mention of Jesus in particular or salvation in general. Again, that doesn’t mean they didn’t believe in those things. We have to be careful that we don’t take anyone’s passing mention of God as an evidence of salvation on one hand, but on the other, we have to be careful that we don’t dismiss someone’s testimony because we don’t hear certain “code words.” By that estimation some would discount the salvation of the thief on the cross beside Jesus because his statement of faith didn’t sound like what we read in the “sinner’s prayer” on the back of tracts. 🙂

So, I am not trying to pick apart or dissect their faith but I am trying to look at it objectively. In Wendy McClure’s The Wilder Life, she ran into a number of Christians who loved Laura, and she felt perhaps they were reading their faith into the books. She says:

I know there are a lot of folks who can easily see Christian messages in the books, lessons about trusting and accepting the will of God in times of hardship and relying on the bedrock of one’s faith to get through. There’s plenty of stuff in the books that can help illustrate these things, I guess. But the Ingalls family of the books didn’t appear to be much the praying types, unless the occasional hymn on Pa’s fiddle counts. Mary becomes a little godly by the later books, but as for the rest of the family, their reasons for attending church seems to have more to do with partaking in civilized town life than with religious devotion (The Wilder Life, p. 163).

She goes on to say that she may see it that way because that was how her own family attended church. Since she looks at everything through decidedly secular eyes, and Christians look at the series through the eyes of their own faith, it’s hard to know which of us is reading things into the books.

That brings me back full circle to Saving Graces. Laura’s own words didn’t shed much more light on the issue. She did believe in Scriptural principles and in a “beneficent Providence.” I didn’t get the idea that church was just a social outlet for her. Hines describes her conversion experience as a time when she was deeply burdened for a situation her family was in and knelt to pray and she was “filled with an overwhelming feeling, undoubtedly the presence of the Almighty, and she thought to herself, This is what men call God” (p. 2). Again, I wouldn’t necessarily argue with that, though conversion is more than just a feeling. But Hines says later that public expressions of faith “may have shocked her.” He quotes her as saying, “Of course you loved God, but you also loved your mother, and somehow it didn’t seem right to go around bragging about it” (p. 3). It doesn’t make sense to me that a public expression of faith would be considered bragging, but evidently she considered faith to be intensely personal.

On the other hand, she writes in one of her columns, “Here and there one sees a criticism of Christianity because of the things that have happened [during WWI]….’Christianity has not prevented these things, therefore it is a failure’ some say. But this is a calling of things by the wrong names. It is rather the lack of Christianity that has brought us where we are. Not a lack of churches or religious forms but of the real thing in our hearts” (p. 113).

In these columns she covers success, justice, thankfulness, the benefits of work, the importance and blessing of the home, wise stewardship, remembering the Sabbath, friendship, gossip, “redeeming the time, “the preaching farmer,” and others. One of the quotes I marked had to do with taking the Lord’s name in vain: “I wonder how things came to be so reversed from the right order that it should be thought daring and smart to swear instead of being regarded as utterly foolish and a sign of weakness, betraying a lack of self control. If people could only realize how ridiculous they appear when they call down the wrath of the Creator and Ruler of the universe just because they have jammed their thumbs, I feel sure they would never feel guilty of swearing again” (p. 124). I don’t know if they would, but I agree that it is a sign of weakness and a lack of self-control.

So, even though I was disappointed that this book was taken from the Little House in the Ozarks book, it was nice to have her faith-based columns all in one place for those of us who want to explore her thoughts in this realm in particular.

The Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

The LIW Challenge Giveaway Winner!

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The winner of the giveaway for those participating in the Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge is Kami! She has won Laura’s Album: A Remembrance Scrapbook of Laura Ingalls Wilder by William Anderson. I’ll be contacting you soon!

Thanks again to all those who participated!

Happy Birthday to Jim!

It’s my dear hubby’s birthday!

It will be a little different because we’re celebrating as a family later in the week for various reasons, but I still hope his actual birthday is a good day!

I’m so thankful to have married a good man, a dedicated, hard-working man, who loves his family and would do almost anything for any of us.

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

I linked to a couple of these on Saturday, but I wanted to pull out a couple of quotes that particularly stood out to me:

From I Got Nuthin, HT to Robin Lee Hatcher:

“If you don’t come to me empty, Jesus says to me, all you’ll have to offer is the self you are so full of.” ~ Heather Kopp.

We can’t be filled with Him and filled with self at the same time.

From On Controversy, HT to Challies:

“If our zeal is embittered by expressions of anger, invective, or scorn, we may think we are doing service of the cause of truth, when in reality we shall only bring it into discredit.” ~ John Newton

Very good article about dealing with controversy publicly (with the caveat that it is written from a Calvinist point of view and I am not a Calvinist.)

And from Diane:

Faith is the bridge between where I am and the place the Lord is taking me.

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And I hope you’ll leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

Almighty Father

Almighty Father, You alone are holy.
You are my refuge, I will trust in You.
You are a tower, a mighty fortress,
You are my strength and shield.
You are God.

Almighty Father, You alone are holy.
You guide my footsteps that I may not fall.
In joy or sorrow, I will exalt You.
You are my righteousness,
You are God.

Almighty Father, You alone are holy.
You are Creator, You are all in all!
Yours is the power, Yours is the glory.
Yours is the majesty.
You are God.

~ Words: J. Paul Williams; Music: Benjamin Harlan