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Happy Housewife Day!

Who knew we had our own day? I didn’t until seeing that e-Mom was giving away an apron to celebrate. I’m not an apron person, but if you are go check it out — you might win!

In looking around trying to find out more about it, it doesn’t seem to be a national holiday and no one seems to know who started it. But, hey, it’s a worthy day! Give yourselves a pat on the back!

I prefer “homemaker” to “housewife” because I am not married to my house, and I am trying to create a peaceable. welcoming home.

Last year I came across this poem on someone’s blog, but they seem to have taken down all their posts, so I won’t link back to it. But it spoke to me:

My Work 

by Mary Lou Burkholder 

I have the greatest work in the world;
The job of rocking a baby to sleep,
That of guiding his tottering feet,
A baby’s clothes to launder and fold,
A precious life to shape and mold,
A drink to give from a little cup,
At night his toys to gather up,
Hurts to heal and fears to quell,
A baby to keep clean and well,
A stack of diapers to put,
Oh, what a happy worthwhile day!
I am a “Mother.”

I have the greatest work in to world;
A husband to encourage when things go wrong,
When he comes from work to greet with a song,
Denims and shirts to wash and mend,
A helping hand, when needed, to lend,
Three times a day his meals to cook,
To strive to be my best to look,
His back to rub at the close of the day,
For his faithfulness to God I pray,
When hubby’s in the field I take lemonade,
for all these tasks his love has paid.
I am a ” Wife.” 

I have the greatest work in the world;
A home to keep happy, clean and bright,
Make things go smooth and strive for the right,
Jams to cook and jellies to make,
Cookies and pies and bread to bake,
Washing, ironing, and sewing to do,
So many tasks, will I ever get though?
Lettuce to wash and peas to pick,
floors to scrub, lost items to seek,
Dishes to wash and windows to shine,
These and many more tasks are mine.
I am a “Homemaker.”

Help me, Father, to faithfully work,
Forgive if I unconsciously shirk,
give me the patience and love I pray,
To keep myself in duty’s way;
With all the hustle that each day brings
May I not neglect the needed things;
Each day to spend time alone with Thee
That Jesus Christ be seen in me.
Thank you for husband, our home, our girls and boys;
Thank you for love which brings me much joy.

 Thank you , Lord.

Here are a few things I’ve written in the past, if you want some musing on homemaking today:

Encouragement for homemakers.

Wanting things to be “perfect.”

I confess: I don’t really like to cook.

A Real Home.

A Homemaking Meme.

Another homemaking meme.

A prayer for home.

Two views of housework.

Meditations for daily tasks.

Thy list be done.

(Photo borrowed from Susannah’s Kitchen.)

 

 

First ever pumpkin carvings

We never carved pumpkins until this year. It wasn’t something I grew up with — I don’t think my husband did, either. Then when my kids were very young I was perhaps over concerned about the evil origins of things — it’s something we heard and read a lot about back then. And though I do think it’s cause for consideration, on the other hand, if it’s a tradition that has moved away from its origins and no one connects it with that today, then by and large I don’t think it is a problem, though of course everyone must wrestle with his or own own conscience in these matters. But I think in general when people see carved pumpkins, they think, “Oh, how cute!” rather than, “I wonder what nefarious reasons people first had for doing such a thing.”

Anyway, no one ever really brought up the idea or asked to carve pumpkins until this year. One of my favorite comments of the evening was when Jim teased Mittu, saying, “All these years of having boys, I never had to carve pumpkins, but I get one girl….”

Here are a few pictures from the evening:

Getting started:

Jason scooping out pumpkin goo:

Jason pretending to eat pumpkin goo:

Yuck! I had heard pumpkin innards were pretty gross, and I can confirm the truth of it. I never knew how bad they smelled, though. It smelled like…someone was having digestive discomforts of various sorts. Jason wondered where anyone ever got the idea of making pies out of these. I said probably someone who was hungry and didn’t want to eat them as is and tried to figure out a way to make them palatable by adding lots of sugar and spices.

I’ve heard roasted pumpkin seeds are good and should have tried that since we had them there, but I just wasn’t inspired to. I’m not much of a seed eater in general.

The inside of a pumpkin before scraping:

The inside of a pumpkin after scraping:

They had bought a little kit that had various carving tools, scarpers, and some patterns.

Jim got his pattern from that: Jason and Mittu got theirs online.

Jim’s pumpkin:

Jason’s pumpkin without the light…

…And with the light:

Mittu’s pumpkin:

Recognize them? 🙂

Mittu also painted one for Grandma:

Final products on the porch:

Jesse didn’t do one — he was off playing computer games. I hadn’t planned to do one, but near the end I was kind of wishing I had. I have a few small ones I am trying to decide whether to paint or just to enjoy as they are. I don’t know if we’ll make this an annual event, but it was a fun evening.

We ended up not getting any trick-or-treaters. I knew we wouldn’t get many — there are only a few children on our street. But it was kind of disappointing not to get any. I missed seeing the little kids dressed up and excited. But I am glad to get away from the Halloween in our old house, where people brought kids in from I don’t know where, and you could hardly inch your car through the streets because there were so many people, and you could run through a fortune in candy in a very short time. That was ridiculous. But it would have been nice to have a few come by. I did see one little Snow White in the grocery store and one child in a purple cape and hat (queen, maybe?) at Grandma’s assisted living place. Jason and Mittu stopped by the mall to see some of the kids dressed up there and then came over. It was a fun evening, but I’ll know not to buy candy next year, or at least a lot less!

The Week In Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few that caught my attention this week:

From Diane‘s Facebook:

“Nothing gives one a more spuriously good conscience than keeping rules, even if there has been a total absence of all real charity and faith.” ~C.S. Lewis, The Joyful Christian, p. 80.

Ouch! Isn’t that so true? I’m so glad our salvation is by grace through faith rather than our rule-keeping. “And be found in him, not having mine own righteousness, which is of the law, but that which is through the faith of Christ, the righteousness which is of God by faith” (Philippians 1:9).

Seen at Challies:

“A drop of praise is an unsuitable acknowledgment for an ocean of mercy.” —William Secker

From Warren Wiersbe’s With the Word commenting on Isaiah 17:

If the people you trust do not trust the Lord, their judgement may become your judgment (p. 462).

Scary thought — we’d better be careful whom we trust.

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit some of the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share! 🙂

I may not feel Him standing near

I had the last stanza of this in my files but failed to note how I came across it. In Googling a line of it, I found it came from a hymn titled, “Surrounded By Unnumbered Foes.” I have never heard it sung, but I thought it was good, especially the last stanza.

Surrounded by unnumbered foes,
Against my soul the battle goes;
Yet though weary, sore distressed,
I know that I shall reach my rest:
I lift my tearful eyes above—
His banner over me is love.

Its sword my spirit will not yield,
Though flesh may faint upon the field;
He waves before my fading sight
The branch of palm, the crown of light:
I lift my brightening eyes above—
His banner over me is love.

My cloud of battle-dust may dim,
His veil of splendour curtain Him;
And, in the midnight of my fear,
I may not feel Him standing near:
But as I lift mine eyes above,
His banner over me is love.

— Gerald Massey, 1863

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week. This has been a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s rainy and cool this Friday here in eastern TN. Here are some of my favorite parts of the past week:

1. Free Outback steak! Some weeks ago there was a promotion for a free Outback steak, and I noticed my coupon was about to expire, so we went last Friday, our first time there since we moved. I don’t usually order steak there, but their new Wood-Fire Grilled Steak had a wonderful flavor (no, this isn’t a paid ad 🙂 ). Plus this Outback wasn’t quite so noisy as the one we went to in SC.

2. Fall decorations. I’m much later than I intended, but I finally got them up this week. I love having seasonal touches through the house. Here are a few of them:

3. Visiting with a neighbor. A piece of our mail got delivered to my neighbor, and she brought it over to our house. It was nice to chat a bit, and I finally was able to ask someone about trick-or-treaters here. Last year Halloween was on a Sunday, and when we got back from the evening service at church, we didn’t have anyone come by. I like to pass out candy and tracts for children, but I didn’t want to have a lot of candy leftover because I really don’t need it in the house. So now I feel better prepared.

4. Time limits. I can spend all kinds of time on the computer and then get frustrated because I’m not getting things done around the house, but just setting a simple time limit has helped.

5. A little more organization. We’ve only been in this house a little over a year, so the closets, cabinets, and drawers don’t need major overhauls, but I’ve been thinking these items would work better there, some drawer dividers would help here, etc. Nothing dramatic enough for pictures, but it’s been nice to implement some of those ideas this week.

Bonus:

I hope I am not speaking too soon, but we taped and watch the premier of the new show “Once Upon a Time,” and it was wonderful! I so hope it stays that way and doesn’t get messed up with objectionable elements, but this first episode was just delicious.

Do you recognize Him?

A devotional book I read as a teen-ager (sadly, I can’t remember the name of it) started off with the story from John 21 about how the disciples went fishing after Jesus’ death, and how He appeared in His resurrected body on the shore asking if they had caught anything. They had fished through the night and caught nothing. He told them to cast their net on the other side, and they did so and caught so many fish they couldn’t draw the net in. John, the “disciple whom Jesus loved,” recognized then, “It is the Lord.” The devotional went on to encourage us to recognize the hand of God in our daily lives.

For some reason that particular lesson is all that I can specifically remember from that book, but it has stayed with me for years. I hate the little quip that “Coincidences are God’s way of remaining anonymous” because God is not in the business of remaining anonymous! He wants people to see His actions, influence, and provision.

Earlier this week I heard a story of  brother and sister in our church. The sister was known as a very slow driver, and in one outing with her brother he was getting after her about going faster. At a stop light she decided to tease him by just puttering along as slowly as she could. She was in a double turn lane, and the car beside her shot ahead — and got hit by someone running the red light. What was meant as a bit of fun was used to protect them.!

But its not just in the more dramatic episodes where He is at work and wants us to recognize Him, and He doesn’t want just His children to recognize Him. The Father “maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust” (Matthew 5:45b).

And it’s not just in the good things that happen where we see His hand. He allows illnesses, accidents, losses, loneliness and such for many different reasons, all designed to focus our attention on Him, to draw us closer to Him, to meet some need in our life or to manifest His glory.

I am the LORD, and there is none else, there is no God beside me: I girded thee, though thou hast not known me: That they may know from the rising of the sun, and from the west, that there is none beside me. I am the LORD, and there is none else. Isaiah 45:5-6.

For she did not know that I gave her corn, and wine, and oil, and multiplied her silver and gold, which they prepared for Baal. Hosea 2:8.

That they may know that this is thy hand; that thou, LORD, hast done it. Psalm 109:27.

Book Review: Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero

Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero tells of Michael Hingson’s ordeal on 9/11. He was working on the 78th floor of the north tower of the World Trade Center when he and his colleagues heard an explosion and felt the building tilt. Not knowing what had happened, they evacuated everyone and then tried to power down computers and such, but quickly decided they need to leave the building. The only way to do so was by 1,463 stairs.

There was just one problem. Michael has been blind almost since birth and had his guide dog, Roselle, with him.

But it’s not really a problem. Michael’s parents “mainstreamed” him before the concept became popular. During his childhood Michael’s parents calmly fielded neighbor’s concerned calls about their blind son zipping around the neighborhood on his bicycle.

Interspersed between details of 9/11 are flashbacks from Michael’s life: childhood, education, work life, acquisitions of guide dogs, marriage, and then how 9/11 impacted the rest of his life. Though I know that’s the style these days, I do miss the time when a book started at the beginning and told a story straight through to the end. But it’s not at all hard to follow, and both aspects of the story are quite interesting.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

What’s On Your Nightstand: October

What's On Your NightstandThe folks at 5 Minutes For Books host What’s On Your Nightstand? the fourth Tuesday of each month in which we can share about the books we have been reading and/or plan to read. You can learn more about it by clicking the link or the button.

Well, the end of this month didn’t catch me by surprise as the last few have. Here’s what I’ve been reading since last time.

I finished:

Worldliness: Resisting the Seduction of a Fallen World, edited by C. J. Mahaney, reviewed here. Excellent.

Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man by Bob Schultz, reviewed here, read with my son. Excellent as well.

By Searching: My Journey Through Doubt Into Faith and In the Arena by Isobel Kuhn, reviewed together here. Excellent, among my most often reread books. Isobel was a missionary to China and these books wonderfully detail things the Lord taught her both in coming to faith in God and then in living for Him.

The Little Women Letters by Gabrielle Donnelly, reviewed here. Story of a descendent of the March family who discovers some of Jo’s letters. Loved the premise but was greatly disappointed in the book.

Abandoned: The Shop on Blossom Street by Debbie Macomber. I dropped it early on due to explicit sexual content (who knew such would be in a book about ladies getting to know one another over knitting?!)

I’m currently reading:

Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk by Dale and Jonalyn Fincher, recommended by Lisa.

Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero by Michael Hingson.

With my son: Created for Work: Practical Insights for Young Men by Bob Schultz.

Next up:

Love’s Pursuit by Siri Mitchell.

The Mercy by Beverly Lewis, last of The Rose trilogy.

Cranford by Elizabeth Gaskell.

What have you been reading?

Book Review: The Little Women Letters

In The Little Women Letters by Gabrielle Donnelly, a descendant of Jo March discovers some of her letters the attic. The modern Atwater family has three sisters who are similar in some ways to the March sisters, and Lulu, the one most like Jo, is the one to discover the letters. She’s at a crossroads in her life but doesn’t know which way to go and is getting heartily tired of questions and advice about career paths she should take. Over time she finds comfort in the similarities between herself and her great-great grandmother Jo. Meanwhile older, sensible sister Emma is preparing to be married and younger, vivacious sister Sophie is trying various acting roles.

The Atwater family isn’t meant to be an exact modern representation of the March family, but there are similarities, and some plot lines that follow incidents in Alcott’s book.

But there are differences as well…

The March girls had their spats, but they were teens and younger and learned to handle their differences better as they matured. The Atwater girls are all grown and out of their childhood home yet fight constantly and are quick to take offense. They were relating to other other better by the end of the book, but I got so sick of their bickering. The March girls seemed normal; the Atwater girls excessive.

Then, there is a wholesomeness to Little Women, which is missing from this book. This one has a smattering of “damns,” “hells,” and God’s name thrown around as an expression of disgust and exasperation (which I hate). I knew to expect that in a secular novel (and I am sure it is tame compared to a lot of what is out there), but I don’t have to like it. There is a quite vulgar sentence from a drunk man in a section where Lulu is working in a pub: we didn’t need to have that in order to get the idea of what kind of man he was and what Lulu faced while working there.

The counterpart to wise Marmee is feminist Fee, a free spirit who was married barefoot on the beach by a shaman. In a scene that hearkens back to Meg’s spending more than she should have buying fabric that she then has to ask her more well-to-do friend to buy back from her, Emma falls in love with a pair of designer shoes that cost as much as the refrigerator she and her boyfriend have been saving for, and in a moment of weakness lets herself be talked into buying them for her wedding. When she tells her mother about it, Fee says that because “the woman works far harder around the home than the man does,” she entitled to treat herself now and then (pp. 120-121). 🙄

I think it also jarred me a little that the book was set in England. Not that I am prejudiced against the British, but Little Women was very much an American book, set in a staunch New England family. I would have felt just as jarred if the modern family was distinctly Southern or western, even though it’s perfectly plausible that the March descendants would be scattered far beyond New England. And I don’t usually have trouble “getting” either dramas or comedies set in England, but I wonder if the setting had to do with my not understanding some of the humor — though the father’s having an imaginary wife struck me as very odd rather than humorous.

There were aspects I did like to the author’s writing. A couple of times she skillfully led me along thinking the plot was going to go one way and then it surprised me. She conveyed Lulu’s feeling of not fitting in anywhere (much like Jo’s) very well. By the end of the book I was more sympathetic to the characters and I liked how the book ended.

But overall, though the premise was wonderful, I am afraid the book fell far short of my expectations.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

The Week In Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few that caught my attention this week:

From a friend’s Facebook:

“When a train goes through a tunnel and it gets dark, you don’t throw away the ticket and jump off. You sit still and trust the engineer.” ~ Corrie Ten Boom

From a friend’s Twitter:

Any person who only sticks with Christianity as long as things are going his or her way is a stranger to the cross. ~ Tim Keller

From Ann Voskamp quoting this sermon:

There is no greater mercy that I know of on earth than good health except it be sickness; and that has often been a greater mercy to me than health…

It is a good thing to be without a trouble; but it is a better thing to have a trouble, and know how to get grace enough to bear it.” ~Spurgeon

That goes along with this, seen in Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man by Bob Schultz:

Adversity toughens manhood, and the characteristic of the good or the great man, is not that he has been exempted from the evils of life, but that he has surmounted them. ~ Patrick Henry

This was also seen in Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man by Bob Schultz:

The Bible is the Word of life — it is a picture of the human heart displayed for all ages and all sorts of conditions of men. I am sorry for the men who do not read the Bible every day; I wonder why they deprive themselves of the strength and of the pleasure. ~ Woodrow Wilson

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit some of the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share! 🙂