A look back at 2013

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Proverbs 27:1 says, “Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth,” and that is certainly true of a year full of days as well. We had no idea at the beginning of this year that we’d be facing my husband’s kidney cancer and surgery, his retinal detachment and surgery, and subsequent cataract surgery or his mom’s hospitalization or her move to a nursing home. We had been thinking about bringing his mom to our home but had not decided on that until later in the year. And we cherished hopes of news that we’d be becoming grandparents but didn’t know when that time might come: we learned a few weeks ago that Jason and Mittu are expecting their first child this summer. (I’ve been sitting on that news and it has been so hard to wait to announce it! But exciting, too!) We enjoyed a visit from my family that we hadn’t known was coming at the beginning of the year as well as visits from a few out-of-town friends.

At the end of the year I like to take a quick look back through the year’s blog posts, aside from the book reviews and weekly “Fave Fives” (which I love), to remind myself of what the Lord’s been teaching me through the year, to trace back through some of my thinking, and even to remember a few fun times. Here are some of my favorite posts of the year:

January:

Thoughts for the New Year.

Devotional tips, a repost from an earlier year. but it helps to go over these things from time to time.

When the Living Word Comforted With the Written Word.

February:

What did you read as a kid? It was fun thinking back through some of my childhood favorites.

To celebrate or not to celebrate…Valentine’s Day. 🙂

March:

Themes of My Life.

God permits what He hates to accomplish what He loves.”

Encouraging ourselves in the Lord. Another repost and reminder to myself.

April:

Thoughts About God’s Wrath.

Time Management.

What God Ordains Is Always Good

May:

Myths and Maxims of Ministry.

June:

Spurgeon on Criticism.

Spiritual Snobbery.

July:

Thoughts on Being an Introvert.

August:

Solitude vs. Community.

To look back or not to look back.

September:

Tension and Balance.

Wanting Things to Be Perfect.

We follow our focus.

October:

31 Days of Missionary Stories.

November:

Tense anticipation. Spiritual lessons learned from my mother-in-law’s physical therapy.

Thanksgiving Bible Study.

Pedestals? A list of missionary biographies I’ve read and recommend and some tips for reading missionary biographies.

December:

Christmas Grief.

My Top Ten Books Read in 2013.

Expectations. 😀

I just got my year-in-review summary from WordPress, and according to that my most-viewed post this year is one from a couple of years ago, Coping when your husband is away. I still get e-mails about that one. As much as I hated that my husband had to travel so much over the years, I’m so thankful God has used that experience to minister to others.

As we put up new calendars tomorrow, we’re looking forward to being grandparents for the first time this summer, and I am sure that will be one of the major focuses of the year. Jim will probably have to have one more eye surgery: the doctors recently told him that the retina that had surgery is developing a film over the retina, so the film will likely have to be removed at some point. I need to sit down and plot out some goals for the year and reevaluate some priorities and pray for wisdom and direction. But overall we’re back where we started – not knowing what a day, or a year, will bring forth. Yet God knows what’s ahead and has promised us strength, grace, and above all His beloved presence for all our days ahead.

My 3,000th post!

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It seems that my 3,000th post should call forth something witty or wise or philosophical…unfortunately it is a busy day and nothing along those lines is coming to mind. 🙂

But I do plan on some kind of giveaway later this month to commemorate my 3,000th post as well as my 7th blogging anniversary coming up at the end of July. As soon as I decide what to do for that, I’ll let you know.

Meanwhile, thanks for being there. I write sometimes just to express myself or to work things out in my own mind or to pass along something the Lord’s taught me, and it’s a wonderful blessing when one of those things connects with some of you. I appreciate the blogging friends I’ve made!

A good idea…

One of the standard things I say when Jim and Jesse leave for the day is “Have a good day.” I really do mean it every day, but sometimes we can say routine things without really thinking about it.

One day as Jesse left for school, I absent-mindedly said, “Have a good idea!”

He responded, “Ooookay?”

Then I caught my mistake. “DAY! Have a good day!”

Sometimes a good idea can make for a good day. 🙂 At least we started the day with a laugh, and had another when Jim later quipped that that’s how Steve Jobs’ mom used to send him off to school. 🙂

Then a while back I was using Jim’s car and the keyless remote wasn’t working, probably needing a new battery. I was trying to figure out how to get in the car and asked Jesse if he remembered the code. He did, but he looked pointedly at the keys in my hand.

I don’t know where my mind is lately. 🙂 I do have several “stray thoughts” I’d love to take time to untangle and sort through. Writing is the best way for me to do that, where I can pull them out and lay them side by side and then think about them some more, whereas when I’m just thinking them through they stay jumbled. Maybe next week…

In the meantime, have a good day…and if you have a good idea while you’re at it, all the better. 😉

Themes of My Life

Sherry at Semicolon commemorated 12/12/12 last year by posting about 12 themes of her life. Though it’s way past that particular unique date, her post got me to thinking about the themes of my own life. Here are some of them, and, as she said, they’re reflected in much of my blogging:

1. God. Even before I knew Him, I thought Him to be kind, loving, and wise, and I had something of an affection for Him. I came to know Him by believing on Jesus (“And this is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom thou hast sent.” John 17:3) when I was a teen-ager and have only grown in my appreciation and esteem for the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit.

2. The Bible. I am so glad that the church God led me to when I was a teen-ager had an emphasis on reading the Bible through. That was a vulnerable time in my life, and I could so easily have drifted into who knows what, but God used His Word to ground me not only personally, but in the faith. I took it in like a thirsty man drinks water, like a hungry man eats food: it was my lifeline. It still is. And I am glad for the emphasis on reading all of it, because it is all inspired, and because it keeps one balanced spiritually to read it all and interpret it as it relates to the whole. So many false doctrines come from an emphasis on one part while neglecting or deemphasizing another or taking a text out of context. One of my passions is getting people into the Word of God for themselves: one such post along those lines is Reasons to Read the Bible.

3. Family. My mom was my best friend as I was growing up, and though my relationship with my father wasn’t as close, it was still devastating when my parents divorced. Even before that, in all of the aspirations of what I might want to be when I grew up, a wife and mom was always a part of it, and after I became a Christian I longed to have a Christian family. I’ve been so blessed with a close, loving family, and with my kids almost all grown now, I like to encourage younger moms along the way.

4. Homemaking. I ‘ve always felt that every woman is a homemaker whether she is single, married, whether she has children or not, whether she is working or not, because we all live in some kind of home, and God has given it to us partly as a refuge from the world and partly as a ministry to others. Being a homemaker has not been highly regarded in our culture in the last few decades, and I long to encourage women that homemaking is a high and honorable endeavor.

5. Ministry. Every Christian is given gifts with which to minister to others, and is “his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them” (Ephesians 2:10), whether we’re called to “the” ministry or not. This is probably the area where God has stretched and grown me the most in recent years, drawing me out of my comfort zone and teaching me to depend even more on Him to work through me.

6. Missions. I thought at one time that God might be calling me to be a missionary, but over time I realized my calling is more in assisting missionaries. I’ve gotten to know some of the dearest people through some of the ministries in our churches that have particularly ministered to them. Plus a love of reading missionary biographies and their impact on my life has encouraged me to minister to and learn from these fine folks on “the front lines.”

7. Church. I mentioned the Bible being a lifeline: a good church also was in my early days as a Christian. People who loved me and cared for me and were unwitting examples to me helped me so much. God made us to minister to one another. Though no church is perfect, and though the church at large is fraught with flaws, “Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish” (Ephesians 5:25b-27). If He loved it that much, and we love Him, it follows that we should love the church as well.

8. Books. I’ve loved reading ever since I first learned how. I could write another whole post on why I love reading (maybe some day…), but books have been a major part of my whole life. I have to have one or two books I’m currently reading at any given time, and I have to take a handful when traveling (the Kindle app sure helps with that!) If I go too long without reading I feel like I’m starving. I wrote about the 98 books that have most enriched my life a couple of years ago — I probably need to update that with a few I’ve read since.

9. Music. I am not a musician, but I’ve loved music for years. Christian music was another lifeline in my early Christian life, and so many times God has ministered to my heart with a particular hymn or spiritual song at a particular time. But I also enjoy some classical music, Irish, English, and early American folk music, some songs from musicals, Emile Pandolfi’s piano-playing, and assorted other types. I quite often have music playing while my hands are busy or have a song going around in my head.

10. Beauty. Not the obsession with personal beauty prevalent these days, but the beauty that causes God’s hand to be seen and inspires worship and praise to Him, beauty that reflects truth, beauty manifest in nature, music, art, writing, color, even a lovely table setting.

11. Creativity. I used to think either a person was creative, or they were not, and I didn’t think I was. I used to associate creativity with artsy people. But over the years I came to realize that there are different kinds of creativity. A dear friend was a wiz at coming up with simple yet really neat lunch ideas or activities for her children. Another friend I used to do bulletin boards with used to say she could staple and pin and cut things out for it, but she didn’t want to come up with ideas — but often she’d have an idea while we were working or an adjustment that was just right. I really enjoy other people’s creativity (Pinterest has been a feast for that!) and love to have some type of craft or project going on the side.

12. Writing has been a lifelong outlet. As a child I wrote stories and poems. I don’t have much of that any more except a folder of poems I had written as a teen and one poem from my childhood. I kept a diary as a teen but, sadly, threw it away. I’ve written a few magazine articles, a few newspaper columns, and a few years’ worth of newsletters for the ladies’ group at church. And, of course, there is this blog. 🙂 I think things through by writing and like to encourage people through writing. I think I express myself better through writing than speaking. I don’t know how the Lord may use it in the future, but I am grateful for the outlets He has given so far.

13. Learning. I always loved school. Maybe not every single class or teacher, but I loved school in general. If college hadn’t been so expensive, I could have stayed on another couple of years just taking classes that sounded interesting. I still like to keep the brain percolating by learning new things.

As I was thinking about what to include in this list, I thought that, honestly, overarching themes of my life would have to include “besetting sins.” I try to keep things real here and not hold myself up as some kind of paragon of virtue: I’ve shared some of my faults and failings and struggles here. On the other hand, I don’t think it is necessary or even wise to lay it all out here, either. Let’s just say that most of them involved self in some way — self-indulgence, self-righteousness, self-promotion, self-protection. Be assured God is continually convicting and working on me!

What are some themes of your life?

 

A bloggy look back at 2012

I don’t know if this is of interest to anyone but me, but I like to look back through my posts at the end of the year and pick a couple or more from each month aside from the regular Friday’s Fave Fives, Nightstand posts, and book reviews. So here are some of my favorite posts of 2012: some are fun, most are thoughtful. After that I’ll share what my blogs stats say are my top posts of the year.

January:

Happy New Year!

In Memory of Susie Dog.

Thinking about resolutions and words for the year...

Tebow-mania.

Hobbies.

The Winter of Life.

Happy Birthday, Robert Burns! One of my favorite poets. And this post has the distinction of being the first (and only, as far as I know) post a teacher (my friend Ann) used in her lessons.

February:

Women in Ministry.

Submission in Christian Marriage.

March:

Christian concepts that are a little “off.

To open their eyes, and to turn them from darkness to light” about proposed infanticide.

April:

Am I doing any good? in visiting my mother-in-law when she is too sleepy or forgetful to know I am there. (Answer: yes.)

May:

Of grace, law, commandments, rules, and effort.

Focus makes a difference.

The real problem with Facebook...

Tension.

Here I Raise My Ebenezer.

Our relationship with God.

Graduation weekend.

If I were to write a book.

June:

When you’re married to a scientist.

July:

Favorite Places.

Discernment.

When God doesn’t deliver.

The surprise at Mary’s prayer meeting.

August:

One who has influenced my life.

September:

Songs in the Night.

As Seen on the Internet”

October:

What grace does not mean.

November:

The Captain of My Fate.

Thoughts about the election.

An adoption story.

Carrie’s Getting to Know You questions.

A Perfect Christmas (repost)

December:

Learning from the Savior’s learned obedience.

What does it mean to magnify the Lord?

It looks like I did a lot more thinking some months than others — or at least had more time to record my “stray thoughts” then.

According to my blog stats, my top 20, most read posts are:

Home page / Archives 17,072
Christmas Devotional reading 8,998
Coping when husband is away 6,368
Thanksgiving Reading 5,571
More button crafts 5,070
Church ladies’ groups 4,274
Quotes on Thanksgiving and thankfulness 4,210
Book Review: Les Miserables 3,469
Kids answer questions about moms 3,282
C. S. Lewis on love 3,225
Book Review: A Tale of Two Cities 2,608
Encouragement for mothers of young children 2,513
Ten free gifts for Christmas 2,462
My desktop free view 2,326
A Perfect Christmas 2,317
Recipe for a happy marriage 2,232
When there is no hunger for God’s Word 2,083
I Corinthians 13 applied to Christmas 1,847
John 3:16 Valentine 1,750
Christian quotes about love

The first year or two I blogged, I posted a lot of seasonal and holiday things (poems, devotional reading, etc.) that I had accumulated over the years from doing a monthly newsletter. Those always get the most “hits” November-December, I guess from people looking for the same thing. But I am pleased to find some of my original posts there as well and hope people are finding them useful. It’s about 40 posts in before we get into any of my posts from this year. Hmm…I wonder if that means the quality of my writing is declining. 🙂 Or maybe it just means those posts have been “out there” a bit longer and show up on searches more easily. I don’t know.

A day or two after I worked on this post, I received a year-end summary for my blog from WordPress. This is only the second year they’ve done this kind of thing, but it is interesting to me. Here is their prepared excerpt::

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2012 annual report for this blog.

Here’s an excerpt:

About 55,000 tourists visit Liechtenstein every year. This blog was viewed about 180,000 times in 2012. If it were Liechtenstein, it would take about 3 years for that many people to see it. Your blog had more visits than a small country in Europe!

Click here to see the complete report.

I don’t know why they’re going with “helper monkeys”….

Thank YOU for being a reader!

I may be scarce….

…with both blogging and commenting this week. But then again, I may not. Sometimes when I think I am not going to have time to blog much, pockets of opportunity come along.

We have special meetings at our church all this week, I’m signed up to take a meal somewhere tomorrow, the ladies’ newsletter is due this week, and plans to work on it have not come to fruition so far.

So if I am not around as much as usual, know I am thinking of you and hope to be back soon!

The winner…

of my blog anniversary give-away of Not By Chance: Learning to Trust a Sovereign God by Layton Talbert is Amy at Hope Is the Word!

I want to say a heartfelt thank-you to all who posted very kind comments there. I was not anticipating that. My heart was very touched and blessed. You all really make blogging a joy and I feel so blessed that anyone reads anything here.

My sixth blog anniversary…..

..flew by without me noticing it all. I can’t believe it has been six years since my first blog post on July 27, 2006.

In that time I’ve gone from “40-something” to “50-something,” one son has gotten married, two have left home, the last has graduated from high school and will start college in a few weeks, my mother passed away, my mother-in-law came to live near us, we’ve changed states…..it’s been a busy six years, full of changes, yet “through every change He faithful still remains.”

Blogging has been an outlet, a growing and stretching experience, and a lot of fun. I’ve been blessed to get to know many dear friends along the way, and I miss many who are no longer blogging.

I often like to do a little something special for my readers on my blogiversary, this year I’ve decided to give away a copy of the book I reviewed yesterday, Not By Chance: Learning to Trust a Sovereign God by Layton Talbert. I believe it will be a faith-strengthening blessing to anyone who reads it. I may tuck in an extra little something if I can come up with an idea. 🙂 To enter the drawing for the book, just leave a comment below and let me know how long you’ve been reading here and how you found me, if you can remember. The drawing is open to everyone: I don’t think it’s too very expensive to ship a book out of the country. I’ll draw a name using random.org a week from today.

Thank you for journeying along with me! Your comments have been encouraging, enlightening, and thought-provoking, and you’ve made blogging immensely more enjoyable.

Allow me to introduce…

For a while now I’ve been wanting to introduce you to a few bloggers, some fairly new, whom I actually knew “in real life” before they started blogs.

Lou Ann at In the Way is a missionary with her husband in Spain. I haven’t met her in person, but we’ve had multitudes of e-mails as I worked with the Ladies Missionary Fellowship at our former church, and we’ve kept communicating since! I have met her daughter, though, when she spoke to our ladies’ group once. Lou Ann is in the process of getting her book, His Ways, Your Walk, published, and I’ll be sure to let you know when that happens.

Mary Beth at Annapolis Online is a sweet young mom of a lovely family. I first knew her when her family came to the church where we used to live in SC, and she was in the last year or two of high school then. She married a young man from our youth group, and a year or two later I was privileged to give the devotional at her baby shower. I think that might be the only time I’ve been asked to do that, and I enjoyed it, though it made me very nervous. The subtitle of her blog is Creativity in the Everyday, and that’s mainly what she writes about: neat, creative homey things. She inspires me in many ways.

Susannah at Learning to See is another sweet young wife and mom. She was in the youth group with my older boys and now is the wife of a medical student and the mom of one baby girl. She writes about what she’s learning in her walk with the Lord as well as an occasional recipe or observation, etc.

Debbie at Purple Grandma is a missionary wife in Canada, and I’ve known her family for years, since early married days. She blogs mainly about missionary biographies and other Christian books with an occasional devotional thought or two.

Michael at Sovereign Ostomy attends the church where we currently go, and his wife is a lovely, sweet example of a Christian wife and mom. The blog’s kind of odd title came from Michael’s experience of having Crohn’s disease for years, since his teens, and the recent removal of his colon. In his research before and since his ostomy, he had not found anything on the topic from a Biblical perspective, and he wanted to write from that viewpoint. His is profitable reading not only for those who have had the types of trials he has dealt with, but also for anyone who has had any kind of trial or knows someone who has.

Paul at Piano Animato also attends the church where we do now and is a wonderful pianist. He blogs mainly about music.

All of the above are fairly newish bloggers, I think. But while I am writing about people I knew before I started reading their blogs, I’ll go ahead and mention a few others who have been blogging for a while and whom I may have mentioned before.

Ann at From Sinking Sand and I have known each other since college days, got reacquainted on an online Christian forum, and then started reading each other’s blogs. We found out we were only about 45 minutes away from each other, and we saw each other once a year when my boys were playing basketball and we played her school. Ann has been an English teacher in a Christian high school for years and writes about teaching, education, family, and general observations about life.

Rita at The Jungle Hut was a missionary in the jungles of Venezuela for years until her family had to leave, and now they minister in Paraguay. Our church in SC supported them as well, but I didn’t know she had a blog until another friend, Susan at By Grace, mentioned her friend Rita, and I realized it was the same Rita I knew. Rita can be quite funny and a little saucy, and she writes mainly about missions and sometimes about life in general and politics.

And though she hasn’t blogged in a while, I wanted to mention Bet at Dappled Things, too. I think we knew each other in college — I knew who she was, anyway — and she had my oldest son in a class she taught. We got acquainted, or reacquainted, in the same online Christian forum I mentioned before. She teaches journalism and related courses at a Christian university and oversees the student newspaper there. I’m hoping maybe her summer schedule will let her blog again. 😀

I think that’s it, though I hope I am not leaving anyone out. If you’re looking for good online reading on any of these topics, I can vouch for the fact that these are good folks.

Just popping in…

…to say hello. I’ve been pretty scarce the last few days, both here and at your places. I’ve been keeping up with my Google Reader but not commenting as much. Nothing wrong or going on — the first part of the week was super busy, then maybe because of that I just felt like I had brain burn-out yesterday. Usually I have more blog ideas than time to write them out, but I’ve felt pretty blank blog-wise the last few days.

I was thinking that I had a good bit of time for everyday stuff before the next spate of busyness, but then remembered I need to get graduation announcements for Jesse addressed and mailed in a couple of weeks, and I had wanted to make a scrapbook for him for his graduation reception. So I’d probably better get started!

I’ve also been pondering how to best commemorate the time leading up to Easter. I’ve read Jesus, Keep Me Near the Cross: Experiencing the Passion and Power of Easter (linked to my review) compiled by Nancy Guthrie a few years in a row, but just didn’t feel like getting that out again this year. My regular through-the-Bible reading has me in the gospels just now — finished Matthew and Mark and started Luke — so that has helped keep my focus on the life and death of Christ.

I have a meeting in the morning and was thinking of heading out to the mall afterward and thought how incongruous it was to go shopping on Good Friday (though I think Christ was actually probably crucified on Thursday, but be that as it may…). On the other hand, we know the outcome, and we celebrate that with joy on Easter, so I don’t think we need to spend all day Friday (or Thursday) in hiding and sadness. But the cost of our sin was so great, and Christ did so much to redeem us from it, it seems like we should somehow acknowledge that day especially though we acknowledge it throughout the year. I just haven’t worked out quite how to do so.

I’ve often felt the struggle between grief over Christ’s death versus gladness that He gave Himself to that death to redeem me. Chris Anderson‘s chorus in the song “My Jesus Fair” sums it up quite nicely:

O love divine, O matchless grace-
That God should die for men!
With joyful grief I lift my praise,
Abhorring all my sin,
Adoring only Him.

I hope you have a good week blessed with some time to meditate on and thank Him for His sacrifice for us.