Just popping in…

…to say hello. I’ve been pretty scarce the last few days, both here and at your places. I’ve been keeping up with my Google Reader but not commenting as much. Nothing wrong or going on — the first part of the week was super busy, then maybe because of that I just felt like I had brain burn-out yesterday. Usually I have more blog ideas than time to write them out, but I’ve felt pretty blank blog-wise the last few days.

I was thinking that I had a good bit of time for everyday stuff before the next spate of busyness, but then remembered I need to get graduation announcements for Jesse addressed and mailed in a couple of weeks, and I had wanted to make a scrapbook for him for his graduation reception. So I’d probably better get started!

I’ve also been pondering how to best commemorate the time leading up to Easter. I’ve read Jesus, Keep Me Near the Cross: Experiencing the Passion and Power of Easter (linked to my review) compiled by Nancy Guthrie a few years in a row, but just didn’t feel like getting that out again this year. My regular through-the-Bible reading has me in the gospels just now — finished Matthew and Mark and started Luke — so that has helped keep my focus on the life and death of Christ.

I have a meeting in the morning and was thinking of heading out to the mall afterward and thought how incongruous it was to go shopping on Good Friday (though I think Christ was actually probably crucified on Thursday, but be that as it may…). On the other hand, we know the outcome, and we celebrate that with joy on Easter, so I don’t think we need to spend all day Friday (or Thursday) in hiding and sadness. But the cost of our sin was so great, and Christ did so much to redeem us from it, it seems like we should somehow acknowledge that day especially though we acknowledge it throughout the year. I just haven’t worked out quite how to do so.

I’ve often felt the struggle between grief over Christ’s death versus gladness that He gave Himself to that death to redeem me. Chris Anderson‘s chorus in the song “My Jesus Fair” sums it up quite nicely:

O love divine, O matchless grace-
That God should die for men!
With joyful grief I lift my praise,
Abhorring all my sin,
Adoring only Him.

I hope you have a good week blessed with some time to meditate on and thank Him for His sacrifice for us.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

A Facebook friend recently commented that Valentine’s Day was invented by greeting card companies so they could get more money out of people. 🙄 I’m so glad I’m not married to someone who thinks like that. Maybe most holidays are over-commercialized, but so what? We can celebrate them any way we like, with lots of frills or just a simple card, store-bought or home-made, or whatever. Sure, we’re supposed to show love to our loved ones every day, but it’s nice to have a special day just for the occasion as well.

But I expounded on those thoughts in an earlier post on Spontaneity vs. Scheduling, so I won’t get into it all again now.

On the other hand, even though we like to celebrate around here, some occasions we go all-out more than others. Some years someone is sick or schedules are over-busy or we’re just not up to it for various reasons. Traditions are wonderful as long as they don’t become burdensome. But we do try to do at least a little something.

I haven’t anticipated Valentine’s Day quite as much as usual this year — maybe because of this silly cold. I’ve had worse colds as far as symptoms go, but for some reason this one just seems to be draining me of energy. But I’ve gotten cards and plan on making a Valentine-themed dinner and my usual heart-shaped cupcakes (amended plans: Jim offered to bring home take-out from our favorite Chinese place. ♥ )

Having absolutely nothing new to say about Valentine’s Day this year, I’ll point you to some previous posts related to the day if you’ve a mind to look at any. Hope you have a great day, whatever you do. 🙂

John 3:16 Valentine.
Your Divine Valentine.
Quotes about love for Valentine’s Day.
Christian quotes about love.
How to love our husbands: notes from a ladies’ meeting where we had a panel discussion on the subject. One of our best ladies’ meetings ever.
C. S. Lewis on love.
Corny Valentine Jokes.
Valentine’s favorites wherein I list some of my favorite romantic quotes, poems, and songs.
St. Valentine’s Day by Edgar Guest. An excerpt:

Romance is old, but it is lovely still.
Not he who shows his love deserves the jeer,
But he who speaks not what she longs to hear.
There is no shame in love’s devoted speech;
Man need not blush his tenderness to show.
‘Tis shame to love and never let her know.

Singleness.
Valentine’s Day single?
A Toast to the Best Valentine’s Day Yet.

Some Valentine’s Day decorations I’ve used in the past — though this year I haven’t put any of them out. (Though I did at least go and out my heart-shaped wreath out after writing that. 🙂 )

Some Valentine-themed treats I’ve made in the past:

Valentine treats

Sweetheart Jamwiches from Southern Living magazine.

Valentine treats

Peanut Butter Kiss cookies, only substituting chocolate hearts instead of Hershey’s kisses.

Heart-shaped cupcakes — just a regular cake mix and store-bought frosting and sprinkles.

Valentine casserole

Crescent Heart-Topped Lasagna Casserole.

Li’l Cheddar Meat Loaves shaped like hearts.

Have a good day!

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Though I didn’t plan it this way, all the quotes I have for today are good for starting the new year and putting those plans, resolutions, and goals into practice.

Seen on Lisa‘s Twitter:

What is not started today is never finished tomorrow. -JW von Goethe

I forgot to note where I saw this:

The way to do a great deal, is to keep on doing a little. The way to do nothing at all, is to be continually resolving that you will do everything. ~ Spurgeon

I read this in Anne’s House of Dreams by L. M. Montgomery:

“Welcome, New Year,” said Captain Jim, bowing low as the last stroke died away. “I wish you all the best year of your lives, mates. I reckon that whatever the New Year brings us will be the best the Great Captain has for us.”

I hope the same for you, friends, “that whatever the New Year brings us will be the best the Great Captain has for us.”

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

Thinking about resolutions and words for the year…

It’s that time. The close of one year and beginning of another seems a good time for taking stock, making plans, setting goals for the year ahead.

I don’t know how the tradition of making New Year’s Resolutions first got started. I dutifully made them each January as I grew up and forgot about them in a few weeks’ time. After a while that seemed pretty ridiculous. Then I began to make goals rather than resolutions. And then later on I began realizing that the things I pondered every year around Jan. 1 were things I needed to be working on all the time anyway. So I happily gave up on the whole idea.

This year in several articles and posts going around, some have gone so far as to say Christians shouldn’t make resolutions, that resolutions smack of moralism and even legalism, putting a focus on our efforts, on trying harder, rather than on grace, and we should rest on God’s promises to us rather than making promises to Him.

Well, of course we should rest on God’s promises and His provision of grace and forgiveness. Our resolutions or goals or lists for ourselves don’t make us more accepted or loved in His sight. But does that mean we should never resolve anything or promise God anything?

A few years ago I made a study of the statement “I will” in the Bible, said not by God or Satan but by people. “I will” is a statement of determination, sometimes a vow, or we could even say a resolution. There were many I found, and that’s not even including “I will nots” or statements that say the same thing in different words.

And then our pastor has been leading us through the book of Job for the past several months and started a series last Sunday on Job’s resolutions from Job 31, beginning with “I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” The rest aren’t stated quite that way, but resolution can be inferred from the other behaviors Job lists in his defense against his friends who felt that he must have sinned and sinned big to deserve the affliction he suffered.

So there are Biblical grounds for making resolutions (not necessarily Jan. 1, but whenever needed, though January is a good time to examine ourselves and our schedules, etc.).

Our pastor made a little study booklet to aid in going over this section of Job in the next few weeks, and in it he nails the crux of another problem I have with resolutions: how to reconcile the fact that it is God who is making the changes in us with our efforts or promises or resolutions. That’s something I’ve wrestled with nearly all of my Christian life. It’s God who does the work of change in us, yet He requires our cooperation. He doesn’t run roughshod over our will in salvation or in sanctification. But what is God’s part and what is mine? And why won’t He just make me holy without requiring me to makes choices throughout the day as to whether to yield to the flesh or to the Spirit? If I were Spirit-filled, wouldn’t I just automatically do, feel, think the right things without having to make the conscious effort? Those are the kinds of things I wrestle with and I’m very excited that it looks like we’ll be going over some of those things in the coming weeks at church.

Pastor did bring up Jonathan Edwards’ resolutions, which begin with the statement “Being sensible that I am unable to do anything without God’s help, I do humbly entreat him by his grace to enable me to keep these Resolutions, so far as they are agreeable to his will, for Christ’s sake.” There are key elements there: that our resolutions be agreeable to God’s will, and that we acknowledge that we can’t keep them on our own and need His enabling.

So…I haven’t started making any lists yet, but I’ve been mulling this over and reading with interest several posts and links people have been putting on their blogs and Facebook. Thanks to a couple of you for letting me think through some of this in your comments section. I probably should not have taken up so much space there and should have just waited til this blog post to “think through my fingers.” 🙂

I’ve also seen a number of people choosing a word or theme for the year over the last few years. I had never heard of anyone doing that before, and wasn’t inclined to myself: I knew there would probably be several words to list areas God needed to work on me about. It’s not a practice laid out in Scripture, but there is certainly nothing wrong with it if it done as led by God. I wouldn’t necessarily want others to feel they should do this just because they see others do it and make it the new spiritual fad. But the blog friends I know of who have done this aren’t approaching it faddishly but rather with much thought and prayer.

Even though I hadn’t intentionally sought out or prayed for a word for the coming year, one that keeps coming to mind is intentional. Having good intentions is a different thing from living intentionally: I need to intentionally work those intentions out into everyday life. A former pastor once said that Philippians 2:12b, “work out your own salvation with fear and trembling,” meant first of all not to work for your salvation, but to work it out like a math problem, taking it to its logical conclusions: in other words, take those high and lofty ideals in the Bible, those rock-solid doctrines, and work them out into your everyday lives. I can see many areas in my life, both the spiritual and the practical, where I’ve been floating along for years without making any real progress. Thinking, studying, and meditating on these areas is good and necessary, but they need to translate into action. And maybe that’s where resolutions or goals come in.

Another factor I wrestle with in all this is the time it will take. In a couple of areas in particular, making changes is going to take some planning. And then, too, just the thought of schedules and such to implement some of these things makes me cringe, but that may be my lazy, resistant-to-change flesh.

I am thankful that the next verse in Philippians 2 says, “For it is God which worketh in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure.” I’m seeking His help and guidance both in the willing and the doing.

If you’ve read this far, you deserve a pat on the back, so consider it done. 🙂 Thanks for listening to my ramblings.

If you’re interested, here are some of the other posts that have fueled my thinking about resolutions:

A Resolution on Resolutions. Advocates that resolution-making might better come after Easter than New Year’s Day and that “New Year’s resolutions were meant to be inspired by repentance and redemption; they were never intended to be the path to them.”

A New Year’s Plea: Plan!

Trading One Dramatic Resolution for 10,000 Little Ones

A Different Kind of New Year’s Resolution. “My daily perseverance requires embracing God’s promises, not inventing my own, which I cannot keep. There will come a time for resolutions in the conventional sense, personal goals and the shouldering of responsibility. But the law will bear crops only where grace has fertilized the soil. So, at least for the first month of this new year, my focus will be not on what I plan to do better, but what has been done perfectly for me.” (Note: theologically I’d disagree with a couple of his resolved statements).

Many of these people I have never read before, so please don’t take this as an endorsement of everything on their sites. Most were found through recommended links of people I do know.

Happy New Year!

Happy first day of 2012! Some years I approach with fear, others with joyful anticipation. This year I really don’t feel either extreme. Only God knows for sure what’s ahead, and I can trust Him with the future.

This year our youngest is scheduled to graduate and then go to college — probably to college away from home, different from the other two boys who commuted. So that joyful time of graduation and then sad time of the youngest leaving will happen within a few months of each other. And past experience tells me the whole year will probably be like that, highs and lows juxtaposed.

I haven’t made New Year’s resolutions in years: it seemed like I should always just keep doing what I am supposed to be doing, no matter the day on the calendar, responding to God’s conviction when it comes rather than waiting for Jan 1. But this post about planning has me thinking about it. And a previous study I did on Biblical resolutions indicates that making some determinations is a good thing to do. A general “I need to do better in this area” doesn’t usually get it. I wonder if my tendency not to make resolutions is a convenient “out,” a way not to deal with problem areas. This example of a young friend put me to shame: I need to improve in many of those areas! There hasn’t been much time for quiet reflection the last couple of weeks, but I am mulling things over.

A verse that I often think of at the beginning of a year is Deuteronomy 11:11-12: But the land, whither ye go to possess it, is a land of hills and valleys, and drinketh water of the rain of heaven: A land which the LORD thy God careth for: the eyes of the LORD thy God are always upon it, from the beginning of the year even unto the end of the year.

I’ve posted this before, but it contains many of my thoughts for the new year:

Another year is dawning
With the chance to start anew.
May I be kinder, wiser, Lord,
In all I say and do.

Not so caught up in selfish gain
That I would fail to see
The things in life that mean the most
Cost not a fancy fee.

The warm, kind word that I can give,
The outstretched hand to help,
The prayers I pray for those in need–
More precious these than wealth.

I know not what may lie ahead
Of laughter or of tears;
I only need to know each day
That You are walking near.

I’m thankful for this brand new year
As now I humbly pray,
My hand secure in Yours, dear Lord,
Each step along the way.

-Author unknown

Whew!

Did any of the rest of you feel like that after Christmas? It’s been a very good but very full few days.

Jason and Mittu were planning to go to OK to see her mom for Christmas, and we were planning to exchange our gifts with them the night before they left, which would also be right after Jeremy got here. But then Mittu got a new job that week, and since she only had Friday and Monday off along with the weekend, they needed to leave Thursday night, the night we had planned exchange gifts with them. So we decided to do our gift exchange after they got back. They did exchange gifts with Jeremy and we got to visit all together briefly before they took off.

With Christmas being on Sunday, our church decided to have one service at 11 a.m. with a brunch the half-hour before. We didn’t want to rush to open gifts in the morning before services — we like to take our time, each of us opening one gift at a time and seeing what we all got before moving on. And typically Sunday afternoons Jim and I are tired and sleepy. So we decided to open gifts Christmas Eve. Poor Jason — he has wanted to do that all his life, and the one year we do, he’s away.

Then we had to decide what to do about Grandma. She’s getting to where an excursion of any length is taxing. A normal Sunday service and then dinner here is almost too much for her any more. She goes to bed early, so coming here Sat. evening wasn’t really an option, but she would have been too tired to enjoy it much if we waited til Sunday afternoon anyway. So we decided to take her gifts to her room Saturday morning. That worked out really well.

I had assumed that when we were going to open gifts Christmas Eve, that meant evening. But Jesse lobbied for Christmas afternoon on the logic that that would give them more time to play with their expected (hopefully) new games. Since Jeremy was here only for a few days and he and Jesse love to play games together, that made sense to give them as much time for that as possible. But that meant really stepping things up the day before to get ready.

And then…I had planned all along to roast the ham Sat. night anyway, because I didn’t want to leave it in the oven Sunday morning with no one here. So I proposed that since I would be cooking it Sat. anyway and we’d be smelling it and our mouths watering, we might as well go ahead and have our Christmas dinner Christmas Eve. Then Sunday after church we could just heat up the leftovers. That met with everyone’s approval.

So except for the church service Sunday, we ended up celebrating Christmas mostly on Christmas Eve. It was odd to open presents in the daylight when we’re used to doing it in the morning while it’s still dark out. And it was odd for Jim to go out for a part that was needed and me to make a last run to the grocery store, when usually we’re all in for the whole day.

Sunday morning we enjoyed a nice service at church and a very restful remainder of the day. I was able to call my step-father that evening and was glad to hear our gifts to him arrived Saturday.

Usually on Christmas we have a breakfast of sausage rolls and cinnamon rolls just out for people to munch whenever they want. That wasn’t really going to work on Christmas Eve or Christmas Day this year, but we still wanted them, so we had them Monday morning.

Then Jason and Mittu were due home late Monday night, and she had to work Tuesday, so we hadn’t really decided when to exchange their gifts. But they decided to leave Sunday evening for a variety of reasons — weather, the opportunity for her to rest a bit more before work the next day, etc. So they drove through the night Sunday night, got home after a few stops to nap Monday morning, and came over here in the afternoon, when we exchanged gifts with them.

So we ended up “doing Christmas” in several stages! I know some of you with extended family are used to having more than one get-together, but this is a first for us except for the time when Jason and Mittu got engaged and he went to visit her family for Christmas. We might end up having to do that again as they kids grow and have their own families, but I hope that in the next years we can go back to our “usual” routine. I was thinking, somewhere during the last few days, that as good as traditions are, they shouldn’t be binding: we need to be flexible and willing to change things up when necessary.

It’s been a really nice Christmas “season,” with time to do fun things like seeing Christmas lights and making gingerbread houses and bears, several special services and quiet times of reflection, the flurry of shopping (mostly online, so thankful for that! But I did want to make just one trip to the mall, and was able to round out what we needed there) and wrapping and sending cards, and then time with family. It was tempered with some sadness with missing loved ones who have passed on, hearing of a friend our age who passed away, and our dog dying.

Jeremy left for his home yesterday afternoon. It doesn’t get any easier to say good-bye. I felt bad that we really put him to work while he was here: Jesse’s desktop computer that he and Jeremy had built for gaming a few years ago had suddenly died last week, and his laptop that he uses for homework was infested with viruses — it was still running, somehow, but extremely slowly. Jeremy was able to get them both up and running well, and then I pestered him with multiple questions about my new iPhone. But he lent his expertise generously and then had time to just relax the last few days he was here.

Jim is off work and Jesse off from school the rest of this week — actually Jim is off through Monday and Jesse through Tuesday. We have various things to take care of, one being taking Christmas decorations at some point this week, but otherwise I’m not sure what we’ll be doing. I’ve enjoyed taking a day or two just to relax after everything else. I’m working on a list of books I read this year and trying to decide on my top ten books from that list. Often at the end of the year I look back over the last year’s post and choose one or two favorites from each month, so I might do that as well. And some time in the next week or so I want to write a post about our dog, Susie, but I need to look up and scan some photos of her younger years for that.

I had wanted to make a separate post some time this month called “Christmas photo takes and outtakes” but never got to it, so I’ll leave you with photos we took at Thanksgiving to put with Christmas cards. I like some of the “outtakes” as well as the “good” ones. Most of those took place when Jim was adjusting the settings on the camera and we were playing around waiting.

I feel like maybe I’m supposed to start tap dancing there…

Now this is real life. No, just kidding. Really.

But we did get several good ones! Here’s one:

I hope that you had a very special Christmas as well!

The Week In Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

I wasn’t sure whether to have TWIW this week or not, just after Christmas. But I figured I’d be here, and if any of you can join me, wonderful!

Here is one quote that caught my eye this week:

Seen at girltalk:

“So the truth of the Incarnation is not just good theology; it is practical comfort and assurance. Jesus identifies with us in our humanity, and now we know that God is for us in Christ. He can be trusted. He went through torture too. When we see Jesus on the cross we can come to trust God with an unutterable trust that never for a moment considers He will not stand by us in our sufferings.” ~Os Guinness

I looked up a former post of New Year’s Quotes and was inspired by this one, seen in Joy and Strength compiled by Mary Wilder Tileston:

The year begins; and all its pages are as blank… Let us begin it with high resolution; then let us take all its limitations, all its hindrances, its disappointments, its narrow and common-place conditions, and meet them as the Master did in Nazareth, with patience, with obedience, putting ourselves in cheerful subjection, serving our apprenticeship. Who knows what opportunity may come to us this year? Let us live in a great spirit, then we shall be ready for a great occasion. ~ George Hodges

Also from that post is this quote:

Face the New Year with the Old Book.
Face the new needs with the old promises.
Face the new problems with the old Gospel.

–Author Unknown

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share.

Who Is He?

Who is He in yonder stall
At Whose feet the shepherds fall?
Who is He in deep distress,
Fasting in the wilderness?

Refrain:

’Tis the Lord! O wondrous story!
’Tis the Lord! the King of glory!
At His feet we humbly fall,
Crown Him! crown Him, Lord of all!

Who is He the people bless
For His words of gentleness?
Who is He to Whom they bring
All the sick and sorrowing?

Refrain

Who is He that stands and weeps
At the grave where Lazarus sleeps?
Who is He the gathering throng
Greet with loud triumphant song?

Refrain

Lo! at midnight, who is He
Prays in dark Gethsemane?
Who is He on yonder tree
Dies in grief and agony?

Refrain

Who is He that from the grave
Comes to heal and help and save?
Who is He that from His throne
Rules through all the world alone?

Refrain

~ Ben­ja­min R. Han­by, 1866

I wish you all a wonderful Christmas celebrating Him, the King of Glory, who made it possible for us to be God’s children by faith in Jesus’s life, death, and resurrection in our place. If you don’t know Him as Lord, as your own King of Glory, I pray you will even this day.

Christmas Reading

Merry Christmas Eve! I imagine most of you are either starting your Christmas celebrations today or finishing last-minute preparations. But if you’re looking for some reflective, funny, or otherwise interesting Christmas reading, here are some past posts here at Stray Thoughts.

Christmas Devotional Reading. Links mostly to Creative Ladies Ministry and Elisabeth Elliot‘s Christmas articles.

Christmas-based I Cor. 13.

Mary’s Virginity

Ten free gifts for Christmas

For God so loved that He gave…

Mary’s Dream

The Perfect Christmas

Christmas Grief

Isaiah 9:6 Tree

Christmas quotes.

Christmas funnies or jokes #1 and #2.

The Primary Purpose of a Home. Convicting.

If I were a goose. One of my favorites. Paul Harvey reads this as “The Man and the Birds” here:

Hope you have a lovely Christmas weekend!

Gingerbread Houses

I’m not good at decorating cakes, so I guess that fact plus having all guys at home never inspired me to try gingerbread houses at Christmastime. It’s funny the things you just assume boys won’t be interested in. But having a daughter-in-law with different interests and talents has expanded our horizons the last couple of years and enriched our lives.

Jason and Mittu brought over a couple of gingerbread house kits last Friday night. I liked having everything we needed in a kit, including pre-made gingerbread. I had always been afraid of making gingerbread and having it stick to the pans or fall apart.

We set everything out in the middle of the table, and there was enough for each of us to decorate our own house.

First came the “building”:

Someone said Jim looked annoyed there. No, he was just concentrating. At one point Mittu said, “Dad, your face is going to freeze that way!” 🙂 Plus he was really tired: we had moved Grandma the day before and then he’d had to go in to work about 3 a.m. that morning.

Then the decorating:

I started out trying to decorate mine just like the example on the box, but then started doing my own thing. I think the best touches were what different ones dreamed up that weren’t on the box!

Here are the results:

Jason’s:

Mittu’s:

Love the yard!

Jesse’s — he was particularly proud of the peppermint icicles:

Jim’s:

Love the peppermint chimney and stacked logs!

Mine:

And an extra one that Jim put together and I decorated:

Our gingerbread village:

Mittu remarked that it smelled a lot better than our last project, the pumpkins! And that’s certainly true! The first day or so we had them out, the smell was a little overwhelming, either seeming too sweet at times, or other times making me want to eat something. But that’s faded a little bit since the first day.

All in all it was a fun evening!