Time Travel Tuesday: Easter

timetraveltuesday.gifMy Life as Annie’s weekly Time Travel Tuesday asks this week:

Share your Easter traditions. Did you have egg hunts every year? A new dress? Was it a spiritual event in your family, or just a fun day?

My family  was not a Christian one, but my mother did let me go with her father and sister to the Lutheran church. I remember the different cloths on the pulpit and the sash the pastor wore (I forget the exact names of them) being purple at Easter. I am not in a liturgical type of church now, but I did like that obvious change with the seasons and holidays. I do remember getting a new dress, shiny black patent leather shoes, and an Easter basket. I remember dyeing eggs. I don’t remember if we did egg hunts at home: I do remember attending one somewhere.

And that’s about all I remember of my childhood Easters. 🙂

When our own kids came along, at first I was somewhat militant against any part of the holidays that wasn’t specifically Christian: I wanted to keep the emphasis of Easter on Christ’s death and resurrection. But I have softened over the years. I came to see that all of spring, really, is a picture of the resurrection, of new life. And for young children, when they don’t understand all the spiritual significance, doing little things to make the day special in some way is a good thing, I think. So we began having small Easter baskets with candy and just a few little trinkets like decorated pads and pencils, etc. — I still don’t like the idea of a humongous basket with a dozen toys and cashiers asking the kids, “What’s the Easter Bunny bringing you for Easter?” as if it is another Christmas (not to criticize anyone else who does that: we just prefer to keep that side of Easter simple for our family). I did like the idea of a new outfit: that seemed symbolic of walking in newness of life, of a change of appearance after salvation. Plus when the kids were little they needed new clothes every year anyway. But then they kind of grew out of that and didn’t seem interested. I have all boys, and they all went through a phase of only wearing one dress shirt every Sunday no matter how many shirts they had in the closet. So the new outfits for them for Easter kind of fell by the wayside. I often will still get a new dress for myself, but I don’t stress about it and don’t ‘”have” to have one.

We never did do the Easter Bunny, but one year my husband hid money in plastic eggs and hid them around the yard for the boys, and that has become a tradition. We never dyed or decorated eggs, and that makes me a little sad, but no one liked hard-cooked eggs, so there is really no reason to. I like an egg salad sandwich or deviled eggs every now and then, but I don’t want to personally eat everyone’s eggs. 🙂

Another thing that has become a tradition is making Resurrection Rolls, which is basically bread dough wrapped around a marshmallow: the marshmallow melts into the bread, leaving it with a sweet taste and a hollow place which looks sort of like the empty tomb.

Resurrection Rolls

The recipe for that and some other Easter treats are here.

Another big part of our Easter is that our church usually has some special things going on, usually a choir cantata Easter Sunday evening.

Know and Tell Friday

(My Friday Show and Tell post is just below this one)

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To Know Him hosts Know and Tell Friday and asks this week:

1. Do you read or study best in silence or in a place with background noise? Why?

In silence — I just concentrate better that way. But silence isn’t always easy to come by, so sometimes I have to adapt.

2. If you were to write a book about your life, what would it be called?

Oh, my — I have no idea. Something terribly creative like “My Life.” 🙂

3. (This question is a deep one…I know it should be a bonus, but I already have a few bonus questions chosen for this week) Why do you think divorce is so prevalent?

Basic selfish human nature. I do wonder if the “self-esteem movement” with its focus on self and the increasing laxness in discipline over the last several years have affected it also.

4. What’s the best way to resist peer pressure?

Keeping one’s focus on God and asking Him to stir up in us a greater love for Him and desire to please Him more than anyone else. Plus, I think, the training to just walk away from it rather than rationalizing it.

5. What is the most serious illness or injury you ever faced?

Transverse myelitis, in which a virus attacks the spine. I couldn’t walk on my own for a few months and had a laundry list of other quirky symptoms. I wrote more about it here.

6. When was the last time you felt like you had a laugh with God?

I don’t know that I would have put it quite that way, but I do believe God has a sense of humor. The times I feel most like what I think you’re talking about are when I am getting after my children about something, and it’s almost like I sense God tapping me on the shoulder and asking, “Do you hear yourself?” And I realize I need the same instruction I am giving them. The other times are when I am thinking of myself more highly than I ought to and then do something really stupid — God’s gentle reminder that I need to be more humble.

7. This question was inspired by a friend. My friend went through a very tragic experience, and I so wanted to comfort her, but did not have the words to. I had a conversation with her at a later date and asked her what do you say to someone when they are going through a tragedy, because I know that people say the wrong things even when there intentions were good. So, here is my question…. What do you say to someone who is going through a tragic or hard time?

I think it just depends on the person, the situation, and how you feel the Lord is leading at the time. For me most often I would just give them a hug and let them know I am praying for them, and let them indicate if they want to talk any further. I know even for the same person, sometimes they might feel like talking and sometimes not.

Once when I was working at a department store,  the husband of one of the ladies there passed away. She was off work for several days, and when she came back one of the other older ladies was telling some of us that the day she went back to work after her husband died was almost as hard as the funeral. So when I saw the first lady, I just told her I was glad to see her back, but didn’t go any further. Later in the break room, though, she began talking to me about the situation. She wanted to talk about it. I remember when one co-worker had a miscarriage, she didn’t want anyone at work to say anything about it at all. But one lady went to her and made it a point to express her sympathies, and that upset her.

So — I don’t think there is a pat formula. I know for various things I have gone through in my life, sometimes the Lord sent just the right person with just what I needed to hear — “a word in due season.” But some people seemed to want to pry or force the issue or couldn’t seem to take the hint that now was now a good time. It just all goes back to asking the Lord to lead you and being an instrument in His hands.

Know and Tell Friday

(My Friday Show and Tell post is just below this one)

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To Know Him hosts Know and Tell Friday and asks this week:

Question 1
Did you eat candy this Valentine’s Day?

I actually didn’t. I did eat too many heart-shaped cupcakes, though. And I received candy from my husband and one son, so I will be having some in the days ahead.

Question 2
What is something you do to relax?

Read, watch TV, lie down and listen to music, play Boggle on the computer.

Question 3
(From Poole’s book) What is the best approach for resolving conflict?

I think first it’s best to pray about it to have the right attitude and perspective and to ask the Lord to show us what our part in the conflict may be. Then I think it’s best to approach the other person when you think they’re receptive — not when they’re distracted or upset. It’s best to come humbly, admitting and apologizing for our part, perhaps asking from clarity for the other person — so often conflict arises from misunderstanding. Then I think you just have to lay it out as clearly, simply, and unaccusingly as possible. A phrase I heard somewhere also helps: “Attack the problem, not the person.” And it’s good to avoid inflammatory statements or words like “always” and “never.”

That’s all easier said than done, and I have to admit I usually avoid it.

Question 4
(Poole’s book again) How would you define “freedom”? (This could probably be a bonus question).

Well, it doesn’t mean “doing anything I want whenever I want to do it.” That seems to be the way most people think of it, but even in the freest country in the world, one can’t live without some kinds of rules. Spiritually I think it means freedom from oppressive requirements and rituals in order to be right with God, freedom from sin and guilt though faith in Christ’s sacrifice for our sins, and freedom to do what He wants us to do by His power.

Question 5
(Poole’s book) On a scale of 1-10, how happy do you usually feel? Explain.

I guess that depends on what you mean by happy. I am quick to laugh and see the funny side of things, but I am not a “life of the party” type. I can be a perfectionist, which means a lot of frustration. I can be downright cranky. I don’t know — maybe a 7 generally? I never know how to put numbers on these things.

Question 6
If you could choose one “SIN” that you would never have to struggle with for the rest of your life what would it be?

Selfishness. That manifests itself in so many forms — pride, self-seeking, lack of self-control.

Question 7
What is one thing that breaks your heart?

Lost people trying to live without the Lord’s comfort and help and heading toward an awful end.

Works-For-Me Wednesday: Eye-level recipe holder

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WFMW is being guest-hosted by Melanie at Don’t Try This At Home this week since Shannon is in Uganda.

I don’t have a lot of counter space in my kitchen. When I am making something with a recipe, it’s hard to find a place where I can put it and see it easily while stirring and mixing, etc. Plus I am needing to get things closer to my eyes to see them these days. 🙂

I saw this idea in a magazine (I don’t remember which one — I think it was Taste of Home or one of its spin-offs). I tried it tonight and it worked great.

Recipe hanger

You just take a pants or skirt hanger and clip the magazine into it, then hang it from the knob of an upper cabinet. This would also work if you have recipes in a notebook and can remove a page at a time.

It would probably also work for recipe cards except that if they are clipped from one side it would probably lean: perhaps another card could be clipped to the other side to balance it, or if you had a similar hanger that was child-sized, that would work for cards or smaller recipes. They used to make little hangers with a single clothespin-type clip for hanging nylons after washing: that would work great if I could find one. I used to have several of them when I wasn’t using them: I’ll have to check through junk drawers to see if I kept any.

But I was thrilled: I loved having the recipe at almost eye level.

Know and Tell Friday

(My Friday Show and Tell post is just below this one)

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To Know Him hosts Know and Tell Friday and asks this week:

Question 1
(In honor of my best fwend today…. she has been so ill 😦 How often do you get real sick?

Not real often: maybe one or two good colds a year.

Question 2
Do you usually send serious or humorous greeting cards? Why?

It just depends — on the occasion, the person, the frame of mind I am in when shopping, and most importantly, what’s available. As I look through the variety of cards I choose whichever one seems to fit the best. However, I do send more humorous cards than I used to. Some of the serious, sentimental ones go way over the top. Plus I think maybe I’ve lightened up a bit over the years. 🙂

Question 3
Are you a person who has a whole lot of acquaintances, or just a few very close friends?

I have both, I think. If you have just a few close friends, everyone else will be an acquaintance. 😀 But all through life I have had just a few close friends rather than a “group.”

Question 4
If you could cure a disease, or heal a sickness, which one would you choose?

That would be hard. Cancer comes to mind first because it is so devastating and pervasive, but many of my relatives struggle with heart disease and my mother battled diabetes. I’m glad I don’t have to make those decisions.

Bonus Questions
Question 5
What does “being spiritual” mean to you?

A couple of verses come to mind: “For they that are after the flesh do mind the things of the flesh; but they that are after the Spirit the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death; but to be spiritually minded is life and peace” (Romans 8:5-6) and “that we should serve in newness of spirit, and not in the oldness of the letter” (Romans 7:6b). To me a spiritual person is one who doesn’t just live by lists of dos and don’ts (though such lists are important) and who doesn’t just go through the motions, but he or she is one who has a loving relationship with the Savior and wants to please Him in everything. But I know in the world sometimes being spiritual is thought to be kind of a nebulous and inexact thing and applied to any “religious” act or feeling, though they would spurn the word “religious.” I look at it this way: if I act towards my husband in love, I am not just experiencing warm but foggy feelings towards him: rather, I seek out what he likes and try prepare the foods and buy the brands he likes, etc. I try to avoid things he doesn’t like, from rutabagas to loudness and chaos in the house. To me it is the same in our relationship with the Lord — we seek out what pleases Him and what doesn’t, we “mind the things of the Spirit,” we serve “in newness of spirit.” It’s not that special feelings aren’t there, but they’re not entirely reliable.

Question 6
Imagine you were talking to someone who did not believe in God and Jesus… How would you explain to them that Jesus is Real (from your experiences in your own life)?

I would be inclined to go more towards things like evidences in nature, fulfilled prophecy, etc., but if I were to speak from my own life, I would point to times of answered prayer, times God gave me something specific that I needed from His Word, or times I definitely saw the Lord intervene — some of those kinds of things I wrote about in a previous post about “God’s thumbprints.”

Works-For-Me Wednesday: Online shopping edition

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The first WFMW of the month is often a themed one, and this time Shannon has asked for our favorite online shops.

I love online shopping! I probably did at least half of my Christmas shopping online.

Probably everyone knows about Amazon.com. I buy a lot of books and DVDs there, and I’ve rejoiced to find used out-of-print books there, too. But I have also bought a tent and toys and I don’t know what all else.

I buy many Christian books at my local Christian bookstore — I do want to support the local economy — but what I can’t find there I look for at Christianbook.com. I’ve also bought some nice plaques there.

If you love crafts, the place to go is Etsy, where individual crafters sell their handmade items in a wide variety of categories.

I buy most of my clothes online through Woman Within (formerly the Lane Bryant catalog), Roaman’s, Just My Size, and Jessica London (all of those are plus-size stores) as well as Blair and Bedford Fair. I also occasionally buy clothes at Coldwater Creek and Silhouettes, but generally they are beyond what I like to spend. Many department stores also have online shops.

Here is a listing of other frequented places:

Current: stationery, gifts.

Oriental Trading Company: Birthday party items, also good for classrooms and VBS.

ThinkGeek: all sorts of nerdy t-shirts and gadgets like USB “toys” (like this rocket launcher).

Fabric.com: I found the Waverly fabric I wanted for my family room curtains for less, plus I found the perfect shade, which local stores didn’t carry. For many, if not all, of their fabrics, you can order a swatch first to see how you like it.

Terry’s Village: cute home decor stuff.

Lillian Vernon: I’ve bought storage-related things that that I couldn’t find locally, but they have gift items, home decor, toys, personalized items, and a number of other things.

Domestications: sheets, bedspreads and comforters, table linens.

Nanalulu’s Linen Closet: Beautiful tables linens and handkerchiefs.

Graphics for my blog or ladies’ ministry newsletter: CLM Graphics and Graphic Garden (both of these sites do have a few free graphic downloads as well).

That’s all I can think of for the moment! I did want to add, though, that many of these stores can be reached through Igive.com, which is an organization that coordinates charitable giving with shopping: a portion of each sale goes to the charity of your choice. I try to remember to start any online shopping there (they have an a-z listing of the stores who work with them as well as a “mall” where you can peruse by the type of shop you are looking for). If you don’t have a charity of choice that you support, may I suggest the Transverse Myelitis Association.

Check our more of the best of online shopping at Rocks In My Dryer.

Time Travel Tuesday: Answered prayer edition

timetraveltuesday.gifMy Life as Annie’s weekly Time Travel Tuesday asks this week:

Today we are traveling back to a time that a prayer was answered. I have had so many prayers answered and usually in a way that is totally unpredictable and not exactly how I imagined, but BETTER! So, let’s pick one and travel back to that prayer and tell about how God worked it out or answered it for you.

It was hard to narrow this down to just one! But I think the Lord would have me share this one.

I told this story in more detail here, but to condense it a little, my family is mostly unsaved. I became a Christian when I was about 17, and since then, of course, my major concern has been my family’s salvation, though verbal witnessing has been my major failing. I have prayed and I have written to family members about salvation many times, but speaking to them about it is very hard. To me the hardest one of all — both the hardest to speak to and the hardest to the gospel — was my dad. He was an alcoholic, not the most reasonable of men, and had a very bad, very short temper. My mom’s watchword was “Stay out of his way,” so staying “under the radar,” especially if he was in a bad mood, became second nature.

My parents divorced when I was 15 and my mom took the five of us kids and moved several hours away from my dad to Houston. A few years later he moved up to Houston, but an hour away on the other side. It wasn’t long after I was saved that I went to college in South Carolina. When I wrote to my dad, sometimes I wrote out the full plan of salvation, sometimes I just wrote out a salvation verse at the end of my letter, but he never commented on any of it. I figured he just ignored or skimmed over that part.

To fast forward several years, after my husband and I were married and had my oldest two boys, my dad came to SC to visit for the first time. We asked him if he would attend church with us, and at first he said no, but later he agreed to. Then he got sick. He had just gotten out of the hospital with pneumonia not long before he came, and we figured he was just doing to much too soon. We had pinned all our hopes for his salvation on his attending that service and we were greatly disappointed when he couldn’t attend that Sunday: we couldn’t understand why the Lord would allow him to be sick after he agreed to come.

The following Monday he was considerably worse, and we took him to our doctor, who sent him by ambulance to ICU with some kind of deep-seated infection. I think it was the second or third night he was in the hospital that he almost died. When they let us in to see him, he said, “When I get home, me and the Lord and Pastor Hodges (my former pastor in Texas) are going to have to have a long talk.” He had never said anything like that before, never indicated any interest. We asked him if he would like for our pastor here to visit him, and he said yes.

So our pastor came to see him for a few minutes at a time as much as ICU would allow for several days. The first night after my dad was moved to a private room, when we came in to see him, he told us he had accepted the Lord that day when Pastor Minnick came to see him. We were bowled over!

Pastor Minnick told me later that my dad had told him that he used to read the verses I wrote about salvation. I was amazed and so thankful that the Lord worked through those, and I want to encourage those of you with lost loved ones that often the Lord is working in someone’s heart through His Word even when we can’t see any outward signs of it. Keep praying; keep sharing!

To quote from my previous post:

To share with you “the rest of the story” — my dad ended up being in SC for six weeks instead of one. When he went home, I excitedly thought this would be the catalyst to reach the rest of my family. Unfortunately, it didn’t happen that way. Though there were small, discernible changes, there was no big, dramatic, obvious change. My pastor here said that when someone has lived “on the other side” for so many years (Dad was 61 at this point), sometimes the changes take place more slowly. Plus he wasn’t in church being taught and being around other believers, so I am sure that hindered his spiritual growth. He did, however, love to read, and would devour Christian books I sent him. I remember one phone call when we discussed one of the books I had sent about Soviet Christians who had been imprisoned for their faith, marveling at all they had gone through and God’s grace in sustaining them. When I got off the phone, I just sat for a moment, marveling that I had just had a conversation with my father about the Lord.

He passed away at the age of 67 and I have no doubt he is with the Lord now.

Time Travel Tuesday: Before your time edition

My Life as Annie’s weekly Time Travel Tuesday asks this week:

For this week’s time travel we will be traveling back really really far! Travel back to the oldEN days… how did your parents meet?

Well, my dad used to ride in rodeos. I don’t know what events for sure, but one day he was riding a bull that threw him: he sailed through the air, and as he came down, the bull’s horn ripped his pants leg. My mom was a teen-ager and thought the bull had ripped into his leg. She dashed into the eating area to tell her parents all about the guy whose leg had been slashed by a bull, when in he walked with nothing worse than a ripped pants leg. That’s all I can remember of the story — I imagine she was embarrassed. I don’t know if they continued to see each other there before he asked her out or if he asked her out right away. He was seven years older than she was.

The plan was for my mom to work two years after graduating from high school, and then they would get married, but my father’s father had cancer and said if they wanted him to be at their wedding they should probably move it up. So they got married in June not long after my mom graduated. I was born two years later; my grandfather did pass away before I was born..

Sadly, they divorced after eighteen years and five children. My mom said if they had waited the two years, they likely would not have gotten married. But then I wouldn’t be here, so I have mixed emotions about that. 🙂 They were not Christians at the time, and I believe they both did come to know the Lord, my dad about six years before he died at the age of 68, and my mom in her later years. Though I wish they had both believed sooner, I am glad I have the hope of seeing them again.

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Know and Tell Friday

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To Know Him hosts Know and Tell Friday and asks this week:

Question 1
What is your favorite fairy tale?

Beauty and the Beast. Not only does it have a happy ending (a lot of fairy tales don’t in their original form), but the symbolism is pretty clear. We first watched the Disney version when my middle son was pretty young, and he got even then that the prince was acting like a beast and that’s why he was portrayed as one.

 Question 2
If you could be guaranteed a spot on the reality show “Survivor”, would you go?

Nope! Nada. No way.

Question 3
Meanest thing you ever did to a sibling??? I know…. what kind of question is this
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Ugh! I’m ashamed to say I hit one of my sisters — not when we were toddlers (though I probably did then, too) but when I was a teen-ager and old enough to know better. I don’t recall that I or any of my siblings (one brother, four sisters) ever got physical very often, but for some reason I did then, and I’ve regretted it ever since.

Question 4
Best Fashion Era… 60’s, 70’s, 80’s, 90’s or now…

Maybe this is displaying my lack of fashion sense, but I can’t recall specifics of fashion for any era except the 60s, and I wouldn’t call that the best. I have some idea of what the 40s and 50s were, too (I love the 40s styles). One day in a store I overheard a mom and daughter talking about the daughter’s dressing up like a “70s lady,” and I thought, “Huh? What was there distinctive about the 70s styles?” Maybe I’ll be educated by the other answers. 🙂

Question 5
Have you ever skipped to the end of a book before you finished reading the book? 

I did when I was younger, but that really does ruin the experience. Now sometimes I even cover the bottom of the page I am on with my hand so I don’t accidentally see an important piece of information too soon.

Bonus Questions (I found these questions through a website, and boy are these challenging…)
Question 6
What’s the most humanly impossible thing you will ask God to do this year?

Saving the souls of family members who at this point are totally uninterested and do not want to discuss it.

Question 7
What is one thing you could do this year to increase your enjoyment of God?

It’s my conviction that the Enemy will always try to sabotage our efforts to spend time with the Lord. Even when we get into the habit of regular times of devotions, we can breeze through them too quickly just to have them done or we can be unfocused. Of course, that’s not always the devil’s fault — too often it’s our own flesh. As I mentioned in this post recently, I want to spend more time beholding Him.

If you’d like to join in on Know and Tell Fridays, please do! Questions are posted at To Know Him usually on Thursday evenings.

Playing tag

Liz tagged me several days ago for a meme about wish lists. Sorry to be so long getting to it, Liz! This took some thought.

The rules are as follows:

1. Each player starts with 5 gifts that they would want for the New Year.
2. People who are “CARDED” (let’s call it tagged) need to write their own Blog about their 5 things & post these rules.
3. At the end of your Blog, you need to choose 5 people to get “CARDED” and list their names.
4. Don’t forget to leave them a COMMENT telling them they’re “CARDED”, and to read your Blog.

Most of the folks I have seen who have done this have also provided a spiritual wish list

My materialistic wish list:

1. Books. 🙂  Reading is my favorite pastimes. I keep a running list of books I want to read. I send most of them on to my mother-in-law, so I don’t feel too guilty about the money spent on them.

2. Scrabble Express. I love to play word games, but my family doesn’t much. This shorter version might be a good compromise.

3. A new bedspread. Ours is falling apart. The thing that makes this hard is that the caret in our room has a floral print, which I love, but I don’t want a solid colored spread, and finding one with a pattern that doesn’t class or make the room look too busy is tricky.

4. This likely isn’t for this year, but we need to replace our living room furniture some time. The fabric is shredding in places. But with tuition for two kids and one needing glasses and braces, I don’t this will be able to happen any time soon. I’m just starting to look at slipcovers as a temporary alternative.

5. This also is not for any time soon, but when one of my sons moves out, I want to convert his room into a sewing/craft/guest room.

Spiritual wish list:

1. Less selfshness.

2. More love.

3. Less lethargy

4. More self-discipline.

5. Wisdom to know which ministries to pursue and which to lay aside.

I’m not going to tag anyone specifically for this, but let me know if you do it and I will stop by to see your lists. Or you can answer in the comments.