Fakes are fine with me

In response to the HGTV special about decorating mistakes, the worst of all (according to them) being fake flowers and plants, The Nester is asking us to show our fake plants, good, bad, and in between.

As I said yesterday, I am not good with live plants. Even though fake plants do get dusty (and I do wipe them off now and then), they last a lot longer than real ones do, and they add a welcome bit of color and cheeriness. The HGTV team recommends fruit (but a jar or plate of lemons or whatever just doesn’t do anything for my decorating sensibilities. Nothing wrong with that as decorations — I just don’t like them personally) or dried materials (which also gather dust and decompose after a while), so I will stay with my pretty fake flowers, as long as they look nice and aren’t frayed, thank you very much. 🙂

Here are a few of my “fakes”:

New flower arrangement

Heart wreath

Pink rose topiary

New floral arrangement

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Spring windowsill

Spring flowers

Hidden nest arrangement

I haven’t decorated for fall yet, but these are around my house most of the time, except for fall and Christmas.

If you’d like to join in or see other “fakers,” The Nester has a list of links here.

(You know what’s really odd…my blog stats show this post has received 126 viewings so far, but there are only 10 comments at present. I wonder if the other 116 disagree? Or hate my arrangements but are too kind to say so? I guess I’ll never know…

BTW, it’s ok to disagree [kindly]. That’s what makes all of our styles uniquely our own. 🙂 )

Decorating mistakes

Evidently HGTV had a special on recently about 25 common decorating mistakes. I didn’t hear about it beforehand or I probably would have taped it, but I saw a link at The Nester to a post where Rhoda compiled the top 25 decorating mistakes according to HGTV. I searched the HGTV site and found their lists here.

I like to think of myself as fairly easy to get along with and willing to listen to advice, but this kind of thing makes my inner rebel rise up and declare, “Who sez?” I do like to watch or read “the experts” sometimes, and I appreciate gleaning knowledge about things like how to make a small room look larger, how to place arrangements on the wall in a pleasing manner, etc. But, similarly to what I said about frumpiness and the fashion industry, this kind of advice can go way overboard sometimes:

  1. Fake flowers and plants. (I don’t do well with real plants, and even if I did, who would be able to keep up with them in very many rooms? And what about wreaths and wall hangings and such? Now, I agree that some artificial flowers scream “fake,” even to the point of frayed fabric edges, and I think it is best to try to avoid those. One reason HGTV cites for not using fake plants is that they gather dust, yet, oddly, they recommend dried natural plants. But in my experience those gather just as much dust and show it more than fabric flowers.)
  2. Too many pillows, on the bed or sofa. (This one I would agree with, just as a matter of personal preference, not necessarily because someone says it is “wrong.” I’m fairly practical and just don’t want to take off and put back pillows on a bed when I get in it or make it, or to have to arrange them constantly on the sofa because they would be constantly out of place.)
  3. Knick-knack overload. (Again, a matter of preference…and time and willingness to dust. :))
  4. Fear of color. (I think I’d agree here. I have seen some nice nearly all-white rooms that are that way not because of a fear of color but because the owner thought it looked serene. Personally I like more color than that, but I don’t like bright, bold colors in my home. I like softer, soothing colors.)
  5. Ignoring windows
  6. Pushed back furniture. (This is one of my pet peeves of decorating advice. I think furniture only needs to be pulled away from the walls is in a larger room where it would be hard to converse if the furniture was placed against the outside walls. The average home I have lived in or visited doesn’t usually have the room to do that just as a decorating scheme.)
  7. Tacky couch covers. (Plastic ones? Definitely. Protect furniture with a preventative spray rather than plastic. And ill-fitting fabric slipcovers look sloppy.)
  8. Frames too high. (I agree, but I think frames hung too low are just as much if not more of a mistake. They recommend a frame be hung over a sofa with six inches between the top of the sofa and the bottom of the frame. That’s too low for me — I have big guys who rest their arms on the backs of the couch — they’d be constantly bumping the art. And even if that wasn’t a problem, I just don’t like art right there behind my head as I am sitting down. Unless it’s a really big piece [and personally I loathe big wall art that takes up the whole space above the sofa, but that’s just me], then hanging frames that low would mean they’re too low when you’re standing. My rule of them has been to hang frames where the middle-to-top [depending on size] is at about eye level when standing.)
  9. Improper lighting (I agree with this one completely.)
  10. Floating rugs.
  11. Too many colors/patterns (I generally agree here, but then again “too many” is a relative term. I tend to be pretty conservative.)
  12. Furniture that doesn’t fit
  13. Following fads (I agree here…except sometimes you don’t know something is considered a fad until the rest of the decorating world moves on to something else and says your style is “out” now.)
  14. Everything matches (Generally agree here — I like a little variety rather than having everything the exact same color and pattern.)
  15. Lack of traffic pattern. (Definitely! Rooms that are hard to get around in are just uncomfortable in every way.)
  16. Uncomfortable dining room chairs.
  17. Too formal (It does need to be livable.)
  18. Keeping something you hate.
  19. Lopsided furnishings.
  20. Outdated accessories (This is a hard one to pin down — what looks outdated to one person might look retro or vintage to someone else. And it is VERY expensive to replace things like kitchen cabinets just to get a newer look.)
  21. Out-of-Place Themes (Rhoda’s list just said “Themes,” which I do like to some extent, but the HGTV site listed “Out of Place Themes” like a beach-style room in Alaska. That makes sense.)
  22. Undressed cables. (True. Love technology but hate the abundance of wires and cables.)
  23. Ignoring the foyer. (That first impression does set the tone for how your house comes across to other people.)
  24. Too many family photos (This one bothered me until I read their reasoning. I think my reaction stemmed from a home economics teacher who looked down on the idea of using many family photos. True, you don’t want your home to look like a shrine, but on the other hand I love to see family photos in a family room or hallway. Having a lived-in, family-oriented home is more important to me than having a magazine-cover rooms.)
  25. Contoured Toilet rugs. (Well, they do keep my feet warm in the winter, and my feet aren’t where any yucky stuff would be [I live with all males — if you have any in your home you know what I mean. :)] And I would much rather toss the rug in the wash than have to mop the floor every day, which is what I’d feel I needed to do without a rug.

I have to admit after I read the designers’ comments in context on the HGTV site, I didn’t feel quite as riled as I did when I first saw the list. 🙂 And I did see that the show is scheduled to air again November 2.

As a general rule I do enjoy decorating shows though I don’t watch them often. Sometimes I can be inspired by a lot of creative and helpful ideas: sometimes some of the specific things they do are immensely impractical for a real family to live with. I like to just glean what I like and what works for me without really worrying much about whether a designer would approve.

Taking every thought captive

I found this very helpful and practical thought in the September 6 reading of Joy and Strength, compiled by Mary Tileston:

Bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ. 2 Corinthians 10:5

Some have found it a useful thing when their minds have wandered off from devotion and been snared by some good but irrelevant consideration, not to cast away the offending thought as the eyes are again lifted to the Divine Face, but to take it captive, carry it into the presence of God and weave it into a prayer before putting it aside and resuming the original topic. This is to lead captivity captive.
~ Charles Brent

Jesus, I Am Resting

One of my favorite hymns:

Jesus, I am resting, resting,
In the joy of what Thou art;
I am finding out the greatness
Of Thy loving heart.
Thou hast bid me gaze upon Thee,
And Thy beauty fills my soul,
For by Thy transforming power,
Thou hast made me whole.

O, how great Thy loving kindness,
Vaster, broader than the sea!
O, how marvelous Thy goodness,
Lavished all on me!
Yes, I rest in Thee, Belovèd,
Know what wealth of grace is Thine,
Know Thy certainty of promise,
And have made it mine.

Simply trusting Thee, Lord Jesus,
I behold Thee as Thou art,
And Thy love, so pure, so changeless,
Satisfies my heart;
Satisfies its deepest longings,
Meets, supplies its every need,
Compasseth me round with blessings:
Thine is love indeed!

Ever lift Thy face upon me
As I work and wait for Thee;
Resting ’neath Thy smile, Lord Jesus,
Earth’s dark shadows flee.
Brightness of my Father’s glory,
Sunshine of my Father’s face,
Keep me ever trusting, resting,
Fill me with Thy grace.

~ Jean S. Pig­ott, 1876.

Saturday Funnies

My husband suggested this once for our home decor…

If you can’t see it very well, it is a clear toilet seat and lid with little plastic fishies in it.

Umm…no thanks, dear. 🙂

Someone sent this in an e-mail:
Redneck Wedding Cake:

Some favorites from icanhascheezburger.com/

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Poetry Friday: John Greenleaf Whittier

Years ago when I was in college, someone jotted these lines across the back of an envelope of a note sent to me:

Drop Thy still dews of quietness,
Till all our strivings cease;
Take from our souls the strain and stress,
And let our ordered lives confess
The beauty of Thy peace.

I thought it was lovely, but I didn’t know where it came from (funny the difference the Internet makes in our lives with the ability to look these things up immediately!) Then some years later I found the same lines quoted and attributed to John Greenleaf Whittier in something Elisabeth Elliot wrote, though now I don’t remember what. Later still I heard it on the radio as a hymn. I don’t remember if I have ever sung it in church — I may have. But just recently I found it from from a much longer poem.

A few of the other verses are:

Dear Lord and Father of mankind,
Forgive our foolish ways;
Reclothe us in our rightful mind,
In purer lives Thy service find,
In deeper reverence, praise.

With that deep hush subduing all
Our words and works that drown
The tender whisper of Thy call,
As noiseless let Thy blessing fall
As fell Thy manna down.

Drop Thy still dews of quietness,
Till all our strivings cease;
Take from our souls the strain and stress,
And let our ordered lives confess
The beauty of Thy peace.

Breathe through the heats of our desire
Thy coolness and Thy balm;
Let sense be dumb, let flesh retire;
Speak through the earthquake, wind, and fire,
O still, small voice of calm.

More can be found under the hymn titled “Dear Lord and Father of Mankind” at Cyberhymnal. I am not as familiar with either of the tunes listed there: I have always heard it more often to the melody of the Navy Hymn, Eternal Father Strong to Save.

Whittier was a Quaker, which had a whole philosophy called “quietism” that I don’t ascribe to. But the Bible speaks of a “meek and quiet spirit, which is in the sight of God of great price” (I Peter 3:4a) and says in one of my favorite verses “For thus saith the Lord GOD, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength” (Isaiah 30:15). David asks himself repeatedly in Psalm 42 and 43, “Why art thou cast down, O my soul? and why art thou disquieted within me?” The quietness in these verses is not a mystical state, but rather just a a peace of spirit resting on and trusting in the Lord. As David says in answer to his own question, “hope thou in God: for I shall yet praise him, who is the health of my countenance, and my God” (Psalm 42:11b). Psalm 46:10 a says, “Be still, and know that I am God.” Psalm 112:7 says, “He shall not be afraid of evil tidings: his heart is fixed, trusting in the LORD.” Psalm 46:1-3 says, “God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble. Therefore will not we fear, though the earth be removed, and though the mountains be carried into the midst of the sea; Though the waters thereof roar and be troubled, though the mountains shake with the swelling thereof.” I have reminded myself at times that if I can trust God to carry me through those circumstances, I can trust Him for whatever more minor problems I am facing.

The last two lines are an allusion to Elijah’s encounter with the Lord in I Kings 19: “And he said, Go forth, and stand upon the mount before the LORD. And, behold, the LORD passed by, and a great and strong wind rent the mountains, and brake in pieces the rocks before the LORD; but the LORD was not in the wind: and after the wind an earthquake; but the LORD was not in the earthquake: And after the earthquake a fire; but the LORD was not in the fire: and after the fire a still small voice” (verses 11-12). I thought it odd that Whittier would say, ” Speak through the earthquake, wind, and fire,” when this passage says God did not speak through those means. Then it occurred to me he probably meant “through” not as in using those means to express Himself, but rather Whittier is asking God to speak to him in the midst of turmoil, to let him hear God’s still small voice over all the other clamor.

I found this lovely version on YouTube.

The Poetry Friday Round-Up can be found at Wild Rose Reader today.

Show and Tell Friday: Family room and pin

Kelli at There’s No Place Like Home hosts “Show and Tell Friday” asking Do you have a something special to share with us? It could be a trinket from grade school, a piece of jewelry, an antique find. Your show and tell can be old or new. Use your imagination and dig through those old boxes in your closet if you have to! Feel free to share pictures and if there’s a story behind your special something, that’s even better! If you would like to join in, all you have to do is post your “Show and Tell” on your blog, copy the post link, come over here and add it to Mr. Linky. Guidelines are here.

Recently I found this sweet little pin on sale at Sweet Necessi-Teas.

Sweet pin

If you’ve been reading here long, you know I love hearts and pink roses and vintage/old fashioned things…and sales! So this fit the bill all the way around!

As the shop’s name would suggest, most of its items have something to do with tea, but I didn’t notice until after I looked at it a while that the little charm at the bottom is a tea bag. Isn’t that cute? Unfortunately it’s a little dark right there in the picture.

I also loved the way it came packaged:

Package

Something I hope to accomplish in the next week is to figure out how to arrange these

Family room decorations

On this wall.

Family room wall

A while back we replaced our TV and entertainment center, and the new cabinet was wider than the old one, so we had to take out bookcases that used to flank it and put them in another room. That left a lot of wall space. I’ve been collecting various items through sales and received some as gifts. I want to get a shelf as long as the long piece there (which, by the way, I got half-price at Hobby Lobby!) I am thinking of making three separate groupings, one over the TV, and one on each side, maybe placed a little lower. I’m thinking of putting the long plaque and a shelf over the TV.

The picture up there now is an older one I got during a Home Interiors craze that went through all my friends years ago. 🙂

Family room picture

It shows a mom stopping what she is doing to sit down and look at her child’s picture. I loved that — and hope I remembered to do that often! Of course, I love the house and flowers and colors in it, too. It’s appropriate for a family room, but I am trying to downplay pink and flowers in this room for the boys’ sake. So I haven’t decided whether to keep this in here or put it somewhere else…though there is really no room anywhere else for it.

I also had this painting over the mantle before receiving my Shepherd print.

Painting from Gayle

It is special to me because of who made it. Several years ago when we lived in GA, the church we attended had a “secret sister” program where we drew names at the beginning of the year and prayed for and did little things for our secret sister anonymously throughout the year and then found out who our secret sister was at the end of the year. I drew the name of a lady named Gayle, who was very artistic and crafty. She couldn’t do much in that vein for her secret sister, though, because then that would reveal who she was in our very small church. So she often waited to do something special til the end of the year. Well, that particular year I had her name, but we found we were going to have to move in May, so I went ahead and revealed my identity to her. She gave me this as a thank you. I love it because it is from her, and I love the dogwood blossoms — two of the four homes we have lived in have had white dogwoods. She admitted that the little bird ended up “looking like he was ready to peck someone’s eye out.” 🙂 She added the verse because she said it reminded her of me, though it is actually speaking of wisdom. I hope I have gained and display wisdom, pleasantness, and peace, though I assured her I am far from walking in any of those elements perfectly.

But I am not quite sure where to place this little birdie. Decisions, decisions!

Hopefully I’ll have this figured out and can show you the finished project next time.

Thanks to Kelli for creating and hostessing Show and Tell Friday! Other show-and-tellers can be found there.

Booking Through Thursday: Peer Pressure

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The Booking Through Thursday question for today is:

Have you ever felt pressured to read something because ‘everyone else’ was reading it? Have you ever given in and read the book(s) in question or do you resist? If you are a reviewer, etc, do you feel it’s your duty to keep up on current trends?

Curious, maybe, but not pressured. I am influenced by the recommendations of other people I trust and keep a list of those titles to possibly check out, but I don’t feel the pull to jump on the latest literary bandwagon. I prefer to do my own thing. Usually, in fact, I am disappointed in whatever is making the latest buzz in the book world.

If I were a paid book reviewer, that might be a different story — it would depend on who I was working for and what they wanted me to cover. I mostly just review books I like, and as Meghan said, even older books that aren’t well known. In fact, I take pleasure in telling people about those “hidden treasures.”

Booking Through Thursday is a weekly meme which can be found here.

Creativity Test

I saw this over at Janet‘s.

My results were:

Left Brain Right Brain
53% 47%

You are more left-brained than right-brained. Your left brain controls the right side of your body. In addition to being known as left-brained, you are also known as a critical thinker who uses logic and sense to collect information. You are able to retain this information through the use of numbers, words, and symbols. You usually only see parts of the “whole” picture, but this is what guides you step-by-step in a logical manner to your conclusion. Concise words, numerical and written formulas and technological systems are often forms of expression for you. Some occupations usually held by a left-brained person include a lab scientist, banker, judge, lawyer, mathematician, librarian, and skating judge.

I knew I’d be more left-brained, but I was surprised and pleased that the two sides were so close in score. Janet‘s scores were similar and she wondered if that meant the two sides would cancel each other out. I told her it meant our brains were ambidextrous. 🙂

It is odd that the results mention numbers, because on any question involving numbers I marked the lowest possible answer. I am not good with numbers. I easily lose my place just in counting, and when adding things up I usually have to do so several times to get the same answer twice.

I can’t see myself in any of those professions except librarian: I worked in a college library for four years while in school. As an adult I wouldn’t have minded a part-time job in a library except that the ones I have checked on required degrees in library science.

But other than that I think this paragraph and the rest of the evaluation are pretty right on.

I liked that the test said, “Being creative or artistic doesn’t mean you know how to draw or play an instrument. Being creative is a way of thinking, a way of viewing the world.”

You can find the test here or by clicking the graphic above. Let me know how you scored!

A new blogging meme!

I made up the following meme to learn a little more about my fellow bloggers. I tried not to duplicate the questions from other blogging memes I’ve seen. This one seems to focus more on the social aspect of blogging, though I hadn’t originally intended it to have that emphasis — but “Why do you blog?” and “How did you get started?” went around often ages ago. But if you have never answered those question, feel free to do so!

How do you feel about being tagged for memes?

I consider it an honor that the person tagging me thought of me. I may or may not participate, depending on how busy I am at the time and whether I can think of anything interesting to answer. I usually do them, though.

Do you participate in any regular weekly memes? Which ones?

I usually do Kelli’s Show and Tell Friday and TN Chick‘s Saturday Photo Scavenger Hunt pretty regularly. I love the creativity of both of them. I used to do Wordless Wednesday and Thursday Thirteen and Friday Feasts pretty regularly but eventually ran out of interesting material for them, plus they have both gotten so big! I ran out of ideas fro Shannon‘s Works For Me Wednesday long ago, but I still participate from time to time when I come across a great tip. I’ve done others for a while here and there.

I think of memes as getting out to meet the neighbors. Sometimes new bloggers begin posting all their wonderful things for people to read and then get discouraged when no one comes around. But, unlike real-life neighborhoods, no one knows your blog is there unless you get out and around (even search engines don’t list you much unless you’re beginning to get some traffic, unless you’ve posted something unique). It is true in blogging as it is elsewhere that “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly” (Proverbs 18:24).

Of course, I don’t want to have just a meme blog, either — I strive for the right balance.

Have you found any bloggers that you began to read regularly after participating in a meme with them?

Yes. I always enjoyed Melli‘s entries and comments on Thursday Thirteens and Friday’s Feasts. and then began to read her regularly, and then subscribed to her blog. There may be others I found that way, but I don’t remember now.

Do you know of any readers who found you through a meme and became regular readers?

Jewel told me she found me through a Thursday Thirteen. It’s funny because it was at a time when neither of us was participating in it regularly, but we both happened to on the same day and liked what we read enough to keep coming back. 🙂

Did you find any favorite blogs through comments or blogrolls on others’ blogs?

Yes, especially in the early days, I’d click on the blogrolls of blogs I read to find more interesting reads. After a while you get too many to handle, though, and have to pare down. Every now and then someone’s gracious or funny comment on someone else’s blog will cause me to click over out of curiosity.

Did you find any favorite blogs from someone else’s recommendation?

Yes, I first clicked over to Barb’s blog because I had seen her mentioned several times as a sweet new blogger. There have been others, too, that I clicked on through some other blogger’s mention and liked what I read and kept reading. There have been others I read for a while but then stopped.

If you comment on someone’s blog, do you expect a response? If so, do you prefer that response to come through an e-mail, a comment from them on the same post, or a a comment on your blog?

I don’t expect a response, unless I asked a direct question, but it’s nice. Unless the post I commented on is a “hot” topic or has an ongoing discussion, I don’t usually go back to see if the blogger commented on my comment, so those kinds of responses are usually lost on me. An e-mail response is nice, but probably I prefer a comment on my blog in response. Though we shouldn’t comment on other people’s blogs just to get them to come visit us, it is nice when they do.

I usually try to at least click on the link of people who comment here and visit them and respond, but I know I have failed to do that sometimes.

Do you ever struggle with your blogging “voice”?

Yes. Sometimes I wish I were as funny as this blogger, as poignant as that one, as inspirational or able to convey spiritual truth as another. When I post a lot of memes or “fun” stuff, I feel perhaps I should be more serious and spiritually-minded. When I have had a lot of serious posts, I feel I should lighten up a little.

Sometimes I wonder if I should be more focused, but, really, I have felt from the beginning that this blog would be more of a hodgepodge, reflecting the many things I love and am interested in. I want to be a good testimony and an encouragement to other women spiritually, but I don’t think you have to have a strictly spiritual/devotional blog in order to do that. I am ministered to by others’ whole personality, not just their teaching.

I’ve also thought about splitting off into a separate blog, say, for book related things, but so far I really like keeping all the different aspects of my blogging here.

Are there certain types of blogs that attract you?

Well, as I said above, many of the blogs I read show something of another person’s personality that attracts me. There are some that I read because of the excellent writing: they convey everyday incidents in a funny or beautiful way. I also subscribe to a number of crafting and decorating blogs because they inspire me. There are some I read because of the spiritual truth they aptly convey. But honestly I don’t read many that are strictly instructional and devotional. I get a lot of spiritual teaching through many different avenues, and there is so much available, it would be easy to read those kinds of things every available moment — and not get anything out of them because I am cramming too much into my brain without thinking through any of it. So I read just a few with food for thought and enough time to “digest” them mentally and spiritually.

Are there certain types of blogs that repel you?

I avoid blogs with profanity and obscenity. I have unsubscribed from blogs whose views I agree with when their tone has gotten too harsh or when they constantly seem to have a chip-on-the-shoulder attitude. Blogs that seem to be too commercial or that overdo attempts to drive people back to their blog wear thin after a very short while.

What time of day do you usually blog?

It varies. I usually read blogs in the mornings with breakfast. Sometimes I post then, sometimes I post in the late evenings. A lot depends on my family’s schedule and computer availability.

Do your family and friends know about your blog? Do they read it? Do they mind if you mention them? Do they suggest posts for it?

My immediate family knows about it. I think my husband reads it pretty regularly, my older boys may glance at it occasionally. I have mentioned it to my extended family and friends in a Christmas letter once, but I don’t know if any of them checked it out (say hello if you did!!) I know of only one person from my church who reads it (Hello, Carol!) and one older friend who I think does (Hello, Valorie!) as well as a few people I knew in college. I don’t think my family minds being mentioned as long as it is not embarrassing to them. Just occasionally someone in my immediate family will suggest I blog something. Sometimes I do, sometimes I think, “Hey! Get your own blog!” 😀

I know as soon as I hit the Publish button, I am going to think of some more questions! But I guess I will save those for another time.

I won’t tag anyone, but feel free to take part! If you do, please link back to me as the originator of the meme, if you don’t mind. 🙂

(Photo courtesy of the stock.xchng.)