“If you come cheerily…”

My Ultimate Blog Party post is a few posts below, or you can click here. I updated it a little.

I don’t know what brought this poem to mind, but I saw it somewhere ages ago. If I ever have an official guest room, I want to put it there in some form. To me this is the essence of hospitality.

If you come cheerily,
Here shall be jest for you;
If you come wearily,
Here shall be rest for you.

If you come borrowing,
Gladly we’ll loan to you;
If you come sorrowing,
Love shall be shown to you.

Under our thatch, friend,
Place shall abide for you,
Touch but the latch, friend,
The door will swing wide for you.

– Nancy Byrd Turner

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(This cute little house is from a purchased set from the Graphic Garden. )

If I am like this now….

….what am I going to be like in 10 or 20 years??

I had made Quick Chicken Parmesan for dinner, popped it in the oven, and had about half an hour to wait til it got done. I went downstairs and played a game of Wii bowling with the boys, messed around on the computer for a while, then sauntered back upstairs to rustle up a salad and take dinner out of the oven. Then I realized I had forgotten all about making the spaghetti noodles to go with the chicken parmesan. 🙄 Thankfully they don’t take too long to cook.

Quick Chicken Parmesan 

10 chicken tenderloin pieces
1 can tomato sauce seasoned with oregano, basil, garlic powder, and minced onion (it’s ideal to add 1 small can of tomato paste, but not absolutely necessary)
Mozzarella cheese
Parmesan cheese
Cooked spaghetti noodles (we like angel-hair pasta)

Place the chicken tenderloin pieces in a single layer in a baking pan. Sprinkle with salt, pepper, garlic powder, and minced onion. Mix in oregano, basil, garlic powder, and minced onion with the tomato sauce (not sure how much — I just sprinkle it in); pour over chicken. Cover with grated or thinly sliced mozzarella. Sprinkle with Parmesan cheese. Bake at 400 degrees for 20-30 minutes if chicken is thawed; 30-40 minutes if frozen.

This serves our family of five. You can, of course, use your favorite ready-made spaghetti sauce instead. In “real” chicken parmesan, the chicken is breaded, but I figure this saves calories as well as time .

My blog in….Chinese?

WordPress blogs have a Dashboard with a link for “blog stats” where we can see how many “hits” our blog had on a given day, whether people clicked on a link to get to us (that sections is called “Referrers), what links on our site were clicked on, and what search words or phrases pulled up our blog.

I noticed yesterday a listing in the Referrers section for a link with Google translator in the url. Curious, I clicked on it, and found…my blog, same header, pictures and everything, only in Oriental characters. I don’t know if it is Chinese or Japanese or what.

My first thought was that someone ‘swiped” my blog. I had heard of that happening — I think it’s called “scraping” — where someone sets up a site and swipes posts from other blogs. But usually those things are surrounded by ads so the person can make money off of it. I showed it to my son and he said there was a way someone could use Google translator to read a site that is in a different language.

I think it is neat that someone found my blog and wanted to read it in Chinese (or Japanese or Korean or whatever). I’m wondering what they searched for that pulled my blog up.

I’m also wondering what Google translator does with words like “germophobe” and “grossed me out” which appeared in my last post. 😀

I’m also wondering if the e-mail with Oriental characters caught in the spam folder in my gmail account is Oriental spam or someone commenting.

Yuck!

I had a hankering for a burger today, so called my oldest son at work to see if he wanted to bring home some Wendy’s singles when he came home for lunch, which he readily agreed to.

We were eating, chatting, and passing parts of the newspaper back and forth to each other, and I wasn’t really looking at my food. When I had eaten about a third of it, I happened to notice the meat was red.

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I don’t know if it is showing up as very red there — but as a confessed germophobe who likes every meat very well done, it kind of grossed me out. I probably should’ve taken it back to Wendy’s — but it’s raining and I didn’t want to go back out. They couldn’t do anything about the part I had already eaten, anyway. I took a picture for evidence. 😀 Then I zapped it in the microwave until there wasn’t the slightest hint of pink. I like pink, but not in my meat.

I’ve never had this problem with Wendy’s, though I have at other places.

I hope there’s no E coli lurking there!

Here and there

(The Saturday Photo Hunt is below)

Here are some things I’ve seen “around” that I have enjoyed and thought you might, too.

A woman is complete in Christ – nothing more and nothing less. Marriage and/or motherhood may change her worldly status and role, but they do nothing to make her more complete in Christ. Salvation, wholeness, and meaning are found in Christ alone.

  •  Are you familiar with Karla Dornacher? One of her books, Love in Every Room, is one of my favorites and stays out on the end table all the time. I love her style. Susan at By Grace mentioned a few days ago that Karla has a blog now. She’s even having a contest to give away some of her greeting cards!
  • There are some gorgeous 4x4s at Everyday Is a Holiday that someone is using for a baking theme for their kitchen. A baking theme! How perfect for a kitchen. Why did I never think of that? I love Jenny’s quote here: it fits my world:

As artists, we’re not trying to make statements about war, or oppression, or poverty. We’re littler than that. What we think about when we create are the things that you don’t usually bother to think about…the little world that surrounds you when you  sleepily sip your morning coffee…the domestic sights your eyes gaze upon when you do the dishes after dinner…the backdrop of your everyday…the cake you bake on a random Tuesday…the color of the streamers at a kid’s birthday party.

  •  Heather at HELLOmenameisHeather shared pictures of her studio this week. I am trying awfully hard not be covetous. 😀  Talk about the ultimate sewing and craft room. It’s beautiful, tranquil. inspiring. I would so love to have one room to devote to that (no, that’s not a hint to my sons. 🙂 ), but even if you don’t have a whole room, she shared many different little storage techniques.
  • Mrs. Wilt at The Sparrow’s Nest is beginning a series on the woman of Proverbs 31. There is always much food for meditation there and I am looking forward to learning from the Proverbs 31 woman once again. But I always remember, and encourage others to remember, that this ultimate Biblical lady didn’t accomplish all of what is listed there in one day. Sometimes women can get discouraged at all of her accomplishments, but remember this is a picture of a lifetime, not “a day in the life.”
  • Finally, you may have seen this one before as an nominee to the Hidden Treasure Awards that Everyday Mommy sponsored, but this post on Honoring My Covenant at A Dusty Frame has stayed with me for days. In my reading this morning I came to that passage about Joshua and the Gibeonites and the covenant they made, which Joshua needed to keep even though the Gibeonites weren’t totally honest. Then when Joshua and the children of Israel had to battle to defend Gibeon, the Lord marvelously enabled them. I never thought of this passage in regard to marriage, but marriage is a covenant. Something may change in one or both parties of a covenant, but the covenant is still in effect, and God will give grace when we honor our covenants. This and the rest of the post were just so profound and thought-provoking, I wanted to share it with you.

I finished Jane Eyre this week and want to talk about that a little, but I need to get to Wal-Mart and then get some chores done, so it will have to wait. Have a great Saturday!

My word cloud

You can get one of these at Snap Shirts — they’ll search your blog, make the word cloud, and send you the jpg file.

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I wish I could breathe through my nose.

I wish I could drill a hole in each cheekbone to relieve the pressure. But it would probably be a little off-putting to anyone who saw me to see four nostrils — two of them in cheekbones — no matter how much relief it would afford me.

Jesse gave me his cold. I told him it was quite generous, but, really, he could keep it to himself. I just hope I don’t get his pink eye, too.

Love’s influence

Last night at church my pastor asked for testimonies about people who had shown love to us in a way that influenced and impacted our lives. Most of us could tell about many such people. I rarely work up the nerve to say anything publicly in church, but my mind immediately went to Mrs. C. — I don’t know if she would want her name mentioned on the Internet, so I’ll just call her by that moniker.

I had become a Christian as a teen-ager, and my family was mostly unsaved. On Sunday mornings I would take my younger sisters to Sunday School and church with me, but otherwise I went by myself. My church was my second home, and I think of that time as my childhood in the Lord. The church folks were wonderful to me.

During my sophomore year of college, a new family moved to our area and began attending our church. I met them when I came home for the summer. On Father’s Day several of us were asked to give testimonies about our fathers. I don’t remember what I said except that, with my father being unsaved, there was something missing from our relationship, and I began to give testimony instead to God as my heavenly Father. (If I were to give a similar testimony today I would emphasize that the Lord had taught me to respect my parents, even when they did things that did not invite respect [my father was an alcoholic with a very short temper], and more than that, to love them, and that godly love is the greatest testimony and influence to them. My father did not make himself an easy person to love, yet I do have pleasant memories, especially from early childhood, and there were life lessons he taught me that I appreciate. My testimony of him would be completely different now than what it was then. But maybe that’s another post for another time.)

Afterward this new family, the C. family, spoke to me. They told me if I ever needed someone to talk to, I should feel free to call them. I warned them that I would take them up on that offer. 🙂 At some point they invited me to their home for dinner, and our relationship just grew from there until I began to think of them as my spiritual family.

I don’t think they took me “under their wing” with a view to teach, to instruct, to be an example — I don’t think they saw me as a ministry or a project. I think they were just extending love. But just seeing the example of a godly Christian home was such a tremendous influence on me. I had always, in all my childhood imaginings of what I wanted to be when I grew up and alongside those other aspirations, wanted to be a wife and mother. After I became a Christian I wanted to have a distinctively Christian home. And in the C. household I saw that lived out. I saw the father’s firmness and headship of his family. I saw the children, though normal and not perfect, sinless children, love and respect their parents. I saw a loving cheery atmosphere. But most of all I saw Mrs. C. — her merry heart, her loving submission to her husband, her gentleness with her children, her creativity and industriousness in her home, her servant’s heart at church, and her interest and care for me. She was the same sweet, cheery, helpful, outreaching person in every venue. I began calling her “Mom” (not to replace my mom — I loved my mom dearly — but in a way different from my mom) and her daughter, who was a few years younger and who happened to look like me, and who later was my maid of honor, my sister. To this day she is “Mom C.” Though Mr. C. passed away several years ago, I still keep in touch with Mrs. C. She remembers all of my family’s birthdays and our anniversary.

I don’t know what I would be and what my home would be without her example and influence. I love her dearly.

I’d like to hear your stories of how someone’s love influenced you. I wish my blog host supported “Mr. Linky” if it did I would really do this up big. 🙂 But as it is, if you just want to leave a comment, or write a post on your blog and leave a link to it here, I’d love to read it.

Singleness

A couple of years ago my oldest son and some of his other friends who had no girlfriends declared Valentine’s Day S. A. D.  — Single Awareness Day.  🙂

I can imagine that this day can feel awkward, sad, or even painful for single people.

Some years ago my eyes were opened, so to speak, about how things can look and feel to single people in church (in general, not just in relation to Valentine’s Day) by the article “Single on Sunday Morning” by Camerin Courtney. One comment she makes is, “I think churches, in their quest to restore ‘family values’ to modern society, have simply overlooked those of us who aren’t currently in families.” I think that can be true. In discussions about this with single ladies on a couple of Christian message boards I have participated in, I’ve tried to convey that families do need help. Society does seem to be undermining the Christian concept of a family, and, even if it wasn’t, most people don’t go into marriage or parenthood knowing what it is all about (those who think they do are usually humbled very quickly. 🙂 ) Plus, “all Scripture is given by inspiration of God and is profitable…” (II Timothy 3:16-17). There are passages directed to pastors, husbands, fathers, oxen-owners, etc., that may not seem to apply to me directly, but when I come to those in the Bible or hear them preached on in church, I need to try to see what God wants me to see and understand from those passages. So, too, with passages or messages about marriage and family — there are many parallels between those relationships and our relationship with God.

Yet, I can see how church can seem to be geared towards couples and families. Not long after discovering this article, our Sunday School class leader was discussing an upcoming fellowship for our class. Someone asked if they could bring children, and our leader said, “No, this event is couples-only.” I know he meant adults rather than couples, but I winced at that, especially as two single ladies in my line of vision looked at each other and smiled (and, ironically, the event was being held at the home of one of them).

I am not sure what all of the answers are, except to watch out for that kind of thing and to try to be more thoughtful and sensitive. I am sure the answer is not for single people to pull away. Another comment Camerin made in the above article was, “I think we singles have been guilty of segregating ourselves and not operating as fully-functioning parts of the body of Christ.” If you study some of the single women mentioned in the Bible — Anna, Mary Magdalene, Mary and Martha, Lydia, Dorcas — they are all active in the body of Christ, very much a part of things, serving Him and serving others.

I have known some single women who felt 100% sure that God wanted them single and were happy to be so. I’ve known some who seemed very hurt and sensitive, almost bitter about being single. And I have known some who were willing to be single if God wanted them to be but really would like to be married and tried to patiently wait on Him while sometimes battling with contentment and loneliness.

If I may share this, that’s something we all have in common no matter what our situation: we all have to deal with contentment and loneliness, just in different particulars. Even married people can feel lonely when a spouse is away, disagrees with them, or doesn’t understand them. That’s one of the things you read in almost any article or book about marriage or relationships: no one person can ever meet all of your needs all of the time or understand you fully and completely. Married or single, we need to be secure in our relationship with the Lord and in who we are in Him.

In some ways I am even hesitant to write these things for fear of a “Well, what would you know about it” reaction. I want to be encouraging, not come across as patronizing. But let me share a couple of other articles by single women. One is by the same Camerin Courtney about 6 years after the one I mentioned earlier, titled “Renegotiating My Seat in the House of God.” I had been pondering these two articles for some time already when the e-mail devotional I receive daily from Back to the Bible made up of Elisabeth Elliot’s writings delivered one titled “Singleness Is a Gift” (As I went to link to that one, I saw that Back to the Bible no longer includes the devotionals from previous days: only the current day’s devotionals are there. In searching for and trying to find a link to the article, I kept getting error messages. That’s too bad — it was a very good article!! But it was from her book On Asking God Why.) Also, I just discovered a discussion at Challies in response to the post, “A Question For the Single Folk.”

I’ve gone from Valentine’s Day to the church at large, but if I can bring us back to this day, for a moment, may I share one bit of unsolicited advice? If someone wishes you a Happy Valentine’s Day today, please don’t, as someone did to me today, respond by saying, “Happy Wednesday.” That does come acoss as bitter and feels like a slap in the face to one who only wanted to wish you well and to share a bit of love. Valentine’s Day doesn’t have to be just about romantic love.

But whatever you do today, whether you acknowledge Valentine’s Day or not, I hope you have a good day and know that you are loved. 🙂

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