Saturday Photo Scavenger Hunt: Growth

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What’s the Shape of Your Faith: God’s Thumbprints

In the continuing series, “What’s the Shape of Your Faith,” Heather’s question for us this week has to do with those times in life when God has done something specific, something that was obviously just from Him. All Christians have moments like that, whether they are the big dramatic moments or the everyday manna of God’s blessing. Heather calls them “God’s thumbprints.” I like that. 🙂

I’ve been excited about this since I first read of it. Here are just a few:

  • My family moved to a new small town before I started the eighth grade. I had never had trouble making friends before, but that particular school was the most cliquish place I have ever seen. I don’t know how many weeks I spent walking around the grounds at lunch time by myself. Every morning I would beg my mom not to make me go to school and she would practically have to push me out of the car. I’m not sure how long this went on — it seems like months, but it may have been just a few weeks — but finally I became friends with one other girl who was also outside any of the established groups. It was a lonely and painful time in my life, but there are things God wants to teach us in those times. I didn’t see God’s specific thumbprint in the situation, however, until years later when I heard about some of the things that those who I admired and wanted to be “in” with (yea, even had a crush on 🙂 ) were into. I was shocked. Then I saw the Lord’s mercy in keeping me from close friendships with those people. That was a vulnerable and unstable time in my life because it was the time my parents’ marriage was in its final stages. That was the era I did things for which I am ashamed now: who knows how much worse that would have been if I had been close friends with people who would have led me farther astray.
  • I mentioned this in my testimony, but when we moved to another town before I started the eleventh grade, we interviewed at a Christian school. I really wanted to go, but we couldn’t afford the tuition. We drove to the school again to tell them that I would not be able to go after all. My mom went inside while I stayed in the car. The pastor and his wife drove up, saw me, came over and told me someone had paid my way to go to school that year. Someone did the same for my senior year. It was at that school and then through the church the school was under that I got under regular consistent teaching, made sure of my salvation, formed the basics of my convictions, got grounded in the faith, heard about the Christian university I would later attend, and so much more.
  • My parents were not able to help me attend college. I had one scholarship from my Christian school for I think maybe $1,000. I determined every year that if I had the money for the first month’s tuition, I would go and trust God for the rest. Working every summer, I was always able to have at least enough to start, but not enough to go very far. Many times over the years I found a note from the business office in my post office box saying that an anonymous donor had applied money to my account. One semester when I was particularly low in funds, I felt it was presumptious to go to school that way and I should probably plan to stay out a semester and work. Though I did not broadcast my plans, I received notes and checks from people at church urging me to stay in school. I remember one time in particular when my Sunday School class back home took up an offering and sent it to me. It came at just the right time, and I went to the store to buy deodorant and other necessities. I ended up with one dime. When I got back to the dorms, someone told me we were having a hall party that night and they were collecting a dime from every girl on the hall for refreshments. As I gave away my last dime, I had a moment of panic being totally and literally without a dime to my name. Then the Lord reminded me of what He had just done by sending money for my necessities and reminded me to trust Him about every need. Even with all of that, though, I had a pretty big debt accumulated at the end of my college career. (In fact, my husband used to sometimes jokingly refer to our wedding as that happy day when we consolidated our debts. 🙂 ) I struggled with that — the Lord had provided so much, had I not had enough faith to take care of all of it? My husband reminded me that sometimes the Lord provides miraculously through other means, but most often He supplies by giving us work to do to provide money to pay our debts.
  • Just after our first anniversary, my husband and I were driving from SC to Texas to spend Christmas with my folks. On Christmas Eve morning, our car broke down just outside of Biloxi, Mississippi. Our car was a little German Opel that my brother had nicknamed Gustav. We had had trouble with Gustav before, and it was always hard to find parts for it. In fact, one time it had taken four weeks for the needed part to come in. That was in the back of my mind as I silently wondered what we were going to do, how long we would be stranded, how would we get either on to Texas or back to SC — and how we would pay for it as we had no resources, no savings, not even a credit card. I don’t remember for sure but we must have walked somewhere to call for a tow truck because there were no cell phones back then. My husband just picked a mechanic with a towing service out of the yellow pages and called, explained our situation, and mentioned that we had an Opel. The man responded, “Oh, that’s fine. We just bought out an Opel dealership and have a lot of parts on site.” They towed us in, and even though they had closed at noon, one mechanic stayed and worked on our car. I don’t even remember what was wrong with it, but they had the part we needed. I called my mom to let her know we were delayed, and she offered her credit card to pay for it, which the mechanic accepted over the phone. We were amazed at God leading us to just the right mechanic with a random pick from the phone book, and what could have been a long, drawn out ordeal was taken care of in short order!
  • When my second son, Jason was born, he had not one but two knots in his umbilical cord. I hate to think what would have happened if either of those knots had been tight enough to cut off the oxygen and food supply he needed, and I thank God for protecting him through whatever gymnastics he had performed to cause those knots. 🙂
  • After I came down with transverse myelitis, so often I felt that I could serve the Lord so much better without the residual effects of it and asked the Lord many time to remove them. He did provide a great deal of recovery (and after I found out more information about it, I realized it could have been so much worse, and He had indeed limited that trial), but there were still symptoms which affected my everyday life that dismayed me. Yet I did see how He worked in and through it, both in teaching me further dependence on Him and in using me to encourage others. Not long ago I came across a devotional by Elisabeth Elliot about how God uses limitations to shape our ministry — that was a new thought to me which greatly ministered to me and helped me to see the TM in a new light.

There have been so many other little everyday instances of the Lord’s intervention and provision: safety during near collisions in the car, finding something that was lost after earnest prayer about it, praying for wisdom and receiving it, a word of encouragement at just the right moment, something from the Word that was just exactly what I needed for the day. I am so thankful for His loving, intimate, wonderful care!!

You can find other stories of God’s thumbprints or add your own here.

What Is Faith?

 

What is faith? It is believing
That God’s promises are true;
Gladly taking what He offers,
Knowing that it is for you.

What is faith? ‘Tis simply trusting,
Leaning on the Mighty One;
Putting all your weight upon Him,
Yielding all to Him alone.

What is rest? ‘Tis faith reclining
In the Everlasting Arms;
Doubts removed and burdens banished,
Perfect peace amid alarms.

 

—Author Unknown

Wordless Wednesday: Message in the snow

Message in the snow

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Works-For-Me Wednesday: Biblical Child-rearing Helps

“Works For Me Wednesday”

When my kids were younger we came across a resource that I just loved called Doorposts. Something brought it to mind recently, and I googled it to see if it was still in business, and was happy to see that it was.

It was begun by a home-schooling family who made up these resources for their own needs and then made them available for others. What I most love about them is the Scriptural focus and basis. One item that was really popular among my friends years ago was the “If-Then” chart. It was designed to help parenting be more consistent. It listed several offenses on one side, a Scripture verse illustrating why the behavior was wrong, and a place for you to put what the penalty would be. There’s also a Blessing Chart that follows a similar format except that it focuses on the positive: rewarding good behavior.

I enjoyed many of their books as well. One was A Day of Delight, about ways to make the “day of rest” special and enjoyable. If you want to be convicted to the core of your being, see A Checklist for Parents. Their book I consulted most often was For Instruction In Righteousness. It covers over 50 topics (like pride, anger, being a busybody, etc.), lists verses on that topic and verses about what happens to people who engage in those behaviors, ideas for discipline, how God blesses people who resist that sin, ideas for reward and encouragement when children show progress in overcoming, and stories and people in the Bible who obeyed or disobeyed in that area. It’s a wonderful resource not only when a problem area comes up in a child’s life, but also to use in family devotions.

There are also doll kits and coloring books.

Most of the books were originally written in the mom of the family’s calligraphy and cute illustrations which makes for a very homey resource.

See Rocks In My Dryer for more tips that work for others.

Do you have the Son?

Just a couple of the passages that stood out to me from my Daily Light reading this morning:

I AM the resurrection, and the life: he that believeth in me, though he were dead, yet shall he live. (John 11:25).

God hath given to us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. He that hath the Son hath life; and he that hath not the Son of God hath not life. (I John 5:11-12).

Cakes are my culinary Waterloo

One of the many talents I do not have is that of baking and decorating cakes. Even though I was a Home Economics Education major. Even though I took an adult-ed. class in cake decorating. It just didn’t take. I have deficient “understanding cake” genes.

My made-from-scratch cakes always seem to be a little heavy, even if follow directions to the letter. Not wanting to put all the time and and resources into something that doesn’t taste good, I am happy to let Betty Crocker and Duncan Hines do the work. 🙂 My favorite combination is devil’s food chocolate cake and chocolate fudge icing. Just in case you ever need to know that.

Even with boxed mixes, and mixing the exact time the instructions say, my cakes come out a little wonky. Last night we were having a fellowship after church (and when Baptists fellowship, there is food. :)) Last week was one of the busiest weeks ever, and I did not have the time or energy to come up with a really nifty dessert. I keep a box of brownie mix on hand for just such an occasion. I was putting the ingredients together while talking with my oldest son when I noticed the instructions to mix on low speed for 30 seconds, then on high for two minutes. “Wait,” I thought, “you don’t mix brownies that way.” I turned the box over — and saw I had a cake mix instead of a brownie mix. I looked through my cupboard, but there was no brownie mix in sight. Oh well, I thought, it doesn’t have to be fancy. I also had a container of dark chocolate fudge icing (and I had picked that up accidentally — I don’t usually like dark chocolate. Here was a chance to use it up!) It doesn’t matter how it looks – if you serve chocolate at a Baptist fellowship, it will get eaten.

Well, my 13×9 cake came out looking like a gently sloping hill in the middle with a valley all around the edges, and the outermost edges curled over like sea waves. How does it do that? How do you prevent that? (I really want to know!) I put frosting on it, and as I tried to spread it over, it kept peeling off the outermost layer of crust and mixing crumbs into the icing (someone with a similar problem must’ve been the person who invented crumb cake). I finally got it all together, and thankfully when I dropped it off on the dessert able, no one was there to link me to the cake in question, so I maintained my anonymity. After church we talked to a few people and then got into the line for the dessert table. When I got to my cake, 3/4 of it was gone, but it looked like a toddler had gotten her hands into it — cake and icing was all jumbled up. It looked like it had fallen to pieces as someone tried to cut it. But after the fellowship when I went to retrieve my pan, it was empty. And that, of course, is the measure of success at a Baptist fellowship. 🙂

If the cake itself is a disaster, the decorating is worse. Here is one sad early attempt:

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They were supposed to look like little muppets. I had seen the idea in a magazine. I think the idea was to bake cupcakes, put one upside down on top of another one (and probably glue it with frosting), cut out a little wedge for the mouth, then put little dollops of white with a mini chocolate chip in the middle for eyes. It looked so cute and easy in the magazine. How could it go wrong? Somehow it did, and they ended up looking like swamp monster babies left out in the rain. Unfortunately this was for Jeremy’s second birthday, and though he didn’t care, we had invited friends over. There was no back-up plan, so I served this spectacle. They were very kind about it.

Even store-bought icing in those little tubes doesn’t work for me. I’ve had my writing “run” using that stuff, and once when using one of the pouch-like frostings, it seemed like it was awfully thick and hard while I was trying to squeeze it out — and then it burst a hole in the side of the pouch, squeezing out in uncontrolled ways that I couldn’t use for writing. I have pictures of a couple of those kinds of cakes just to commemorate the birthday (and one particular birthday I wouldn’t even let anyone take pictures of the cake!) But I won’t humiliate myself by posting those.

Why am I telling you this? I don’t know. Maybe someone needs a laugh. 🙂

When the kids were little we bought those candy cake decorations you buy in stores. I devised a few alternate methods, like this with M&Ms:

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(If you have any any other alternate ideas, I’m all ears!)

There have been times I’ve shed a few tears in frustration over my lack of ability in this area. But ultimately I decided just to accept it. We generally only have cake at birthdays, which is only 5 times a year. My kids don’t care what it looks like as long as it tastes good (the advantage to having all guys!) If we’re inviting anyone over for the birthday in question, I’ll order a cake from the grocery store bakery. If I send cupcakes for one of my children’s birthdays to school, it will just be frosted simply with some sprinkles on top. When we have our annual cake contest at church, if I enter at all, I’ll serve to make others look good. 🙂 And I’ll concentrate my culinary efforts where I do have success, like cookies!

What’s the Shape of Your Faith: Style

Heather at Graced By Christ has been leading an ongoing series titled “What’s the Shape of Your Faith?” Every week (usually on Friday) she brings up a topic and asks questions related to it. I mentioned in an earlier (and my only other) post in this series that I was behind in the weekly questions — they are a bit more thought-provoking than the average meme. 🙂 And I have had some other responsibilities to attend to over the last few weeks. I was going to do the questions in order, but instead of remaining hopelessly behind and never catching up, and in order to participate in the current conversation, I am going to jump in on the current one. I may or may not write about the previous ones I have missed, but, whether I write here about them or not, they have provoked a lot of thought!

I was glad to see several comments about ladies feeling a little awkward about the public self-introspection. I have felt that way, too, and that has been one hindrance. I’ve thought, “Who in the world would want to read all of this about me?!” But….I have enjoyed reading the responses of other people, and it has been a window into how different people think. So, hoping that this is useful to someone, here goes:

What is your style?

How do you tend to go about things and how does that affect how you obey God?

Are you a go-getter or laid back? With many of these questions, my answers tend to be somewhere in the middle rather than one extreme or the other, and often my answer would be “It depends.” I tend to be more laid back until “crunch time,” and then I can work solidly and in a focused way. I wouldn’t say I work better under a deadline (I hate the stress), but I do get more done then.

Do you keep it simple or do you go all out? Again, it depends. One of the things I’ve learned along the way, whether it is cleaning house for company coming, or getting ready for a ladies’ banquet, or whatever, is that you just can’t do it all. I used to get so frustrated that my nice little list wasn’t getting accomplished. That’s one thing about “crunch time” — the superfluous falls away and what absolutely has to happen becomes clear. Over the years I’ve becoming better at sorting out what needs to be done and what “extras” I’d like ahead of time. My tendency is to want to go all out, but realistically, sometimes it needs to be kept simple. And that is affected a lot by what else in life is going on at the time, time and energy constraints, etc.

If I could go off on a little soapbox here, though….. when someone does go all out, we need to just enjoy it and appreciate it. Often I have just picked up a package of Oreos or store-bought decorated cookies for a fellowship or function because I just didn’t have time or energy for anything else. But sometimes when I have had more time and wanted to do something creative, then I hear remarks like, “Well, you must’ve had a lot of time on your hands!” I hear remarks like that often when someone does go “all out.” At our ladies’ meetings, I tell the different ladies who volunteer to bring refreshments that they can feel free to just bring something like a pan of brownies if they want — I don’t want the refreshment time to be burdensome or the main focus of our meetings. But if someone does want to go all out, that’s fine — we can enjoy the fruit of their labors! Some folks’ “love language” is making food and preparing a really nice spread! When that happens, we don’t need to think, “Oh, my, after all this I can’t just bring my plain old cookies” (doesn’t Scripture tell us not to compare ourselves amongst ourselves?), and we don’t need to disparage the other person’s efforts with insinuations that we have more important things to do and they must not have if they had the time to do that.

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Do you finish what you start or leave it for someone else? I generally like to finish my own projects. I have had instances of feeling dumped on by having to finish other people’s projects, and I don’t want to do that to other people. But sometimes on major efforts you do need to call in help.

Do you like the best laid plans or prefer to wing-it? I like having basic plan of action, but I like to freedom to change course and wing it.

Do you like to be different, to stand out in the crowd? I don’t want to be a carbon copy, but I don’t want to be outlandish and call attention to self, either. I like doing things just a little bit different.

Do you prefer to go about unseen, be like everyone else? This kind of overlaps the above question. I don’t want to be just like everyone else, but I don’t want to walk into a room with the feeling, “Hey. everyone, look at ME!” I would prefer to go about my duties unseen.

Do you prefer the unusual or the normal, the intellectual or action? Some balance between each of those.

Are you a doer or a dreamer? A doer, primarily, though I like to dream sometimes.

Are you a follower or rebellious? Some of each.

Do you diminish yourself or do you struggle with pride? I used to diminish myself a lot, until I realized that an “inferiority complex” (what we used to call it years ago) can be just as much taken up with self — sometimes more so — as pride can. I do struggle with pride. No matter how much I tell myself that any talent or ability is from Him, and when something comes out well it is His doing, there is an ongoing struggle to keep self in its place.

Are you old fashioned or do you like all things new? I am primarily old-fashioned, but I do like to try new things sometimes.

Do like things the same or do you prefer change? I guess it would depend on what “things.” There are some things I like the same, but other things where I like change.

Are you very open about your life or are you more secretive and careful? My tendency is to be more secretive and careful, but I can be open about some things if I feel it would be a help to someone.

Last of all, how does your personal style affect your relationship with Him? Well, to me, this goes along with comments I expressed earlier about personality. I think God made us with certain traits, but because of our sinful nature, they are not in perfection yet. So it would be wrong to say, “That’s just the way I am” and use it as an excuse when we clash with other people or don’t want to do certain things. Looking back over these questions, they remind me that I need to be seeking His guidance and submitting to Him all along the way. I may like things planned out, and He may put me in situations where that trait is needed, but I need to trust Him with the unknown when He wants me to do something that there is no known plan for yet. I shouldn’t be laid back when it is time to get with it; but I shouldn’t forge ahead of Him, either. I need to learn when He wants me to keep it simple and when it is appropriate and needed to put forth extra effort. Though at times I prefer to blend in, I need to be available to speak or to do what He wants. I need to keep my focus on Him and off self. And so on through each of the questions: I need to submit each of these traits to Him and find the balance He wants me to maintain, and be willing to go beyond my normal preferences or comfort zone. It would be backwards to look at my style and say, “OK, because I am this way, I am going to do this and I will not do that.” Rather, as I seek Him and keep my focus on Him, I can know that He is developing those traits, and He may put me in a place prepared for just that style, or He may put me in a place that stretches me.

For more thoughts on this week’s questions, see this post.

Saturday’s Photo Scavenger Hunt: Windows

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Longing for the great outdoors

This was from about 21 years ago when Jeremy was able to pull himself up and get around on foot a little bit. There was always something fascinating about looking out the window of the front screen door to the big wide world outside!

Jesse visiting with Jeremy

This was about 10 years ago. I think Jeremy (older now! 🙂 ) had some outside chore — cleaning the window or something. Jesse, then a toddler, loved to come and talk to him through the window.

View of the curtains

This was taken by Jeremy when he was about 3. It was supposed to be a picture of my sister, but he had not yet developed his photography-taking skills and got her somewhat out of the frame. 🙂 He did however, get a nice shot of my ruffled country curtains which were all the rage then!

Biltmore House

This is one of my middle son Jason’s pictures of the Biltmore house in Asheville, NC. His high school Junior-Senior banquet was there a couple of years ago. He has several great pictures of it, and several great window shots, but I’ll just use this one since I have several windows up already. 🙂

As the Bridegroom to His Chosen

This hymn has been on my heart for the last few days:

As the Bridegroom to His Chosen

As the bridegroom to his chosen, as the king unto his realm,
As the keeper to the castle, as the pilot to the helm.
As the captain to his soldiers, as the shepherd to his lambs,
So, Lord, art thou to me.

As the fountain in the garden, as the candle in the dark,
As the treasure in the coffer, as the manna in the ark,
As the firelight in the winter, as the sunlight in the spring
So Lord art thou to me.

As the music at the banquet, as the stamp unto the seal,
As refreshment to the fainting, as the winecup at the meal,
As the singing on the feast day, as the amen to the prayer,
So Lord art thou to me.

As the ruby in the setting, as the honey in the comb
As the light within the lantern, as the father in the home,
As the eagle in the mountains, as the sparrow in the nest,
So Lord art thou to me.

As the sunshine in the heavens, as the image in the glass,
As the fruit unto the fig tree, as the dew unto the grass,
As the rainbow on the hilltop, as the river in the plain,
So Lord art thou to me.

— Jo­han­nes Tau­ler

You can hear a snippet of it here. I first heard it on a CD titled “His way Is Perfect” by Sherry Oliver Trainer. Though I found that CD here, I couldn’t find a source that had music clips from it. But it inspires my heart to worship every time I hear it or think through the words.