Our 32nd anniversary!

Today we celebrate 32 years of marriage!

Thanks to my wonderful husband for his patience, kindness, and example of unconditional love to me. On our 30th anniversary I posted 30 things I love about my husband. He is a very nice man. 🙂 ♥

Normally we just go out to dinner for our anniversary and exchange cards, and that’s the plan today. Looking forward to a nice dinner out tonight! But we have lots of Christmas busyness to get done today.

One of the nice things about having a daughter-in-law is having someone else celebrate our anniversary! No fault to the guys — over the years they’ve had a baby-sitter when we went out to dinner until they got old enough to fend for themselves. They didn’t think about doing anything else to acknowledge the day besides wishing us a happy anniversary, and we didn’t expect them to. But Mittu has done something special for us each year since she and Jason have been married. Last night they brought over dinner for us as well as a cheesecake and a giant peanut butter chocolate chip cookie, and a picture they made for us. I haven’t taken a picture of the picture, but I’ll try to do that for Friday’s Fave Five.

A few years ago Jim made this video for our anniversary. The song is one of my favorites, “Our Voyage” sung by John McDermott of the Irish Tenors.

Thanks, hon, for all you do, for all the ways you show you love me, and for 32 wonderful years together. Looking forward to the next 32. 🙂

Gingerbread Houses

I’m not good at decorating cakes, so I guess that fact plus having all guys at home never inspired me to try gingerbread houses at Christmastime. It’s funny the things you just assume boys won’t be interested in. But having a daughter-in-law with different interests and talents has expanded our horizons the last couple of years and enriched our lives.

Jason and Mittu brought over a couple of gingerbread house kits last Friday night. I liked having everything we needed in a kit, including pre-made gingerbread. I had always been afraid of making gingerbread and having it stick to the pans or fall apart.

We set everything out in the middle of the table, and there was enough for each of us to decorate our own house.

First came the “building”:

Someone said Jim looked annoyed there. No, he was just concentrating. At one point Mittu said, “Dad, your face is going to freeze that way!” 🙂 Plus he was really tired: we had moved Grandma the day before and then he’d had to go in to work about 3 a.m. that morning.

Then the decorating:

I started out trying to decorate mine just like the example on the box, but then started doing my own thing. I think the best touches were what different ones dreamed up that weren’t on the box!

Here are the results:

Jason’s:

Mittu’s:

Love the yard!

Jesse’s — he was particularly proud of the peppermint icicles:

Jim’s:

Love the peppermint chimney and stacked logs!

Mine:

And an extra one that Jim put together and I decorated:

Our gingerbread village:

Mittu remarked that it smelled a lot better than our last project, the pumpkins! And that’s certainly true! The first day or so we had them out, the smell was a little overwhelming, either seeming too sweet at times, or other times making me want to eat something. But that’s faded a little bit since the first day.

All in all it was a fun evening!

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few thought-provoking quotes I came across this week:

Seen at Carrie’s review of  Growing Grateful Kids, by Susie Larson:

“We cannot grow beyond our ability to receive correction.” Francis Frangipane

I have never heard of Frangipane before and know nothing about him, but, wow, that one hit me between the eyes. Taking correction really goes against the grain, but how else will we be alerted to our blind spots? The Bible had much to say about being willing to receive correction and rebuke.

Seen at Robin Lee Hatcher‘s Facebook page:

Anything I’ve ever done that ultimately was worthwhile initially scared me to death. ~ Betty Bender

I sure can identify with that, and it helps to know others have felt the same way. I used to think being scared to death meant I shouldn’t do whatever it was I was scared of….but that’s not necessarily true.

I saw this while looking in my downloaded documents section. It was on a page of tips on prayer along with prayer requests for missionary Anne Dreisbach. I don’t know if this is something she said or if it is quoted from someone else:

Such as cast their eye on the promise, with a neglect of the command, are not edified by Scripture, as they look more for comfort than for duty.

I can tend to do that — scan a passage for the promises and comfort while touching lightly on the warnings or commands. But we can’t have one without the others.

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share. I usually try to visit everyone who comments, but often I forget to check Mr. Linky for those who participated but didn’t comment.

Laudable Linkage

I meant to mention yesterday and forgot, but my second newspaper column came out last Sunday: Christmas Grief, Christmas Hope. I don’t mean to sound self-promoting, but thought some might like to see it. I wasn’t sure how far the editor would let me go in sharing the gospel, but thankfully he didn’t edit out any of it.

Here are some good reads from round the Web the past couple of weeks:

Celebrating the Excellencies of His Name -Prince of Peace, by Petra Hefner. Beautiful, both in substance and style.

Ladies: Do Not Shy Away From Theology.

A Snapshot of Finishing Life Well. Neat video of 90 year old man caring for his 91 year old wife. “This is what love and faithfulness looks like.”

Finding a “quiet time” in a mother’s life that is far from quiet.

A Game Plan For When You Start to Worry.

Good and Perfect Gifts. Quote: “The little bulldog of a child (you know the kind…you tell them “no” and they stare a burning hole through you as they do the very thing you told them not to do) may, with the transforming power of the Spirit, one day become a stalwart witness for Christ.”

Reaction, Effect, and Christian Shock Jocks.

How to Write a Good Sympathy Card.

25 Clever Ideas to Make Life Easier.

25 Handmade Gifts Under $5.

50+ Christmas Stocking Stuffers For Men. Can’t endorse the whole list, but there are several good ideas there.

Roses From Ricrac. The instructions are in Spanish, so I can’t read them, but there are lots of photos in the tutorial and I love the end product. So cute!

Canvas Art, HT to Lizzie. Want to try this some day.

Fudge Puddles. Want to try!

Now I am off to tackle my to-do list for today. If only it were this easy! 🙂

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Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week,  wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s been an…..interesting week. Jesse was sick earlier in the week, then his computer imploded. We moved my mother-in-law into a new assisted living place yesterday,  and Jesse (age 18) had a minor accident on the way over. Nothing makes one’s heart drop like answering the phone and hearing, “Mom, I hit someone.” But thankfully no one was hurt and both cars were drivable, though Jesse was pretty shaken. But God sprinkled blessings throughout the week as well. So my favorite parts of this week are:

1. Safety and appreciation that Jesse’s accident wasn’t worse. Thinking about “what might have been” isn’t productive, so I try not to go there, but I am so glad for God’s protection over what could have been much worse.

2. My mother-in-law’s move going well. We had decided to stop mentioning the move until it was actually time to go, because she kept forgetting and we’d have to go through all the whys and wherefores each time. She got a little restless during the morning here at home with Mittu and me, saying she was ready to go back to her room. 🙂 We’d tell her we needed to wait for Jim to get back. When it was finally time to take her over, I thought he’d sit her down and explain the situation again, but instead he just took her to the new place and said, “This is your new home, Mom.” That turned out to be the wiser course of action. She seemed to roll with it — she didn’t ask what was going on or ask to go back to the old place. She might in the next few days as she adjusts mentally to new surroundings and people, and it takes a while for staff to get used to the particulars of caring for a new person, so we’d appreciate continued prayer for her. But overall things went about as well as they could have during the move.

3. Family pulling together. We so appreciated everyone chipping in and pulling together to get Mom moved and settled.

4. Our church’s Ladies’ Christmas Party. Such fun, and one friend shared a wonderful, transparent testimony of God’s working in her life.

5. Another Dinner for Six with church folks, with a twist: this was the first time we’d had small children in our house for ages, and the first time we’d had someone in a wheelchair other than my mother-in-law. We knew the previous homeowner had been in a wheelchair, and though the whole house isn’t outfitted for a disabled person, the main doors are wider. Jim had built a ramp for his mom’s wheelchair. So we were pretty confident everything would work out ok, but it was nice when it actually did. 🙂 We had kept back and cleaned up a few toys for the children, and they enjoyed them and everything went ok on that front as well.This was actually from a previous week, but I had forgotten to mention it. 🙂

Bonus: Gingerbread Teddy Bears.

Looking forward this week to our church choir’s Christmas program Sunday and then Jeremy coming home Wednesday! And to our 32nd anniversary — haven’t decided just what to do yet, but we usually just go out to eat and enjoy a quiet evening together. And of course there’s lots to do for Christmas yet!

Have a good weekend!

It’s Moving Day….

No, not for us but for my mother-in-law. I mentioned a few months ago that her assisted living place had decided that her level of care was getting to be more than what they would provide, but my husband and her physical therapist convinced them that she was fine where she was.

But at the last fire drill Mom wasn’t able to vacate the building in the allotted time the fire code says she needs to, so the director called and said she needed to go. We had been thinking along those lines anyway, that it would be better to move her than to live with the constant possibility of it on our shoulders.

Jim took her to another assisted living place Monday for an interview. One of the specific questions he asked was whether she could stay there long term or whether we’d be facing all this again in another year as she declined. They said they would be able to take care of her through the end of life. It seems to be a lot better staffed. It is more expensive, but that’s due to a higher level of care. There is a nurse practitioner on staff, so that person can be her primary care person and she won’t have to be sent out to a dr. for basic needs: things like the emergency room visit she had a few weeks ago would be avoided because they can do basic testing there.

All in all it sounds like a positive move, but of course change is hard, especially at her age. We’d appreciate your prayers as she makes this transition. After visiting the place with Jim and having multiple discussions about not wanting to move and Jim explaining why she had to, when I went to see her yesterday she had no memory of any of it and I had to start from scratch explaining it all. I don’t know if she’ll remember it when Jim goes to pick her up this morning. I truly think once she gets settled she’ll be fine, and in some ways short term memory loss might be a blessing, but the first few days will be disconcerting for her.

The plan today is that Jim will go pick her up and bring her here to our house, where Mittu and I will stay with her so she’ll be out of the fray of packing up. Jim, Jason, and Jesse will go over to her place and pack her things up and then take them to the new place. Then when they’re done setting up, we’ll take her over. The staff there even suggested we have dinner there with her the first night to help with her transition.

So we’d appreciate your prayers for the stresses of this day and for her transition. Thanks so much!

Book Review: Created For Work

After enjoying Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man by Bob Schultz with my youngest son, we tried another of his books, Created for Work: Practical Insights for Young Men. The title attracted me because I think developing a strong work ethic in young people is becoming a lost art and because people generally have a negative view of work. It was a revelation to me years ago to realize that God created and ordained work before the fall of man into sin: it’s not part of the Curse, though it is harder because of the Curse.

I don’t recall that Schultz brought out that aspect of work, but he brought out many others, using his own work and experience as an independent contractor as a backdrop for many of his insights. He discusses things you’d expect concerning work, like diligence, initiative, working within the rules, finishing well, etc. But he brought out other things I would not have thought of: looking at things from a boss’s perspective, dealing with a loss of confidence, irritations between coworkers, admitting when you’re wrong and learning from it, the dangers of diligence (becoming self-satisfied and indulgent after success), and even the way the Lord brings you into contact with other people through your work to whom you can minister. Another valuable insight was that of balancing initiative: his example was a young man who saw a neighbor’s fallen tree and decided to cut it up into firewood for them, only to discover afterward they had planned to take it to the mill to be turned into lumber.

There were just a couple of places where I disagreed with the author a bit. In one chapter titled “Great Grandpa Cornelius,” Schultz is encouraging boys to be diligent workers even before they’re of age to work at an outside job, and I agree with that. But he makes the statement, “If someone provides your food, shelter, and education, you’re a liability” (p. 42). I wouldn’t say that to a boy in the home. He goes on to say that you had no choice as a baby to have others work for you, but as soon as you can you want to work to become an asset. And I agree with that as well. From the time our boys were little, though they had jobs in the home and allowances that were loosely tied to each other, the main reason for their jobs wasn’t to earn an allowance or even to “help” their parents, but to pull together as a family and contribute to the family and to get in the habit or working. So I agree with all of that in principle, I agree with teaching boys (and girls) to work for a variety of reasons, but I still wouldn’t call being provided for as a boy at home being a liability. When he gets to be 30 or so, well, that’s different. 🙂

In another chapter titled “My Instructor,” he describes a time when his boss wanted him to install trim with costly wood in a beauitful, expensive home. He was worried because he hadn’t had much experience with the particular type of work his boss wanted him to do, worried enough to lose sleep the night before the job. He felt God was telling him that since He created the world and told Solomon how to build the temple and Noah how to build the ark, He could tell him how to do this job. And He did, through a painter who came through and gave him an off-the-cuff tip. I can’t argue with his experience, and I’ve had the experience as well of being stuck in the middle of some task, praying for wisdom, and feeling that God gave me the idea of what to do about it. But I wouldn’t want someone to take this particular experience as a substitute for owning up that you don’t know how to do a particular job or seeking out instruction on how to do it beforehand.

And finally, in a chapter on unemployment compensation he writes that he feels that such is government aid and that instead of filing for unemployment, he should find other work he can do as unto the Lord and for His kingdom, such as yard work for a widowed neighbor, etc. My husband and I feel that unemployment compensation is a form of insurance rather than a “handout” and is a legitimate and responsible way to care for one’s family between jobs. I do agree with the other principles in the chapter, however, that ultimately we work for God, not for money, though He usually provides through a job, and that there are many useful things one can do during a jobless time, like work for others and get ones’ tools ready and prepared for the next opportunity.

The space and time to explain those few caveats makes it looks I disagree with more than I agree with, and that’s not the case: I think this is a valuable resource for boys and young men. If I’d had this when my boys were younger, I think I would have gone over it with them then as well as again as older teenagers about to leave home.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Gingerbread Teddy Bears

I got this recipe way back in college when the Home Economics Department at my college was having a Christmas Open House. I don’t make them every year because all of that ball-rolling is a little tedious, especially if you’re doubling the recipe. But they’re fun to make and they taste great. Sometimes the kids would help: this time Mittu helped. I wasn’t a great fan of gingerbread cookies before these, but I like that these are soft and chewy rather than hard and crisp.

Gingerbread Teddy Bears

1 c. butter or margarine
2/3 c. packed brown sugar
2/3 c. dark corn syrup, light corn syrup, or molasses
4 c. all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tsp. ground cinnamon
1 tsp. ground ginger
3/4 tsp. baking soda
1/2 tsp. ground cloves
1 beaten egg
1 1/2 tsp. vanilla
Miniature semi-sweet chocolate pieces
Decorator icing (optional)

In a saucepan combine butter, brown sugar, and corn syrup. Cook and stir over medium heat til butter is melted and sugar is dissolved. Pour into a large mixing bowl and cool 5 minutes. Meanwhile, combine flour, cinnamon, ginger, soda, and cloves. Add egg and vanilla to butter mixture and mix well. Add the flour mixture and beat til well mixed. Divide the dough in half; cover and chill at least two hours or overnight.

To make each teddy bear, shape dough into about a 1-inch ball for the body, one 3/4-inch ball for the head, and six 1/2-inch balls for the arms, legs, and ears. On ungreased cookie sheet, place the 1-inch ball and flatten slightly. Place 3/4-inch ball next to (touching) the “body” for the head. then do the same for the arms and legs. Place two 1/2-inch balls above the head for ears. If desired you can pinch off just a teeny bit of dough for a nose, or use miniature chocolate chip. Use miniature chocolate chips for the eyes and either a navel on the belly or 3 “buttons”. Bake at 350^ for 8-10 minutes or until done. Carefully remove and cool.

If desired, pipe on smile, bow tie or vest or other decorations with decorator icing (1/2 c. sifted powder sugar and approximately 2 tsp. milk, blended to piping consistency, tinted with 1-2 drops food coloring). Makes 20-23.

This post will be also linked to “Works For Me Wednesday,” where you can find an abundance of helpful hints each week at We Are THAT family on Wednesdays, as well as  Women Living Well.

The Week in Words

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Welcome to The Week In Words, where we share quotes from the last week’s reading. If something you read this past week  inspired you, caused you to laugh, cry, think, dream, or just resonated with you in some way, please share it with us, attributing it to its source, which can be a book, newspaper, blog, Facebook — anything that you read. More information is here.

Here are a few thought-provoking quotes I came across this week:

From a friend’s Facebook:

“Circumstances may appear to wreck our lives and God’s plans, but God is not helpless among the ruins.” Eric Liddell, Olympian

We probably would not think of God as “helpless among the ruins,” but we sure can act as if we’re thinking that way. When we’re bowled over by circumstances, we can remember that He is not.

By the way, if you’ve never read a biography about Liddell, I’d highly recommend it.

Seen at Women Living Well:

“If you have been afraid that your love of beautiful flowers and the flickering flame of the candle is somehow less spiritual than living in starkness and ugliness, remember that He who created you to be creative gave you the things with which to make beauty and gave you the sensitivity to appreciate and respond to his creation. Creativity is his gift to you and the ‘raw materials’ to be put together in various ways are His gift to you as well.” ~ Edith Schaeffer, The Art of Homemaking.

I read that book years ago and want to do so again some time. I used to struggle with whether wanting things to be pretty and pleasing was somehow unspiritual, but the realization that God made the world beautiful and enjoyable rather than just functional and utilitarian helped. We have to balance that, of course, with the available time, funds, and other responsibilities, and Mrs. Schaeffer discusses this in her book.

In a similar vein, I saw this quote at my friend Mary Beth‘s some weeks ago:

“We have our own small square of life on this planet, and it’s our choice to do with it what we will. We can bring order and beauty to that place we have been given. We can touch the people who come within our sphere of influence with love and care and comfort.” ~ Claire Cloninger

On a different subject, this was quoted in the devotional book The Invitation by Derick Bingham commenting on John 21:3:

But what good can failure do? It may shut up a path which you were pursuing too eagerly. It may put you out of heart with things seen and temporal, and give you an appetite for things unseen and eternal. It may teach you your own helplessness, and turn you to trust more implicitly in the provision of Christ. It is clear that Christians have often to toil all night in vain, that Christ may have a background black and sombre enough to set forth all the glories of his interposition. ~ F. B. Meyer, Love to the Uttermost

One of the biggest struggles I had in college was not in failing per se — I wasn’t flunking, but I was failing in my usual good grades despite good efforts, and I felt like I was failing. One of the most poignant and timely messages I ever heard was one at college on failure. I can’t remember the details, but it was a lesson I have never forgotten that God has purposes in our failure or falling short.

You can share your family-friendly quotes in the comments below or write a post on your blog and then put the link to that post (not your general blog link) in Mr. Linky below.

I hope you’ll visit the other participants as well and glean some great thoughts to ponder. And don’t forget to leave a comment here, even if you don’t have any quotes to share. I usually try to visit everyone who comments, but often I forget to check Mr. Linky for those who participated but didn’t comment.

Infant Holy

This is my favorite Christmas hymn. I think I post it almost every year.

Infant holy, Infant lowly, for His bed a cattle stall;
Oxen lowing, little knowing, Christ the Babe is Lord of all.
Swift are winging angels singing, noels ringing, tidings bringing:
Christ the Babe is Lord of all.
Christ the Babe is Lord of all.

Flocks were sleeping, shepherds keeping vigil till the morning new
Saw the glory, heard the story, tidings of a Gospel true.
Thus rejoicing, free from sorrow, praises voicing, greet the morrow:
Christ the Babe was born for you.
Christ the Babe was born for you.

Tra­di­tion­al carol, trans­lat­ed from Po­lish to Eng­lish by Edith M. Reed, 1921.