Book Review: Created For Work

After enjoying Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man by Bob Schultz with my youngest son, we tried another of his books, Created for Work: Practical Insights for Young Men. The title attracted me because I think developing a strong work ethic in young people is becoming a lost art and because people generally have a negative view of work. It was a revelation to me years ago to realize that God created and ordained work before the fall of man into sin: it’s not part of the Curse, though it is harder because of the Curse.

I don’t recall that Schultz brought out that aspect of work, but he brought out many others, using his own work and experience as an independent contractor as a backdrop for many of his insights. He discusses things you’d expect concerning work, like diligence, initiative, working within the rules, finishing well, etc. But he brought out other things I would not have thought of: looking at things from a boss’s perspective, dealing with a loss of confidence, irritations between coworkers, admitting when you’re wrong and learning from it, the dangers of diligence (becoming self-satisfied and indulgent after success), and even the way the Lord brings you into contact with other people through your work to whom you can minister. Another valuable insight was that of balancing initiative: his example was a young man who saw a neighbor’s fallen tree and decided to cut it up into firewood for them, only to discover afterward they had planned to take it to the mill to be turned into lumber.

There were just a couple of places where I disagreed with the author a bit. In one chapter titled “Great Grandpa Cornelius,” Schultz is encouraging boys to be diligent workers even before they’re of age to work at an outside job, and I agree with that. But he makes the statement, “If someone provides your food, shelter, and education, you’re a liability” (p. 42). I wouldn’t say that to a boy in the home. He goes on to say that you had no choice as a baby to have others work for you, but as soon as you can you want to work to become an asset. And I agree with that as well. From the time our boys were little, though they had jobs in the home and allowances that were loosely tied to each other, the main reason for their jobs wasn’t to earn an allowance or even to “help” their parents, but to pull together as a family and contribute to the family and to get in the habit or working. So I agree with all of that in principle, I agree with teaching boys (and girls) to work for a variety of reasons, but I still wouldn’t call being provided for as a boy at home being a liability. When he gets to be 30 or so, well, that’s different. 🙂

In another chapter titled “My Instructor,” he describes a time when his boss wanted him to install trim with costly wood in a beauitful, expensive home. He was worried because he hadn’t had much experience with the particular type of work his boss wanted him to do, worried enough to lose sleep the night before the job. He felt God was telling him that since He created the world and told Solomon how to build the temple and Noah how to build the ark, He could tell him how to do this job. And He did, through a painter who came through and gave him an off-the-cuff tip. I can’t argue with his experience, and I’ve had the experience as well of being stuck in the middle of some task, praying for wisdom, and feeling that God gave me the idea of what to do about it. But I wouldn’t want someone to take this particular experience as a substitute for owning up that you don’t know how to do a particular job or seeking out instruction on how to do it beforehand.

And finally, in a chapter on unemployment compensation he writes that he feels that such is government aid and that instead of filing for unemployment, he should find other work he can do as unto the Lord and for His kingdom, such as yard work for a widowed neighbor, etc. My husband and I feel that unemployment compensation is a form of insurance rather than a “handout” and is a legitimate and responsible way to care for one’s family between jobs. I do agree with the other principles in the chapter, however, that ultimately we work for God, not for money, though He usually provides through a job, and that there are many useful things one can do during a jobless time, like work for others and get ones’ tools ready and prepared for the next opportunity.

The space and time to explain those few caveats makes it looks I disagree with more than I agree with, and that’s not the case: I think this is a valuable resource for boys and young men. If I’d had this when my boys were younger, I think I would have gone over it with them then as well as again as older teenagers about to leave home.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Clubs and Bookish Questions

Reading to Know - Book ClubCarrie at Reading to Know is hosting a book club for the next year. You can read more about it here. There’s quite an eclectic list of titles to be covered.

I was honored to be asked to lead one of the discussions, so I’ll be reading Uncle Tom’s Cabin in October. Why Uncle Tom’s Cabin? Mainly because I have been wanting to reread it, and this seemed like  good time to do so. Discussing it with others who have read it is icing on the cake!

When I was growing up, I had heard of Uncle Tom, but had no interest in reading the book. I knew that slavery was wrong but didn’t want to read firsthand how awful it really was. I had heard how awful, in school, on various TV programs, etc., but a novel about it seemed like it would be morbid.

But one day when I was in my twenties or early thirties, my pastor mention in passing that Uncle Tom was the kind of Christian you’ve always wanted to be. Well, that piqued my interest, so I did read it some time thereafter and discovered he was right. I was saddened later to hear the name “Uncle Tom” used as an insult on one of the black comedies of the 80s, and I have heard it used that way since. In these day of standing up for one’s rights, meekness is not highly valued. Tom was meek, but he wasn’t weak and kowtowing.

So I’ll be looking forward to revisiting that story and seeing what my impressions are now a couple of decades later. I hope you’ll make plans to join me! And some of the other bloggers involved in the Book Club as well.

I’ve had a couple of questions or comments lately wondering how I find time to read and how I choose what to read. I answered those individuals, but thought I might answer those questions here as well.

How do I find time to read?

A few weeks ago I had this quoted from a comment on 5 Ways to Make More Time to Read on a The Week in Words post: Reading allows me to thrive.  If I don’t, then I feel stagnant. ~ Michael D. Perkins

I feel exactly the same way. If I don’t have some time to read every day, I feel mentally and intellectually dry and dull. I read more some days than others, but I do try to read (from books, not just the computer) every day. Here’s where I usually fit in in:

1. I hope this isn’t crass or TMI, but honestly, a great deal of my reading is done in the bathroom. 🙂 I used to have a link to a cute article on that, but apparently it has been taken down. In searching for it I did find Chamber Plots and Why Do Some People Read in the Bathroom amusing. It’s mainly a profitable way to spend the necessary time in there. More than one person referred to it as their Fortress of Solitude. 🙂

2. Any waiting time. If I am going to a doctor or dentist, a book is a must. Not only does it help pass the time in an edifying way, but it helps me combat nervousness by occupying my mind. Also, before the boys started driving on their own, I usually took a book with me when I picked them up from a youth activity or ball practice. That way if their event ran overtime, instead of stewing in impatience I looked on it as a few stolen moments to read.

3. Driving. Well, not while I’m driving. But if we’re going somewhere more than 20-30 minutes away, I bring something to read. I’m thankful I can do that: I know it makes some people carsick to read in the car.

4. Sunday nights. We’re not legalistic about it, but we try to make Sundays different and more restful than other days by not doing any work other than what it takes to get to and from church and meals on the table and then cleaned up. Sometimes we don’t really get to rest until after the evening services, but it’s nice to come home then and relax, knowing that I don’t have to toss some laundry in or whatever. Sometimes these days we’re Skyping with Jeremy or doing something with the kids or doing stuff on the computer on Sunday evenings, but otherwise, if there is time, I like to stretch out on the couch with a good book. Occasionally in the summertime I might do that in the evenings as well, if we’re up and there’s nothing on TV and everyone is otherwise occupied. But I rarely just sit down during the day with a book unless I’m in a part where I just can’t put it down or unless I am not feeling well.

5. Meals. Usually if I am home by myself, I am at the computer for breakfast and lunch. But sometimes when I have had enough of the computer, I’ll read a bit while eating.

6. In conjunction with devotions. If I am reading a Christian non-fiction book that is not a biography, this is when I’ll usually work it in. Just occasionally I will take a break from reading the Bible through and read a book like this in place of devotions, or I might read it after devotions. But it takes a different mindset for me to read non-fiction: I can’t just pick it up here and there and get as much out of it. I like to read it in chapters or at least in sections at a time.

And that’s about it, I think. I do manage to get through a number of books that way.

How do I choose what books to read?

Since starting to read blogs, I’ve kept a TBR (to be read) list on file so I can jot down recommendations from bloggers I’ve come to know and trust. Many of the blogs I read discuss books to some degree and provide more fodder for my list.

But even before using the Internet so much, my friends’ recommendations gave me lots to read. It just occurred to me while writing this that my friends in “real life” (not that you all aren’t real, of course 🙂 ) don’t really discuss books that much any more. I wonder if it is because we’re spending more time on the Internet or what?

Of course, once I find an author I like, I’m alert for when they have a new book out, and I might try to backtrack and read their older books.

I don’t do this as much any more since my TBR list has gotten so long, but sometimes I’d peruse the shelves of book stores or libraries and pick up something that looked good. (I miss bookstores in malls!) The Christian book store here keeps a regular clearance table year round (whereas my former one in SC just had a huge after-Christmas clearance sale once a year), so if I am in there and have time, I’ll scout out the clearance sales.

Sometimes if I see something interesting in a store, I might wait and check the reviews on Amazon.com or Christianbook.com before buying.

Sometimes I am inspired to read a book when I’ve seen a film based on it.

Every once in a great while. I’ll go to Christianbook.com and click on Fiction and see what’s new.

Usually I read Christian fiction, Christian non-fiction, biographies, and classics, in more or less that order. Occasionally I’ll delve into something modern and not Christian, but it’s getting harder to do so without running into objectionable content. I saw some good reasons for reading non-Christian books, and I agree with them, but it’s hard to find the right balance.

And that, I think, is probably much more than you wanted to know about my reading habits.

Book Review: The Best Seat in the House: How I Woke Up One Tuesday and Was Paralyzed for Life

I’ve been wanting to read The Best Seat in the House: How I Woke Up One Tuesday and Was Paralyzed for Life by Allen Rucker for a long time as he has the same ailment I did/do, Transverse Myelitis, and I “met” him at the Transverse Myelitis Internet Club.

His case is worse than mine as he was paralyzed from the waist down and hasn’t recovered more than a bit of movement, but there were many things I could identify with. In fact, the first several pages were a little hard for me to read due to bringing back so many similar thoughts, experiences, and sensations (or lack thereof).

Allen details the initial paralysis and treatment, the clinging to hope that he would recover, the denial, anger, and depression in realizing that he wasn’t going to recover much movement, and finally acceptance and learning how to live with paralysis. He discusses the effects of his condition on his family and his career as a Hollywood writer. As he says in the introduction, “I became paralyzed and then had no choice but to get on with my life in ways that has eluded me before.”

He’s also quite honest with his feelings throughout the book, and that was the “meat” of the book for me. He writes of the first few weeks after coming home from the hospital:

I felt a bit like a wild animal that had been captured, hospitalized, and rehabilitated and was now going through the gradual process of being reintroduced to its native surroundings. I knew I wasn’t ready to bound back into the outback of human society. I was a little week from six weeks in a hospital bed, but that wasn’t really the problem. The problem was psychological. I was embarrassed, ashamed, and scared. I had been stripped of my dignity (p. 54).

Years later, he knew things were different in his own outlook when watching an episode of Law and Order in which a woman “wanted to exercise her right to die because she was a hopeless paralytic. ‘I’m weak,’ she said, ‘tired, in constant pain, incontinent, and I’ll have to spend the rest of my life in a wheelchair.'” Allen’s response was, “So? What’s the problem?” (p. 174).

He tells of some of the bizarre things that happened to him, like the EMTs who first attended him thinking he was having a panic attack , a muscle spasm, or otherwise faking it and chiding him for taking up their time when someone might really need their help, or being pushed out of the way in his wheelchair during someone’s race to an elevator, or a somewhat stoned man who saw him in a line at Starbucks and then started pushing him to the front of the line to buy him some coffee “for everything this guy did for us in Nam” (p. 61).

The book is laced with Allen’s humor. I particularly enjoyed his idea for a daily flip calendar with the benefits of being paralyzed with maxims such as “You’ll never again hear the words, ‘Hey, while you’re up could you get me…..,'” or “You have to buy a new pair of shoes only once every five years” (pp. 176, 178).

He also discusses other people’s reactions to paralysis, from the awkward to the overly sympathetic to those who encourage wheelchair athletics and such. Of the last he says, “The problem for chair users is feeling pressured to do things you think are unwise, or just uncomfortable, in order to keep up a hearty appearance. If you are in no condition or mood to ski, bowl, or get down on the dance floor, just roll away. It’s your God-given right to just be paralyzed. You don’t need the stress of being super-paralyzed…You have nothing to prove. Paralysis isn’t a contact sport or a race to sainthood” (p. 211). He goes on to say. “This kind of thinking runs counter to the aggressive ethos of the ‘new disabled'” which might work well for those in the twenties, but “you just might find that operating inside your limitations could be liberating” (p. 212).

Most of you who read here regularly know I usually read books from a Christian viewpoint, and this book is not that. There is a smattering of course words and crass remarks, some philosophies I wouldn’t espouse, some views I wouldn’t hold to personally. But aside from that, I really appreciated Allen’s insight.

This book would be good for anyone with transverse myelitis, anyone who is paralyzed for any reason, or anyone who knows someone who is paralyzed or in a wheelchair or has transverse myelitis — or anyone interested in any of the above.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Review: While We’re Far Apart

While We’re Far Apart by Lynn Austin wasn’t on my radar, but I saw it on a clearance table and seemed to remember it had been favorably reviewed by a few other bloggers I read, so I picked it up. I’m glad I did.

The WWII-era story is told from three points of view. Esther’s  family is reeling from the loss of their mother in an accident when they receive a second blow: news that their father, Eddie, in his grief, decided to enlist. Esther’s anguish in just the first few pages is palpable.

Eddie had counted on his mother to watch his children while he is at war, but she is unwilling and not really able. But neighbor Penny volunteers to. Penny has been quietly in love with Eddie for years. Though she’s sad at the family’s loss, she hopes eventually Eddie will notice her. Her elderly parents strongly disapprove: they’ve rarely let her out of the house, constantly berated her lack of “sense,” and are deathly afraid of strangers, especially those in the Jewish section of Eddie’s neighborhood.

Jacob Mendel is the family’s Jewish landlord, grieving the loss of his wife in the same accident that took Eddie’s wife, angry and withdrawn from his synagogue as well as God Himself, anxious for news from his son’s family in Hungary who are right in the path of Hitler’s advancing army.

Lynn masterfully weaves together the threads of these lives and puts faces on the various aspects of WWII as Esther resents Penny, begins receiving attention from neighboring teen, Jack, and deals with a serious problem with her brother. Penny discovers that taking care of children isn’t easy and doesn’t necessarily garner the attention of their father, but venturing out into the unknown world broadens her horizons. She finds she’s more capable than her parents gave her credit for, but she also begins to unearth secrets that may turn her own world upside down. Mr. Mendel reluctantly opens his heart just a crack for Esther as they both deal with God’s seeming silence.

Lynn’s descriptive phrasing enhances the story as well. “‘You–what!’ Grandma exploded like a shaken soda bottle.” “His words gave Esther the same empty, floating feeling she’d had after Mama died, as if she were a fluff of dandelion, no longer tethered to the earth.”

I was pulled in on the first pages, ached and rejoiced along with the characters, and was reluctant to leave them at the end.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

What’s On Your Nightstand: November

What's On Your NightstandThe folks at 5 Minutes For Books host What’s On Your Nightstand? the fourth Tuesday of each month in which we can share about the books we have been reading and/or plan to read.

Here’s what I finished since last time:

Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero by Michael Hingson, reviewed here, pretty interesting.

Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk by Dale and Jonalyn Fincher, recommended by Lisa, reviewed here, mixed emotions.

Love’s Pursuit by Siri Mitchell, Christian fiction about a woman in Puritan New England struggling to live by “the rules” yet realizing they were not helping her to be truly righteous, reviewed here. One of those books that keeps you thinking long after you close it.

The Mercy by Beverly Lewis, last of The Rose trilogy, not reviewed, but a fitting wrap-up and an enjoyable read.

Cranford by Elizabeth Gaskell, reviewed here, pleasant but not riveting.

I’m currently reading:

Created for Work: Practical Insights for Young Men by Bob Schultz, reading with my youngest son.

While We’re Far Apart by Lynn Austin.

The Best Seat in the House: How I Woke Up One Tuesday and Was Paralyzed for Life by Allen Rucker about dealing with transverse myelitis (same ailment I have) and it’s after-effects. Very interesting though marred by a smattering of bad language.

Next up are:

Longing, book three in the Bailey Flanigan series by Karen Kingsbury.

One Imperfect Christmas by Myra Johnson.

I haven’t decided for sure what’s after that, but I have a stack of a dozen or so to choose from, not to mention my ever-growing TBR list.

I also wanted to let my fellow readers know I am hosting a Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge here in February. You can read more about it here. Hope you’ll make plans to join us!

Book Review: Love’s Pursuit

Love’s Pursuit by Siri Mitchell takes place in a Puritan community in Stoneybrooke, Massachusettes. Susannah Phillips outwardly is a model of Puritan goodness and righteousness, but inwardly she almost constantly wrestles with wrong desires and motives.

A perceived threat of Indian attack leads the government to send a captain out to protect the community and train the men to defend themselves, and his “heathen” dress and ways stand out. The captain boards with Susannah’s family, and at first his talk about God, so different from her understanding, seems foolish to her. But gradually some of what he says begins to penetrate her thinking and make her wonder if what he says is true.

The captain unsettles not just her religious thinking, but her romantic notions. She is almost engaged to John Prescotte, but the captain makes his interest clear.

Furthermore, town leader and most eligible bachelor Simeon Wright shows an unwelcome interest in Susannah as well. Though outwardly Simeon is the epitome of Puritan manhood, there’s something not quite right about him from the very beginning.

A subplot concerns a young goodwife named Small-hope, rescued from an abusive home by her husband, yet holding herself protectively away from him as well as the rest of the community. Will the need to save someone else propel her from her shell, or will she stay safely retreated?

The story doesn’t go where one thinks it will at first: in fact, the climax almost had me wailing out loud, “Noooooo!!!!” But I think it underscored that the “love’s pursuit” Susannah most needed was not man’s, but God’s.

Love’s Pursuit is no featherweight romance. Siri Mitchell has done a marvelous job drawing the characters and portraying Susannah’s inner turmoil in her relationship with God and man as well as the problems of living in a community where one’s righteousness is based on performance and keeping the rules.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Review: Cranford

I first heard of Cranford when I saw ads for the BBC production. Somehow I wasn’t drawn in enough to tape it then, but when I saw the book during Borders’ close-out sales, I picked it up.

I hadn’t read anything by Elizabeth Gaskell, though I enjoyed the DVD of Wives and Daughters.

This book was originally told as installments in Charles Dickens’ magazine, Household Words. That may be why there doesn’t seem to be much of an overall plot arc, but rather a series of vignettes into the lives of a group of ladies who are friends in mid-nineteenth century England.

At first, when the story began by describing how the community was mostly made up of women, I was afraid it was going to be a pre-feminist rant against men, but thankfully that was not the case.

The two central characters are sisters, Deborah and Matty Jenkyns. Deborah is the stronger of the two, and thus her influence on Matty lingers long after Deborah dies fairly early in the book. Deborah is firm and opinionated: Matty is sweet but easily confused. The story is told through the eyes of a frequent visitor, Mary Smith.

At first, honestly, I was a little bored with the book. But gradually I began to see the humor in various incidents and a little Austenesque poke at the ironies of life in those times, people’s foibles, etc. In one example, the ladies were visiting a Mrs. Jamieson, who had both milk and cream for tea time but gave the cream to her spoiled dog, Carlo. “[Carlo] knew cream quite well, and constantly refused tea with only milk in it: so the milk was left for us, but we silently thought we were quite as intelligent and sensible as Carlo, and felt as if insult were added to injury, when we were called upon to admire the gratitude evinced by his wagging his tail for the cream, which should have been ours.”

By the later chapters the book seemed more of a character study of Matty, who at first seems simple and unassuming but is gradually revealed to bear up under trials large and small, including the loss of a brother, the loss of a possibility, of love, and the loss of fortune with a depth of character, fortitude, and sweetness. Other characters in the book, as well, show strength and compassion in spite of their idiosyncrasies.

One of my favorite quotes in the book comes when one member of the friends is engaged, to the shock of the others. Maddy softens to the idea before the others and says, “A man has a sort of knowledge of what should be done in difficulties, that it is very pleasant to have one at hand ready to lean upon.”

This edition is a Penguin Classic with copious end notes. I’d so much rather they had been footnotes, because it did interrupt the flow of the story to keep  having to turn to the back of the book, but I kept doing so, afraid I was going to miss something enlightening. I think there were a few too many notes, unless this was designed for younger students: some of its explanations seemed obvious to me.

I had wanted to watch the BBC film before reviewing the book, but I hadn’t realized it was a five part series including material from others of Gaskell’s books. I might look for it during the summer.

Cranford wasn’t spell-binding and didn’t leave me eager to add another Gaskell book to the queue, but it turned out to be a pleasant read in the end.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Announcing: A Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge

Last year during Carrie‘s Lucy Maud Montgomery Reading Challenge, I remarked that I was thinking about doing the same thing with either Laura Ingalls Wilder or Louisa May Alcott. There seemed to be a lot of interest in Laura, so in trying to determine what month would be good for a challenge, I saw that her birth and death both occurred in February. February seemed the ideal month, then, to have a reading challenge focused on Laura Ingalls Wilder.

You can read anything Laura has written or anything written about Laura. You can read alone or with your children or a friend. You can read just one book or several throughout the month — whatever works with your schedule. If you’d like to prepare some food or crafts somehow relating to Laura or her books, that would be really neat too.

On Feb 1, 2012, I’ll have a post up where you can sign in and let us know you’ll be participating and what you think you’d like to read that month. That way we can peek in on each other through the month and see how it’s going (that’s half the fun of a reading challenge). On Wed., Feb. 29, I’ll have another post where you can share with us links to your wrap-up post. Of course if you want to post through the month as you read, as well, that would be great, and I might share those from time to time. You don’t have to have a blog to participate: you can just leave your impressions in the comments if you like.

I’m really looking forward to getting back in touch with these books. I’ve read the whole original Little House series at least once, maybe more, but I am not sure whether I’ll reread those or a biography of her and a book of her newspaper columns I have been wanting to get to as well.

So, what do you think? Anyone interested? Make plans now to join us this February — I’m looking forward to seeing you then!

The Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge

Thoughts on Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk

The first few years after I was saved as a teen-ager, whenever I heard anyone teach or preach about witnessing to others, we were instructed to somehow get to the point of asking, “If you were to die tonight, do you know that you’d go to heaven?” Then, if the person would allow us, we were to share with them the Roman’s Road. I think the Roman’s Road is a good tool, but I don’t think you necessarily have to use it exactly as is to witness to someone. It’s good to be familiar with several Scriptures so the Holy Spirit can bring them to mind as needed.

But in recent years I have struggled with that question, “If you were to die tonight, do you know that you’d go to heaven?” For one thing, it puts the emphasis on what happens after death, as if eternal life started then and not at salvation. Preachers lament over people having a “fire escape” mentality to salvation, as if the only important thing about it is escaping hell, and I can’t help but think that’s because that’s the way Christians have presented it over the years. In addition, I can’t recall any witnessing exchange in Scripture ever using a variation of that question. My next time through the New Testament, I want to especially note how Jesus and the apostles dealt with people.

In more recent years I’ve heard the question, “When you stand before God some day, if He should ask you, ‘Why should I let you into My heaven,’ what would you say?” I like that a little better because the answer instantly reveals what a person is trusting in, but it still focuses on life after death, and though that is vitally important, it’s not the totality of salvation. The forgiveness of sins, overcoming sin, becoming a child of God, knowing God, having a Friend and Comforter in this life, all those seem to be glossed over on the way to dealing with he emphasis of life after death.

Besides wrestling with these issues, I struggle with figuring out how to even get to the gospel in everyday conversations with people about the weather, the produce, etc., all the while a part of me is scared to death and looking for excuses not to get to the gospel.

So against this background of conflicting thoughts, Lisa’s review of Coffee Shop Conversations: Making the Most of Spiritual Small Talk by Dale and Jonalyn Fincher piqued my interest.

I just finished the book last week, and I agree with Lisa, there is much that is helpful in it: when we talk about the Lord, we need to be respectful rather than belligerent or bombastic, remembering that  “the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy” (James 3:17). We need to get out of our Christianese to think about how a lost person is perceiving and understanding what we’re saying. In conversations with lost people, we need to avoid getting derailed by issues that even Christians disagree about. We need to be careful about our own attitudes even when we think non-Christian people aren’t around, joking about certain types of sin and sinners (“Mocking others, even behind their backs, destroys our capacity to respect them when we speak face to face” [p. 36]). We need to “allow others to remain unconvinced” rather than badgering them into making a “decision” now. (I can testify to having a couple of family members who were supposedly saved when the person talking with them backed them into a corner and wouldn’t let them go without their responding to the gospel, but those kinds of decisions are not usually genuine decisions if the person is just trying to get the Christian out of their face while being too shy or polite to put it into those words.) I agree we need to relate to people as people and not “projects.” The chapters on “One True Religion?” and “Talking About the Resurrection” were particularly helpful to me.

But I have to confess there were a few things I either didn’t agree with or was wary of in the book. And in discussing a few of these, I am not trying to be nitpicky or critical: I am trying to exercise discernment and understanding. If some of these things come across to me this way, I am sure they do to others as well.

For instance, on page 14 the authors write:

While we believe Jesus distinguishes himself as the Savior and King of us all, while we obey his teachings because we believe they give us the best road map for life, we also believe the biblical idea that all humans — be they Christians, Buddhists, Mormons, atheists — are made in God’s image. All humans reflect God in varying degrees of clarity. Therefore we approach every conversation as fellow learners rather than posturing as experts. We can gather data and truth even from those who do not follow Jesus, growing in wisdom and love, and giving others dignity by assuming they are doing the same. If we want our conversations to always be full of grace, then humility, not deft arguments or clever words, must become our first concern.

I agree with the last sentence, and I agree that when talking with someone with a different belief system, we don’t need to “blast” them for what they believe or come across as “superior.” And I do believe that God created man in His image, and that we still reflect something of His image even though that reflection has been marred by the entrance of sin into the world, yet I don’t believe  false religions reflect Him (and the authors don’t either, but that sentence just could be misconstrued). I agree that while talking with someone from a different belief system, we will probably exchange our differing beliefs, and that gives me a window into how he is thinking and an opportunity to share what I believe the Bible says (kindly). And that’s only polite — I can’t expect him to listen to what I say unless I listen to what he says. So I think ultimately we’re on the same page in this, but the sentence that everyone in every religion reflects God’s image could come across as saying that every religion contains truth, which is not what the authors believe. On page 25 the authors mention various outcasts of society (adulterers, demon-possessed, tax collectors, etc.) who followed Jesus, saying, “He loved them beyond their labels, seeing them as people, bearing the image of God.” Again, I agree with the first part of this sentence, but He loved them despite the fact that God’s image in them was marred because of sin, not because there was something of God’s image still left in them.

On page 25 the authors write, “Jesus didn’t act like many many evangelicals. When Jesus met people, he dignified their search for the good life, giving them parables to mull over and offering winsome, playful banter when they could handle his verbal sparring.” The footnote to this sentence references Matthew 13 and Mark 7:24-30. I’m sorry, but I don’t see anything playful in those passages.

On page 68 the writers say, “By coming to earth in the flesh, Jesus put his stamp of approval on what humans are.” My first response to that was, “Huh?” The next sentence says, “Jesus’ life proves God still finds humans worth redeeming.” Yes, I agree with that, but the first sentence threw me a little bit, because my response was, “He came to redeem us from what we are — sinners — not approve us.” In context I could see what they meant, but many places like this gave me pause at first.

From page 151:

Jesus taught that we live with evil and self-centeredness in our hearts. “For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander.” [Matthew 15:19]. According to Jesus the human problem that lives inside us is beyond our powers to fix. Our humanity could only be restored when an uncorrupted, fully human person comes as an example and sacrifice, not only to break the evil within but to empower humans to become fully human in relationship with God and others. Jesus empowers us to do what many religions only tell us to do: grow in love, discipline, and truth. In Christianity, as in all religions, good works are important, but these good works don’t earn the love of God, they evidence the love of God working in us. And unique from all Eastern religions, the end of humanity is not escape from the earth but a remaking of it.

There’s a lot of great stuff in that paragraph that I fully agree with, but that one sentence in the middle about being fully human jars me a bit. Jesus was and is, of course, much more than fully human, He is the Son of God, and when we’re saved we don’t become just fully human, we become children of God, though not in the same sense as Jesus’ Deity (we don’t become gods, as the Mormons believe, and the authors aren’t trying to convey that). I know the authors believe in Jesus’ Deity and in what happens to us to us at salvation, but I think the phrasing of that one sentence can be misconstrued and misunderstood. The authors bring up the idea of Jesus making us “appropriately human” again on p. 213, and that seems to be the focus of their web site .

In the chapter “The Hope For Human Healing,” Jonalyn mentions a moment of lust, and “Instead of berating myself for for being flirtatious or lustful, I simply prayed, ‘Jesus, I invite you into my lust'” (p. 154). I wrote in the margin, “Where is the Scriptural basis for this?” It sounds like inviting Jesus to join in one’s sin, though of course that is not what she means. Earlier in the chapter they mention Brother Lawrence learning to “invite Jesus into every moment, from washing dishes to saying prayers’ (p. 153). I wrote in the margin there, “Is He not already there? There’s a difference between invitation and acknowledgment.” Jesus is everywhere: I just need to remember that and acknowledge His presence, and in a lustful moment my response would have been, “I’m sorry — please help me with this.” It may just be a matter of semantics, we may mean basically the same thing by our different ways of phrasing it.

When people ask the authors whether they follow one religion or denomination, they say, “We follow Jesus. We think he was on to something” (p. 158). I agree that denominational labels don’t save and may sidetrack people, and I agree that we need to keep pointing people to Jesus rather than our “system,” but I think “he was on to something” is very, very weak.

Just to mention a few other problems: The Finchers are more liberal than I am in many of their views about mountains and molehills in the two chapters talking about those. Dale mentions coming from a very strict religious background, and sometimes people who do that go maybe a little too far the other way, in my opinion. And I saw more emphasis on philosophy than depending on the Spirit and Word of God. We do need to think about what we’re saying, how we’re coming across, how the other person might be processing what we’re saying, rather than just lapsing into a witnessing spiel. But as we seek the Lord in knowing how to speak of Him to others, we can trust Him to bring the thoughts and Scriptures to mind that are needed for the moment. God’s Word is what opens people’s eyes, convicts them, draws them to Himself, brings them life (John 6:63) and faith (Romans 10:17).

I was almost feeling like the authors thought every person needed to study philosophy and other religions before talking to people about the Lord, until I came to this paragraph:

Our hope is that you will find many friends to learn from as you talk about Jesus. We want this book to serve not merely as a collection of apologetic tools, but as a road map guiding you toward freedom to be yourself as you talk about Jesus. We hope you will customize your conversations to the unique gifts God has forged in your soul. May you develop your own questions and ideas to introduce others to the God of Israel. May you continue to be taught and humbled by the humans God places in your life (p. 218).

I can say Amen to that.

I think it is wise to try to discuss the gospel as inoffensively as possible (II Cor. 6:3: “Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed). But we have to remember that the gospel in itself will bring offense sometimes. Paul speaks of the offense of the cross. Look at the reaction Christ Himself as well as the apostles received when they shared the gospel. People don’t like hearing that their way of thinking and doing is wrong, no matter how kindly we try to put it. True, too many people have caused offense by their personalities and prided themselves that they were suffering persecution for the gospel’s sake when it was their own fault. But we can’t go too far the other way (which is something I struggle with), trying so hard not to offend the person that we hold back or tone down the truth.

I apologize that this hasn’t been a book review so much as a hammering out of my own thoughts in regard to witnessing in general and the book in particular. I encourage you to see Lisa’s review — she did a much better job. 🙂 For my part, though I found much that was helpful and much that I agreed with, there were enough parts that I either disagreed with or that raised questions for me that I couldn’t endorse it completely. But I think much good could be gleaned from it by a thoughtful and discerning reader.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Review: Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero

Thunder Dog: The True Story of a Blind Man, His Guide Dog, and the Triumph of Trust at Ground Zero tells of Michael Hingson’s ordeal on 9/11. He was working on the 78th floor of the north tower of the World Trade Center when he and his colleagues heard an explosion and felt the building tilt. Not knowing what had happened, they evacuated everyone and then tried to power down computers and such, but quickly decided they need to leave the building. The only way to do so was by 1,463 stairs.

There was just one problem. Michael has been blind almost since birth and had his guide dog, Roselle, with him.

But it’s not really a problem. Michael’s parents “mainstreamed” him before the concept became popular. During his childhood Michael’s parents calmly fielded neighbor’s concerned calls about their blind son zipping around the neighborhood on his bicycle.

Interspersed between details of 9/11 are flashbacks from Michael’s life: childhood, education, work life, acquisitions of guide dogs, marriage, and then how 9/11 impacted the rest of his life. Though I know that’s the style these days, I do miss the time when a book started at the beginning and told a story straight through to the end. But it’s not at all hard to follow, and both aspects of the story are quite interesting.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)