Works For Me Wednesday: Packing for camp

This isn’t going to be a full-fledged how-to-pack-for-camp post, but just a couple of tips I’ve learned the hard way.

1. When my middle son first started going to camp, he would consistently lose or leave behind a few things, and they would consistently be new things I had bought just before camp. I got so frustrated — until I realized that, because they were new, he didn’t recognize them as his when he was packing things up. So it might be helpful to buy their new swimming trunks or shorts or whatever they need a little while before camp so they can wear them and get used to them.

2. As I unpacked their suitcases after camp, I would find unused items. When I asked about them, they would reply, “Oh! I didn’t know that was in there.”

It took me years to learn in general that the best way to teach a child how to do something is to have them do it with you first, then to have them do it under your supervision, and then to do it alone to be inspected by you later. Somehow it didn’t dawn on me to apply this to packing until my oldest sons were teens and said they would rather pack for themselves so they would know what they had and where it was. That makes sense: if someone else packed for me I would waste time rifling through looking for what I needed rather than knowing just where to look.

So with with my youngest son this year, we discussed what he needed to take; I helped him gather items; he packed while I watched; I gave him a tip about using socks to stuff into corners or spots between stacks; before he left I double checked with him about whether he had gotten certain items. It was much less work and stress for me, plus he has a handle on what he has with him and is learning a life skill. He even engaged in some decision-making about what to leave behind and what he could use twice (so as not to need a replacement) when his suitcase was getting too full.

Works for me! You can see other workable tips every Wednesday at Rocks In My Dryer.

A couple of Saturday memes about dads

I have seen this Saturday 9 meme around and decided to try it today. Every Saturday 9 questions are posted, sometimes around a theme. Today’s question has to do with fathers.

1. How long since you have been with your dad?

He passed away several years ago.

2. How many siblings share your dad?

1 brother, 3 sisters.

3. Will you see your dad tomorrow?

No, I won’t see him til I get to heaven. 🙂

4. Do you give him gifts on Father’s Day?

I did when he was alive. Over his last several years I usually got him books and models, especially models of military vehicles.

5. Have you ever had a tough time in your relationship with your father?

Oh yes. 🙂 My father was an alcoholic. I wrote more about him and how he came to the Lord here.

6. What was the last thing that you did with your dad?

We had gone to TX to see him when he had a small stroke and was on a ventilator and all the family had been called in. We were there for about a week. Thankfully he came off the ventilator the last day we were able to be there, so we got to talk some then. He did get better and get out of the hospital and had about six more good months.

7. Growing up, was your dad tough on you?

Yes, very. He came from an authoritarian era.

8. Are you close to your father?

I was in my earlier years. He was a hard person to be close to.

9. How long since you have spoke to him?

I think it was a few weeks before he passed away, right after my brother’s wedding.

My dad and me:

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And I have also seen a Saturday Social meme, this time asking the question:

What qualities do you think make a great Dad?

I think first and foremost a good dad loves the Lord, tries to live according to His Word, and tries to teach his children about Him.

A good dad provides for his family both by his job and with his time. He knows their needs are not just physical.

A good dad takes time to listen, both to the silly and fun things as well as the serious ones.

A good dad is not afraid of his children’s questions but takes time to share answers.

A good dad makes time for fun.

A good dad loves his children’s mother.

I am glad to say my children have a good dad. 🙂

Thursday Thirteen: Dad’s Famous Sayings

In honor of Father’s Day this Sunday, I thought I’d salute dads and post lines that seem common to dads everywhere. Did your dad say these? Can you think of any others?

1. Do you think I am made of money? (or Do you think money grows on trees?)

2. This is going to hurt me a lot worse than it will hurt you.

3. You’re not leaving my house dressed like that!

4. Close the door. Were you born in a barn?

5. As long as you live under my roof, you will live by my rules.

6. Don’t make me stop this car!

7. “Hey” is for horses.

8. When I was your age , I….

9. You didn’t beat me. I let you win.

10. Who said life was supposed to be fair? Life is not fair.

11. I’ll tell you why. Because I said so. That’s why.

12. What are your intentions with my daughter?

13. You’ve got a headache? Here, let me step on your toe, and you’ll forget your head hurts.

More Thursday Thirteens are here.

(Graphic courtesy of Snapshots of Joy)

If you came to my house…

I saw this fun meme at My 3 Boys and I

If you came to my house…

You would see:

If you came to the front door, a very small porch area and an outer door in need of paint, and the inner door with this…

Heart wreath

However, if you came to the side door you’d see roses and hydrangea in bloom just now.

We’d probably feed you:

a chicken and potatoes and carrots crock pot recipe that I often make for company and something with chocolate for dessert.

And offer you this to drink:

oh, we have a wide assortment of juices, tea, colas, and, of course, water. Which would you prefer?

We’d undoubtedly ask if you’d read:

Amy Carmichael, Isobel Kuhn, or Elisabeth Elliot, the Bible.

We’d want to play this music for you:

Possibly Jesse’s latest recital piece if we are talking about an instrument; if recorded music, if I have any on while company is here, it is without words so as not to compete with conversation. My two favorite instrumental recordings are guitar CDs Hear My Prayer by Matthew Burtner and Sun of My Soul by Brian Pinner and David Chapman. Or maybe any of the Eine Kleine Kaffeemusik CDs

We’d want to tell you the latest about:

Jim and Jeremy’s trip to Brazil.

We’d probably suggest a game of:

Apples to Apples or Ticket to Ride or Wii bowling.

We might show off:

I don’t like to think of it as showing off, but often people ask to see the house.

We might get on the computer and show you:

Pictures! 🙂

If it was a long enough visit, we might watch:

A DVD, though we don’t own too many — a few Austen-esque chick flicks, most of the Pixar films, the LOTR series.

What would a visit to your house be like?

I hope it would be relaxed and enjoyable.

Let me know if you do this one, too — I’d love to come visit. 🙂

Thursday Thirteen: Am I the only one who…

1. Likes to shop without help? To me the ideal sales person is one who is close by if you do need help but who doesn’t “hover” or hound you. I realize some may stay close by if they’re watching out for shoplifters. But I hate it when I have my nose in a book and someone comes by to say, “Can I help you find anything?” (Um, no, I found it, thanks.), or if I am met at every corner by someone asking to help me, or if I am trying to make a decision they really can’t help me with, or … well you get the idea. I admit, though, I’d rather have that problem than no help at all.

2. Mutes almost all commercials? I just can’t stand the noise and commotion. They’re usually louder than the show I was watching and usually obnoxious.

3. Doesn’t like slide shows on blogs or web sites? Please, don’t be offended if you use them. I can understand not wanting to take up so much space with a lot of pictures. But I hate sitting and waiting for the next picture to show up. I’d rather see them all at once and then click on the ones that I want to see more of. I’ve seen some slide shows with a “View all pictures” button, and that helps — I click on that and get a quick overview.

4. Doesn’t like instant messaging? I hate being in the middle of reading or writing or thinking and having a window pop up. It feels rude not to acknowledge it, so I just disabled it.

5. Cringes at public proposals? I’ve told my boys they’d better be pretty sure of the answer if they’re going to ask in such a way! But personally I think privacy at such a time is more meaningful. Unless someone really likes being put on the spot.

6. Doesn’t like online articles that just have a couple of paragraphs on the page and therefore take several pages? The prevailing wisdom is that Internet readers like things in short snatches, but I’d rather have the whole thing on one page than have to click over several times.

7. Doesn’t like messy hairstyles?

8. Thinks that there’s not much interesting on the summer TV schedule?

9. Doesn’t unpack my suitcase in hotels? Or even at other people’s homes? I will hang up dresses or things that need the wrinkles to fall out, but the things that stay folded I’d rather just leave in the suitcase.

10. Wishes those who have the right of way would just go ahead and take it most times? We certainly need more thoughtfulness on the roads, but sometimes some dear person is trying to be polite by letting someone else go when they have the right of way, but by the time that’s figured out and signaled and understood, it has taken much more time and effort than if the original person had just gone when they were supposed to.

11. Doesn’t like PowerPoint presentations where text comes up one letter at a time? Get on with it already.

I am sounding awfully impatient, aren’t I? I guess I’d rather use my time in better ways — or, if I am going to waste it, I want to waste it on my own terms. 🙂

12. Thinks pointy-toe shoes are silly?

13. Puts soft drinks in the freezer? Not til they’re frozen solid, but just until they’re slushy. Soooo good!!

You can find more Thursday Thirteens here.

Thursday Thirteen: I could teach lessons in grocery bagging

I have never worked in a grocery store, but I have shopped in them for over 30 years and I know what bagging issues cause problems by the time a shopper gets home. I know sometimes it’s busy and there is a long line at the check out and the mentality is “just get them bagged up and outta here asap.” That will usually make for problems. I have bagged my own groceries before when no one else was available and I know it doesn’t really take a lot of extra time to bag thoughtfully. So if I could teach Grocery Bagging 101, here would be some of my key points:

1. Do not put raw meat in the same bag with things that will not be cooked, like produce and lunch meat and cheese. Personally I prefer raw meat be put in its own bag all alone. I don’t know why, with all the warnings about raw meat right there on the label, it’s packaged in a way that blood leaks out. We don’t stand for leakage with any other product, why raw meat? Some companies are changing their packages, and I hope that trend spreads. But meanwhile, we don’t want to cross-contaminate bloody meat with fresh foods.

2. Don’t put soft things (like bananas and bread) in the same bag with hard things (cans). The soft things will get squished or bruised.

3. Not too many items are packaged in glass any more, but don’t put glass bottles in the same bag together. They clink together when the bags are picked up and can break. We had a glass bottle of apple juice break in the back of our car once. Not fun.

4. Don’t put a lot of heavy things (i.e., cans) into one bag, even if you double bag them. What a healthy 19-year-old guy can easily move from the check-out to the cart and the cart to my car takes more effort for me to move from my car through two rooms and up seven steps to the kitchen.

5. On the other hand, I’ve had multitudes of bags with just one or two items in them, and that’s a waste of resources.

6. Don’t put anything cold in the bag with anything that might be damaged by condensation (i.e., cardboard boxes). Condensation does occur even on a short drive home.

7. It helps to have frozen foods packaged together — they keep each other cold.

8. The same is true with refrigerated items.

9. I don’t necessarily want to trade life stories or become best friends over the canned green beans and paper towels, but I don’t want to be totally ignored, either. A friendly greeting or some kind of acknowledgment does wonders. (Incidentally, I feel the same holds true on the other side of the counter. I hate to see customers chatting on cell phones all through their checkout.)

10. On the job in front of customers is not the best time to gripe about your job, boss, coworkers, customers, etc. It’s not the best time to flirt with the cute cashier, either.

11. If you can’t talk and work at the same time — work. 🙂

12. If you are sent to retrieve something (say, a package of something was broken open and you are sent for a replacement), if you don’t know where the item is, ask someone right away rather than roaming around looking while the customer and checkout line is being held up waiting for you.

13. Smile! 🙂 Act like you enjoy your job, even if it is “just” a grocery store job, and it will do wonders for your customers, your coworkers, and yourself. And your boss will notice.

I hope this doesn’t sound like just the rantings of an grouchy customer. You may see hundreds of customers a day (and many of them can be less than fun, I know — I have worked in retail sales), but they only interact with a handful of workers. If they have a negative experience with any one of them it reflects on the individual and the business. Plus industriousness, attention to detail, and some amount of people skills will serve you well in any job.

You can join in Thursday Thirteening here at the T13 Hub.

Alphabet Soup

I saw this over at Joyful Notes and thought it looked like fun!

A is for age: 50

B is for burger of choice: The ones my husband grills

C is for car you drive: Chevy Grand Caravan (Make that Chrysler, as my husband lovingly corrected me. I don’t know much about cars. 🙂 )

D is for your dog’s name: Suzie

E is for essential item you use every day: Deodorant and toothpaste!

F is for favorite TV show at the moment: Lost

G is for your favorite game: Word Twist (on Facebook)

H is for hometown: probably Greenville, SC. Our time there was the longest I have ever lived in one place, and going back there feels like going home.

I is for instruments you play: None. 😦

J is for favorite juice: orange

K is for what you’d like to kick: Excess poundage.

L is for last restaurant you ate at: Monterrey’s Mexican Food

M is for your favorite muppet: Grover

N is for number of piercings: None

O is for overnight hospital stays: Seven separate stays, more than one night each stay.

P is for people you were with today: Jim, Jeremy, Jason, and Jesse.

Q is for what you do with your quiet time: Read, computer

R is for biggest regret: Dating a guy for four years who was definitely not the right one

S is for status: Married to my wonderful husband, mom to 3 boys young men.

T is for time you woke up today: 7:30 a.m.

U is for what you consider unique: The Bible.

V is for vegetable you love: potato

W is for worst habit: munching, wasting time

X is for x-rays you’ve had: oh, my, let’s see…several on teeth and chest, one on ankle, several on spine (worst was myelogram on spine — they inject dye then tilt you up and down)

Y is for yummy food you ate today: chocolate chip cookie.

Z is for zodiac sign: Don’t believe in ’em. 🙂

Let me know if you play, too!

(Photo courtesy of the morgue files)

Time Travel Tuesday: High School Graduation

timetraveltuesday.gifAnnie created and hosts Time Travel Tuesday each week with a question about our past. It’s a lot of fun! Click on the button to join in.

The topic today is high school graduation:

It’s that time of year… graduation! Which made this week’s time travel theme very easy to decide. So, what do you remember about graduating from high school? Was there anything special about the actual ceremony you remember? What did you do after graduation?

I don’t remember many of the details. I graduated in 1975 — over 30 years ago! 😮 There were 8 in our class. I was the valedictorian, so I had to give a speech (scary!) which I think was probably very dull to the poor listeners, to judge by their reactions. Bud Bierman spoke, for those who know him. He had been in my pastor’s former youth group many years before. They did tape everything but something didn’t work right, so we didn’t get copies.

I can’t remember specifically what we did afterward. but the usual thing after graduations was to all go out to a restaurant. People didn’t really have receptions then, at least among people I knew.

Of the graduation presents I remember, my mom gave me several things I would need for college (towels, etc.) and my boyfriend at the time gave me luggage to take stuff to college in. I think several people gave money, which was probably saved for college. 🙂

I wore a long red and white checked dress (must have been before I decided I didn’t like red) that had lace short sleeves and a lace inset at the bodice with lace around a square neckline (which I tried to iron one time — just a little bit of lace sticking up — while it was on. Dumb move!!! 😳 Thankfully it wasn’t this night.)

Here is a picture of my dad and I after the ceremony:

And here are a couple of my senior portraits:

Senior portrait

Senior portrait

I don’t really like my expressions there, but I had gone to the studio our school was using alone and felt very stiff and uncomfortable. I should have gone with one of the other girls — it would have been a lot more fun! Senior portraits have come a long way since these days, though!

I do remember being very excited at reaching that milestone!

How about you?

ABCs of me

I saw this at Dawn‘s and thought it looked like fun!

Accent: I don’t think I have one though I lived in Texas for 22 years and South Carolina for 28. In college people were surprised to find out I was from TX because they were expecting the over-drawn drawls you hear on TV.

Breakfast or no breakfast: Yes, breakfast is a must. I have low blood sugar and get a headache and then other unpleasantness if I don’t eat.

Chore I don’t care for: A toss between cleaning bathrooms (icky) and dusting (to do it right you have to pick up everything on the shelf, table, etc.). I like the results but not the process.

Dog or Cat: A dog, Suzie, half collie, half German Shepherd.

Essential Electronics: My cell phone and computer.

Favorite Cologne: I don’t wear any now — a lot of scents give me headaches — but I used to wear Emeraude or Wind Song.

Gold or Silver: Depends on what it is; I have some of each. But I probably prefer silver.

Handbag I carry most often: Just a basic black one with lots of pockets.

Insomnia: No.

Job Title: Homemaker.

Kids: Three boys, ages 23, 20, and 14.

Living Arrangements: I live in a medium-sized town with my DH of 28 years in house we’ve been in for 10 years — the longest we’ve lived in one house.

Most Admirable Trait: Dependability.

Naughtiest Childhood Behavior: Portraying heavily embellished stories as truth.

Overnight hospital stays: Seven. Three babies delivered, three surgeries (tonsils, gallbladder, thyroid), and onset of transverse myelitis.

Phobias: My family would day I probably have a phobia about unclean hands. 🙂

Quote: Oh, I love many, but one of my favorites is “God does not waste suffering, nor does He discipline out of caprice. If He plough, it is because He purposes a crop.” — J. Oswald Sanders

Reason to smile: God is in control!

Siblings: One brother, four sisters, all younger.

Time I wake up: 5 a.m. most days.

Unusual Talent or Skill: Hmmm…. I’m stuck on this one…

Vegetable I Refuse to Eat: Turnip greens (shudder!)

Worst Habit: Eating too much/wrong things.

X-rays: Yes.

Yummy Stuff: Chocolate, Mexican food, pizza.

Zoo Animal I Like Most: Monkeys

Let me know if you play along!