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First random dozen of 2010

Linda at 2nd cup of coffee created and hosts the Random Dozen meme every Wednesday.

1. On a scale of 1-10, with 10 being a cranky-baby-hissy-fitter, how much of a complainer are you?

One of my sons used say, “Complaining is a sin” any time anyone so much as said, “It sure is cold.” I told him I didn’t think just making a factual observation was complaining. But  muttering under my breath, “I hate the cold. I hate the cold. I hate the cold” all the way out to the car probably is. I do tend to make a number of negative observations….I guess I’d say maybe a 6-7? An 8 some days?

2. When someone else is talking, do you listen, or are you thinking about what you’re going to say in response?

Sometimes one, sometimes the other. Sometimes if I don’t think about what I’m going to say, I won’t remember it. 😀

3. I just deleted 1062 messages from my email account. Do you have any plans for a clean sweep this month–of anything?

I tend to clean out old messages on my cell phone during waiting times (waiting for my son to come out of basketball practice, etc.) and e-mails here and there as I have time. I guess I do most of my cleaning out while cleaning/organizing/sorting rather than just setting out to clean out something.

And now, here are some brilliant questions from a gal named Angie at Angie’s Ad Lib who graciously offered to let me borrow her brain. Please go over and see Angie because it was so nice of her to help me out. Thank you so much, Angie!

4. Tell us about your perfume. Was it a gift? What does it remind you of? Do you have a signature scent?

I don’t wear perfume. Most of them give me a headache.

5. What is your best organizing tip for the new year?

Just get started.

6. What is your favorite comic strip?

I don’t think I have a favorite.

7. Do you sleep with a fluffy or flat pillow?

Semi-fluffy.

8. What color is your kitchen? Why did you choose that color?

Blue, pink, and white. I love those colors. And no, it doesn’t look like a nursery: at least I don’t think so.

9. What’s the most interesting bumper sticker you’ve seen?

Well, if I could remember half the bumper stickers I’ve seen, I could tell you. My son used to have one that said, “Red meat isn’t bad for you. Fuzzy green meat is bad for you.”

10. Do you prefer an expensive writing tool or whatever is lying around? (Are you a Montblanc or a Papermate?)

I’m not into expensive or designer pens, but I like the kind that click rather than the kind with removable caps. There is a certain Bic kind that I really like. I don’t know the name of it, but I recognize it when I see it.

11. What chore doesn’t feel like a chore – you just enjoy it (at least most of the time)?

Household chores pretty much all feel like chores to me, at least until I get started. I do enjoy seeing the results and often put on music while doing them, so it doesn’t take too long before my attitude changes.

12. If your parents often repeated themselves, what is something one of them said more than once?

How many times have I told you…..? I remember trying to come up with a specific number because I thought my dad was being literal.

Were you raised in a barn? Close the door!

Don’t make me stop this car!

Book Reviews: Shades of Blue and Fit to Be Tied

Shades of Blue by Karen Kingsbury is the story of a young dating couple who made a series of bad choices and then went separate ways, but they find the consequences of those choices are still haunting them years later. The man, Brad, believes he has moved on with his life until an ad campaign he is working on for baby blankets a few weeks before his own wedding undoes him, and he realizes he must find Emma and apologize.

Emma has never really moved on: she keeps other relationships at bay and has walked away from God, feeling too dirty and sinful to be worthy of His notice or the love of God or man.

The news comes as a blow to Brad’s fiancee, Laura, who has to deal with her own feelings of fear and betrayal.

This book deals carefully and well with the varied emotions resulting from an abortion (no spoilers there as it is revealed early on). The plot is what should ideally happen for forgiveness to be found and for those involved to move on, though, sadly, I am afraid real life probably doesn’t often happen this way.

The Publisher’s Weekly Review says, “Kingsbury tackles a touchy, difficult topic, yet in her characteristic style, her gentle approach wins the day. It will also overcome any reader resistance, no matter what position one takes on this volatile issue.” I agree.

Fit to Be Tied is the second of Robin Lee Hatcher’s Sisters of Bethlehem series. Gwen and Cleo are fraternal twins, separated at the age of two when their mother left their father, taking Gwen with her and leaving Cleo with their father at the ranch in Idaho. Gwen came back to ID to live and renew her relationship with her father and sister, and though they love each other dearly, Gwen and Cleo are as different as night and day. Gwen is every bit the refined lady; Cleo is the chief wrangler of her father’s ranch, more comfortable in trousers and with the animals, in 1916 Idaho where this was highly unconventional for women.

Into their midst comes an English aristocrat, Sherwood Stratham, who has been sent to America as punishment by his father in hopes that he will mend his ways. He ends up as a hand on the ranch with Cleo as his reluctant supervisor. They have to deal with their differences and prejudices against each other until they begin to discover the good qualities in each other.

It wouldn’t take much to guess that the couple falls in love, but how they get there is a lot of fun and free from many of the cliches that westerns or an opposites-attracting storyline can fall into. I liked how the plot progressed and I like the real depth of their relationship.

Thanks to Zondervan for providing a copy of Fit to Be Tied for review.

Book challenges

I’ve been a little reluctant to join any book challenges because I have so many books to be read on my shelf, and many more on a list. But these two are calling to me.

The folks at 5 Minutes For Books have revamped their Classics Bookclub: instead of choosing one classic for everyone to read and discuss, now anyone can read any classic, and instead of meeting and linking up once a month, they will meet once a quarter. You can list what book(s) you read and wrote about and then peruse the list to see what others read, clicking on the ones that interest you.

I do want to keep the classics in my regular reading, but I don’t often reach for them unless there is a specific challenge or goal like this. I mentioned earlier that I had read most of the classics I had a burning desire to, and perhaps it was time to revisit some old favorites.

L. M. Montgomery Reading ChallengeAlong those lines, Carrie at Reading to Know is hosting an L. M. Montgomery Reading Challenge: basically we’re to pick any book(s) of L. M. Montgomery, write a post stating we’re joining the challenge and leave a comment on this post, read the book some time during January, then on Jan. 31 leave a comment with a link back to whatever Montgomery books we read and posted about during the month.

I think these two will dovetail nicely!

So my tentative goals for the Classics Bookclub are:

1. Read Anne of Green Gables for this and the Montgomery challenge. This will probably make me want to reread all the books and watch the film series again, but I’ll just have to deal with that. 🙂

2. Read something from Agatha Christie. I’ve been saying I want to for ages: now is the time to do it!

3. Carrie is also hosting a Chronicles of Narnia reading challenge in July. I am still thinking about that and may do it: I’d love to revisit the series.

I think the fourth option I will leave open for now and see what develops and what I am in the mood for later, since nothing in particular is coming to mind just now.

Oh, and there are prizes associated with each challenge. The Classics Bookclub will enter anyone who signs up with their goals by Jan. 31 into a drawing for Invitation to the Classics: A Guide to Books You’ve Always Wanted to Read and a copy of Jane Eyre from the Readable Classics series. Carrie is offering a locket from Emma Parker & Co. as a prize.

Back to the ol’ routine…

…at least, that’s what I thought today would be. Everyone is back at work or school, and I have plenty of things to do, but nothing pressing. So I was going to compute for a while and then dig into some project or another.

I had several threads of ideas for blog posts, but nothing really came together…and I just seemed to have some strange sort of malaise. I got more and more sleepy and couldn’t seem to think straight. I ended up taking a nap. That did help some.

Though the past 2-3 weeks have had pockets of relaxation and a lot of fun, I have had something pressing to do just about every day. So maybe it all just caught up with me. I hope I am not catching something.

I’ve always said I don’t work best under deadlines or pressure, but I do get more done then. Part of that has to do with having a limited amount of time, but part of it, I just realized today, is that a deadline helps you focus on just the thing that needs work and helps you prioritize. With many projects needing to be done but no real time constraint on any of them, I tend to just float around indecisively and not make headway. I need to just pick one and get started.

I think today I’ll declutter. That doesn’t take a lot of mental effort. We got the Christmas decorations put away Saturday and a lot of the house in order then, but I see some stacks of stuff that need sorting through.

Hopefully by tomorrow I’ll be back with something more interesting to read. 🙂

More odds and ends…

I like to change my blog header seasonally but this year I just did not want to put anything cold or snowy there, and I couldn’t find a fireplace photo I liked. This design was given to me free by Everyday Mommy years ago, and it just fits me perfectly! I like to put it in when I don’t have a seasonal photo there. She does great work.

There were a couple of photos from our fireworks New Year’s Eve that I wanted to share. I can’t remember whether this was something  Jim got Jeremy for Christmas or something one of them got “just because” or what, but it’s a clip-on thing for a cap that has little flashlights in it:

Without the flash he looks like a cyborg or something:

Sure, it might look a little geeky — but it is great when you need light but want to keep your hands free. 🙂

Last night we went to one of those places where you drive through and look at all the lights. These were the only pictures of the lights that didn’t come out too

blurry:

They had one area where the animals were roaming around freely, and this emu came over to say hi.

For a few minutes Jim had his hand shaped like a bird’s head and moved his fingers like a bird’s bill, talking to the emu, and the emu kept cocking his head looking at Jim’s hand, wondering, I guess, what this creature was and what language it was speaking. I was trying to get a picture of that but missed it. It was so funny.

But the funniest thing of the night occurred with this creature that looked part zebra and part donkey. It and another zebra were visiting the car in front of us (the place sold bags of food we could feed to the animals, but we didn’t get any this year). We watched for a while, but then it seemed it had been an inordinately long time. We were ready to move and were wondering why the car in front of us wasn’t moving. Then we became aware that the zebra/donkey had positioned himself in front of the car with it’s nose on the hood and was not moving:

I don’t know what it was doing — trying to warm it’s nose or what. And the other zebra was just looking on the whole time. As we were finally able to get past them, we were making up lines for it (“Hey, baby, come here often?” etc.)

The area had a place at the end with a petting zoo and a little shop and place to get hot chocolate, but it was way cold and seemed later than it was, and we just didn’t feel like stopping. Well, Jason did, but he acquiesced for the rest of us. It was a fun outing though I enjoy it more before Christmas, but there just didn’t seem to be a good time beforehand.

Christmas decorations come down today. I’m ready, but it does seem like it all went so fast!

I got the ladies’ booklet done yesterday and have to restock the missions closet today — one of our missionaries is in the area for just a few weeks, and I don’t know exactly when he might be at our church, but I want to be ready. We might have Grandma over for dinner and Scrabble tonight depending on how the rest of the day goes. It’s pretty slow going when she plays, but it is one of her favorite things to do.

Tomorrow will be a regular Sunday, then Monday, it’s back to the ol’ routine. I’m missing a lot of the specialness of the Christmas season already, but a part of me is looking forward to the start of a new year and gearing up to get some things done.

I don’t usually do “resolutions,” but the New Year does provide a good time to look back, reflect, and evaluate things and maybe set some goals. Things have been going pretty constantly for the past 2-3 weeks, and there hasn’t been a lot of time to think about it yet, but so far my mindset is just to continue on with what I’ve been doing. A lot of the goals I set last New Year’s are not done yet, to my shame, so I’ll just work on those.

Hope your New Year is going swimmingly so far!

Prayer for the New Year

O Lord,
Length of days does not profit me
except the days are passed in Thy presence,
in Thy service, to Thy glory.
Give me a grace that precedes, follows, guides,
sustains, sanctifies, aids every hour,
that I may not be one moment apart from Thee,
but may rely on Thy Spirit
to supply every thought,
speak in every word,
direct every step,
prosper every work,
build up every mote of faith,
and give me a desire
to show forth Thy praise;
testify Thy love,
advance Thy kingdom.

I launch my bark on the unknown waters of this year,
with Thee, O Father as my harbour,
Thee, O Son, at my helm,
Thee O Holy Spirit, filling my sails.
Guide me to heaven with my loins girt,
my lamp burning,
my ear open to Thy calls,
my heart full of love,
my soul free.

Give me Thy grace to sanctify me,
Thy comforts to cheer,
Thy wisdom to teach,
Thy right hand to guide,
Thy counsel to instruct,
Thy law to judge,
Thy presence to stabilize.
May Thy fear by my awe,
Thy triumphs my joy.

From The Valley of Vision

Seen at Challies.

First Friday’s Fave Five of 2010!

Susanne at Living to Tell the Story hosts a “Friday Fave Five” in which we share our five favorite things from the past week. Click on the button to read more of the details, and you can visit Susanne to see the list of others’ favorites or to join in.

Since it has been two weeks since we’ve done a Fave Five, I hope it’s ok to go back two weeks!

1. Celebrating our 30th anniversary with a trip to Charleston and our kids surprising us with a little celebration when we came home.

2. All involved with Christmas. It was a nice, quiet, restful day with all the immediate family here. My favorite present: a cedar chest from my husband:

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When I was growing up it was common for women to gave these at the foot of their beds to store keepsakes. I always wanted one but never mentioned it because we never had the space for one. But moving the sewing desk out of our bedroom into the new sewing room created space! I can’t wait to go through some things to put in here.

3. Finally making Harvest Loaf Cake yesterday! I usually make it earlier in December, but we love it any time.

4. Fireworks on New Year’s Eve!! I love fireworks anyway, and I grew up having them, but we haven’t been able to have them at home in the last ten years or so because our city doesn’t allow them. But my son and new daughter-in-law live outside the city limits! So we went to their house for New Year’s Eve and brought some fireworks.

It’s funny, it wasn’t raining at the time, or even misting, though it had done both earlier in the day, yet my camera was picking up the water droplets in the air. This is one of about five “big ones” we shot off.

Some little tanks that sent off sparkler-type fireworks.

5. A couple of get-togethers at Jason and Mittu’s house with another family from church whose daughters, one a teacher in CA and one a student in FL, both of whom worked with Jason and Mittu at camp, were visiting. Good food and fellowship and fun playing games. We don’t do that as often as we should.

My favorite clue from Taboo (a game where you’re trying to get your teammates to guess what you’re describing, but you’re not allowed to say certain key words in the clues you give them) was when Jim gave the clue, “Six minus 1 small things that come out of ladies.” All of us on his team thought, “What??!!” Then it hit a couple of us that the answer was “quintuplets.” We laughed about that the rest of the night.

Then at midnight Jason was chasing Mittu to get a New Year’s kiss, and this family’s six-year-old son asked, “Can I play kissing tag?” 🙂

I hope your New Year is off to a good start, and I wish you all the best in 2010!

Favorite books read in 2009

I just posted my list of books read in 2009. I was surprised the total ended up at only 42 (though I’d say the 1400+ pages of Les Mis has to count for at least five books, dontcha think? 🙂 ) Some people think I read a lot, but I’m nowhere near Carrie’s 132!

I’ve read as Semicolon has posted her top ten books from different genres the past several days. I haven’t read enough or from enough different genres to do that, but these are my overall favorite books read in 2009, in no particular order:

1. Les Miserables (unabridged) by Victor Hugo, reviewed here. I had read different abridged versions before, and it had been my goal for a long time to read the  whole unabridged version. I am glad I did: I enjoyed it, but I don’t know that I would do it again! I do think I’ll revisit the story in the future, but I’ll feel free to skip over some of the longer side trails in the book.

2. Becoming God’s True Woman edited by Nancy Leigh DeMoss. I read it twice this year but have yet to review it: there is just so much to it, it’s hard to know how to condense anything I might say about it other than that I highly recommend it. But this is a review I agreed to do, so I need to get on that right away! Reviewed here.

3. Come, Thou Long Expected Jesus, a compilation by Nancy Guthrie of 22 Christmas related essays from authors varying from Augustine and Luther to Piper and MacArthur. I just finished this and haven’t had a chance to review it yet, either, but I loved it. I am already planning on using it again next December: it may become an annual tradition.

4. To The Golden Shore by Courtney Anderson, reviewed here. A detailed biography of America’s first missionary, Adoniram Judson. Depth of character, faithfulness in any circumstance, even the severest hardships, a brilliant mind yielded totally to God.

5. Our Daily Walk by F. B. Meyer and Daily Light on the Daily Path. I’ll put the two devotional books together. I’ve been using Daily Light for years and feel a little funny listing it as a favorite — but it is. Meyer’s book is new to me this year, and it was my introduction to his writing (that’s the main reason I picked it up: I’d heard much of him and wanted to read directly from him. I did enjoy the book and plan to use it again this year.

6. How Do I Love Thee? by Nancy Moser about the relationship between Elizabeth Barrett and Robert Browning, reviewed here.

7. The Centurion’s Wife by Davis Bunn and Janette Oke, reviewed here, about the time just after Christ’s death. I don’t usually like fictional books based on Biblical accounts, but this one kept true to the Bible while employing imagination about what certain situations and people might have been like.

8. Fatal Illusion by Adam Blumer, reviewed here. Very suspenseful! If you like mystery and suspense, put this on your list.

9. Sisterchicks in Wooden Shoes by Robin Jones Gunn. I have enjoyed this whole series, but something about this one just especially spoke to me.

10. Sometimes a Light Surprises by Jamie Langston Turner, reviewed here, my favorite of Turner’s books.

I did not read as many classics this year, I think partly because Les Mis took so much time, partly because I had a big stack of books from a clearance table at the Christian bookstore that I still haven’t read through, and partly because since starting a blog I’ve read most of the ones I had in mind. I still want to read something by Agatha Christie, but this may be a year to revisit some old favorites.

I had planned to do this post anyway, but today’s Booking Through Thursday prompt also asks us what our favorite books of the year were, so I’ll link this post there as well.

Last Random Dozen of 2009

Linda at 2nd Cup of Coffee created and host a weekly Random Dozen set of questions for participants to consider. It’s fun to read different people’s answers.

1. Do you find it gross to share drinks with family? Friends?

Yes, definitely.

2. What have you learned this year? (You didn’t see a question of that weight coming, did you? At least not for #2.)

Well, I am sure there have been many things, but at the time of evening I am writing this, with a fried brain, I’m not coming up with anything. If something comes to mind before I push the “Publish” button, I’ll share it.

3. When do you dismantle the Christmas decorations?

Pretty much just whenever we can get to it — we don’t have a certain traditional time, but it is probably the last weekend before everyone goes back to work and school.

4. Something you wish to accomplish before the end of 2009 is:

The monthly ladies’ booklet I’ve been working on this week. 😀 There would be a whole list of things I wish I’d gotten done, but I’ll just roll them over to next year’s list…

5. How do you feel about winter (after Christmas)?

That’s the hardest time of the year for me. All the festivities and brightness of Christmas is over (though, yes, we carry it in our hearts), it’s cold and dark, the landscape is almost colorless. One thing that keeps me hanging on is the thought that, after Dec. 21, we turn the corner and the days start imperceptibly getting longer, so I know we’ll see more daylight as time goes by. Then I love Valentine’s Day, so there’s that to look forward to, and then in March we start to see the first blooms of spring. So I keep busy and keep looking ahead.

6. Have you participated in after-Christmas sales?

I don’t usually. I went to one store the day after Christmas and was reminded why. Too crowded. I’ll scout around a little days afterward, when yes, I know there’s not much selection left, but occasionally I’ll find something.

7. Do you have plans for New Year’s Eve?

Normally we just laze around the house flipping through the different celebrations on TV, but this year my son and new daughter-in-law live outside the city limits where they can legally have fireworks! So we’re having a little get-together there.

8. Is there anything special awaiting you in January?

Mmmm, not that I know of, besides hopefully getting some things crossed off that rolled-over list (see #4) and revival meetings at our church.

9. If your life this year was a movie, what category or genre would it be? (Romance, Comedy, Drama, Thriller, Suspense, Farcical, etc.)

Documentary? Family Drama? Reality show? I don’t know. We had a college graduation, a wedding, and a 30th anniversary this year – other than that it was just everyday life.

10. How much time per day do you spend blogging? Please do not lie. I will know.

Actually writing blog posts? Anywhere from just a few minutes to several days (not 24-hour days, but some posts, like my blog year in review, were written in pieces over the course of several days). Reading blogs? Well, that’s another question….

11. Who runs your household?

My husband is the head of the household and does most of the big projects and smaller fix-it jobs, pays bills, etc.; I do the everyday cleaning, meal prep, shopping, etc.

12. Share one hope/dream for 2010.

I’ve been praying along the lines of Col. 1:9-12 for my immediate family, and praying that at least one of my extended family members (preferably all) would be saved this year.

Blog year in review:

Each year about this time I’ve looked back at the first blog post from each month, but this year I want to do my favorite from each month as well:

January:
First post:
New Year’s Meditations.

Favorite post:
Hard to choose between three different favorites this month, but I’ll say When children’s beliefs and practices differ from our own.

February:
First post:
Bible study on women.

Favorite post(s):
Choking anxieties and Melli’s ABC Challenge and other things I see in odd places (the post wherein I see Gene Shalit in the wallpaper…)

March:
First post:
The Conversion of Adoniram Judson.

Favorite post(s):
I have a preposition for you and Encouragement for homemakers.

April:
First post:
O Baby!

Favorite post:
Yes, I got dressed in a hurry. Why do you ask?

May:
First post:
Poetry Friday: Ode to Hay Fever.

Favorite post(s):
Graduation dinner and The visible teaches of the invisible.

June:
First post:
Preaching personalities.

Favorite post:
Of lists and marriage.

July:
First post:
A Thousand Words in Idioms: O and P.

Favorite post:
Things I remember from childhood.

August:
First post:
Reasons why prayers aren’t answered (this was actually the second post as the first one was a contest winner announcement.)

Favorite post:
The Wedding.

September:
First post:
Book Review: How Do I Love Thee?

Favorite post:
Another tie between Helpers and Thoughts from the toy store.

October:
First post:
Melli’s September Photo Scavenger Hunt (Hey, Melli — when’s the next one? 😀 )

Favorite post:
Hard to choose this month! Couldn’t decide between God does so much more than “show up” and Fathers and sons and a couple of others.

November:
First post:
All of These.

Favorite post:
What He Is To Me.

December:
First post:
Book Review: The Heirloom.

Favorite post:
On our 30th anniversary: 30 things I love about my husband.

I’ve enjoyed talking a couple of days to skim back over the posts of each month. I wish I had done so before writing our Christmas letter — there were some things I had forgotten about! But I like how these encapsulate the different things I focus on in my blog: meditations on Scriptural truth, family, books, and fun posts.