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Show and Tell Friday: Heritage

show-and-tell.jpg Kelli at There’s No Place Like Home hosts “Show and Tell Friday” asking “Do you have a something special to share with us? It could be a trinket from grade school, a piece of jewelry, an antique find. Your show and tell can be old or new. Use your imagination and dig through those old boxes in your closet if you have to! Feel free to share pictures and if there’s a story behind your special something, that’s even better! If you would like to join in, all you have to do is post your “Show and Tell” on your blog, copy the post link, come over here and add it to Mr. Linky. Guidelines are here.“

This last weekend my step-father and two sisters came up to visit from Texas, and we got together with my two sisters who live in a town about 30-40 minutes from here. All of my immediate family was together except my brother in TX who couldn’t come. It was the first time we had all been together since my mom’s funeral almost two years ago, and though there were a few sad moments of missing Mom, overall we had a great visit.

They brought a big tub full of old pictures and assorted papers, some from my mom and some from an old trunk of my aunt’s that she brought to them when she was downsizing to a smaller home. We spent Saturday evening going through all of that, laughing til we cried over some of the pictures, how we looked, what we wore, or the situation in the pictures.

There were several “historical” treasures there as well. My grandfather’s 7th grade diploma, my grandmother’s college diploma, his death certificate, her obituary notice were all there. There were also the books from each of their funerals:

Funeral books

Old recipes tucked into my mother’s baby book:

Old recipes

The baby book itself only had my mother’s name, weight, and a list of gifts received for the baby. I smiled over the fact that my grandmother kept up with baby books less than I did, especially with the third child.

There were pictures of my great-grandparents:

Great-grandparents

And my mom and two of her siblings when they were kids (my mom is on the right):

Mom and her brother and sister

And me, around 4th or 5th grade:

Me

My mom’s high school graduation picture:

My mom's high school graduation picture

One of the things I most treasured was my grandmother’s college graduation book. Her name was Harriet, and I hadn’t known before that she went by Hattie:

Graduation book

Inside was a place for autographs, school colors, and a homecoming ribbon:

School colors

Her school song:

School song

And notes from the Commencement sermon:

Grandma's commencement sermon

My grandmother passed away when I was four years old. To have some her her things written in her own hand is very gratifying to me. I enjoyed getting to know her a little bit through these items.

My oldest son is scanning many of the one-of-a-kind older pictures, enhancing them (removing reddish or yellowish tones, making them clearer, etc.), to make CDs for each of us.

The background in these pictures, by the way, is my Aunt Dot’s crocheted bedspread that I mentioned a few weeks ago.

Another ER visit :-(

I decided to skip prayer meeting tonight to go to the ER. 🙄

I would much rather have been at prayer meeting!

Just as I was getting ready to go, putting my shoes on, I had another attack of SVT. I was discouraged that it happened again so soon — the last incident was a little over a month ago,  but before that it had happened less than once a year. I hope this was just a fluke and not a new trend.

And this time the adenosine didn’t work. It usually works immediately, but they tried it twice to no avail. They then tried another medication that they said worked similarly to the metoprolol I am already one, and it finally worked. But the fact that the adenosine didn’t work was discouraging. I am hoping that that’s just a fluke, too, and doesn’t mean that this is getting harder to get under control.

I’m back at home now and fine after being under observation at the hospital for a couple of hours. But I do admit that I am a little discouraged about it all.

Psalm Sunday: Psalm 51

My apologies for being late this week — we had out-of-town company over the last several days.

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1 Have mercy upon me, O God, according to thy lovingkindness: according unto the multitude of thy tender mercies blot out my transgressions.

2 Wash me throughly from mine iniquity, and cleanse me from my sin.

3 For I acknowledge my transgressions: and my sin is ever before me.

4 Against thee, thee only, have I sinned, and done this evil in thy sight: that thou mightest be justified when thou speakest, and be clear when thou judgest.

5 Behold, I was shapen in iniquity; and in sin did my mother conceive me.

6 Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom.

7 Purge me with hyssop, and I shall be clean: wash me, and I shall be whiter than snow.

8 Make me to hear joy and gladness; that the bones which thou hast broken may rejoice.

9 Hide thy face from my sins, and blot out all mine iniquities.

10 Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

11 Cast me not away from thy presence; and take not thy holy spirit from me.

12 Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.

13 Then will I teach transgressors thy ways; and sinners shall be converted unto thee.

14 Deliver me from bloodguiltiness, O God, thou God of my salvation: and my tongue shall sing aloud of thy righteousness.

15 O Lord, open thou my lips; and my mouth shall shew forth thy praise.

16 For thou desirest not sacrifice; else would I give it: thou delightest not in burnt offering.

17 The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit: a broken and a contrite heart, O God, thou wilt not despise.

18 Do good in thy good pleasure unto Zion: build thou the walls of Jerusalem.

19 Then shalt thou be pleased with the sacrifices of righteousness, with burnt offering and whole burnt offering: then shall they offer bullocks upon thine altar.

I am not going to outline this Psalm as it is pretty clear. I just want to pull a few thoughts from it.

This Psalm reminds me of the marks of godly sorrow and true repentance described in II Corinthians 7:9-11. There is no casual “Forgive me if I have done anything wrong” here.

David appeals to God’s lovingkindness here, and that is our hope and appeal as well. I am so glad God loves us in spite of our bent to sinning and created a way though Christ wherein we can have all our sins forgiven.

Though Israel was commanded to offer certain sacrifices at that time as a picture of the coming Christ’s redemptive work for us, just going through the motions was all for naught if there was not a broken and a contrite heart over sin (vv 16-17). God desires truth in the inward part of us (v. 6).

David acknowledges that, though his sin did affect other people, ultimately his sin was primarily against God (v. 4).

Thank God for His cleansing. I have prayed v. 10 many a time.

Then after there is acknowledgment, confession, repentance, and cleansing — then the joy is restored (vv. 8, 13).

See Butterfly Kisses for more Psalm Sunday meditations.

Fall Y’all Giveaway

Comments are now closed and I am about to draw a winner….

fallyall.jpgIf you haven’t heard yet about Shannon’s Fall Y’all giveaway extravaganza, the guidelines are here, and the list of participants is here.

One of my most favorite things to do is read, and I spend a number of posts talking about good books I’ve found, so I wanted books to be a part of my giveaway.

daily-light.jpgI also spend a lot of time talking about the importance of the Word of God, so my first giveaway is a devotional book called Daily Light on the Daily Path. It is made up entirely of Scripture, compiled by the Samuel Bagster family. I don’t know how many times my reading for the day has given me just what I needed for the time.

The other books I want to give away as a set: The Secret Life of Becky Miller and Renovating Becky Miller by Sharon Hinck. I reviewed them earlier here and here. I know a lot of “Mom bloggers” participate in this giveaway, and Becky Miller is a young mom who wants to do “big things for God” but finds out life doesn’t always go the way she dreams it will. There are some hilarious moments as well as sweet and poignant moments. You don’t have to be a mom to get the spiritual lessons in the books, though.

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Leave a comment on this post and let me know if you are interested in either the devotional book or the Becky Miller set or both. I will close comments Friday night at midnight EST and use the random number generator to draw two winners on Saturday morning. This contest is open to anyone anywhere. One comment per person, please. You don’t have to have a blog to enter, but if you don’t just be sure to leave your e-mail address so I have a way to notify you if you’ve won.

I am also going to try to have another crafty give-away in a couple of days if I can get it together — it’s shaping up to be another busy week! But if I do I will post another link to the Fall Y’all giveaway page.

P.S.: Here is a works-for-me tip for keeping up with the giveaways I’ve entered. I started an e-mail to myself (though it could also be done via a Word document — I just used my e-mail because it’s always open when I am online and it’s handy) and listed the item and the address of the contest, then saved it in the “Mail waiting to be sent” folder. It’s easy to open back up when I go back to checking more giveaway posts. I think most of those offering a giveaway notify the winner, but some don’t, so this way I can run back through the list when this week is over and check the winners’ names.

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In Tenderness He Sought Me

In tenderness He sought me,
Weary and sick with sin;
And on His shoulders brought me
Back to His fold again.
While angels in His presence sang
Until the courts of Heaven rang.

Refrain:

Oh, the love that sought me!
Oh, the blood that bought me!
Oh, the grace that brought me to the fold,
Wondrous grace that brought me to the fold.

He washed the bleeding sin wounds,
And poured in oil and wine;
He whispered to assure me,
“I’ve found thee, thou art Mine”;
I never heard a sweeter voice;
It made my aching heart rejoice!

Refrain

He pointed to the nail prints,
For me His blood was shed,
A mocking crown so thorny
Was placed upon His head;
I wondered what He saw in me,
To suffer such deep agony.

Refrain

I’m sitting in His presence,
The sunshine of His face,
While with adoring wonder
His blessings I retrace.
It seems as if eternal days
Are far too short to sound His praise.

Refrain

So while the hours are passing,
All now is perfect rest,
I’m waiting for the morning,
The brightest and the best,
When He will call us to His side,
To be with Him, His spotless bride.

Refrain

— W. Spencer Walton

Saturday Photo Scavenger Hunt: Pink

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I’ve hated missing the last couple of weeks’ photo hunts. I just couldn’t come up with anything interesting and was crunched for time. But anyone who has read my blog for very long will know that I can’t pass up the pink theme! I’ve posted before some pictures of my collections of (mostly) pink hearts and things with pink roses on them. Here are a few of my favorites:

Pink roses on carpet

Pink rose topiary

'Tis the last rose of summer...

Bloggy Happenings

Via Barb this morning I learned of two neat bloggy happenings.

taste-of-homejpg.jpgNew to me (but I’ll be going back to visit!) Molly-Coddled is giving away a Taste Of Homes cookbook and a one-year subscription to any Reiman Publications magazine listed here. How cool is that?! I love Taste of Homes and its spinoffs — they are always tasty recipes and usually fairly easy to make because they are tried and true recipes from real cooks in their homes. Details about the contest are here. The deadline is 9 p.m. Friday night, so time is short.

ornamentexchange3.jpgThen another new-to-me blogger, Kathleen Marie at The Open Window, is holding a Christmas Ornament Exchange. The name-drawing will be November 16. Details are here. This looks like fun — I’ll have to think about what I could do for it.

madewithlove.jpgGibee at Kisses of Sunshine is hosting a Homemade With Love Holiday Gift Idea Exchange — think of a gift that you could make for the holidays, make up a sample, post a picture and instructions, then link to Gibee’s on November 12. I am looking forward to seeing a lot of great ideas!

 I’m off to clean — company’s coming tomorrow!

In honor of my dentist’s visit today…

Tim Conway was a master comedian, and it was always fun to watch others in a sketch with him try not to crack up.

Time Travel Tuesday: Accidents or illness

My Life as Annie’s weekly Time Travel Tuesday question for today is:

What’s the most serious accident or illness you have ever had?

When my oldest son was about nine months old, I had to have gallbladder surgery; when my second son was two years old, I had to have half my thyroid gland removed due to a marble-sized (and thankfully benign) nodule. So when my third son was born, my doctor joked, “What body part would you like for me to remove now?” I assured him I’d like to keep the rest. But when Jesse was almost two, one morning I was going about my normal routine when my left hand started to feel a little funny, like I had slept on it wrong. I kept shaking and flexing it while making my husband’s lunch for him to take with him to work, but the numbish feeling was increasing and climbing up my arm. Then the same sensation began in my feet and climbed up my legs. Within a few hours I could not walk on my own and was having trouble using the restroom. One eyelid began to droop. I thought I was having a stroke. A trip to two ERs on the longest day of my life, eight days of hospitalization, and multitudes of all sorts of tests later (told in more detail here), the diagnosis came back: transverse myelitis.

My first reaction was, “What?! Who has ever heard of that?”

Thankfully my doctor had. I learned much later that this can often be missed or misdiagnosed. Teens who get it, in particular, are often accused of it all being “in their head.” The problem is that there is not one definitive test for it. They have to test for and rule out multiple sclerosis, lupus, Guillain-Barre syndrome and multitudes of other ailments before making the diagnosis.

Transverse myelitis basically involves a virus making its way to your spine. It can often occur after a viral illness or a vaccination, though in my case and many others it comes seemingly out of nowhere. There are some similarities of symptoms but there are some differences depending on where along the spine it hits. The higher up the inflammation, the worse the damage. Some people recover completely or very nearly completely, some don’t recover much at all, and many of us have some recovery with some long lasting nerve damage. The last scenario is my situation.

I had a three-day course of iv steroids in the hospital and then began three months of physical therapy at home. Gradually I began to walk with a walker, then a cane, then somewhat unsteadily on my own. The first two weeks were exhausting: cleaning up with a little “sponge bath” in the hospital and sitting up in the chair for the nurses to change my bed sheets left me drenched with sweat and crawling back into bed to sleep for hours. Gradually energy levels improved, but I still don’t have a lot of stamina. My balance is still sometimes a problem, more so when I am standing still than when I am walking (my physical therapist gave me a name for that, but I can’t remember what it was). My right leg doesn’t feel pain or cold; my left hand has a delayed reaction to pain. There are still numbish feelings (not totally asleep and without feeling, but not normal sensation) in both legs and my left arm — thankfully my right arm was never affected. I get muscle spasms in my back and wear an Icy Hot or Absorpine Jr. pain patch almost daily. There are still a few “bathroom issues,” but I’ll spare you the details. 🙂 It’s much better than it was, however.

But I am thankful it was no worse and that I recovered enough to basically be able to function as a wife and mom. I am thankful for the prayers and support and practical help of friends and church members. I am thankful that God is “our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble (Psalm 46:1). I am thankful for God’s Word and the strength it imparts and the promises it gives, such as in II Corinthians 12:8-10:

8 For this thing I besought the Lord thrice, that it might depart from me.

9 And he said unto me, My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in necessities, in persecutions, in distresses for Christ’s sake: for when I am weak, then am I strong.

One of my reasons for starting a blog was to be a help to others with TM, and my “pages” in the upper right-hand corner list several more posts concerning dealing with TM.

The other part of Annie’s question had to do with accidents. Thankfully I’ve never had a serious one, but the only one in which I was in the car (one other occurred when I accidentally left the car in Drive at the top of a hill while I got something from it to return to a friend, but it rolled down and hit a tree with no occupants) occurred in college when Jim and I were engaged and I was driving his car with a bunch of girls home to the dorms from church. An oncoming car swerved into my lane, hit me, and then swerved back into his lane and went on, never stopping. The car was totaled, but no one was hurt, thankfully. And, thankfully, a faculty couple was behind us and saw the whole thing and was able to give a statement to the police and help us get back to school. And my fiance was in a car with a bunch of guys coming home from church also: they normally didn’t take the street we were on, but did that night and came upon the accident, so he was able to give the police the car registration and insurance information. So, though it shook us all up at the time, it was relatively minor, as accidents go, and we were able to get that first “Honey, I put a dent in the car…” hurdle out of the way before we got married. 🙂

Busy week

This is shaping up to be a busy week.

Every year around this time our church has a “missionary Christmas” endeavor. We e-mail the missionaries our church supports in late July or August to ask for “wish list” ideas and then have folks at church sign up for items they’d like to buy to contribute. Then at our October meeting we wrap them. Then I get to package and address them and fill out the customs forms.

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I’m working on getting as many of these out as soon as possible. It will be interesting this year as the post office has done away with what used to be called “surface rate” (as I once heard it, that which ships by boat, train, or llama). So the packages should arrive more quickly, but will also be more expensive. I consulted with our pastor about whether we should do anything differently in light of that, but he said just to do everything like we have always done it, and we’ll see how it goes, then we’ll reevaluate for next year. This is a joy to do, and is such a blessing for them, so we’d love to keep doing it. It’s hard sometime to balance being generous with the expensive reality of shipping, but so far the Lord has blessed.

I’d love to hear how your church ministers to your missionaries. Besides their regular support, of course, we also have a missions closet that we take them through when they are in the States for furlough. We have a mission’s display with their pictures and copies of their most recent prayer letter. New prayer letters are usually at least mentioned and often quoted from during Wed. night prayer meetings, and we glean some of the prayer requests and put them into our ladies’ ministry newsletter. I like trying to keep them before the folks so that they are familiar with them and so that they’re not just encountering them once every four years when they are home on furlough. We have a missions conference every fall, and usually at least one of our missionaries that we support speaks at that as well as some others.

I also have another dental appointment tomorrow. The same tooth on the opposite side of the one I just had extracted and a bridge made for is having the same trouble, but I am hoping this one can get by with just a crown. If I can persuade anyone, please don’t do what I did and let the dread of going to the dentist keep you away. It causes so many more problems (and is much more expensive! Yikes!!) than getting those regular cleanings and small fillings taken care of.

When someone called me to help with a meal for an expectant mom on bedrest this week, I agreed, thinking my dental appointment was on Wednesday — but I just checked this morning, and the appointment is on Tuesday, the same day I am supposed to make the meal. Though I’d rather have those things occur on different days, I think the timing will work out ok. I know what a blessing it is to receive meals when Mom is out of commission – -we’ve been on the receiving end many times — but I always struggle with what to make. I have a couple of cookie recipes that regularly turn out fine, but my main meal skills are a little iffy, at least for the kind of meals you want to take in a situation like that. The other lady helping wants to make macaroni and cheese as a side dish because that’s her best thing, so I am thinking of roasting a ham. Can’t go too wrong with that…let’s hope, anyway. The other lady is also doing some kind of bread or rolls, and I’ll get a little bagged salad and make cookies. I’m sorely tempted to get some ready made sugar cookie dough and use those little autumn mini cookie cutters I mentioned earlier and sprinkling them with fall-colored sugars. There are two little children in the house who might like those. I also thought about a peanut butter and Hershey’s kiss cookie my son’s girlfriend made this week with just peanut butter, sugar, and an egg — so simple but so good! I don’t often make peanut butter stuff for a meal for others since so many kids have peanut allergies, but that wasn’t on the list of things they couldn’t eat, so it might be ok.

Somewhere along the way I got the idea (not from my mom, I know) that any food you do for company or a church potluck or a meal for others should be totally from scratch with nothing store bought and ready-made. That’s still my ideal, and I do think it shows a level of care put into it. But sometimes it’s a matter of pride.

Then, my step-father and two sisters are coming to visit from Texas at the end of this week, and my other two sisters who live about 30-45 minutes away will be over some as well. It’s awful that I don’t see the two nearby sisters much at all except when the rest of the family comes — our schedules and days off just don’t mesh. But I’m saving most of the cleaning til later this week in preparation for their coming. Normally when company’s coming I’m inspired to get a lot of house projects done, but they’ve seen my house “as is” before and I just don’t have the time and energy, so I think I’ll stick with basic cleaning and just enjoy the visit. I did finally get the fabric for curtains I need to make for the family room and got it all dry-cleaned and ready to sew:

Curtain fabric

Where I am “stuck” with that project is trying to decide what kind of trim to use on the valance or whether to make them without it. I’ve checked in all the places nearby for trim and just haven’t had made the time to look in the next towns. I could go ahead and maybe get the main curtains up, though — they shouldn’t take too long to whip up. We’ll see.

But I guess I should push away from the computer now and get busy, huh?