Works-For-Me Wednesday: Summer Actvities

wfmwheader_4.jpg This week’s Works-For-Me Wednesday is a themed one, the “Mom, I’m bored” edition where we share tips about how things our kids can do to while away the summer days.

Here are a few ideas for children or for parents to do with children — or even for adults to do on their own:

· A special Bible study project like a study of the wise man in Proverbs or all the synonyms for God’s Word in Psalm 119.

· Swim lessons

· Learn a new craft—take a class, get an instruction book and teach yourself, or ask someone to teach you.

· Work on a jigsaw puzzle as a family project.

· Run through the sprinkler.

· Water balloon fights

· Find free concerts where you can take a picnic and listen to music. One orchestra not far from here usually has concerts near a lake in the summer, and often has the 1812 Overture complete with cannon and fireworks near the Fourth of July.

· Visit museums

· Read, individually or together

· Have dinner or lunch at a park; feed the ducks; ride the paddleboats

· Listen to an audiobook while doing something else with your hands.

· Get together with friends.

· Meet a neighbor.

· Acquaint yourself with classical music. Listen together while just relaxing or doing something else with your hands. You might do some general listening or focus on one composer or era and supplement your listening with a little research on the Internet. There are some interesting stories behind some pieces like Haydn’s Surprise Symphony (No. 94) and Farewell Symphony (No. 45) and Handel’s Water Music and others.

· Work on a major project like cleaning out the attic. Involve the children. Some of the best family times are not just the vacation and fun days, but working together. It can be a fellowship time as well as a teaching and work time.

Find other workable summertime tips at Rocks In My Dryer.

Time Travel Tuesday: Memories With Dad



The topic for this week’s Time Travel Tuesday, created and hosted by My Life as Annie, is “Memories with Dad.”

She says:

We’re traveling back to special memories of our dad’s this week.
What are some special memories or a special memory you have of/or with your dad?
Any sayings that only come from him?
Any interesting lessons you learned from your dad?

As I wrote earlier, my dad and I did not always have the best relationship. Yet I have little snapshots of pleasant memories, especially from the early years…

I remember being afraid in my bed one night, then I thought about my dad’s big knife and trusted that he could take care of any bad guys that might invade our home.

I remember him brushing my hair and commenting about how beautiful the color was.

I remember waking up in his arms one night when I had fallen asleep somewhere and he was taking me to my bed. He stopped in the hallway where my mom brushed my hair back and told me good night and they murmured those loving things parents say when their kids are asleep. I remember pretending I was still asleep because I was enjoying the moment so much. 🙂

I remember that my dad had a motor scooter at one time. When I was young, everyone in our neighborhood would come out to their front yards after dinner with lawn chairs and watch the kids play and visit with each other. My dad would sometimes take kids in the neighborhood for rides up and down the street on his scooter.

I remember that when anyone in my family had a birthday, that person got to pick the meal for dinner, and my dad always chose corned beef and cabbage.

I remember that my dad was a welder and often repaired things for friends at home. I remember him in his big protective helmet cautioning us kids not to look at the sparks the welding made or get too close.

I remember on the Fourth of July he liked to get a lot of fireworks — not the noisy kinds but the kinds that made pretty patterns in the sky.

When it comes to lessons, the one overriding lesson I earned from him was respect: respect for authority, for elders, for country. Even respect for God, in a way — he was not a believer until late in life, bet I never heard him say or do anything irreverent, and he was always respectful of preachers who stopped by.

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Two childhood/teen memes

I saw a “Childhood Memories Meme” over at Jen’s and a “7 Things That Happened To Me As a Teenager” meme at newly-discovered Mama Bear’s. I thought I’d combine them here.

Childhood memories meme:

1. What was your favorite childhood family vacation?

I don’t remember that we actually went on vacations except to my grandmother’s or uncle’s house. The thing I loved about that particular uncle was that, of his 5 kids, 3 were girls close to my age and all of our birthday were in August. One was a year older than me, one was the same age I was, and the other was a year younger. I remember once we celebrated all of our birthdays at once with a big party. Other than that, if we went anywhere it was to the beach. I grew up in Corpus Christi, TX, and we made multitudes of excursions to Padre Island. Camp-outs, cookouts, birthday parties — a lot of that kind of thing happened there, besides just regular Saturdays at the beach. We moved from there when I was 13, and I had forgotten how much I missed it until we want back for a family reunion when I was in my early 30s. Sadly, just wading into the water then left us with globs of oil on our legs. I hope that’s better now.

2. If you knew your grandparents, what do you remember most about them as a child? If you didn’t know them, what stories do you remember being told about them?

My father’s father died before I was born. I really don’t know much about him. My mother’s mother passed away when I was about 4. She had cancer the last few years of her life and had some kind of bag set-up — I don’t remember if she had had her colon removed or just what. My mom says I asked her about it, and my mom was horrified, but my grandmother just matter-of-factly explained what it was for, and I was satisfied.

My mother’s father was tall and thin, constantly teased us, and had a unique laugh.

My father’s mother was short and plump. She is the one I probably spent the most time with, at least that I can remember. Her grown kids were spread out in TX, LA, and AL, and she would drive to see them all — we called her the Galloping Grandma. 🙂 There were a couple of summers she took me with her, and I loved that. For a few years when we lived in the same town, I would spend the night with her. We shared a love of reading and would stay up late at night reading different books.

3. Do you have siblings or not? What do you remember about growing up with or without them?

I have 5, 1 brother and 4 sisters. I’m the oldest. We’re quite spread apart — the first four of us are 4 years apart from each other; the youngest was born when I was 17. After my parents were divorced and my brother lived with my father for a while, I felt more like an assistant mom than a big sister. They were still pretty young when I married and left home at 22. I’ve enjoyed getting to know them as adults when we get together, which isn’t often enough.

4. What did you like best about summer vacation from school?

Just being off. 🙂 We roamed a lot more then than I let my children roam now, riding bikes, swimming in the creek, hanging out.

5. Did you like school or dislike school? What is your most memorable school moment?

Loved it. I’ve always loved learning, and except for 7th-9th grades (what is it about jr. high?) had friends. I was always more inclined to have 1 close friend than “group.”

7 Things That Happened to Me As a Teen-ager: 

1. My parents divorced when I was about 15.

2. We moved from a very small town (less than 200) to Houston, Texas, with a population then of over 1 million. It was a culture shock.

3. I was saved.

4. I started dating a guy that I ended up dating for 4 years and got engaged to, but it was all wrong. Thankfully the Lord showed me that before we actually got married.

5. I got into a good-Bible teaching church and was taught to read the Bible through.

6. I heard about the college I would eventually go to. College was “the impossible dream,” or so it seemed, but God provided.

7. I made another big move from TX to SC to go to college, not knowing that SC would become “home” and I would live there 27 years, including college years.

This wasn’t part of the meme, but I thought it would be fun to look at 7 historical things that happened during my teens , which happened to be from 1970-1979:

1. Four student protestors were shot by the National Guard at Kent State University.

2.  Elvis Presley died.

3. Cult leader Jim Jones led followers in a mass suicide in Jonestown, Guyana.

4. The “energy crisis” occurred. I remember looooong gas lines and Jimmy Carter regulating our thermostats.

5. American troops pulled out of Viet Nam.

6. In the 1976 Summer Olympics, Nadia Comaneci of Romania was the first gymnast to receive perfect scores.

7. Modern computing was born with the Intel 4004

If you’d like to do any or all of these memes, let me know! Or you can answer in the comments section.

(Historical details courtesy of Wikipedia

K-12 School Memories Meme

(Photo Hunt post is below this one.)

Sallie at A Gracious Home made this one up.

Apple Jacks or Captain Crunch with Crunch Berries
I am pretty sure I had had Apple Jacks and the regular Cap’n Crunch, though I am not a fan of either now.

Band or Choir
I was in choir the last two years of high school, probably some in elementary school, too.

Class Ring
I bought one to fit on my pinky finger — I don’t know why. It seemed fun at the time. But later I was embarrassed about it.

Ducks or Battleships
I don’t remember playing with either one in the bathtub.

Earning Money
Primarily I baby-sat. I did work in a non-chain fast food place — for about a week.

Favorite Teacher
I had the same teacher for first and second grade (it was a combined class for two years) named Mrs. Murphy. I really liked her though she was strict. The Lord enabled me to go to a Christian school the last two years of high school, and one of my favorites there was my pastor who taught Bible classes. That was probably the first focused instruction I’d had in the Word, and I lapped it up.

Go Back and Do Over
I think if I could do anything over I would have tried to be more open and less painfully shy. It took years to begin to break out of that. And in the school I went to for 8th-10th grade which was very clique-ish, I’d love to go back and look at those cliques through different eyes and realize they were just normal people, too, and not necessarily to be revered just because they were “popular.”

Home Economics
I think I took one Home Economics class. We made one fudge recipe I wish I still had. One of the dresses I made was a favorite.

Indoor Recess
I loved indoor recess — I never was much of an outdoorsy person. The one game I remember playing forindoor recess was “7-up.”

Jacks or Jump Rope
Both, in elementary school.

Kickball or Dodgeball
Probably both — only hazy memories of them.

Lunchbox
I don’t remember what any of my lunch boxes looked like (elementary school was a very long time ago!)

Musical
I don’t think any school I was in produced a musical.

Number of School Districts
Oh, my — in my elementary school days we moved every couple of years. Let’s see — for all 12 years (I didn’t go to K-5 — wasn’t required then) I think I may have been in 5 different school districts, at least.

Orange or Apple
I liked both.

Playground Equipment
I liked the swings and the slide.

Quiz Team or Debate
Neither.

Recess
Standing around talking or walking and talking or pretending to sing as a girl’s group (“Downtown” was a favorite, for some reason).

Spring Break
We probably had spring breaks, but I don’t remember them. I don’t think we went anywhere for them.

Team Sports
None. I am one of the most uncoordinated unathletic people on the planet.

Unfulfilled Dream
Related to school? There was a guy I really liked in 10th grade who never noticed me at all. I found out later that was for the best. Related to life in general, I have always wanted to write a book but haven’t yet.

Valuable
The most valuable part of my education was going to a Christian school in 11th-12th grade. I did not come from a Christian home and I learned so much at that school about the Bible and Christian life. Plus, because it was so much smaller, I got involved in a lot of things like yearbook and student council that I never would have dreamed of trying in the bigger public school I came from.

Walk or Bus
Walked some in elementary school and rode the bus 9th-10th grade to a town 10 miles away because the small town we were in (under 200) didn’t have a high school. For the other grades my mom took me.

X Country or Basketball
Neither.

Year
My favorite year was 12th.

Zzzzzz’s
Unfortunately most of my history classes were boring. I didn’t learn to love history til my first year in college, and that was my last history class.

Sallie has a Mr. Linky set up if you’d like to do this meme and leave a link there. Let me know in the comments if you do and I’ll be glad to come read yours. Please do credit Sallie with the meme since she created it.

Works-For-Me Wednesday: Messies Anonymous

wfmwheader_4.jpg Some years ago I read and enjoyed The Messies Manual by Sandra Felton. I don’t remember how I first learned she had a web site called Messies Anonymous and sent out a daily list of e-mail tips, but I signed up for them. Each e-mail contains a message for the day — one thought or perspective or thing to put into practice — a word of encouragement, a quote (like “Not everything you face can be changed, but everything you change must first be faced” and “Clutter is the result of postponed decisions”), and family reminders (“In our family, we put what we need the next day by the front door the
night before” and “In our family, we don’t drop our things when we come in the door. We take them and put them where they belong.”) There is also a segment called “In the trenches” with a note from someone from one of Yahoos “Messies” groups about something they learned or tried. At least, these things were in the e-mails that I received when I was subscribed to the list.

The e-mails are repetitive by design — sometimes it takes hearing things over and over before they become a part of our thinking. I would copy and paste the things that particularly spoke to me in different sections (one for quotes, one for family sayings, one for tips, etc.). When it got to the point that the daily e-mails were familiar to me, I unsubscribed, but I did glean a host of helpful tips during my time on there. I highly recommend it.

For more tips, head over to Shannon’s place at Rocks In My Dryer.

Personal meme

I’ve seen 3 different interesting-looking memes on friends’ blogs today. I don’t want to do them all at once, so I’ll spread them out this week.

I saw this one at Diane’s of Candid Reflections.

1. Three words to describe you?
Honest, careful, detailed.


2. Your favorite color?

Blues & pinks, some greens.

3. Describe your style?
Feminine, somewhere between country and Victorian.

4. Favorite recreational activity?
Reading, blogging, playing games.

5. Pets?
Suzie, half collie, half German Shepherd.We’ve had her about 11 years.

6. Favorite Hymn?
There are too many great ones to have just one favorite, but on top of the list would be “I Could Not Do Without Thee” and “Before the Throne of God Above.” And “In My Weakness.” And “To Behold Thee“……

7. Favorite Scripture?
Again, way too many to have just one, but two of my favorites that I keep coming back to over and over again in my life are Isaiah 41:10: “Fear thou not; for I am with thee: be not dismayed; for I am thy God: I will strengthen thee; yea, I will help thee; yea, I will uphold thee with the right hand of my righteousness,” and Psalm 16:11: “Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.”

8. Favorite Quotation?
I love good quotes and have many of them. One I come to often is “God does not waste suffering, nor does He discipline out of caprice. If He plough, it is because He purposes a crop” from J. Oswald Sanders.

9. Dress/Skirt?
Dresses, but they are hard to find.

11. Favorite CD?
One of my first posts was about favorite CDs. Probably highest on the list are A Quiet Heart and Anthems.

12. If you could go anywhere in the world on vacation, where would you go?
Ireland.

13. Lake, Ocean, River?
I like them all but probably ocean would top the list. I love the vastness, the waves, the sound of the surf.

14. Diamonds or Pearls? ?
Hmm… I like them both depending on the setting. Probably pearls, I guess.

I won’t tag anyone, but let me know in the comments if you do this and I’ll come read yours.

Time Travel Tuesday: First Date



Today’s topic for Time Travel Tuesday, sponsored by My Life as Annie, is our first date.

I honestly can’t remember my first date. I know who it was with, but I don’t remember what we did. I do know I was way too young!!!

So, if it’s ok, I am going to write about my first date with my husband.

I was a junior in college and he was a sophomore. We worked in the college library: I was at the front desk while he worked in the periodical room. If both places weren’t busy, somehow he and I were both assigned to help another guy, John, whose job was to get the returned books back in place on the shelves. We all enjoyed each others’ company.

Then one day in January, after we had been working together one semester, Jim asked me out. I found out much later that he had been trying to get John to ask me out because John was very shy and didn’t date much. John kept declining, so Jim finally said to himself, “Well, if she’s such a nice girl, why don’t I ask her out.” So he did. 🙂

Unfortunately I had extension the night he asked me for — extension was our Christian college’s word for a ministry outside the college. Every Friday night I went with a few other girls to a nursing home about 45 minutes away and visited with some of the residents, especially those who didn’t receive many visitors. When I told Jim why I couldn’t go, he understood, but there was still a part of him that wondered if maybe I didn’t want to go.

As it turned out, it snowed that evening. At dinner time it was announced that all extensions were canceled because of the weather. After dinner I found Jim waiting for me and he said — and to this day he doesn’t remember saying this — “Since you can’t serve God tonight, do you want to serve mammon?” I knew he was joking, but it kind of made me wonder about this guy. 🙂

We went to a basketball game in which his best friend was playing. Neither of us are very athletic or very interested in athletics, but it was something to do on a Friday night. He told me later he discerned that it might be best to steer away from athletic events for future dates. 🙂 But we did have a good time. It happened to be a Friday the 13th the weekend before final exams.

One of my good friends was friends with Jim, and they had very much a “buddy” relationship. I think because of that and because we worked together, I thought of Jim as a nice guy who was really fun to be around, another “buddy,” but didn’t really think of him as a potential boyfriend. Yet I found myself uncommonly excited when he asked me out. 🙂 And because we had known and worked around each other for a time, I felt comfortable and could be myself.

Our relationship grew from there. We dated around a year and a half and were engaged about 6 months before we were married. That was 27+ years ago. 🙂

I don’t have a picture from our first date — I don’t have many pictures from our dating days at all, and somehow most of them are a little blurry — but here they are:

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Works-For-Me-Wednesday: Devotional exercise using definitons

wfmwheader_4.jpg I worked through Dr. Jim Berg’s DVD series, Quieting a Noisy Soul, a couple of years ago, and in one section about studying and meditating on God’s Word, he suggested using a Bible dictionary to look up the major words. My first impulse was to brush that aside as unnecessary, especially for familiar passages. But then he assigned a study of I Corinthians 13: 4-8 as a way of meditating on God’s love: we were to read the passage, list the qualities of love mentioned, look up the words in a dictionary, and write the verse in our own words using those definitions. And I’ve found that that is an excellent way to open up very familiar passages that we almost glide over because we think we know them so well.

For instance, verse 4 says “Love suffers long.” “Suffers” means “endures pain, distress, agony, discomfort;” “long” means “an extended period of time.” So love endures pain, distress, agony, or discomfort for an extended period of time. That really makes you stop and think, both about God’s longsuffering toward us and our need for longsuffering toward others.

Verse 8 says that love never (“Not ever; on no occasion; at no time, not at all; in no way; absolutely not”) fails. Look at all these definitions of the word “fail,” and rejoice in all the ways in which your God will never fail you (it’s helpful to read “God will never…” before each phrase): “To prove deficient or lacking; To perform ineffectively or inadequately, To be unsuccessful, To prove insufficient in quantity or duration; give out, To decline, as in strength or effectiveness, To give way or be made otherwise useless as a result of excessive strain, To cease functioning properly, To disappoint or prove undependable to, To abandon; forsake, To omit to perform (an expected duty, for example), To leave undone; neglect;” (from Dictionary.com); “to fall out of, to fall down from, to fall off, to fall from a thing, to lose it, to perish, to fall, to fall from a place from which one cannot keep, fall from a position, to fall powerless, to fall to the ground, be without effect” (from the Online Bible).

You can take this a step further, as I did above, if you have a Strong’s concordance or some kind of Bible computer program, and look up the definition of the original Hebrew or Greek word used. That’s often even more enlightening, and can clear up confusion. But don’t worry if you don’t have access to these things: you can gain a lot just by looking up the English words in a regular dictionary. A great online one is Dictionary.com.

You can find more tips that will work for you at Rocks In My Dryer.

Time Travel Tuesday — Blog Beginning Edition



I just saw at Barb’s a weekly meme started by My Life as Annie called Time Travel Tuesday. I hadn’t seen it before, but apparently each week Annie suggests a particular time in our lives that we go back and write about. Sounds like fun!

This week the instructions are to go back to our first blog post, post it again, and tell how we got started blogging.

I think I first heard about blogging through my oldest son. He had a blog, but it wasn’t terribly interactive; it was more of a place to record his thoughts. Then I used to be on the Crosswalk forums a lot, and they have their own “Blog Town” there, but it was in the same format as the rest of their forums and didn’t have a place for comments there at the blogs — bloggers had to start a separate thread in another part of the forums to interact with others.

I can’t remember how I first discovered blogs as I know them now — probably as a link from something else I read. I discovered a few that I enjoyed reading regularly. Gradually the idea began to dawn to begin one of my own. One of my main purposes was to try to be a testimony to others with transverse myelitis: some on the subscriber list I’m on for that frown at much mention of God, so I thought I would have more freedom to share about Him with others on my own turf. Plus, though I am not one of the “aged” women of Titus 2, I hoped that I could encourage other ladies in their Biblical roles. And I have entertained some thoughts of trying to do more writing, and blogging sounded like good exercise in that regard.

Here is my first post, less than a year ago:

About me

Thursday, July 27th, 2006I am a Christian 40-something stay-at-home mom. By Christian I mean someone who is born again by believing on the Lord Jesus Christ as the Savior from sin. I thank God for His patience and grace as He leads me along day by day.

I have been married to my wonderful husband, Jim, for 26 years. We have three boys whom we love dearly and who keep us on our toes….and on our knees.

I enjoy reading, writing, decorating, some crafts when there is time. I have enough projects I’d like to do and things I’d like to learn to keep me busy for the next 50 years or so. -)

I had been thinking about starting a blog for some time, and blest with son’s posts about why she blogs convinced me. (I’m glad to be able to stretch my brain by learning new things, but I am new to this, so forgive me if links and things aren’t entirely smooth yet.) While this blog is a home to my “stray thoughts,” I hope it will be a blessing to those who stop by.

I have found blogging to be good exercise in writing: I often think about better ways to phrase my sentences. I have learned to be cautious in expressing myself, knowing that readers may take my words any number of ways. I think, I hope I have been some encouragement to others. I have been blessed to hear from some with TM. What I have been surprised about, though, is discovering the blogging community at large. I had been blessed, instructed, inspired, challenged, and encouraged by the bloggers I knew in the beginning, but that was just the tip of the iceberg! Then to see the way the blogosphere pulls together to pray each other through crises and even help financially has been a lesson in Christian love in action.

I think I’m still finding my voice and my place. I’m not naturally as humorous as some or as poignant as others. I’ve struggled, as many others have written, with wanting response and affirmation and reminding myself that when I started this I gave it to the Lord and asked Him to use it as He saw fit, whether I ever knew how He used it or not. I’ve struggled with balance in not spending too much of my day in blogging and reading others’ blogs.

But overall I’m glad I found the blogosphere and glad to be a part of it.

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