Just to Leave in His Dear Hand

I was looking for this poem to share with a friend a few days ago, and I had thought it was on my blog somewhere. I couldn’t find it, so I thought it was high time to add it here. I originally saw the last stanza somewhere, and it wasn’t until looking it up online that I discovered it was part of a longer poem (it might possibly be a hymn, but I’ve never heard it set to music). It’s still the first line of the last stanza that comes to me most often.

I’ve seen this under the titles “How to Trust” and “The Secret of a Happy Day.” I don’t know which was the original, but they both work.

JUST to let Thy Father do what He will;
Just to know that He is true, and be still.
Just to follow, hour by hour, as He leadeth;
Just to draw the moment’s power, as it needeth.
Just to trust Him, this is all. Then the day will surely be
Peaceful, whatso’er befall, bright and blessed, calm and free.

Just to let Him speak to thee, through His Word,
Watching, that His voice may be clearly heard.
Just to tell Him everything, as it rises,
And at once to bring to Him all surprises.
Just to listen, and to stay where you cannot miss His voice,
This is all! and thus today, you, communing, shall rejoice.

Just to trust, and yet to ask guidance still;
Take the training or the task, as He will.
Just to take the loss or gain, as He sends it;
Just to take the joy or pain as He lends it.
He who formed thee for His praise will not miss the gracious aim;
So today, and all thy days, shall be moulded for the same.

Just to leave in His dear hand little things;
All we cannot understand, all the stings.
Just to let Him take the care sorely pressing;
Finding all we let Him bear changed to blessing.
This is all! and yet the way marked by Him who loves thee best:
Secret of a happy day, secret of His promised rest.

– Frances Ridley Havergal

Laudable Linkage

Its been another good week with some thought-provoking posts to ponder:

Open Roof Hospitality. Very convicting to me. If I had been the lady of the house whose roof was being torn up so people could bring their paralytic friend to Jesus, my first emotion would not have been gratitude and joy, I’m sure.

Pressing In To the Ungrateful.

Is It Possible For Christians to Idolize the Bible?

Seven Questions to Ask Before Having a Difficult Conversation.

The 3-Second Pause That Can Save a Morning and Spare Some Pain.

Six Observations About Speaking to Pastors Right Before They Preach. Although these are especially true for pastors for obvious reasons, many of them hold true for anyone. Once when my husband was the head usher in a very tightly packed church and was trying to find seats for people right before the service, someone who was also a neighbor chose that moment to tell him that he thought the lawn mower that we often let him borrow had been stolen. Hard to concentrate on anything in the service after that. 🙂

The Do Not Depart site has been focusing this month on what we can learn from the lives of Godly Women: Inspiring Stories of Faithful Daughters, mostly from the past. You know how much I love biographies, so I have enjoyed this series. So far they’ve shared from the lives of Corrie ten Boom, Susanna Wesley, Elisabeth Elliot, Helen Roseveare, Harriet Tubman, and Monica of Hippo (Augustine’s mother).

I saw this on Facebook and thought it rang very true. 🙂

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The bad weather that was forecast for last night did not happen, yay! Have a wonderful Saturday!

Friday’s Fave Five

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It’s Friday, time to look back over the blessings of the week with Susanne at Living to Tell the Story and other friends.

It has been a pretty good week. Here are some favorite parts of it:

1. A walk with Timothy. Jim and I baby-sat our little grandson, Timothy, last Saturday, and it was such a nice day out, his parents left his stroller here in case we wanted to take him for a walk. So we did! Some of the neighbors were out enjoying the day as well and came over to ooh and aah over him, always a joy to a grandmother’s heart. 🙂 He’s at such a fun age, it seems every week he is learning a new skill or growing in one he already had. He just had his 9 month check-up last week, and is in the 90th percentile for a 9 month old and exactly where he needs to be in his development – a special blessing since he started out 10 1/2 weeks early and 3 lbs. 6 oz.!

2. More daylight. One of the things I love about Dec. 21, besides its being our anniversary, is that after that day we turn a corner and start having longer days, or rather more daylight in the day. It’s not noticeable at first, but it is now!

3. Spending gift cards. I had a fun shopping excursion spending some Christmas gift cards this week.

4. A new TV. Ours suddenly died with no forewarning or previous problems last weekend. Jim found one on a good sale online but decided to try in town first. He did find it and the store was willing to match the online price, so we didn’t have to wait several days for delivery. It’s bigger than our old one, and we’ve been really enjoying it.

5. “Notify me” feature. I mentioned a few weeks ago liking the Find Friends app on my phone, which enables me to see where my family is, or at least where their phones are. I didn’t even see, until Jesse mentioned it, that it has a “Notify me” feature where you can ask it to signal you when a person leaves their destination. It is especially handy for me because Jim doesn’t have the type of job where he can clock out at 5 on the dot. His arrival time at home can vary by 1 1/2 to 2 hours. So I usually wait to get some idea of when he’ll be home in order so I know when to start dinner. Now, instead of bugging him with texts or continually checking the Find Friends app, my phone dings when he leaves. Very helpful!

Hope you’ve had a great week as well. They’re forecasting snow here for tomorrow. I hope they’re wrong, but I’d rather have it on a Saturday than a week day. Since I don’t have a choice in the matter, I guess I’ll just adjust to whatever comes. 🙂

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I got a few gift cards for Christmas and enjoyed spending a couple of them earlier this week. One was to Amazon, and I splurged on a couple of books, one of them the annotated Pioneer Girl book, which contains the autobiographical manuscript Laura Ingalls Wilder which was the basis for the Little House books. I don’t usually spend so much on a book, but doing so with a gift card seems justifiable. 🙂 Unfortunately they were out of stock, and I don’t know if I’ll receive it in time to read for the Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge next month, but I’ll enjoy it whenever it gets here.

The other gift card was for Hobby Lobby. I had a couple of spaces around the house I had been wanting to decorate, so I set off to see what I could find. This is what I came back with:

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Everything was on sale except the XO picture, and I had a 40%off coupon for that. The item to the right is a shadow box. I wasn’t in the market for one, but I really liked it when I saw it. It was half price and the only one of its kind that was in good shape: otherwise I probably would have waited and thought about it for a while. I do have a place I am planning to put it once I decide what to put in it.

The XO picture I bought primarily for the frame – no offense to the artist. 🙂 One day as I was folding clothes in the laundry room, I thought the space over the washer needed something. I don’t want to put a lot of time and money into decorating that particular room, but I want it to look pleasant as I spend so much time in there. Then at the first of the year when I was transferring all the important dates from last year’s calendar to this year’s, I saw a calendar page that would be perfect for that room. Its size wouldn’t fit a conventional frame, so I’ve been looking around for a frame that would work, and this one looked like it would.

It was a little more tedious to take the backing off the frame than I had anticipated, but eventually I got it done. The calendar page had to be cut down a little, but most of it fit:

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The calendar, by the way, is a 2014 one called Living Faith by Joy Hall. Her art is new to me, but I love it and really enjoyed this calendar last year. I’m glad to be able to keep a piece of it out to enjoy year round.

I was originally going to put it on this same wall but further down above the washer. But it just seemed like it would look better down with the other things I had there.

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The Precious Moments cross stitch was done by one of my sisters some years ago and says “Loads of Love.” I confess that’s not how I usually feel about laundry, but it’s a reminder to me. 🙂 The piece underneath is wooden and says, “Everything comes out in the wash.” I got it years ago from a catalog. The framed calendar page says, “Clothe yourselves with kindness,” Colossians 3:12, and is another reminder I frequently need.

I was pleased with how it all turned out.

The smaller square piece in the top photo says “Let Your Faith Be Bigger Than Your Fear.” I put that in an empty spot on top of my desk:

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The flower arrangement was another Hobby Lobby purchase from years ago and has been there with the candle holders (currently without candles) for some time. The little angel was in a dish garden that my mom had sent me way back in college. The little pedestal I got at a thrift store and just put up with the Faith piece yesterday. I’d had it for a while but wasn’t sure what I wanted to do with it – it just seems to fit there now. I’ll probably put something else on it besides that leafy stem, but I just grabbed what was at hand.

Unfortunately that side of the desk doesn’t match the other…

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…but the utilitarian stuff doesn’t fit into the cabinets and it needs to be nearby.

This little alcove is off the dining area, and this is my main view from where I sit at the table, so I’m happy to spruce it up a little.

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I don’t usually get bunny things, but I do like pink roses, and this was just too cute, not very expensive in the first place, and on sale. I put it on a table that sits just past the front door.

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Everything on this table was a gift except the flower arrangement, which I got at a thrift store, and the little bunny. I started to wait to put the bunny out til Easter – but I like it too much. 🙂

So there you have a peek into my newest decorations. It was a fun time shopping for them and then setting them out. And I still have $12 left on my Hobby Lobby gift card! 🙂

Book Review: Lizzy and Jane

Lizzy and JaneKatherine Reay’s Dear Mr. Knightley was one of my favorite books read in 2014, so I was eager to read her next one, Lizzy and Jane.

Elizabeth is the chief chef in a New York restaurant, but something has been “off” in her cooking lately, and she can’t quite put her finger on the problem. The restaurant owner decides to bring in a celebrity chef to increase excitement, traffic, and sales. Discouraged, Elizabeth suddenly decides to go visit her sister, Jane, in Seattle.

She’s been avoiding Jane for a number of reasons. When their mother died from cancer, instead of coming together to comfort each other, the family withdrew and splintered. Now Jane is battling her own cancer, and Elizabeth didn’t feel she could face it until now. In the first few minutes after Elizabeth arrives at Jane’s house, it’s clear that there is more to the problems in their relationship than different ways of handling grief. Their attempts to reconnect are something like one step forward and two backward as they make attempts and then fall back into old patterns.

Jane’s appetite has been affected by her treatment, and Lizzy makes it her mission to experiment with different foods and combinations to come up with something Jane can eat, but at first it’s more about Elizabeth recapturing her spark and fire for cooking and needing a victory in that department than it really is about Jane.

Dear Mr. Knightley was replete with quotes and allusions to classic literature, specifically Jane Austen’s. This book doesn’t have quite as many, but it still has plenty. Elizabeth’s mother had loved all things Jane Austen and had especially loved having Elizabeth read Austen’s novels to her when she wasn’t feeling well: consequently, Elizabeth has been avoiding them in her grief. Yet Jane likes the same reading while receiving her chemo treatments, so Elizabeth rediscovers them by reading to Jane and learns to enjoy them again despite the connection with her mom’s illness. Apparently Elizabeth never forgets a food reference in the books she reads, and as she cooks for Jane and then another cancer patient, finding out what books they like is a part of discovering their tastes and preferences. It was fun to read food references from Dickens, Hemingway, Austen, and even The Wind in the Willows.

Though the girls were named after the main characters in Pride and Prejudice, Lizzie felt they

…portrayed too intimidating a relationship for me — always had. Lizzy and Jane Bennet understood each other, championed each other without fail, and possessed an unbreakable bond. Even Darcy could not find fault in their relationship or conduct — and he could find fault with most things. But Elinor and Marianne [from Sense and Sensibility]? They had more conflict, rubbed more, barked more…They felt more real, more flawed, and yet their bond was as strong, as enduring, and as beautiful (pp. 96-97).

The faith element in the book is not heavy-handed: Elizabeth had buried what she had known, like so many other things, after her mom’s death, but during this time she rediscovers and renews her faith.

There were a few thoughts or discoveries about food that spoke to me as well. Even though I was a Home Economics major, I was never into gourmet cooking, so a lot of the spices and pairings Elizabeth uses are totally foreign to me (cinnamon in tomato-based dishes? Chili powder in chocolate? Isn’t that backwards? 🙂 ) In fact, my worst ever report card grade in college was in my Food Prep class (blush!) But somehow my family has survived my cooking for 35 years and even seems to like it pretty well most of the time. 🙂 (My main problem wasn’t preparing food so much as it was not managing my time well and not getting assignments in on time.) A lot of times, actually, I wish cooking was not a main part of my job, but on the other hand I don’t think I’d really enjoy other people doing the cooking all the time. At any rate, these quotes reminded me that preparing food is not just about food:

[Mom] wasn’t a good cook; she was a loving cook (p. 110).

Great writers and my mom never used food as an object: instead it was a medium, a catalyst to mend hearts, to break down barriers, to build relationships. Mom’s cooking fed body and soul (p. 111).

“Mrs. Conner is sad and she hurts and it’s spring. The orange cake will not only show we care, it’ll bring sunshine and spring to her dinner tonight. She needs that.”
“It’s just a cake.”
“It’s never just a cake, Lizzy” (p. 111).

“You’re creating more than a meal; you’re creating sustenance and meeting needs that are way beyond nutritional” (p. 139).

It’s never about the food — it’s about what the food becomes, in the hands of the giver and the recipient (p. 172).

I really enjoyed the story, the food references, the literary allusions, and especially the characters. They’re flawed but realistic (even though most people I know don’t go at each other like they do: our family tends to retreat and get quiet when angry). I enjoyed how each of them grew in some way.

I did not like one reference to a symptom of Jane’s that wasn’t overt – I don’t know if everyone would even catch it – but it was a little TMI. Would a cancer patient experience it, and would two sisters talk about it in the privacy of their own home? Yes, but still…it was mentioned in a humorous way that wasn’t really necessary to the story and had me thinking, “Did she really just allude to what I think she alluded to?” Another blot in the book, in my opinion, was the use of a word that’s common today and a synonym for gutsy, but refers to male anatomy. Jarring and unnecessary. I mention these things not only because I feel strongly about them but also because I know many of you would want to be forewarned. By the world’s standards, they’re minor, but Christians are held to a higher standard. These have caused my bright, shiny, high regard for Reay to dim just a bit, and I so hope she’s not going further that direction in future books, but I think the story overall is a worthy one.

(This will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Book Review: The Masqueraders

MasqueradersI had not heard of Georgette Heyer until the last few years when I saw her name pop up on various blogs. Since I’ve been trying to read classics that I am not familiar with, I wanted to give one of her books a try. I thought I had remembered that Bekah enjoyed The Masqueraders, but as I tried to find her review of it, I couldn’t, so I guess I must have seen it recommended by someone else. At any rate, I decided to give it a listen.

The story was published in 1928 but set in the mid 1750s in Britain just after just after some rebellions by groups called the Jacobites, who wanted to restore King James II and his line to the throne. You can read more about them here if you’re interested, but let’s just say they were on the wrong side of the political climate at the time and their involvement would have been found treasonous.

To escape detection, brother and sister Robin and Prudence travel in disguise, he as Kate Merriot and she as Kate’s brother Peter. Prudence is a little tall for a woman and Robin a little short for a man, so that works to their advantage. Stopping by an inn on their travels, they overhear an argument between an older man and a teenage girl. Apparently the girl had said she would elope with the man but has changed her mind, and he is not taking it well. The Merriots decide to intervene by having their servant stage a distraction while they get the girl to safety. They discover her name is Letitia, or Lettie, and she is not only young and naive, but bored. She thinks her father has promised her to another older man, Sir Anthony Fanshawe, whom she does not want to marry, and that and a desire for “romance” and excitement led her to consent to Gregory Markham’s proposal, until she saw a side of him she did not like. Fanshawe soon arrives at Lettie’s father’s request, assures Lettie that he is not planning to marry her, and sees her back to London.

The Merriots end up in London as well, and renew their acquaintance with Lettie, meet her father, and become the darlings of London society. They meet several times with Sir Anthony, who comes across as sleepy and unobservant, but Prudence/Peter thinks he sees more and understands more than he lets on. Sir Anthony evidently desires to take Peter under his wing, and he/she finds herself attracted to him.

Meanwhile Robin has fallen hard for Lettie, but neither sibling can risk unmasking. Plus they are waiting to hear from their father, whom they call “the old gentleman.” He is the master planner for their adventurous schemes, and they discover his new one is very bold indeed and requires a masquerade of his own.

When I first started this audiobook, I admit it seemed a little silly to me at first. But it wasn’t long before I was drawn into the story, especially after it took a more serious turn.

I don’t know if all of Heyer’s heroines are this way, but Prudence is a strong female character as opposed to the more typical damsel-in-distress Victorian ideal (which is more like Lettie, although even Lettie proves to be not quite so flighty as she seems at first). Pru, as those who know her call her, is strong not only because she portrays a man and has had to learn to sword fight and such, but also because of her bravery, quick wits, and loyalty. But her strength doesn’t preclude her appreciation that “it was a fine thing to be so precious in a man’s eyes.”

I read a little more about Heyer at Wikipedia. That article says she “essentially established the historical romance genre and its subgenre Regency romance. Her Regencies were inspired by Jane Austen” – so wouldn’t that mean Jane Austen actually established Regency romances? I don’t know. But Heyer is known for her historical romances and thrillers: for several years she published one of each every year. Though she was evidently very popular in her day, she “was ignored by critics…none of her novels was ever reviewed in a serious newspaper” and she “was also overlooked by the Encyclopedia Britannica. The 1974 edition of the encyclopedia, published shortly after her death, included entries on popular writers Agatha Christie and Dorothy Sayers, but did not mention Heyer.”

I did enjoy learning more about Heyer and sampling one of her books. I will probably try another some time, but I am not eager to do so right away. The smattering of “damns” and minced oaths got on my nerves, I thought one man was unnecessarily killed in the story, and I could not stand “the old gentleman’s” arrogance, but overall I liked the suspense and intrigue of the plot as well as the humor sprinkled throughout. I thought the narrator did an excellent job as well.

(This will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

The Laura Ingalls Wilder Reading Challenge 2015

The month of February contains the dates of Laura Ingalls Wilder’s birth and death, so it seems a fitting month to focus on her life and writings. This is our fourth year to do so, and I have enjoyed it each time. Many of us grew up reading the Little House books. I don’t know if there has ever been a time when there wasn’t interest in the Little House series since it first came out. They are enjoyable as children’s books, but they are enjoyable for adults as well. It’s fascinating to explore real pioneer roots and heartening to read of the family relationships and values.

On Feb. 1 I’ll have a sign-up post where you can let us know if you’ll be participating and what you’d like to read. That way we can peek in on each other through the month and see how it’s going (that’s half the fun of a reading challenge). You can read anything by or about Laura. You can read alone or with your children or a friend. You can read just one book or several throughout the month — whatever works with your schedule. If you’d like to prepare some food or crafts or activities somehow relating to Laura or her books, that would be really neat too. In the past I think some have made food or clothing from the styles of the day: Annette even had a Little House-themed birthday party for one of her daughters, (and, unrelated to the challenge but just from her own interest she started the Little House Companion blog: you might find some neat ideas for activities and Laura-related books there.

On Feb 28 I’ll have a wrap-up post with a Mr. Linky so you can link back to any posts you’ve written for the challenge or to a wrap-up post. You do not have to have a blog to participate: if you don’t, you can just share with us in the comments that day what you’ve read.

Need some ideas beyond the Little House books themselves? Annette, as I mentioned, has shared several books for children here. I compiled a list of Books Related to Laura Ingalls Wilder, and some others are listed in the comments. Laura fan extraordinaire and historian Melanie Stringer has a treasure trove of information at Meet Laura Ingalls Wilder.

Have fun gathering your materials and planning what to read and do, and I’ll see you back here Feb. 1!

Here is a code for a button for the challenge:

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Laudable Linkage

Here are some noteworthy reads discovered in the last couple of weeks:

My Love List, for when you need to remind yourself of God’s love for you.

One Indispensable Rule for Bible study.

9 Things You Need to Know About Widows.

What Everybody Ought to Know About Moms and Sons.

The Lens of Attention. Loved this.

What to Say to That Immodestly Dressed Girl at Church. Mentioned this last Thursday but wanted to list it here as well.

Stages of Grief: Anger. Alicia has been discussing stages of grief, and Christian ways to handle them, in reference to a life-changing condition.

How to Write Good.

Finally, Carrie shared some bookworm problems earlier this week, and I could identify with many, especially these:

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Hope you have a great weekend!

 

Friday’s Fave Five

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It’s Friday, time to look back over the blessings of the week with Susanne at Living to Tell the Story and other friends.

Thankfully this week has been a very normal one, compared to last week. Everyone is pretty much well from the various things we had going on, and feeling immensely better. Here are some highlights of the week:

1. Jason’s promotion. I mentioned at the end of last week’s post some good news that wasn’t public just yet. My middle son, Jason, was promoted to manager at his place of business and given a raise in salary that was just about what he felt he needed. He really enjoys his job but wasn’t making quite enough to support a family, so I am glad that all worked out and pleased that his gifts and skills are being recognized as well.

2. A refurbished computer. I had been having a number of problems with my desktop, and and mentioned for Christmas hoping for a way to get it running back up to par. My oldest son commented once that it was the oldest computer in the house. I had thought maybe over Christmas there would be some time while he was here to look at it, but we didn’t get to. Then my husband received some boxes in the mail and put them in Jesse’s room, and when I asked Jesse what they were, he said they were parts for my computer. Oh! I hadn’t known they were doing anything like that! Jesse had asked for some new components for his computer for Christmas, so they used some of his old ones plus a couple of new ones to update mine. Jim and Jesse put it together and then they and Jeremy set up programs and moved files over, all of them spending a good deal of time on it. I have quite a bit more memory in it now, which is helpful as well. It’s running much more quickly and smoothly. I am so glad they all know how to do that kind of thing. Thanks, guys! 🙂

3. New calendars. I meant to mention this last week, but forgot. One of my favorite things is getting out the new calendars the first week of the year and filling in the family birthdays and anniversaries. It’s so nice to look through all those fresh, clean pages and to flip through last year’s calendar at all the happenings of the year as well.

4. Restoring order. I love the holidays and having everyone here, and I miss that, but on the other hand it does feel good to get back to a routine. I’ve enjoyed going through and sorting, organizing and putting things to rights in the house. There is always more of that kind of thing to be done, but it feels good to make progress.

5. An unexpected lunch. It’s unusual for Jim and I to be alone for Sunday dinner, but this last Sunday we were, and Jim suggested getting something for lunch on the way home from church. It was so nice not only not to have to cook, but to have no clean-up as well, and I got a nice long nap in during the afternoon.

Happy Friday!

 

Are We Responsible for God’s Reputation?

One of the things writing does for me is to help me think things through in ways that I can’t always do mentally. With writing I can take each strand of swirling thoughts, lay it out in black and white, follow it through to completion, go on to another, put them all together in some order, and then stand back and take a look at them. When I try to do that without writing them down, they just continue to swirl, and I can only think about one part for a brief time.

Something that’s been on the back of my mind for months is an offhand statement I saw on someone’s blog. When I go to a new blog, if what I see there interests me, I often will check out the “About Me” section to find out a little more about the person, to get more of an idea of who it is I am reading about. A part of what this particular blogger wanted people to know about her was that she was taught in her church and youth group to keep certain standards in order to maintain a good testimony before others, so people would think well of her God by what they saw her do;  but as she got older she felt that many of those standards went beyond the parameter of what she was called to do, and furthermore, she felt that she was not responsible for God’s reputation, that He was big enough to take care of that on His own. She wasn’t advocating a total overthrow of any standards at all, but she was refusing to place them on that level on importance.

Now, I agree with this young woman that some people go beyond what the Bible actually teaches or implies in their standards, and that some place their standards almost on par with the ten commandments and look quite condescendingly at anyone who practices something different than they do, and that both of those approaches are wrong. What I mean by standards are the practical ways people work out their beliefs and convictions that may vary from person to person (Romans 14) as opposed to the bedrock doctrinal truth that there can be no variations on.

But what really stood out to me and has had me pondering these many months is the thought that we are not responsible for God’s reputation. Is that true?

First my mind went back to verses in the New Testament about doing or not doing things so that God’s Word is not blasphemed. For instance in Titus 2:3-5, older godly women are instructed to teach younger women in a variety of areas – soberness (self-control in the ESV), loving husband and children, being “discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands,” so that “the word of God be not blasphemed” (reviled in the ESV). The word of God can be blasphemed when I am indiscreet, lacking in self-control, or unloving to my family? Apparently so.

In I Timothy 6:1, servants were to “count their own masters worthy of all honour, that the name of God and his doctrine be not blasphemed.”

I Peter 2:11-12 says, “Beloved, I urge you as sojourners and exiles to abstain from the passions of the flesh, which wage war against your soul. Keep your conduct among the Gentiles honorable, so that when they speak against you as evildoers, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day of visitation.”

Philippians 4: 5 says, “Let your reasonableness be known to everyone. The Lord is at hand.”

Philippians 1:27 says, “Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel.”

In II Corinthians 6:3-4a. Paul says, “We put no obstacle in anyone’s way, so that no fault may be found with our ministry, but as servants of God we commend ourselves in every way.”

In the Old Testament, God’s reputation was a motive for prayer. When God was going to destroy the Israelites for their lack of faith in going into the promised land, Moses prayed:

“Then the Egyptians will hear of it, for you brought up this people in your might from among them, and they will tell the inhabitants of this land. They have heard that you, O Lord, are in the midst of this people. For you, O Lord, are seen face to face, and your cloud stands over them and you go before them, in a pillar of cloud by day and in a pillar of fire by night. Now if you kill this people as one man, then the nations who have heard your fame will say, ‘It is because the Lord was not able to bring this people into the land that he swore to give to them that he has killed them in the wilderness.’” (Numbers 14:13-16).

In Psalm 106:21, 27, David prays, “But you, O God my Lord, deal on my behalf for your name’s sake; because your steadfast love is good, deliver me!…Let them know that this is your hand; you, O Lord, have done it!

The sake of God’s name is a factor in many prayers and actions in the Bible, so I think, yes, we should be concerned about how we are representing God in what we say and do. Stated a little differently, I Corinthians 6:19-20 conclude that we should not do certain things because “your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

That doesn’t mean different people can’t have different standards. I think people’s carping about other people’s different standards does far more harm to the reputation of God’s people than the different standards do. The Bible does teach grace in dealing with others who may not see everything quite the same way we do. But our motivating factor should be God’s honor and glory: even those with different practices in Romans 14 each did what they did “as unto the Lord.”

On the other hand, sometimes God does call someone to do something that seems harmful to their reputation, and to His. Mary’s reputation suffered as well as Jesus’s by the virgin birth, but it suffered in the eyes of people who didn’t believe it, and someday it will be vindicated. There are actions of God, or sometimes what seems to be a lack of action, that cause some to call Him unfair. But off the top of my head, areas in which people criticize God come down to problems on our end of things, not His. We don’t see the big picture or understand all His purposes and lack faith in His character, His wisdom, His love, etc.  He is willing to risk being misunderstood to do what is right and necessary in any given situation and He wants us to know Him and trust Him even when everything doesn’t make sense to us.

When Jesus lived on the earth, He “made Himself of no reputation” and “though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped.” He did defend and explain His Father and even His own actions sometimes, but He wasn’t grasping after His rights or His “place” as the Son of God.

It is a misguided attempt to defend God’s reputation that sometimes earns Christians and the God they think they are representing a bad reputation. In almost any online forum, when a non-Christian makes a disparaging remark about God or the Bible or Christianity, you can count on some Christian leaping to God’s defense. That is not a bad thing in itself, but it can be if it is done harshly or condescendingly. Just this morning I came across a blog post about why Christians don’t seek to avenge insults against God: He Himself showed people grace in their ignorance and unbelief when He died for them on the cross, and in His love and longsuffering He waits and draws them to Himself. He wants us to show that same grace, love, kindness, and longsuffering. Of course we can and should soak ourselves in His Word and attempt to explain or put things into perspective for others and ask God to make it plain to them. Jude 3 speaks of “earnestly contending for the faith,” and I Peter 3: 14b-16 says, “But even if you should suffer for righteousness’ sake, you will be blessed. Have no fear of them, nor be troubled, but in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect, having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.” That’s quite a different stance than “pouncing” on someone for saying something out of line with the Bible.

The more I think about this issue, the more I realize it is probably too big a topic for one simple blog post. But here are some conclusions I think I can draw so far:

1. Yes, God can take care of His own reputation. He is willing to be misunderstood in the short term, but some day everything will be set to rights and people will see and know Him for who He really is.

2. We can and should contend for the faith and have a reason for the hope that lies within us, but we should be gracious and respectful about it.

3. We do represent God both to other Christians and to unbelievers and we do need to be aware that our actions and attitudes reflect on Him favorably or unfavorably.

4. That will filter down into our everyday lives and standards. But I don’t think the emphasis should be on keeping standards in order to maintain a good testimony. That puts all the focus on the outward form rather than the inward reality. As Erin Davis said in What to Say to That Immodestly Dressed Girl at Church:

This requires an important shift. We need to stop asking, “How can we get our girls to dress modestly?” and start asking, “How can we get our girls to be passionate students of God’s Word?” Hebrews 4:12 tells us that God’s Word works like a sword, surgically removing those parts of our hearts that don’t line up with the holiness of God. Which would you prefer? A girl who covers up out of obligation, or a girl who chooses to change because of God’s work in her through His Word?

Now, when it comes to immodesty, especially with three sons, my first instinct would be to say, “Let’s cover up first, even if it is out of obligation, and then we’ll study the reason for it.” 🙂 There may be times for that kind of an approach: as a parent, often you have to require certain actions and standards for your children even if they don’t understand the reasons behind them. But the motivation, the overarching focus should be love for God and living for Him and what pleases Him and brings Him glory. It should be that inner love that works itself out into our everyday actions. In one biography I read years ago, a young person had grown up with certain standards against “worldliness” which she then joyfully jumped into when she turned away from God for a time. But once she came to truly know Him, the more she grew in her knowledge of Him and love for Him, the more those things just fell away on their own.

From a writerly point of view, I should probably let this sit a few more days and tighten, organize, and “polish” it better. But I am going to let it stand as a “thinking through my fingers” post.

What are your thoughts about our responsibility for God’s reputation?