Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s been kind of a different week, though not an unpleasant one. I haven’t gotten half done what I wanted to, but did accomplish a few things here and there. Here are some of the favorite parts of the week:

1. Organizing a couple of areas. I started by cleaning out a corner of my drawers where I stuff receipts, and ended up sorting and reorganizing two dresser drawers. And I have a box where I keep gift bags and a bag where I keep tissue paper, and both had gotten disheveled as new things got tossed in, so it was nice to get those organized — I can see better what I have and it doesn’t look messy any more.

2. Dinner made by someone else. 🙂 Jason and Mittu came over and made dinner last Saturday — chili, corn chips, cornbread muffins, salad, and pumpkin pie.

3. Choco Peanut Butter Dreams. I tend to crave them during autumn though they are not specifically fallish.

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4. Nestling under the covers on cold nights. I tend to get hot at night and have to put feet or hands or shoulders out from under the covers to get comfortable, but I don’t like to sleep without covers of some kind. So these cool nights when I can comfortably tuck everything in are really nice.

5. Hot cereal on cold mornings. I’m the only one in the family who eats it, and I don’t like the instant variety. It was nice to discover I could make one serving of regular cream of wheat in the microwave.

I bought stuff for one of those beautiful fall wreaths with burlap rosettes that I have been seeing all over the Internet. The burlap roses weren’t going so well last night, but I hope to figure them out this weekend. 🙂

Have a great Friday!

The Discipline of Convictions

Contrary to the postmodern belief that there is no absolute truth, the Bible discloses much absolute truth, and it is incumbent upon believers to know it both so that we worship God “in spirit and in truth,” and so that our behavior reflects our beliefs. Otherwise our morality is determined by consensus, by what everyone else is doing. Even Christians fall too easily into that trap, of adapting their lives to their particular Christian culture rather than on Bible-based convictions.

Jerry Bridges, in The Discipline of Grace, defines conviction as “a determinative belief: something you believe so strongly that it affects the way you live. Someone has observed that a belief is what you hold, but a conviction is what holds you” (p. 167).

God tells us “do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God” (Romans 12:2). Renewing our minds comes about as we read God’s Word, delight in it, meditate on it, and thereby derive convictions from it. “One who delights in the Law of God sees the Bible not just as a book of rules that are difficult to live by, but as the Word of his or her heavenly Father who is the God of all grace and deals with him or her in grace” (p. 169).

Without regular time reading and studying the Bible, our beliefs and morality will be influenced by the ungodly. Psalm 1 contrasts the righteous with the ungodly.

If we do not actively seek to come under the influence of God’s Word, we will come under the influence of sinful society around us. The impact of our culture with its heavy emphasis on materialism, living for one’s self, and instant gratification is simply too strong and pervasive for us not to be influenced by it. Once again, there is no such thing as a neutral stance on the continuum of influence. We are being drawn more and more under the transforming influence of Scripture, or we are being progressively drawn into the web of an ungodly society around us (p. 171).

But as we approach the Scriptures, we need to do so with the conviction that it is the Word of God, asking God to teach us its truths rather than just looking to shore up our own opinions, and we need to seek to apply it to our lives, not just store up knowledge and facts.

Our acceptance by God the Father is based solely on His grace to us through Christ. His favor is never earned by what we do nor forfeited by what we don’t do. But we may say with equal emphasis that our progress in the pursuit of holiness is to a significant degree conditioned on our use of the disciplines that God has appointed for us (p. 184).

Bridges mostly discusses how developing Bible-based convictions will keep us from veering off into ungodly thoughts and behaviors, but it will also help us not to veer into Christian lines of thought that are off-base or off-balance. Sometimes Christians can get hold of one aspect of truth without its balance of another, or take a Bible-based conviction and extrapolate from that certain standards of behavior that aren’t Biblically based at all, and defend those convictions with as much or more vigor than the clear teaching of Scripture. That can do great harm to the cause of Christ and the testimonies of believers. We desperately need to form convictions based on Scripture itself.

“The Discipline of Commitment” is the 10th chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here.

Whatever It Takes

I used to post hymns or spiritual songs on Sundays. But since we’ve moved here, I don’t have as much time on the computer on Sundays, due mainly to a longer drive times and services that are a bit longer than we were used to. Sunday dinners are often quick and simple now, and I leave the dishes in the sink and catch a nap. 🙂 And I don’t usually have anything in mind beforehand to get a post ready for Sunday.

But a song that I have considered posting for the last couple of weeks is “Whatever It Takes.” I was unfamiliar with it until our pastor played it just before prayer time on a Wednesday evening. He played the audio of this rendition by Kevin Inafuku from his CD He Is.

Whatever it takes
To keep me tender toward You,
Whatever it takes, Lord
I beg You to do.
Whatever You must lead me through,
Whatever it takes, Lord … do.

At times I hear your voice and try to hide
But patiently you draw me to your side.
I may not always see
That Your words are life to me.
So many times I’ve missed You,
Help me, Lord, to not resist You

Sometimes my heart gets hard and I can’t see
That Your correction is protecting me
But as I look within
The darkness of my sin
Breaks my heart and leaves me tender:
Gratefully I then surrender.

Whatever it takes
To keep me tender toward You,
Whatever it takes, Lord
I beg You to do.
Whatever You must lead me through
Whatever it takes, Lord,
There’s too much at stake, Lord.
Whatever it takes, Lord … do.

By Jon Mohr

Besides Kevin’s beautiful voice and phrasing, the song’s message arrested me. I wrestled with whether I could truly say, “Whatever It Takes.” It’s something I wrestle with from time to time, like in a previous post When Afraid to Surrender.

I can say it, by God’s grace, but instead of a full open invitation, it’s more of a squinting through the fingers of my hands as they cover my face while hoping it isn’t anything catastrophic. I can’t help wincing a bit, because God does sometimes call His people to go through excruciating things. But He does promise His grace, His presence, and His help as well.

I can’t go through a list of potential crises and say, one by one, “Yes, Lord, if You want to do that…Yes, Lord, to that…” I don’t know that that’s what He asks. But I can say, “OK, Lord,” while still wincing and squinting and trust His grace is sufficient for even that weakness.

Rambling

I mentioned last week that I’d be scarce for a bit. I hadn’t meant for that to continue. I’m mainly catching up from last week’s busyness. Still have housework to catch up on; sudden cold weather has me scrambling to get my winter clothes out of boxes, washed, and ready to wear; I just had Jesse get my fall decorations down from the attic this morning, so I hope to at least change the spring arrangement out front for a fall one.

On a side note, I wonder why I have more winter clothes than spring/summer ones, when I like the spring and summer ones better, and more dressy than casual ones when I wear casual more often?

On another side note, I learned the hard way NOT to use old fabric softener. I usually use the dryer sheets but keep liquid fabric softener on hand for those things that can’t go in the dryer, but don’t use it that often. Several of my wintery clothes fit that category, and when I went to pour the fabric softener in the washer, I noticed it was thick and gloppy but figured it would dissolve in water. It didn’t. It left snot-like globs all over the clothes even after several washings. I thought I’d never get rid of that stuff and ending up using most of my new bottle of detergent just rewashing that load. So there is your household tip for the day: if your liquid fabric softener has gotten excessively viscous, get rid of it.

I have a hankering to do some fall baking, but everyone in the family is trying to watch their weight (except Jesse and Mittu, because they don’t need to), so I have been refraining. But I did give in and make Choco-Peanut Butter Dreams last night. So good.

I finished one book that I am not inclined to review for various reasons and another audiobook that I think I will wait to discuss together with its sequels. Usually I am brimming over with blogging ideas and even have a running list where I have jotted some of them down, but for some reason I’ve been going blank when I try to think of what to blog, though I have been keeping up with the Reading Classics Together Challenge on Thursdays and Friday’s Fave Five on Saturdays. Maybe it’s more of a time for getting things done at home than blogging, but often as soon as I think I won’t have time or inspiration to blog, then ideas come flooding. 🙂

I have one more newspaper column, due in a couple of weeks, before this term is done, then I have to wait for a year to reapply for the “community guest columnist” position. I’ve enjoyed it, but I’m also a little glad to be out from under the pressure. It has been good experience to write for a secular audience and with a word limit (blogging was supposed to be good writing practice for me, and it has been, but I do tend to be wordy. Cutting excess and making sentences really count has been a great exercise). Deciding what to do for the last one will be hard, as I have three columns almost ready and some half a dozen other ideas. This has me thinking of maybe pursuing other avenues of publication: magazines, perhaps.

I mentioned in my last Friday’s Fave Five than an extended family member recently had a crisis. I’ve e-mailed a handful of you the specifics. Things are stable for now but still shaky, and I’d appreciate your prayers especially for the spiritual needs involved. Thanks.

“The Discipline of Commitment”

After I first became a Christian, when I would become convicted of some sin, I’d make a commitment never to do that again…and of course, fall flat on my face. So I began to think making a commitment was not the way to go about it and was, in fact, setting oneself up for failure. And since it is better not to make a vow than to vow and not fulfill it, I began to just pray that the Lord would help me not to do that particular thing.

But Jerry Bridges makes a compelling argument for making commitments against sin in the chapter “The Discipline of Commitment” in his book The Discipline of Grace. For one thing, in Scripture we see people like Job (“I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid?” Job 31:1) and Daniel (“But Daniel purposed in his heart that he would not defile himself with the portion of the king’s meat, nor with the wine which he drank” Daniel 1:8) do so.

But before we get into making specific commitments against specific sins, we’re called to commit ourselves totally to the Lord. Romans 12:1 says, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that ye present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.” Bridges says, “When we commit ourselves to the pursuit of holiness, we need to ensure that our commitment is actually to God, not simply to a holy lifestyle or a set of moral values” (p. 148).

Also, “We should not seek holiness in order to feel good about ourselves, or to blend in with our Christian peer group, or to avoid the sense of shame and guilt that follows the committing of persistent sin in our lives. Far too often our concern with sin arises from how it makes us feel” (p. 149). And we need to guard against being “more vexed at the lowering of our self-esteem than we are grieved at God’s dishonor” (p. 149).

Plus, our commitment should not but just to avoid sin, but to pursue Christlike virtues. Colossians 3:12 says, “Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering.”

Psalm 119:106 says, “I have sworn, and I will perform it, that I will keep thy righteous judgments.” Bridges quotes Stephen Charnock as saying, “Frequently renew settled and holy resolutions. A soldier unresolved to fight may easily be defeated” (p. 151). “If you do not commit yourself to the pursuit of holiness in these specific areas of your life, you will find a tendency to vacillate in the face of these temptations” (p. 159).

Perhaps the hardest thing for me in this chapter was Bridges’ consistent urge to allow no exceptions. “If we do not make such a commitment to obedience without exception, we will find ourselves constantly making exceptions” (p. 153).

But how can we do such a thing? Bridges says one way is by intention. “Is it our intention to please God in all our actions?” (p. 152). He quotes William Law as saying that our lack of holiness often is due to a lack of intention. Law goes on to say, “This doctrine does not suppose that we have no need of divine grace, or that it is in our own power to make ourselves perfect. It only supposes that through the [lack] of a sincere intention of pleasing God in all our actions, we fall into such irregularities of life, as by the ordinary means of grace, we should have power to avoid” (p. 153). Or as I saw quoted somewhere else recently, “Drift is almost always away.” When we don’t have a daily intent to please God in everything, we’re going to find ourselves allowing those things that don’t please Him.

What about grace? Doesn’t this all sound a little legalistic?

“Is God really this strict?” Yes…because he cannot compromise His holiness the least bit. His goal is to conform us to the likeness of His Son, and Jesus was completely without sin, though He was tempted every way we are (Hebrews 4:15). No, we cannot, or perhaps will not, keep these commitments perfectly, but keeping them perfectly should at least be our aim. In a battle, some soldiers will always be hit, but every one of them makes it his aim not to be hit. To have a lesser aim would be the height of folly. (p. 160).

“It was in view of God’s mercy that Paul urged the Romans, and us today, to commit our bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God” (p. 160). Paul had spent the preceding 11 chapters of Romans detailing God’s grace in the gospel. Bridges has several paragraphs, too long to repeat here, bringing out some of the truths of grace from the first part of Romans.

“It is this mercy that is reveled to us in the gospel and that we believers have experienced that is the ground for our commitment. Such a commitment as Paul called for would indeed be a legalistic and oppressive commitment if it were not grounded in love. And the only way Paul would stir up our love is to remind us of God’s love for us, revealed through His mercy and grace. What Paul asked for from us is only a response of love and gratitude, which expresses itself in loving commitment (p. 161).

God provides the grace for the commitment He calls us to (Romans 6:11-14, Hebrews 4:15-16). We need to remind ourselves of the gospel frequently not just to cleanse our consciences, but to reaffirm our commitment to Him as a response of love and gratitude (p. 162-163).

On a personal note…in the course of reading this chapter, I became convicted of a bad driving habit. You wouldn’t think to look at me that I’d be guilty of “road rage,” and as a general rule I am not an angry driver, but when other drivers do something particularly dumb that impacts me, I can get pretty hot under the collar. Just recently I had been stuck behind not one but two different pokey drivers on roads where I couldn’t pass, and I was in danger of being late for church, so when the second one finally turned off the road, I gunned the engine and veered around him before he was totally turned. Then I noticed a car behind me, and hoped it wasn’t someone from church…but it was (and interestingly, after this incident, Bridges shared a very similar one, driving the conviction even deeper.) I always feel guilty about these incidents and think, “I really shouldn’t react that way.” But while reading this chapter I began to feel that I should go further than that. I made a commitment that, God helping me, I would not react in anger while driving for several reasons: It’s dangerous (I could hit someone else while angrily reacting), it is a poor testimony to the driver I’m reacting to as well as anyone watching, and it is not demonstrating the self-control that is a fruit of the Holy Spirit. And, of course, I’ve been tested on this about 3 times since then…but God has used the commitment, or intention, to remind me and help me not to respond in a fleshly way. Bridges urges us to make a general commitment as well as commitments in specific areas….I think if I did that I’d have a very long list to work on, but this is a start.

“The Discipline of Commitment” is the 9th chapter in the book The Discipline of Grace by Jerry Bridges, which we’re discussing every Thursday in the “Reading Classics Together” challenge at Challies‘ place. More discussion on this chapter is here. I had to miss Thursday, but wanted to go through the chapter anyway for my own edification.

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

I didn’t think I would be able to participate this week! But I got everything done (thank you, Lord!) — except the housework, which tends to fall by the wayside on a busy week. I’ll be catching up on that this afternoon and tomorrow.

Most of my favorite parts of this week are intangible, and some have to be vague:

1. Answered prayer on many fronts.

2. God’s intervention. An extended family member had a life-threatening crisis this week, and the husband of a couple from our church who went at their own expense to work on a building project for one of our missionaries in eastern Europe fell seriously ill while there (he lost 17 lbs. in 4 days). Thankfully both are stable and recovering now, though the first situation is still a little precarious (prayers appreciated!).

3. Having a situation work out despite obstacles and stress.

4. Someone coming through on something when it didn’t look like they were going to and I was trying to come up with plan B.

5. Pumpkin cream cheese. 🙂 I’m not much of a cream cheese person — I use it in a few recipes but I don’t like spreading it on things. But at a ladies’ fellowship last night at church they had pumpkin muffins and pumpkin cream cheese, and it was really good. And they had great apple cider, too.

Hope you have a great weekend!

I may be scarce….

…with both blogging and commenting this week. But then again, I may not. Sometimes when I think I am not going to have time to blog much, pockets of opportunity come along.

We have special meetings at our church all this week, I’m signed up to take a meal somewhere tomorrow, the ladies’ newsletter is due this week, and plans to work on it have not come to fruition so far.

So if I am not around as much as usual, know I am thinking of you and hope to be back soon!

Preview of Uncle Tom’s Cabin

Reading to Know - Book Club
I’ve mentioned a number of times that I am hosting Carrie’s “Reading to Know” Book Club for the month of October, and my book choice is Uncle Tom’s Cabin by Harriet Beecher Stowe. I shared some introductory remarks about the book here at Carrie‘s.

I’d love to have you join us! If you do so, please drop over to Carrie‘s and let her know in this post. It’s not required that one write a review of the book, but Carrie will provide a place to share thoughts about the book and link up to reviews if you’ve written them on October 26.

Laudable Linkage

Here are some interesting reads seen around the Internet the last couple of weeks:

God’s Bridge to Eternal Life. Nice online gospel tract.

There are two excellent books free or nearly free for Kindle apps for a time: How I Know God Answers Prayer by Rosalind Goforth is a Christian Classic and is free at the time I am posting, and Words by Ginny Yttrup is 99 cents (my review of Words is here). I highly recommend both of these.

Steve Hafler posted Before You Take a Sip, Consider This, about the liberty of drinking alcohol, and the very next day his brother’s car was hit by a drunk driver, killing his sister-in-law and hospitalizing I think two of their children. Unfortunately he has taken down his post commenting on the accident, but Pastor Chris Anderson posted Ambivalence About Alcohol after ministering to the family. I am sure the family would appreciate prayer during this difficult time, and may this cause many to rethink the dangers of alcohol.

Why We Don’t Burn Down Things When Jesus Is Mocked.

Dear Pastors, Please Quit Picking On Video Games. I don’t like the use of the word “butt,” especially in a Christian context, but otherwise he makes some good points.

Book Review of Captivating, HT to Challies. I’ve not read this book. I’ve heard mixed things about it, and this blogger details some of its problems.

What If I Have a Very Overweight Friend?

Ask For Tolerance up front when discussing different viewpoints, HT to Challies.

A Literal Epidemic of Crutch Words, those “empty” words we could well leave out of our speech and writing, or words that don’t mean quite what we think they do. A few days later I saw this on Pinterest (with special meaning for Princess Bride fans) and chuckled:

This was going around Facebook:

And this was a series of texts between my husband and myself, illustrating the iPhone’s tendency to overdo auto-correction:

🙂

Happy Saturday!

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s been a pretty good week! Here are some of my favorites from it:

1. Meals from favorite places. My husband took us out to Cheddar’s one night, and then one day when I was out running errands, I stopped and got take-out from Cracker Barrel.

2. Oven meals. I think I must say this every year about this time, but I don’t use the oven much in the summer, so when the weather turns cooler it’s nice to get back to some meals we haven’t had in months. Plus it is nice to get something in the oven and then rest or do something else for an hour or so.

3. A new futon. The one we had in the sewing room was Jason and Mittu’s, which they needed back when they moved into a 2 BR apartment a few weeks ago.

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4. The futon cover. There is a story behind that…We had ordered a dark blue cover, and when Jim picked it up, out in the sunlight it looked blue. But in the room it looked jet black. I really wanted blue, so we took it back. We showed them the difference between the swatch we chose from and the cover we got, but they just said, “Oh, yeah, it varies from time to time.” 😦 But they did offer to let us exchange it. Unfortunately, we couldn’t find anything else we liked. On the way home, we remembered that we still had a cover from our other futon that had a white streak on it (which was why we sent for a new one). That cover was for a queen sized futon and the new one was full-sized, so I washed it and dried it on low….the streak disappeared and it shrunk just enough to fit just right on the new mattress. I was a happy camper.

5. Coolness. The temperatures have been so pleasant this week. I wish it could stay like this through, oh, about December or January.Or spring.  🙂

Have a great weekend!