Husband Meme

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I saw this over at Smiling Sally‘s and thought it looked like fun. I thought about saving it for our anniversary — but that’s not til December, and I didn’t want to hold it for that long.

1. He’s sitting in front of the TV; what is on the screen?
CNN or news of some type most often.

2. You’re out to eat; what kind of dressing does he get on his salad?
Thousand Island.

3. What’s one food he doesn’t like?
Peas.

4. You go out to the bar. What does he order?
We don’t go to bars…

5. Where did he go to high school?
Twin Falls, Idaho.

6. What size shoe does he wear?
Ummm….I think an 11?

7. If he was to collect anything, what would it be?
Microscopes. He has a small collection now of various styles and sizes, but he buys and sells most of them on e-bay.

8. What is his favorite type of sandwich?
Does a hamburger count?

9. What would this person eat every day if he could?
Not sure there…he likes variety.

10. What is his favorite cereal?
Reese’s. Yep, they make a chocolate and peanut butter cereal.

11. What would he never wear?
A leisure suit again, I hope, though he did when we were dating and they were “in.” I liked it ok then.

Dating days

12. What is his favorite sports team?
Don’t think he has one…he has never been big into sports.

13. Who will he vote for?
He would prefer McCain to Obama but is not entirely happy with him. I am not sure if he has decided to vote for McCain or an independent.

14. Who is his best friend?
I like Sally’s first answer: That would be me! 🙂 But his best friend since high school is named Steve.

15. What is something you do that he wishes you wouldn’t do?
Actually he doesn’t say much about things I do that bug him. And I know that’s not because of a lack of bad habits or faults on my part. 🙂

16. How many states has he lived in?
4

17. What is his heritage?
I used to know this…I think primarily British.

18. You bake him a cake for his birthday; what kind of cake?
Boston Cream Pie.

19. Did he play sports in high school?
Basketball for a time. I’m not sure, but I don’t think he played anything else.

20. What could he spend hours doing?
Various things on the computer.

First lessons in trust

Yesterday we had a consultation with the same orthodontist who shepherded my older two boys through their season of braces.

It seems Jesse has the complete opposite problem they did. They had overbites: he has a pretty pronounced underbite. His teeth have compensated by tipping inward: if they were straight, they would overlap his top teeth.

And that presents a problem: if they straighten the teeth without adjusting the skeletal problem of his jaw, he’d probably be worse off than leaving his bottom teeth crooked.

Thankfully the top teeth are pretty much ok, so when he smiles or when school pictures are taken it isn’t obvious he has anything wrong.

This particular type of problem is one that, when fixed orthodontically, can revert back if he grows significantly within the next few years. And at age 15, he probably does have a great deal more growing to do. So for now we wait and see what happens with his growth. They have their measurements from the x-rays they took, and we’ll go in about every six months to see how things are going. Once there has been no major growth within a six-month period, then we’re probably safe to start treatment.

Hopefully some of the jaw problem will grow in the right way. But if that doesn’t happen, or if the jaw situation gets worse…then we are looking at possible surgery to remove part of the jawbone. The doctor hopes that won;t be necessary, but felt he needed to mention the possibility in order to give us the complete picture. If he didn’t mention it now, and then brought up the need in a year, we would wonder why it hadn’t been mentioned.

I was wishing, however, that he hadn’t told me all of this in front of Jesse. I don’t want him to worry about the possibility for the next year especially when we can’t do a thing about it except wait and see how he grows.

As we got in the car afterward. I asked Jesse, “You’re not worried about the possibility of surgery are you?” He seemed to have taken it in stride.

But he answered, “Yeah, I kind of am.”

So we went back over what the doctor had said and discussed the need to pray about it and hope for the best, but to also trust the Lord that if He allows it, He will help us through it.

Later I got to thinking that this may well be the first major issue Jesse has had to pray and trust the Lord for. He’s too young to remember when I first got TM, and though we have prayed about things as a family and for our church and friends, and I have shared answers to prayer with the boys, but this is the first big thing to affect Jesse directly. And in the grand scheme of things, of course, it is not as big a deal as cancer or a heart transplant or that sort of thing, but, still, facing any surgery can be scary.

My heart’s desire all along for all of my boys has been that they develop their own relationship with the Lord. They have all made professions of faith and I think have seen the Lord work in our family. But part of that relationship is trusting the Lord through trial, or, in this case, learning to give the situation over to Him and trust Him for it while waiting for the outcome. In my desire as a parent to ease my children’s way through life, I can’t shield them from everything. And that is probably a good thing, because if I want them to be mature spiritually when they leave our home, they will have to go through some of these kinds of situations.

So, though if I had had the choice I would have shielded Jesse from the possibility of surgery, God in His wisdom allowed it as a first experience in learning to trust.

Farewell, Summer, Fair But Faded Summer…

I mentioned earlier that I am a little more reluctant this year than usual to let go of summer, I think because our June was so busy that it didn’t seem like summer really began until a week or two into July. So I loved finding this poem here one Poetry Friday a few weeks ago. The whole poem is there, but these last two verses especially resonated with me as I say farewell to summer and hello to autumn.

Farewell To Summer

by George Arnold

The fitful breeze sweeps down the winding lane
With gold and crimson leaves before it flying;
Its gusty laughter has no sound of pain,
But in the lulls it sinks to gentle sighing,
And mourns the Summer’s early broken spell,—
“Farewell, sweet Summer,
Rosy, blooming Summer,
Sweet, farewell!”

So bird and bee and brook and breeze make moan,
With melancholy song their loss complaining.
I too must join them, as I walk alone
Among the sights and sounds of Summer’s waning.…
I too have loved the season passing well.…
So, farewell, Summer,
Fair but faded Summer,
Sweet, farewell.

Fall Into Reading 2008

Katrina at Callapidder Days will again be hosting Fall Into Reading beginning Sept. 22, the first day of autumn. The idea is to plan the books you think you’ll be reading between now and the first day of winter and list them, then link your post back to Katrina’s here. Then you can also visit other people who are taking part in the challenge to see what they are reading. I have a whole list of To-Be-Read books I have found that way! It’s also meant to be just a guideline, not a hard and fast commitment — most of us do switch around a little bit before the end of the season. One of the advantages to this challenge is that it helps me get some of those books I always keep meaning to read off the shelf and into my hands.

So, here is my list so far:

Home to Hart’s Crossing by Robin Lee Hatcher which I am in the middle of.

The Longing by Beverly Lewis, #3 in The Courtship of Nellie Fisher series. This is just out — in fact, I meant to go and buy it yesterday but forgot!

Sunset by Karen Kingsbury, the last in the Sunrise series, which is the continuation of the Redemption and Firstborn series, all dealing with the Baxter family.

Every Now and Then by Karen Kingsbury, due out in November.

Stepping Into Sunlight by Sharon Hinck.

Sisters, Ink by Rebeca Seitz which I won from Deena.

Summer Breeze by Catherine Palmer and Gary Chapman, second in their Four Seasons series.

Thread of Deceit by Catherine Palmer. I picked this up at the Christian bookstore because I have read many of Catherine’s books before and enjoyed them.

To the Golden Shore by Courtney Anderson about Americas’ first missionary, Adoniram Judson. I read this many years ago but have been wanting to read it again.

Les Miserables by Victor Hugo. I have read this before also, but have been wanting to read it again.

I really should have more non-fiction there — I often don’t get to it (except for biographies and missionary stories) unless I make a point of it in challenges like this. I am thinking about two on my shelf that I have thumbed through but not read completely yet, I Remember Laura by Stephen W. Hines about Laura Ingalls Wilder and/or Little House in the Ozarks: The Rediscovered Writings, a collection of Laura’s magazine columns which, if I remember correctly, preceded her novel writing.

Beyond that — I am not sure. I have been wanting to read something of Wanda E. Brunstetter, Julie Lessman, and Debbie Macomber, having seen them referred to often by others whose tastes seem similar to mine, so I might give one or more of them a try. And I have been wanting to read something of Elizabeth Gaskell’s, particularly Wives and Daughters since I enjoyed the DVD of it. But I am not ready to commit to those for this challenge just yet.

So my read list at the end of the challenge will most likely be longer than this one, as it usually is.

Blue Monday

My new blog friend Smiling Sally hosts a Blue Monday in which we can post about anything blue.

Long-time readers will have seen this before, but this is a sampler I made several years ago. When we were first married I was more into Early American style decorating, and somewhere around that time I had read the Little House on the Prairie books, where Mary and Laura learned to make samplers in their first forays into needlework, so I really wanted to make a sampler for our home. Patterns for them were very popular at the time.

Sampler

I have it hanging beside what is supposed to be an antique raisin rack (used to dry grapes til they became raisins) decoupaged with a Burpee seed label (I didn’t decoupage it — I bought it that way).

Raisin rack

This has more of a faded blue in it, but I like it, and it seemed in keeping with the old-fashionenedness of the sampler.

These both hang in our family room

Sampler and raisin rack

Alarmed and appalled

Not long ago I discovered The Common Room from a link on someone else’s blog, but I don’t remember whose. But one thing I appreciate about The Common Room is links to and discussions of articles I otherwise would never find.

Several of the posts there recently have focused on an alarming increasing trend: the supposed “moral obligation” to do away with members of society who are less than fully functioning, particularly the demented elderly and preborn babies who have Down’s Syndrome or other disabilities. That there is a fringe element is no surprise, but in this article, Ed Morrisey writes:

In yet another revealing moment for nationalized health care, a highly respected British ethicist said that dementia sufferers should get euthanized in order to preserve resources for healthier people. Baroness Warnock, described as “Britain’s leading moral philosopher”, said that the government should license people to be “put down” and stop being a drain on society:

The veteran Government adviser said pensioners in mental decline are “wasting people’s lives” because of the care they require and should be allowed to opt for euthanasia even if they are not in pain.

She insisted there was “nothing wrong” with people being helped to die for the sake of their loved ones or society.

The 84-year-old added that she hoped people will soon be “licensed to put others down” if they are unable to look after themselves. …

Lady Warnock said: “If you’re demented, you’re wasting people’s lives – your family’s lives – and you’re wasting the resources of the National Health Service.

This is Britain’s “leading moral philosopher.”

In this post and this, The Common Room quotes an article saying:

Canadian doctor warns Sarah Palin’s decision to have Down baby could reduce abortions.

Sarah and Todd Palin’s decision to complete her recent pregnancy, despite advance notice that their baby Trig had Down syndrome, is hailed by many in the pro-life movement as walking the walk as well as talking the talk.

But a senior Canadian doctor is now expressing concerns that such a prominent public role model as the governor of Alaska and potential vice president of the United States completing a Down syndrome pregnancy may prompt other women to make the same decision against abortion because of that genetic abnormality. And thereby reduce the number of abortions.

As she says, this is the kind of reasoning that makes her call them pro-abortion rather than pro-choice.

There are several related posts there under the labels “disabilities” and “pro-life.”

Some would argue that the elderly and the disabled only live so long these days because of advanced technology, and if nature were allowed to take its course, that would not be the case. But if we allowed nature “to take its course” in every case, diabetics would die, as would those needing organ transplants, and we’d still be having polio outbreaks.

It is ironic that eugenic abortions are recommended now in this age when technology gives the disabled more ability to function than ever before, as this Common Room post says:

Christopher Nolan, poet, author, and wheelchair bound victim of Cerebral Palsy so severe he communicates only via keyboard writes of himself:

“‘A brain-damaged baby cannot ponder why a mother cannot communicate with it, and unless it gains parental love and stimulation it stymies, and thus retardation fulsomely establishes its soul-destroying seabed.’ Conscious of the breathtaking sacrifice involved in what his family did for him, yet he detected where destiny beckoned. The future for babies like him never looked more promising, but now society frowned upon giving spastic babies a right to life. Now they threatened to abort babies like him, to detect in advance their handicapped state, to burrow through the womb and label them for death, to baffle their mothers with fear for their coming, and yet, the spastic baby would ever be the soul which would never kill, maim, creed falsehood or hate brotherhood. Why then does society fear the crippled child…and why does it hail the able-bodied child and crow over what may in time become a potential executioner?”

Elsewhere in his writings young Christopher marvels at the age he lives in, recognizing that a hundred years ago a child like him would have been trapped in himself, unable to communicate beyond a rudimentary level with even the most doting of parents. He would scarcely have survived his childhood, and he certainly wouldn’t have published a book, spent any time in the public eye, or given national awards. The western cultural attitude towards disability is disturbing, especially given the technological advances that give the disabled lives they didn’t even survive to dream about in previous centuries.

I suppose those who believe in evolution would classify this as “survival of the fittest,” although in the animal kingdom I think that generally refers to the fact that the weaker usually don’t survive long rather than the stronger actually doing away with the weak of their own kind.

But don’t even those who believe in evolution believe man is more highly evolved than a wolf pack? Do they not regard compassion and mercy as desirable traits?

Conversely, those who believe in creation believe that God has a purpose for every life. “God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty” (I Corinthians 1:27b). We are instructed to “comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men” (I Thessalonians 5:14b), not do away with them.

What purpose could God possibly have for disabled or demented people? See my previous posts titled With All Our Feebleness, Why Am I Still Here? and Scriptural Reasons For Suffering,  Jason Jantz’s Fourteen Reasons For Fourteen Years, where he shares perspectives of what God accomplished through the fourteen years his brother lived in a persistent vegetative state after an accident, Michael G. Franc’s article “Your Brother Is a Blessing,” and The Common Room’s “Quality of Life, Quality of Mercy” about her own disabled daughter.

Book Review: Jessie

Jessie by Lori Wick features the single mom/storekeeper of Token Creek, the community setting for Lori’s Big Sky Dreams series. We’ve seen Jessie in the previous two books as the independent and kind yet unbelieving storekeeper with two young daughters, but the story in this book begins begins before her marriage, details why her husband left, and then comes up to the current time in the other books when he unexpectedly comes back to town wanting to pick up the responsibilities he abandoned. Unbeknownst to Jessie, Her husband Seth got into a lot of trouble on the wrong side of the law, but believed on the Lord, and now wants to make things in his life right. Jessie naturally has trust issues and a conflict with Seth’s new faith. Her girls are delighted to have a father in their lives, but Seth struggles with exactly how to be a father to them.

This book is vintage Lori Wick, so if you like her other books I am sure you will like this one. I have appreciated that she has tackled different issues than what you usually find in Christian fiction in this series and handled them with grace and good taste.

This post will be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books, where each weekend you can find links to a multitude of book reviews.

Giveaways and Good Things

Karla Dornacher, whose artwork and books I love, is giving away a recipe keeper, magnets, notepad and digital art kit. Click here to find out more, and while you’re there you might check out her Thanksgiving and Christmas in Jesus’ name clip art collections.

Vanilla Joy is giving away The MiniBox by The Original Scrapbox. That is an unbelievable deal, a $795 value. It is a craft table and storage unit all in one. The contest ends Sunday: you can find out more about it here.

Finally, you may have seen on several blogs, as I have, that Martha Stewart is hosting a blog contest to choose several blogs to be featured on her blog. Go here to see an article about blogging and to enter the contest.

Poetry Friday: Grandmother’s Beatitudes

I liked this when I first saw it in Elisabeth Elliot’s March/April 2003 newsletter, but it means even more now that my mother-in-law has moved near us. I have seen it in some places as “Grandmother’s Beatitudes,” other places as “Beatitudes for friends of the aged.”

Blessed are those who understand
My faltering step and palsied hand.

Blessed are those who know that my ears today
Must strain to catch the things they say.

Blessed are those who seem to know
That my eyes are dim and my wits are slow.

Blessed are those who looked away
When coffee spilled at table today.

Blessed are those with a cheery smile
Who stop to chat for a little while.

Blessed are those who never say,
“You’ve told that story twice today.”

Blessed are those who know the ways
To bring back memories of yesterdays.

Blessed are those who make it known
That I’m loved, respected, and not alone.

Blessed are those who know I’m at a loss
To find the strength to carry the Cross.

Blessed are those who ease the days
On my journey Home in loving ways.

– Esther Mary Walker

Poetry Friday is hosted this week by author amok.

Show and Tell

Kelli at There’s No Place Like Home hosts “Show and Tell Friday” asking Do you have a something special to share with us? It could be a trinket from grade school, a piece of jewelry, an antique find. Your show and tell can be old or new. Use your imagination and dig through those old boxes in your closet if you have to! Feel free to share pictures and if there’s a story behind your special something, that’s even better! If you would like to join in, all you have to do is post your “Show and Tell” on your blog, copy the post link, come over here and add it to Mr. Linky. Guidelines are here.

I wanted to show you a couple of sweet items found on sale at Forget Me Not Dreams on a Pink Friday sponsored by the shops at Make Mine Pink (which actually does have more than pink items. 🙂 )

Hot pads

I just LOVED these pot holders — I rarely see anything in pink for the kitchen in local shops. I didn’t realize how big they were when I ordered them, though — maybe 8 or 10 inches on each side.

Wall pocket

I loved everything about this wall pocket, too — the color, the design, the heart shape. I was thinking it was too bad I’d have to wait til spring to use it on my front door, but, I don’t know — it might look ok with fall decorations in it. What do you think?

I have to say, I totally love Pink Fridays at Make Mine Pink (and no, I am not paid nor asked to say that!) We don’t have shops like this in town, and it’s like visiting a nice sidewalk sale without having to leave home.

I also wanted to show my current work in progress:

WIP

It’s coming along! I am not finished back-stitching the scissors, but this shows how the back-stitching really defines specific areas:

Close-up to show detail of back-stitching

I’m off to visit with other Show and Tellers at Kelli’s.