M.O.B. Society Blog Hop

The M.O.B. Society (Mothers of Boys) is having a blog hop in order to get to know each other better.

Welcome! My name is Barbara H. and I am in my mid 50s. My husband Jim and I have been married for 32 1/2 years. My boys are almost 28, 25, and 19 (we’re in the middle of “birthday season” when the odometer rolls over for several in our family). I have one beautiful daughter-in-law, married to my middle son. Only my youngest lives at home and he just finished high school. He’ll be attending a local community college in the fall and still living at home, so our nest won’t be quite empty yet. My mother-in-law lives in a nearby assisted living facility but we bring her over often and go visit her almost daily.

This is our last Christmas photo:

Oh, wait, no, here it is:

🙂

After spending most of our married lives in SC, the Lord moved us to TN almost two years ago. It’s been a time of changes and adjustments, but then, that’s life, isn’t it? But I think we’re settling in now.

My blog is a hodgepodge. I love to write about books I have read, my family, thoughts from the Bible, encouragement to younger women, and anything else that captures my attention. I love to laugh as well and I think I have a fair share of humor sprinkled throughout my blog.

Some of my posts that might be of particular interest to younger moms are:

Encouragement for mothers of young children.
Motherhood advice.
Encouragement for homemakers.
A Quiet Spirit.
A mother’s nightly ritual– an original poem.
I Corinthians 13 for mothers.
Parenting teens.
Missing something? No, I don’t think so after all.
The ideal house.
Book Review: Raising Real Men.
Book Review: Boyhood and Beyond: Practical Wisdom for Becoming a Man.

The M.O.B. Society hosts asks us about our sons’ favorite games. In the past few years their favorites (or at least most often played with each other) are Settlers of Catan, Seafarers of Catan, Night of the Living Dead (I know, sounds horrible, and I wasn’t too sure about it at first, but it’s pretty fun), Galactic Emperor, Apples to Apples, Dutch Blitz (not to mention video games like Super Smash Brothers). When they were younger they played Candyland, Hi Ho Cherry-O, Memory, Payday, Guess Who, Battleship, and Spy Web.

I hope you enjoy your visit here, and I am looking forward to “meeting” you!

Laudable Linkage

Here are some good reads seen this past week:

Prayer for the Ministry of the Word.

Making Sense of Scripture’s “Inconsistency.” A good answer against accusations that Christians just “pick and choose” what we want from the Bible when we don’t obey some of the obscure OT laws. Bekahcubed touched on this as well in a great post about why we don’t follow the OT food laws.

Magic Mike Who? Great post about true masculinity. (Of course not every good man will do every little thing listed there, but you get the idea.)

A Kind Wife. A good reminder that what we think are priorities for our husbands aren’t necessarily.

The Ten Commandments for Writers. Excellent. I don’t usually like adaptations of the ten commandments, but this is right in line with them.

One of many great things seen around Facebook:

And one of many good things seen at Pinterest:

Hope you have a good Saturday!

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It’s been a blissfully not-as-busy-as-it has-been-lately week. Here are some of the best parts of it.

1. A new HVAC unit. You may remember we’d been having trouble with our AC lately, and a new unit was put in Monday. Though we hated to spend the money on it, it’s nice to have a unit that works well (and should for a long time!) and is more efficient. And a part of that was a digital thermostat — our old one was hard to get right where you wanted it some times.

2. Rain. My favorite kind of rain — gentle, no thunder or lightning. It’s rained a little almost every day this week, and though some weeks that would depress me, it has been sorely needed and it has dropped the temperatures a bit.

3. External hard drives and the fact that I had just backed my photos up last week. When I logged onto Picasa yesterday, it said, “No Photos Found.” :-0 I found their instructions for what to do about that (uninstall and reinstall Picasa), and everything worked out all right, but it was such a relief to know all the photos were safe.

4. Good meals. Cooking is not really my favorite thing, and when it’s busy I tend to reach for frozen or boxed things that require a minimum of effort. But it’s been nice this week to do some “real” cooking.

5. A good visit with Jim’s mom. I’ve mentioned before that it can be discouraging to go visit her at her assisted living place because we can tend to have the same conversations (sometimes over and over in the same visit), or she’s sleepy: one time I just got there (after a 20-minute drive), and she said she wanted to lay her head down and go to sleep, so of course I told her to go ahead. So it’s really nice sometimes to feel like we’ve made a connection and communicated and even laughed together.

Hope you have a great weekend!

The strayest assortment of thoughts….

  • Twice this week I have rinsed my hair in the shower and then couldn’t remember if I had just washed it or was wetting it to wash it. 🙄
  • I know the conventional wisdom in blogging and web design is not to extend the text much below what the reader can see at first, the idea being they’ll just read what’s on top and not scroll down. But am I the only one who would rather scroll down than click through to another page???
  • When I am Googling something and click on a link that turns out to be a slide show, I almost never click on it any further. I’d much rather see a list I can skim through. Rarely do the links for the next slide come through quickly, but even if they did, it’s much more efficient to just look down a list than keep clicking for the next thing
  • Why:

Do arrogant people not recognize the quality in themselves?
Do people stop in doorways to talk?
Do black beans gross me out?
Does the tip of the pizza slice taste the best?

It seems like there was something else I was ruminating about…I guess I’ll have to save that for another time… if I remember it. 🙂

Book Review: Cold Sassy Tree

In the small town of Cold Sassy, GA, in the early 1900s, Rucker Blakeslee shocked and scandalized the town and his family by remarrying Miss Love Simpson just three weeks after his wife died. That was the worst of it, but added to the scandal were the facts that she was “nearly a Yankee” and half his age. Thereafter she was the main subject of gossip (as if the marriage was totally her fault) and could seem to do nothing right in their eyes. That’s the basic plot of Cold Sassy Tree by Olive Ann Burns, but the story is told through the eyes of Rucker’s grandson, Will Tweedy, who is sympathetic with the couple, and whose teen-age perspective causes him to question things and not necessarily go along with the status quo.

I do generally like small-town Southern fiction, but it took me a long while to get into this one. I almost laid it aside many time but persevered because so many people told me they had liked it.  A lot of the town gossip, prejudices, and family competition seemed mean-spirited; Will had a minor obsession with ladies’ bosoms (trying to catch a peek when his sister-in-law nursed her baby, noticing how Miss Love jiggled when she played the piano), there is a smattering of bad language and some faulty theology (I do understand this is not at all meant to be a Christian book, but if a writer is going to get into theology, then, yes, I am going to evaluate that). One example: when Will asks why we don’t get what we ask for in prayer even though Jesus said “Ask and ye shall receive,” his Grandpa says: “Maybe Jesus was talkin’ in His sleep, son, or folks heard Him wrong. Or maybe them disciples tryin’ to start a church thought everybody would join up if’n they said Jesus Christ would give the Garden a-Eden to anybody believed He was the son a-God and like thet” (p. 98). He does decide to “study on this some more” and later decides that Jesus may not give exactly what you ask (healing, a new job, etc.), but He will give you the grace to deal with whatever He allows, which is closer to the truth. But perhaps Rucker’s theological convolutions were meant as just another window into a personality that wants its own way and doesn’t care what anyone else thinks, which is manifested in various ways throughout the book.

I did enjoy Will’s camping trip. I loved the way Will’s innocent but unwise foray into impending doom on the train tracks was told. By the end of the book I grew to like the relationship Will had with his grandfather and the growing relationship between Rucker and Love from a marriage of convenience to a true, deep love. I liked that everything came more or less right in the end though I was sorry for the tragedy that led to it.

One of my favorite lines was when Will was pondering being in mourning (wearing a black armband, not being able to do anything fun) over the death of his grandmother as opposed to what it meant to actually mourn for her: “But to mourn, that’s different. To mourn is to be eaten alive with homesickness for the person” (p. 56). If you’ve ever mourned anyone you loved, I’m sure you can sympathize with that feeling.

My other favorite line was more humorous. When Miss Love models some driving attire in the store window because Rucker won’t buy a mannequin, Will’s Aunt “Loma was jealous. The store window being like a little stage and her having taken elocution, she considered herself the only person in Cold Sassy qualified to act like a dummy” (p. 282).

I went online looking for some more insight into the book, and these SparkNotes helped (warning: they do contain spoilers to the plot since they’re discussing it more in depth). It is a mark of good writing that I’m still thinking about the book days later and discovering angles, connections, and layers that I’d missed at first, but it still won’t go down as one of my favorites.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

Together on Tuesdays: Favorite Places

Annette at This Simple Home and Dorie at These Grace Filled Days have teamed up to create Together on Tuesdays as “a casual way to meet and connect with other women” over the summer. They’ve created a schedule of topics to discuss in order to get to know one another better, and the topic for this week is our favorites spots, either locally or a vacation spot.

Honestly, my very favorite spot is my own home. I’m not much of an adventurer and don’t travel well. I feel more at peace and rest at home than anywhere else. But it is necessary to get out of the house every now and then.

Many of our vacations have been to visit family, but we’ve had a few other outings over the years. Probably one of my all-time favorites was SeaWorld in FL. We had gone down when my oldest son was checking out colleges to see Clearwater Christian College (loved it, but they didn’t have the major he wanted at the time.) We were so near all the Orlando attractions, we took an extra day to do something fun. We had been to a similar place while visiting Jim’s brother in CA years before when Jesse was just a baby, and I had always wanted to take the family back to something like that when he was old enough to remember it, and this was our chance. I just loved the dolphin show.

I grew up near the beach, and didn’t realize how much I missed it until a family reunion when my older two were small. Unfortunately the standard of dress (or undress) has gotten so bad that we didn’t feel comfortable taking our guys out to the beach much, but some years back when our school’s spring break was a different week that the pubic school’s we took a few days and went to Charleston, SC, and stayed at a hotel right on Folly Beach. This photo was taken from a gazebo out at the end of a pier looking back at the hotel.

Folly Beach hotel

It was lovely. We had the beach mostly to ourselves. I loved hearing the sound of the ocean at night while going to sleep, and because we were right there we could go out on the beach at any time. Jim and Jesse liked going out in the early morning.

Folly Beach sunrise

But we were also close enough to everything else in Charleston that it wasn’t far to drive into town and see a few things there. We took a buggy ride around the city and a harbor tour and took the guys to visit the Yorktown and Naval Museum. It was a perfect blend of sight-seeing and restfulness. I remember coming back and feeling more rested than at any other vacation return. We had been to Charleston as a young married couple before we had children, going with a tour group the local Christian radio station had gotten together, and then we revisited it on our 30th wedding anniversary. At that time Jim had enough hotel points that we got to stay at a hotel right on the heart of the downtown area. It was fun to be right there in the city (for a visit — I wouldn’t want to live where it is so busy!) with restaurants, museums, and tour homes within walking distance.

Another place we’ve enjoyed visiting is the Asheville, NC area. We’ve been to the Biltmore House a few times. On one anniversary — maybe our tenth? — we went there, stayed in a generic hotel, and ate one dinner at the Grove Park Inn. The food was wonderful, and at first we were concerned when we read there would be live music (we’re not prone to rocking out 🙂 ), but it was a lovely string quartet. I said I’d love to come back some time and actually stay in Grove Park Inn. We did on our 25th anniversary. Inside — it was pretty much just like any other hotel room, so I doubt I’d be inclined to do that again, but I love eating there. I don’t really like the outside of the building, either, but their fireplace in the lobby is gorgeous. One of the restaurants in the hotel (there are 5 total, I think), looks out over the mountains, and I always wanted to take my folks out there some autumn, but we never made it before my mom passed away. She loved the fall colors. When we went for our anniversary during December, there was a Gingerbread House contest, and it was fun to look at those (some of them are here).

When my kids were little, some of our favorite places were the library and the Discovery Place in Charlotte, NC, about an hour’s drive from where we lived at the time. We went camping a lot then, honestly not my favorite thing but Jim and the kids really enjoyed it, and we had a couple of favorite spots at Paris Mountain State Park.

A favorite activity at one was feeding the ducks at the lake. This is Jason at about age 2 or 3.

Feedig ducks

I think we only rented paddle boats there once or twice. They didn’t have them available all the time. This is Jeremy and I when he was maybe 5. Jim was on a different paddle boat with Jason (the back of whose head is in the foreground) and took the picture from there.

At the lake

But mostly we did the usual camping stuff: slept in a tent, cooked over an open fire (including s’mores!) took walks, etc.

A couple of times Jim received an award or bonus or “thank you” from his work in the form of a trip, once to Chattanooga (we enjoyed the aquarium there) and once to Callaway Gardens in GA: the Butterfly Center and the little chapel were really nice.

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Chapel window at Calloway Gardens

Another favorite outing was to the Applewood Farmhouse Restaurant in Sevierville, TN. We lived in SC at the time, and my mom loved to come visit in the fall because she didn’t have all the pretty fall colors in TX. It was a gorgeous autumn drive, and the food was superb. Plus they had some little shops connected to them, so we could do some of that kind of thing without getting into the more touristy parts of the area. My mom’s brother and sister-in-law lived close enough that they met us there. It was an all-around good time.

I’ve really enjoyed going back and revisiting these memories. Thanks, Annette and Dorie!

Quick Reviews: Coming Home and Walking on Broken Glass

I finished a couple of books that I just wanted to mention briefly rather than writing a full review.

 Coming Home is Karen Kingsbury’s latest and supposedly last book about the Baxter family. Though the family is the subject of some 22 previous books, I don’t think one would need to read all of them before enjoying this book.

The extended Baxter family is coming home for a surprise party for patriarch John Baxter’s 70th birthday. As each of his children reflect on their lives in order to write him a letter about what he means to them, their stories are summed up for the reader. But a tragedy turns their world upside down and shakes and tests their faith.

I can’t say much more than that without revealing too much. I enjoyed the book very much.

 Walking on Broken Glass by Christa Allan is the story of Leah Thornton, who at 27 confronts the truth of her alcoholism and checks herself into rehab. She comes to realize that there are more problems with her life than just alcohol, and that everything she blames her husband for may not be entirely his fault.

I loved Christa’s witty writing and Leah’s self-discovery, but I thought her admission of her alcoholism came a little too easily. I’ve mentioned before that my father was an alcoholic for most of his adult life, losing his family and his health, I don’t think he ever did admit that he had a problem, at least not that I ever heard. But I suppose it is possible to admit such after one confrontation.

There is also much more about Leah and her husband’s sexual life than I like to read. It is integral to the story and and for the most part it is no more explicit than what you’d find in Song of Solomon or Proverbs 5:19. Still, I’d rather the issues between them were expressed through some other venue.

I also felt the ending was left hanging unresolved. I do appreciate that not every thread of a story needs to be wrapped up in a neat bow at the end, but this ending was so abrupt that at first I thought perhaps not all of it came through on my Kindle download.

I did, however, really enjoy Christa’s writing and will look for more of her books in the future.

(This review will also be linked to Semicolon‘s Saturday Review of Books.)

The Perfect Wisdom

Our church uses the same hymn for an opening for several weeks/months in a row, and just recently we started using the song “The Perfect Wisdom.” Around the same time the Galkin Evangelistic Team‘s CD, By Faith, came out with that song as its third track. I’ve about worn my CD out replaying that song. It is all wonderful, but the part that stood out to me the most at first was the last six lines.

The perfect wisdom of our God,
Revealed in all the universe:
All things created by His hand,
And held together at His command.
He knows the mysteries of the seas,
The secrets of the stars are His;
He guides the planets on their way,
And turns the earth through another day.

The matchless wisdom of His ways,
That mark the path of righteousness;
His word a lamp unto my feet,
His Spirit teaching and guiding me.
And oh, the mystery of the cross,
That God should suffer for the lost
So that the fool might shame the wise,
And all the glory might go to Christ!

Oh grant me wisdom from above,
To pray for peace and cling to love,
And teach me humbly to receive
The sun and rain of Your sovereignty.
Each strand of sorrow has a place
Within this tapestry of grace;
So through the trials I choose to say:
“Your perfect will in your perfect way.”

~ Words & Music by Keith Getty and Stuart Townend

Laudable Linkage

Here are some great reads from the last couple of weeks:

The Best Way to Be Radical. It’s not always the grandiose.

Touching the Untouchable: A Story of Aids. I came to this after John Piper tweeted “Joe Hallett did not waste his Aids” and linked to this article. Moving and convicting.

5 Problems With Unconditional Forgiveness, HT to Challies. It has always bothered me when a victim of a horrible crime publicly forgives the offender when there has been no sign of remorse, and this post explains very well why that is. We should make provision for forgiveness and be ready to offer it, just as God does, but He also does not grant it until repentance occurs.

10 Simple Ways Weary Mothers Can Abide in the Word. Most of these are good for anyone, not just moms.

Complementariansism for Dummies, by someone who helped coin the term, helps clears up some misconceptions.

“Meaningful Suspense” is author Adam Blumer‘s tagline, and he explains here that Christian fiction should be more than just entertainment.

Master Craftsmen by Randy Alcorn deftly defends Christian fiction against the charge of being “predictable, sugar-coated, preachy, and poorly written!” I’ve been enjoying Christian fiction for almost 40 years, and always wince at that kind of charge.

55 Favorite First Lines From Favorite Books. Sherry has devised a fun quiz. I got 20 right. How’d you do?

Since I was first deeply moved by reading Through Gates of Splendor by Elisabeth Elliot about her husband and four other missionaries who were speared to death by the Indians they were trying to reach, I’ve been fascinated and tried to read everything I could get my hands on in connection with this incident and these people. One of the earliest books was The Dayuma Story. Dayuma was a young woman who had escaped from the tribe then known as the Aucas, now the Waorani. She had helped the missionaries learn some Auca terms and eventually she and Rachel Saint (brother of Nate, one of the five) and Elisabeth went to live with the Aucas. I had read in this book about Rachel being honored on the old program This Is Your Life. I don’t think she had seen it before or knew quite what it was, and I remember she wrote something about her brother whispering in her ear during a commercial that she needed to watch the time and keep things moving because the host, Ralph Edwards, had a limited amount of time with a live show to try to get everything in. Of course, Rachel was also busy trying to translate what was going on to Dayuma, who was with her. Well….I don’t remember how I came across the blog Theology For Girls, but I saw a link to a post concerning this program and had to check it out. This lady’s uncle was one of the guests on that episode, and she had recently discovered the entire episode had been uploaded to YouTube! It was such a joy to watch. It’s amazing that the show was so favorable to the gospel and the work Rachel was doing. And the commercials are pretty funny, too. 🙂

This Is Your Life: Rachel Saint, Part 1:

This Is Your Life: Rachel Saint, Part 2:

Friday’s Fave Five

Welcome to Friday’s Fave Five, hosted by Susanne at Living to Tell the Story, in which we can share five of our favorite things from the last week, a wonderful exercise in looking for and appreciating the good things God blesses us with. Click on the button to learn more, then go to Susanne’s to read others’ faves and link up your own.

It has been quite an eventful week! Here are some of my favorite parts of it:

1. Freon. Our AC wasn’t working correctly, and the AC guy was able to come out before the weekend to fill it up. We were about half empty, so he suspected a leak, but we decided to just wait and see. Well — by Wed. night the AC was acting up again, and he can’t come until Friday morning. So we’ve been trying to operate without AC. It’s not too bad if we stay still under a ceiling fan, but trying to get anything else done is hard. I think I might have a good reason to ask my dear hubby to take me out to dinner tonight 🙂 (I’m writing this on Thursday afternoon.)(Update: he did. :-)) I’m hoping it is just a leak in the AC but it is possible it might need to be replaced.

2. Ladies’ Birthday Party. Our church did this last year as well, having one celebration for all the ladies of the church. We signed up by month of birth and then had to get together with others at our table to make table settings, centerpieces, etc. The months that did not have as many people joined together (Jan. and Dec. were together, April and May, etc.). They had games, door prizes, and of course birthday cake.

Here are some of the tables (please forgive the picture quality — I forgot my camera and had to use my cell phone).:

August had a nautical theme:

February’s table was sweet:

I loved the use of the little shoes for place card holders.

October/November went classy:

So did December/January:

The winners were April/May:

So cute! It was a fun time.

I probably should have made this section into a separate post…

3. Rain. We hadn’t had any for about two weeks.

4. Grandma’s 84th birthday. One time she thought she was 100, another time she thought she was turning 53. 🙂 Oh well — she enjoyed herself and her family got to show her some love in a special way.

5. Independence Day, for several reasons. I’m so thankful to live in a free country, even though it has its flaws. It was nice to have a day off — hubby grilled chicken, burgers, and turkey kielbasa and even went to the store for the food, and Mittu made potato salad, cookies, and chocolate covered strawberries. All I did was open a can of baked beans and rinse off some carrots. 🙂 And then there were fireworks. Last year we went and saw some professional ones, but when we came back we saw that our neighbors had shot off multitudes. So this year we decided to pull up lawn chairs out front and watch theirs. It was really neat for a good while there — until one of the fireworks fell over and started coming at us and caught the grass on fire in several places.

Thankfully that is by our shed rather than the house. Thankfully the neighbors with the fireworks had a fire extinguisher — I guess that would a bonus fave! We had hoped that the bit of rain we’d had earlier in the week would have relieved some of the dryness, but I guess it was not enough.

Hope you’ve had a great week and will have a good weekend!