I need to remind myself of this often.

You can’t have it all. You are not there to do yourself a favor. You may not have it your way. You opted out of all that when you made up your mind to follow a Master who himself had relinquished all rights, all equality with the Father, and his own will as well. You are called not to be served but to serve, and you can’t serve two masters. You can’t operate in two opposing kingdoms. These kingdoms are the alternatives. Settle it once for all. It is, quite simply, a life and-death choice.

E. Elliot, On Asking God Why

Matthew 16:24: Then said Jesus unto his disciples, If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.

Saturday Photo Scavenger Hunt: Twist(ed)

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Theme: Twist(ed) | Become a Photo Hunter

I didn’t have anything really original or creative for this theme, but here are some common twisted items around the house.

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I know, I know, it would be cheaper to cut off a chunk of cheese from a block of it. But these make nice grab-and-go snacks. And they’re fun to untwist. 🙂

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I admire a lot of the photo hunters who can take very artsy-looking pictures of everyday things. I don’t think I have developed that skill yet…but I have fun trying. 🙂

Click here for more “twisted” photos.

Show and Tell Friday

I originally drew a blank for Show and Tell Friday this week, until an afternoon trip to Wal-Mart.

As a little background first, though: this is a corner of our dining area.

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I had gotten the little cabinet years ago at a craft show. The books are my “overflow” cookbooks — the main ones I use are on another shelf. Behind the door tablecloths and napkins are stored. On the top to the left is this little plate.

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At the bottom it says, “Love is the good cook’s secret ingredient.” I love that saying and used to like Holly Hobbie a lot, but the picture just seemed too little-girlish to me now, and I don’t have those colors in my kitchen any more (my first kitchen was primarily yellow). So I had been thinking about replacing it for a long time. I originally got it when the neighbors of friends were moving and getting rid of a ton of their things. I actually felt a little bad about it: the wife and kids had gone on ahead out of town and the husband was staying behind to pack and close up the house. This was one of the things he wanted to leave behind, and I hoped it wasn’t a dear treasure to the wife.

I didn’t have anything handy in mind to put in that little corner, though. Then today at Wal-Mart some pretty, inexpensive flower arrangements caught my eye. As I wondered if I had a place for one anywhere, I thought of this corner.

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I think it brightens it up a lot, though it does look a little more crowded. The bright pink roses look a little orangy here, but they complement the wallpaper better “in real life.”

The vase is one of my favorite things, bought for me by my husband some years ago. The little bear figurine was a dollar store find.

I’ll keep the Holly Hobbie plate and pack it away — I am not quite ready to get rid of it completely yet.

Kelli at There’s No Place Like Home hosts “Show and Tell Friday” asking Do you have a something special to share with us? It could be a trinket from grade school, a piece of jewelry, an antique find. Your show and tell can be old or new. Use your imagination and dig through those old boxes in your closet if you have to! Feel free to share pictures and if there’s a story behind your special something, that’s even better! If you would like to join in, all you have to do is post your “Show and Tell” on your blog, copy the post link, come over here and add it to Mr. Linky. Guidelines are here

No excuses

We’ve all heard it said many times that some people don’t go to church and some even refuse to become believers because of all the hypocrites. Gandhi is supposed to have said, “I would be a Christian, if it were not for Christians.”

But you know what? When we stand before God some day, we’re not going to be able to point to anyone else as a reason why we did not believe. That does not excuse Christians from their sins — God will deal with them in His own time and way. God has given evidence of Himself in creation: Romans 1:19-20 says, “Because that which may be known of God is manifest in them; for God hath shewed it unto them. For the invisible things of him from the creation of the world are clearly seen, being understood by the things that are made, even his eternal power and Godhead; so that they are without excuse…” He has also manifested Himself in His Word (John 5:39: “Search the scriptures; for in them ye think ye have eternal life: and they are they which testify of me.”) Every person has some degree of light: John 1:9 says, “That was the true Light, which lighteth every man that cometh into the world,” referring back to Christ as the Light earlier in the chapter. Jesus said in John 16:8 that the Holy Spirit will “reprove the world of sin, and of righteousness, and of judgment.” Those who come before His judgment seat as unbelievers will have to answer for what they did with the light they had, not what everyone else did.

Christians are also without excuse for not being and doing what we ought.

It used to be, when I heard that someone had been out of church for 20 years because someone offended them, I would think, “That’s terrible! We need to be more cautious, more loving, more sensitive…” And we do. But whatever offended that person, God tells him to forgive his brethren in love and to forbear with them (Col. 3:12-14). He also tells them that if they will not forgive, they can’t expect to be forgiven (Matthew 6:14-15).

As parents, when our children begin to explain their actions by saying, “Well, he…..,” our response is, “I’ll deal with him: right now I am talking about you.” It is much the same way with the Lord: He will deal with others about what they did or didn’t do, but meanwhile He has promised that His grace is sufficient, that He will never leave us or forsake us, that He will supply all our needs (we apply that to physical needs but it certainly applies to spiritual needs as well). He has every right to say, “Yes, that person failed you. This person hurt you. He provoked you; she was a bad example. But I would have helped you overcome. Why didn’t you turn to Me?”

Once when Rosalind Goforth lost her temper with some Chinese unbelievers, her husband confronted her:

“Rose, how could you so forget yourself?” he said. “Do you realize that just one such incident may undo months of self-sacrificing, loving service?”

“But Jonathan” I returned, “you don’t know how she — “

But he interrupted. “Yes, I do; I heard all. You certainly had reason to be annoyed; but were you justified, with all that is hanging in the balance and God’s grace to keep you patient?”

Too often we focus on the human justifications for our actions. But we’re called on to manifest super-human reactions: we’re called to show forth the fruit of the Spirit in our lives: love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance (Galatians 5:22-23) no matter what anyone else does or doesn’t do.

Of course we can’t do that in ourselves: it’s the fruit of the Spirit. We won’t be perfect at it in this life, and I am so thankful for God’s forgiveness when we confess our sins to Him (I John 1:9). But we need to keep our eyes on Him, what He expects of us, and His grace to do His will, not on ourselves or other people.

II Corinthians 9:8: And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work.


Hebrews 4:16:Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need.

Toy Giveaway

Two Weeks of Toys - Giveaway Event

Somehow the toy giveaway contest at 5 Minutes For Mom hadn’t even registered with me — I guess because usually that kind of thing is geared toward younger kids and my youngest is 14 and doesn’t really play with toys much any more. But today’s giveaway of a Lego-City Police Headquarters caught my eye. My boys have loved Legos for years and played with them long after other toys were laid aside. I loved the creativity of the sets and those little faces on the Lego people.

For the next couple of weeks the 5 Minuted for Mom site is giving away several toys, some of the first ones really big ones! Go here or click on the button above to get more information and find out how to enter.

Interesting stuff

Isn’t that just the most creative post title you’ve ever seen? 🙄

Just wanted to share a few interesting — er – erudite — um — cool links.

  • Karla Dornacher is giving away a Morning Glory Garden Clip Art Collection for use in scrapbooking, crafts, women’s ministry events, etc. I love Karla’s art work and have referred to it before, and this is just lovely. All you have to do is comment on any post on her blog during the month of April to be entered in the contest.
  • I love seeing other people’s handcrafted cards, and these at This and That are just gorgeous. CPS also regularly shows handmade cards by several different designers and just recently had a tutorial on Hybrid Cardmaking — using the computer as well as scrapbooking and stamping supplies. I am nowhere near this level of cardmaking, but it’s inspiring to see these!
  • I never thought much about childhood food allergies until a good friend’s daughter developed quite serious allergies to several foods and sometimes had trouble getting other people her daughter interacted with to take them seriously. One of my blog friends, Janeen, deals with the same issues. She linked recently to one of the scariest stories I have read in a long time about a child having a severe reaction to a piece of candy from a teacher who was supposed to know about her allergies and who had access to safe alternatives. Food allergies are serious. Even deadly. And usually complicated — as Janeen wrote recently, it’s not just a matter of being peanut-free or milk-free or whatever. People who work with children need to be very careful. Even as just a neighborhood mom, I would check with a child’s parents before giving them anything to eat.

Finally, thanks to those who have been praying about my leg. The red area is almost gone. In fact, some times everything looks clear, but then a little redness will flare up during the day. The thing that scares me is that it had almost cleared up before — but then it recurred covering about twice as much area as it did the first time. I’m trying not to be fearful of that every time it looks to be a little redder than it was — I am still keeping my foot up off and on throughout the day and praying a lot that the Lord will heal it completely — and trying to just leave whatever happens with Him.

Time Travel Tuesday: Fight Edition

timetraveltuesday.gifAnnie created and hosts Time Travel Tuesday each week with a question about our past. It’s a lot of fun! Click on the button to join in.

The topic this week has to do with the stress of planning a wedding and whether we and our then-fiances had a big fight in regard to or in planning for the wedding.

Though we didn’t “fight” about it, our first serious disagreement in our relationship had to do with one aspect of our wedding. At the time I had only been to weddings at the church I had begun to attend while in high school, and though there was a little variation, they were pretty much done the same way. In one part of the ceremony, the couple knelt at a kneeling bench (that I think a man in the church made for the purpose) while the pastor prayed for them, and then usually someone sang at that point, either “The Lord’ Prayer” or some song that was basically a prayer for the couple (ours was “Nearer, Still Nearer” with the pronouns changed to plural and a few verses from “The Sands of Time Are Sinking” [the verses beginning “Oh, I am my beloved’s…” and “The bride eyes not her garments..” Both hymns can be sung to the same tune and coordinate quite well together.])

We got married while we were still in college and we were really tight on funds. In fact, looking back, I have no idea how we managed financially. My dear fiance objected to having to kneel before all those invited guests because the soles of his shoes were very worn and he couldn’t afford to get new ones for the wedding. But I was horrified at the thought of not having that part of the ceremony. It just wasn’t done!!

Looking back, that was so silly of me. I’ve attended multitudes of weddings since and learned there are dozens of ways to “do” weddings. We could have stood during that part of the ceremony or angled the kneeling bench so that our soles weren’t facing the people.

And you know what’s really funny? I can’t remember what we actually did do! I even looked back at our wedding pictures to see, but there is no picture of that part, and there were no videotapes back then. I think we did kneel as planned, my dear husband acquiescing to my desires. I wish I had been more sensitive to his.

If there is one piece of advice I would pass a long to brides about the ceremony itself, it would be to just relax. It’s a day that most brides have dreamed of for years, some since they were little girls, and some have actually had it all planned out for years even before having a fiance and without any consideration of what he might want. But the meaning and significance of the day can get somewhat lost in the details and stress and expense. I had a friend who was a wedding coordinator who finally gave it up because it was so stressful for her. I think the wedding that did her in was an outdoor wedding in August (that would be my second piece of advice — no outdoor weddings in August in the South!!) in which the bride got mad because some older people chose to stay in and watch from the lake house nearby because it was so hot and because the coordinator had the nerve to faint at the reception. This friend used to lament that most brides seem to spend much more time and thought on the wedding than on the marriage. A wedding is a beauitful rite, but keep the big picture in mind and don’t stress over details that no one will remember in the coming years.

Tags and awards

Farrah at Light In the Sphere tagged me a while back for this meme. Thanks for thinking of me, Farrah!

1. The rules are posted at the beginning.
2. Each player answers the questions about themselves.
3. At the end of the post, the player then tags 5 people and posts their names, then goes to their blogs and leaves a comment, letting them know they’ve been tagged and asking them to read your blog.

What I was doing 10 years ago:

We were getting ready to move from GA back “home” to SC. I was excited about the move, but ti was a busy time– packing up, getting ready to sell one home and buy another, being separated through the week while Jim had to start his new job but we couldn’t move yet til the housing situation worked out.

Five things on my to-do list today:

1. Package up a couple of things I need to mail.
2. Wrap a belated birthday present for a friend.
3. Begin working on decorations for the upcoming ladies’ luncheon.
4. Write a letter to my mother-in-law.
5. Take a nap. 🙂

Snacks that I enjoy:

Chocolate chip cookies
M&Ms
Popcorn
Chocolate chip chocolate covered granola bars
Chips

Things I would do if I were a billionaire:

1. Give portions to church and people I knew with various needs.
2. Pay off our debts.
3. Put aside some for youngest’s college education.
4. Buy a more adequate home (not necessarily bigger — just better arranged).
5. Buy new living room furniture.

Three of my bad habits:

1. Staying up too late
2. Procrastinating
3. Snacking on the wrong things (see above) 🙂

Glad that one was limited to three!!

Five places I have lived:

1. Corpus Christi, TX
2. Houston, TX
3. Taylors, SC
4. Greenville, SC
5. Douglasville, GA

Five jobs that I have had:

1. Baby-sitter
2. Library worker
3. Church Secretary
4. Sales Clerk
5. Inventory counter

Five people I want to know more about (A nice way to say TAG!)….

1. Alice Teh
2. Jen
3. Bet
4. Grams
5. KC

I have also been woefully delinquent in acknowledging a couple of awards folks have graciously passed on to me.

Alice gave me the Perfect Gift of Friendship Award:

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Thanks so much, Alice! I’d like to pass this along to: Jen, Susan, Susanne, Grams, Janeen, and Jewel.

Then KC passed along to me the Blogging With a Purpose award:

Thanks, KC — I am honored. I’d like to give this to Elle, Susan, Lizzie, and Rita.

Praise to the Lord

Praise to the Lord, the Almighty, the King of creation!
O my soul, praise Him, for He is thy health and salvation!
All ye who hear, now to His temple draw near;
Praise Him in glad adoration.

Praise to the Lord, who over all things so wondrously reigneth,
Shelters thee under His wings, yea, so gently sustaineth!
Hast thou not seen how thy desires ever have been
Granted in what He ordaineth?

Praise to the Lord, who hath fearfully, wondrously, made thee;
Health hath vouchsafed and, when heedlessly falling, hath stayed thee.
What need or grief ever hath failed of relief?
Wings of His mercy did shade thee.

Praise to the Lord, who doth prosper thy work and defend thee;
Surely His goodness and mercy here daily attend thee.
Ponder anew what the Almighty can do,
If with His love He befriend thee.

Praise to the Lord, who, when tempests their warfare are waging,
Who, when the elements madly around thee are raging,
Biddeth them cease, turneth their fury to peace,
Whirlwinds and waters assuaging.

Praise to the Lord, who, when darkness of sin is abounding,
Who, when the godless do triumph, all virtue confounding,
Sheddeth His light, chaseth the horrors of night,
Saints with His mercy surrounding.

Praise to the Lord, O let all that is in me adore Him!
All that hath life and breath, come now with praises before Him.
Let the Amen sound from His people again,
Gladly for aye we adore Him.

~ Jo­ach­im Ne­an­der

Book Review: Mansfield Park

In Mansfield Park, Fanny Price is the “poor relation” who helps to relieve her family’s financial woes by going to live with a more prosperous aunt and uncle, the Bertrams, when she is ten. Her other aunt, widowed Mrs. Norris, lives near the Bertrams and has more influence with the family than Lady Bertram. Sir Thomas Bertram is imposing and, though not unkind, neither is he warm. Mrs. Norris feels it her duty to constantly keep Fanny in her “place.” Fanny’s female cousins, Mariah and Julia, are selfish, spoiled, and vain and interact little with her. Her oldest cousin Tom takes little notice, but cousin Edmund sympathizes with her and helps her find ways to learn and to interact. Fanny is quiet, shy, “finding something to fear in every person and place,” but eventually the family decides that, “though far from clever, she showed a tractable disposition, and seemed likely to give them little trouble.”

The family continues on this way for years until their neighbor’s younger sister and brother, Henry and Mary Crawford, come to town for an extended visit. Both are bright, witty, vivacious, and personable, and the young people –except for Fanny — soon become best friends. Fanny’s high regard for Edmund has become secret love over the years, but Edmund, who is planning to join the clergy, begins to fall for Mary, who has no use for the clergy and tries to talk him into changing to a profession where he can “distinguish” himself. Fanny begins to see some of Mary’s flaws, but Edmund is willing to excuse them. Meanwhile Henry, who has been showering attention on both the Bertram sisters, begins to show a decided favor not towards unattached Julia, but rather to her engaged sister. Thus the stage is set for the character of each one to be displayed in the ensuing conflicts.

I’ll leave the plot there for the discovery of those who have not yet read the book, but I did want to discuss a few other aspects of the book.

In the introductory notes of this edition as well as the introduction to the recent Masterpiece Classic version on PBS, there seemed to be an almost apologetic tone that shy, quiet Fanny is the hero of the story rather than vivacious and witty Mary. Amanda Claybaugh, who wrote the introductory notes, writes that “Fanny differs not merely from Mary, but also from our most basic expectations of what a novel’s protagonist should do and be. In Fanny, we have a heroine who seldom moves and seldom speaks, and never errs or alters.” I am not the expert Ms. Claybaugh is, but that is not my impression at all. We’re shown many of Fanny’s inner thoughts, and I find the conflict is in Fanny’s staying true to her moral core despite everyone else’s failure to varying degrees. Edmund says of Fanny at one point that she “is the only one who has judged rightly throughout; who has been consistent.” She is far from self-righteous and ungracious, however, and though morally she does not change, she does mature and grow. Though her nature remains shy and reticent and fearful, she begins to overcome it or act in spite of it in situations like heading a ball in her cousins’ absence and standing up to Sir Thomas when he wants her to marry someone whom she not only does not love but in whom she sees moral flaws that she cannot expound on.

In almost all of Jane Austen’s books, she subtly points out the ironies of life in her time. Perhaps the irony here is the truth that though Fanny lacks the characteristics that are highly valued in her setting — wit, wealth, and worldliness — she possesses qualities far more valuable in her moral goodness, graciousness, insight, and steadfastness.

I enjoyed this book very much and found it very readable. I highly recommend it.

This completes my reading Jane Austen’s novels. I had read Emma back in college and would love to revisit her, but all of the rest I have read over the last couple of years in a quest to catch up on some of the classics I somehow missed along the way. I know I will enjoy reading these books again in the future.