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Memorial Day

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“It is, in a way, an odd thing to honor those who died in defense of our country in wars far away. The imagination plays a trick. We see these soldiers in our mind as old and wise. We see them as something like the Founding Fathers, grave and gray-haired. But most of them were boys when they died; they gave up two lives — the one they were living and the one they would have lived. When they died, they gave up their chance to be husbands and fathers and grandfathers. They gave up their chance to be revered old men. They gave up everything for their county, for us.

All we can do is remember.”

~ Ronald Wilson Reagan
Remarks at Veteran’s Day ceremony, Arlington National Cemetery, Arlington, Virginia, November 11, 1985

The purpose of all war is peace. –Saint Augustine

But the freedom that they fought for,
and the country grand they wrought for,
Is their monument to-day, and for aye.
~Thomas Dunn English

All we have of freedom, all we use or know – This our fathers bought for us long and long ago.
~Rudyard Kipling, “The Old Issue,” 1899

Posterity: you will never know how much it has cost my generation to preserve your freedom. I hope you will make good use of it.
~John Quincy Adams

(Graphic courtesy of Anne’s Place)

No work of mine…

I am often burdened for dear friends caught up in religions that teach that their salvation is dependent on their own acts alone or on what Christ did for them on the cross plus their own works. I was wanting to post something emphasizing the fact that it is faith and dependence on Christ alone that saves when this part of this hymn came to mind:

Complete in Thee! no work of mine
May take, dear Lord, the place of Thine;
Thy blood hath pardon bought for me,
And I am now complete in Thee.

Yea, justified! O blessed thought!
And sanctified! Salvation wrought!
Thy blood hath pardon bought for me,
And glorified, I too, shall be!

(From the hymn, “Complete in Thee” by Aaron R. Wolfe, 1821-1902 and James M. Gray, 1851-1935)

 Not by works of righteousness which we have done, but according to his mercy he saved us, by the washing of regeneration, and renewing of the Holy Ghost; Which he shed on us abundantly through Jesus Christ our Saviour;
That being justified by his grace, we should be made heirs according to the hope of eternal life.
Titus 3:5-7.

For by grace are ye saved through faith; and that not of yourselves: it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast. Ephesians 2:8-9.

Psalm Sunday: Psalm 18


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(Our Psalms Sunday hostess, Erica, is needing to put Psalms Sundays on hiatus for a while due to her schedule, but I wanted to go ahead and post this one since I had it ready a couple of weeks ago. I have enjoyed studying through the Psalms more than a usual read-through.)

Because of the length of Psalm 18, I am going to refer to the link to it here rather than copying the whole thing here. This Psalm appeared in II Samuel 22, a song David wrote “in the day that the LORD had delivered him out of the hand of all his enemies, and out of the hand of Saul.”

I love the way this Psalm begins: “I will love thee, O LORD, my strength. The LORD is my rock, and my fortress, and my deliverer; my God, my strength, in whom I will trust; my buckler, and the horn of my salvation, and my high tower.” With a God like that — how can we help but trust in Him? The more we meditate on Him, His greatness, His character, His ability, I think that generates even more trust.

Verses 3-6 speak of David’s calling out to God in his distress; verses 7-19 tell of God’s answer. What a powerful, majestic God!

7 Then the earth shook and trembled; The foundations of the hills also quaked and were shaken, Because He was angry.

9 He bowed the heavens also, and came down With darkness under His feet. 10 And He rode upon a cherub, and flew; He flew upon the wings of the wind.

We need to picture God coming to our aid in just the same way.

16 He sent from above, He took me; He drew me out of many waters.
17 He delivered me from my strong enemy, From those who hated me, For they were too strong for me.
18 They confronted me in the day of my calamity, But the LORD was my support.

In verses 20-24 David says that God rewarded him according to the cleanness of his hands — there was no unconfessed sin in his life that would hinder God’s deliverance.

These verse have been some of my favorites for years, especially the first one:

28 For You will light my lamp; The LORD my God will enlighten my darkness.
29 For by You I can run against a troop, By my God I can leap over a wall.
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As for God, His way is perfect; The word of the LORD is proven; He is a shield to all who trust in Him.

31 For who is God, except the LORD? And who is a rock, except our God?
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It is God who arms me with strength, And makes my way perfect.
33 He makes my feet like the
feet of deer, And sets me on my high places.

As I read those, I can’t even think of any appropriate commentary — they are so expressive and beautiful.

Verse 34 says, “He teaches my hands to make war, So that my arms can bend a bow of bronze.” Ecclesiastes 3:8 speak of “A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.” When it is a time of war, if it is His will and your cause is His, He will give wisdom and strength for it. Verses 35 – 42 continue on in that theme of God giving him victory over his enemies. Verses 43-45 speak of God’s making David the head of nations and making foreigners submit to him as their new leader.

Verse 46: The LORD lives! Blessed be my Rock! Let the God of my salvation be exalted.

The rest of the chapter gives acknowledgment and praise to God for His deliverance of David.

It is sometimes when we’re “backed into a corner” and there is no deliverance except from God that we see how truly powerful and able He is. We see just glimpses now of His majesty and power — I can’t imagine what it will be like to see Him one day in all His glory.

And these mere glimpses of Him are more than enough to inspire our confidence that He can take care of any problem His children have!

My Advocate

My Advocate

I sinned. And straightway, post-haste, Satan flew
Before the presence of the most high God,
And made a railing accusation there.
He said, “This soul, this thing of clay and sod,
Has sinned. ‘Tis true that he has named Thy name,
But I demand his death, for Thou hast said,
‘The soul that sinneth, it shall die.’
Shall not Thy sentence be fulfilled?
Is justice dead?
Send now this wretched sinner to his doom.
What other thing can righteous ruler do?”
And thus he did accuse me day and night,
And every word he spoke, O God, was true!

Then quickly One rose up from God’s right hand,
Before Whose glory angels veiled their eyes.
He spoke, “Each jot and tittle of the law
Must be fulfilled; the guilty sinner dies!
But wait — suppose his guilt were all transferred
To Me, and that I paid his penalty!
Behold My hands, My side, My feet! One day
I was made sin for him, and died that he
Might be presented, faultless, at Thy throne!”
And Satan flew away. Full well he knew
That he could not prevail against such love,
For every word my dear Lord spoke was true!

— Martha Snell Nicholson

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(Photo courtesy of everystockphoto)

(You can read more of Mrs. Nicholson’s poetry here.) 

Saturday Photo Scavenger Hunt: Colorful

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I was drawing a complete blank as to what to post for this week’s theme until my husband came to my rescue with this suggestion. I had sent him this card either when we were dating or in our early married years. We’ve sent each other scores of cards in two years of dating and 27 years of marriage, but there are some that are favorites, and this was a favorite of his. The funny thing is that he has been working in coloring matching first for automotive carpet fibers for a number of years and now for plastic colorants — we had no idea when I first sent this card that he would be working with color. He has this card on top of his filing cabinet now. I think in his old office he had it on his bulletin board.

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Inside:

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Show and Tell Friday: Dollstones

show-and-tell.jpgKelli at There’s No Place Like Home created and hosts a fun activity called “Show and Tell Friday,” asking folks to share something special, perhaps a “a trinket from grade school, a piece of jewelry, an antique find,” something old or new.

I mentioned a couple of weeks ago that I collect Boyd’s Bear figurines (though I really don’t like the new “Pleasantville” ones). One of their lines is called Dollstones, and over the years my husband has given me a few of those. I just love these portrayals of scenes in the life of little girls, and being from Boyd’s, they always have a bear in the scene somewhere. I love the detail and the sweetness and femininity of each piece.

This was my very first one:
Dollstone figurine from Boyd's Bears

I think this might be the most recent one. I was trying at one time to collect some of the Boyd’s figurines that reflected some of my interests, and I used to do a lot of needlework.

Dollstone figurine from Boyd's Bears

Dollstone figurine from Boyd's Bears

Dollstone figurine from Boyd's Bears

I don’t have a little girl to enjoy these with. Maybe I’ll have granddaughters one day.

If you’d like to see or participate in “Show and Tell Friday,” visit There’s No Place Like Home.

Why are we so surprised?

I am going to be very discreet with details for privacy’s sake, though the family I am thinking of doesn’t have computer access and doesn’t read my blog. Some folks I know are in counseling for a serious family situation. When a very glaring, obviously wrong way of handling something was pointed out to one of them, she couldn’t see the correction needed over hurt that someone would say she did something wrong.

Another friend who was acting in a very petulant manner over an issue went into an enraged fit when someone commented on her anger.

Why are we so surprised when someone points out to us that we’re doing something wrong? We’re sinners — we naturally do wrong. We’d be the first to admit that we don’t have it all together yet. We probably know deep down that we have blind spots to some of our character flaws and that we tend to excuse or justify negative traits in ourselves that we see as faults in others (i.e., I’m determined but another who acts the same way is stubborn.) But let someone try to correct us, and they are being hateful, petty, or, one of the favorite adjectives in today’s Christianity, judgmental.

True, some people are judgmental. Some are busybodies. Some correct too much or too easily. Some people who mean well can correct in an unkind or hurtful way.

I have to admit, when someone points out something in my life that needs correction or attention, my first response is not, “Thank you! I am so glad the Lord laid that on your heart to share with me.”

But it probably should be.

The only reason I can think of that I don’t respond that way is pride.

Reprove not a scorner, lest he hate thee: rebuke a wise man, and he will love thee.
Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be yet wiser: teach a just man, and he will increase in learning. Proverbs 9:8-9.

The way of a fool is right in his own eyes: but he that hearkeneth unto counsel is wise. Proverbs 12:15.

A scorner loveth not one that reproveth him: neither will he go unto the wise. Proverbs 15:12.

The ear that heareth the reproof of life abideth among the wise. He that refuseth instruction despiseth his own soul: but he that heareth reproof getteth understanding. Proverbs 15:31-32.

As an earring of gold, and an ornament of fine gold, so is a wise reprover upon an obedient ear. Proverbs 25:12.

I used to tell one of my sons who had trouble receiving correction in his early teens that if he didn’t acknowledge that a certain action or attitude was wrong, he could not correct it or change it. I often shared with him Proverbs 28:13: “He that covereth his sins shall not prosper: but whoso confesseth and forsaketh them shall have mercy.”

If we can get past the sting of hearing criticism and prayerfully examine it to see if it is just, then we can confess it to the Lord (and to whomever else we might need to confess it) and correct it and grow in wisdom and character — and stop causing a problem in other people’s lives by continuing on in the fault.

Isn’t that much better than hanging on to our hurt and indignation?

Works-For-Me-Wednesday: Devotional exercise using definitons

wfmwheader_4.jpg I worked through Dr. Jim Berg’s DVD series, Quieting a Noisy Soul, a couple of years ago, and in one section about studying and meditating on God’s Word, he suggested using a Bible dictionary to look up the major words. My first impulse was to brush that aside as unnecessary, especially for familiar passages. But then he assigned a study of I Corinthians 13: 4-8 as a way of meditating on God’s love: we were to read the passage, list the qualities of love mentioned, look up the words in a dictionary, and write the verse in our own words using those definitions. And I’ve found that that is an excellent way to open up very familiar passages that we almost glide over because we think we know them so well.

For instance, verse 4 says “Love suffers long.” “Suffers” means “endures pain, distress, agony, discomfort;” “long” means “an extended period of time.” So love endures pain, distress, agony, or discomfort for an extended period of time. That really makes you stop and think, both about God’s longsuffering toward us and our need for longsuffering toward others.

Verse 8 says that love never (“Not ever; on no occasion; at no time, not at all; in no way; absolutely not”) fails. Look at all these definitions of the word “fail,” and rejoice in all the ways in which your God will never fail you (it’s helpful to read “God will never…” before each phrase): “To prove deficient or lacking; To perform ineffectively or inadequately, To be unsuccessful, To prove insufficient in quantity or duration; give out, To decline, as in strength or effectiveness, To give way or be made otherwise useless as a result of excessive strain, To cease functioning properly, To disappoint or prove undependable to, To abandon; forsake, To omit to perform (an expected duty, for example), To leave undone; neglect;” (from Dictionary.com); “to fall out of, to fall down from, to fall off, to fall from a thing, to lose it, to perish, to fall, to fall from a place from which one cannot keep, fall from a position, to fall powerless, to fall to the ground, be without effect” (from the Online Bible).

You can take this a step further, as I did above, if you have a Strong’s concordance or some kind of Bible computer program, and look up the definition of the original Hebrew or Greek word used. That’s often even more enlightening, and can clear up confusion. But don’t worry if you don’t have access to these things: you can gain a lot just by looking up the English words in a regular dictionary. A great online one is Dictionary.com.

You can find more tips that will work for you at Rocks In My Dryer.

Book Review: A Tree Grows in Brooklyn

I first saw A Tree Grows in Brooklyn mentioned in a Bugs Bunny cartoon when I was a kid. I don’t remember the plot of the cartoon and don’t know if this book title related at all to what was going on in the cartoon: I just remember Bugs reading it as he was walking off into the sunset at the end of the episode. For some reason the title stuck with me. Then a few years ago I caught part of an old black and white film of the same name and discovered it was the story of a little girl with an alcoholic father. My father was an alcoholic as well, and though his personality and situation were different from the film, I still found many things I could identify with. So I planned to read the book “some day.”

I must say at the outset — I had no idea this books would have such profanity and vulgarity. I don’t read much modern secular fiction because of those elements. But I thought this book was published long enough ago that it wouldn’t be a problem. I know that profanity and vulgarity aren’t new to the 20th century, of course, but I just figured books from farther back in time would be “cleaner.” If I had known that this books contained so much of this, I would not have begun it; as it was I considered laying it aside many times.

I know, of course, that these things are a part of many people’s lives: I grew up in an unsaved family and heard  much of the same in my early years. I know many children today see, hear, and experience much worse things than are contained in this book. But I don’t want to fill my head with it again in my reading after years of trying to get that kind of thing out of my mind.  I think the realism of Francie’s life could have been expressed without being explicit.

That said….I discovered the book was not just about Francie and her alcoholic father. It is more about a young girl “coming of age” in Brooklyn in the early 1900s, though that description sounds so bland. Francie had more to deal with than an alcoholic father: extreme poverty, a mother who had hardened herself somewhat to deal with the blows of life and who loved Francie’s brother, Neely, more than she did Francie, a love of learning yet a need to quit school to work to support the family.

The symbolism of the tree in the title and in the story is clear: the tree that “liked poor people,” that grew in “sour earth” where it wasn’t given much inducement to grow, that continued to grow even after it was cut down, is parallel to Francie’s life.

There were several poignant moments in the book. Though I don’t think anyone in the family ever said so out loud, everyone knew that Francie’s mother favored her brother, Neely, yet when  her mother was in the last days of her third pregnancy and gave birth, she and Francie found a companionship they hadn’t had before.

Francie enjoyed reading, and later, writing, and often got As on her “pretty” compositions.  But when she began to write about her father, trying to “show that, despite his shortcomings, he had been a good father and a kindly man,” her teacher rebuked her for writing “sordid” stories, saying, “Drunkenness is neither truth nor beauty. It’s a vice. Drunkards belong in jail, not in stories. And poverty. There is no excuse for that. There’s work enough for all who want it. People are poor because they are too lazy to work. There’s nothing beautiful about laziness. Hunger is  not beautiful. It is also unnecessary. We have well-organized charities. No one need go hungry.”

Francie thought, “Imagine Mama lazy!” Her mother worked her finger to the bone. “Her mother hated the word ‘charity’ above any word in the English language and she had brought up her children to hate it, too.”

Though I do know of people who are poor because they aren’t diligent, there are also people who work harder than many of us have ever known, yet have low-paying jobs and just cannot get ahead — yet we so glibly let these judgmental thoughts pour forth. Francie had been brought up to believe that education was her hope, yet she began to realize that “her life might seem revolting to some educated people.” She didn’t want to grow up “ashamed of handsome papa who had been so lighthearted, kind, and understanding; ashamed of brave and truthful Mama who was so proud of her own mother, even though Granma couldn’t read or write; ashamed of Neely who was such a good honest boy.” She felt that all her pretty stories were lies and burned them.

There seems to be, in literature, at least, three kinds of “drunks.” There’s the “mean drunk” who abuses his wife and children and gets meaner the more he drinks. There’s the “happy drunk” like Magnolia’s father in Showboat, drunkenly sputtering “Happy New Year” to smiling observers. Then there is a kind of beautiful tortured soul — the person who is kind, often artistic, likable, charming, yet with this one destructive weakness. In the film Francie’s father seemed to be the happy, jolly sort, from what I remember, but in the book he was more the last type. He was warm, thoughtful. and caring; he was the one who took care of Francie when she was injured, who seemed to understand her in a way that her mother didn’t.

One situation in the book particularly showed Francie’s dilemma and character. The time came when the children were old enough to legally quit school and work. they needed the income of one of them; only one would be able to continue on to high school. Francie was studious and wanted to learn; Neely wanted to quit school and work. It would seem natural to let them both follow their desires. But Francie’s mother determined that Neely would go to school because if she didn’t make him, he never would, whereas Francie would fight to get an education. Both children were bitterly disappointed, but Francie’s mother’s prediction turned out to be true: Francie later put herself through college. I don’t know if I could have made the same decision in that mother’s place.

Along the way in the book there are intriguing historical glimpses into everyday life and the customs of that time and place.

Some portions of the book are autobiographical: Betty Smith grew up in Brooklyn and wrote what she knew. Yet she said that she “didn’t write it the way it was, but the way it should have been,” so it’s hard to know, at least from the biographical information in the back of the book, which parts were “the way it was” and which were the way she thought they should be.

I won’t give away the ending, but I will say it ends on a more hopeful note than what is found in most of the story.

Time Travel Tuesday — Blog Beginning Edition



I just saw at Barb’s a weekly meme started by My Life as Annie called Time Travel Tuesday. I hadn’t seen it before, but apparently each week Annie suggests a particular time in our lives that we go back and write about. Sounds like fun!

This week the instructions are to go back to our first blog post, post it again, and tell how we got started blogging.

I think I first heard about blogging through my oldest son. He had a blog, but it wasn’t terribly interactive; it was more of a place to record his thoughts. Then I used to be on the Crosswalk forums a lot, and they have their own “Blog Town” there, but it was in the same format as the rest of their forums and didn’t have a place for comments there at the blogs — bloggers had to start a separate thread in another part of the forums to interact with others.

I can’t remember how I first discovered blogs as I know them now — probably as a link from something else I read. I discovered a few that I enjoyed reading regularly. Gradually the idea began to dawn to begin one of my own. One of my main purposes was to try to be a testimony to others with transverse myelitis: some on the subscriber list I’m on for that frown at much mention of God, so I thought I would have more freedom to share about Him with others on my own turf. Plus, though I am not one of the “aged” women of Titus 2, I hoped that I could encourage other ladies in their Biblical roles. And I have entertained some thoughts of trying to do more writing, and blogging sounded like good exercise in that regard.

Here is my first post, less than a year ago:

About me

Thursday, July 27th, 2006I am a Christian 40-something stay-at-home mom. By Christian I mean someone who is born again by believing on the Lord Jesus Christ as the Savior from sin. I thank God for His patience and grace as He leads me along day by day.

I have been married to my wonderful husband, Jim, for 26 years. We have three boys whom we love dearly and who keep us on our toes….and on our knees.

I enjoy reading, writing, decorating, some crafts when there is time. I have enough projects I’d like to do and things I’d like to learn to keep me busy for the next 50 years or so. -)

I had been thinking about starting a blog for some time, and blest with son’s posts about why she blogs convinced me. (I’m glad to be able to stretch my brain by learning new things, but I am new to this, so forgive me if links and things aren’t entirely smooth yet.) While this blog is a home to my “stray thoughts,” I hope it will be a blessing to those who stop by.

I have found blogging to be good exercise in writing: I often think about better ways to phrase my sentences. I have learned to be cautious in expressing myself, knowing that readers may take my words any number of ways. I think, I hope I have been some encouragement to others. I have been blessed to hear from some with TM. What I have been surprised about, though, is discovering the blogging community at large. I had been blessed, instructed, inspired, challenged, and encouraged by the bloggers I knew in the beginning, but that was just the tip of the iceberg! Then to see the way the blogosphere pulls together to pray each other through crises and even help financially has been a lesson in Christian love in action.

I think I’m still finding my voice and my place. I’m not naturally as humorous as some or as poignant as others. I’ve struggled, as many others have written, with wanting response and affirmation and reminding myself that when I started this I gave it to the Lord and asked Him to use it as He saw fit, whether I ever knew how He used it or not. I’ve struggled with balance in not spending too much of my day in blogging and reading others’ blogs.

But overall I’m glad I found the blogosphere and glad to be a part of it.

Click on the graphic above to participate in Time Travel Tuesday.